Help my brother, please
Hello, my name is Max and I would like to respectfully ask for your help. I am 22 years old, my little brother Joseph is 19. I am straight as an arrow and have no curiosity or interest for trying anything with a male, but Joseph has always been very gay and flamboyant. When we were in high school I tried to "convert" him while he would cry almost every night trying to "pray the gay away." I went to college, I made friends with gay guys, I even dated a bisexuality girl, and I am not that stupid anymore. I would do anything to see him happy. He has always been very obedient and submissive, a gay friend from college keeps telling me my brother needs a dominant Man and he told me about your work here and on Twitter.
So I guess my question is: what is the best way for me to support my little brother and make sure he won't get hurt? I heard scary things about grindr and gay apps and I really want to keep Joseph say. He is still a virgin and he has always looked up to me, even when I wrongly insisted that he should try with a girl, and I am not proud of that. Our parents and friends from church are really conservative, so things are not easy at all. But again, I would do anything to see my little brother happy.
We binge watched Heartstopper and Heated Rivalry and he cried on every single episode. In fact, when he sees any form of gay representation he starts crying. I often buy him gay novels and comics, I took him to pride events without my parents knowing, and bought him books about queer history. I really want him to understand that he's not alone. But as I said before, this friend of mine insists that Joseph needs something that I can't not give him and it goes beyond sex, he needs a "dominant man", whatever this means.
I know nothing about the gay world, but I understand that pride flags and gay books are not enough for him to have a happy life. I would really appreciate if you could share some thoughts about this issue. My apologies if this message is too long or inappropriate for the nature of your work, which I believe focuses more on erotic accounts. I just don't know who I should talk to and my only gay friend told me you could help.
Thank you,
Max.
