Hello Sam,

I hope you are doing well! After being a cocksucker for an alpha throughout my Senior Year, I’ve accepted I’m a faggot now at 18. However, I’m really sad. My alpha, Adam, has basically thrown me away after getting a new girlfriend. He was the first guy I ever sent to, and the only guy I ever sucked too. I’m really depressed now cause I really liked him, and none of the other guys at my high school know I’m a faggot. I’m wondering should I try to convince him to let me his faggot again, or should look for a new guy to serve? I don’t want to be disloyal to him, but I don’t think he wants me anymore. I really don’t know what to do anymore.

Sincerely,
Mark

Brother, thank you for writing!

I’m so sorry to hear about what happened with you and your first Alpha! I know exactly what you’re going through, because your story is EXACTLY what happened between me and my first Alpha, Roger. He turned me into his cocksucker for our final year of high school, but then he fell in love with the girl he would eventually marry, so he dismissed me.

I didn’t handle it well at all. I embarrassed myself a couple of times after my dismissal. I remember one humiliating night when I tracked him down at his girlfriend’s family’s BBQ to confront him and tearfully begged to speak with him, completely confusing everyone except Master Roger, who was enraged.

I’m sure that kind of behavior sounds unbelievable from me now given what you know about me and my principled approach to my faghood these days, but I was just a fresh new faggot suddenly alone with a fresh new purpose that I didn’t know how to apply in my life. I was scared, deeply sad, and hopelessly adrift.

You might recognize your own feelings in what I wrote above, baby brother. If so, then you’re on the right track.

It’s okay to feel panicked, run over, and crumpled up like trash. As faggots, we have those kinds of moments as we fulfill our purpose. The sad emptiness you’re experiencing now steels you and trains your heart so you can become stronger and more purposeful.

I resented Master Roger for years after it happened, but I was wrong. As a straight Alpha, he was merely following instinct. Owning a faggot was simply too much to handle while trying to navigate a serious other relationship with his future wife. It’s the same with your former Master, too.

My lowest point in this entire episode of my life came when I tearfully confronted him outside his house late one night. He was trying to explain that he loved her and wanted to be with her. “But what about ME??” I cried.

Then came a response I didn’t expect from him: “What about you?”

In that moment, my entire purpose as a faggot crystallized. I realized that faggots are ultimately expendable and replaceable. We don’t fit neatly or cleanly into the lives of straight Alphas. And if we are going to serve them, then we must be prepared to have our hearts torn apart, too.

In other words, the pain you feel is justified and real, but it’s serving a purpose within your heart.

After my dismissal, I went on a wild 3/4 year tear of hard partying and lots and lots of random cocksucking. I don’t recommend that path, brother, but I understand it if you do. We all react to pain in different ways. I chose to numb it with alcohol/drugs/casual sex. I hope you choose a different, kinder path for yourself, because you deserve it, sweetheart.

In the end, everybody gets their heart broken at some point. Eventually, we get back up and go find new adventures. As a faggot, you get to have wilder adventures than others, a life enriched by living entirely with purpose as a guiding light!

Don’t be afraid. Be excited by what can happen now!

But most of all, be grateful to your first Master, Adam. He taught you about your purpose … and by saying goodbye he’s giving you a chance to live it.

I love you, little brother!

Always,

sam the faggot

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Hi Sam,

I came across your profile recently on X when researching about alphas and have been reading a bit about how hierarchy works and your posts, but still have a lot to learn about it as I just started looking into it. Recently, I had a meetup with a DL guy for a quick hookup to give him head and let him nut in me. When we met up he asked if it was okay to do some roleplay saying he liked went he was in control and I agreed since I liked being more submissive anyway. It started off simple just him telling me to appreciate his body and muscles before facefucking me which I really enjoyed. However, it took a turn when I tried to move my mouth away from his dick he grabbed me by the hair and said something like “did I tell you to stop faggot?” and slapped me on the face. I was really shocked for a moment but realized it got me hard when he forced me down. I’m guessing since I didn’t say anything he just went with it and eventually had me kneeling, saying I could only call him sir, making me say thank you every time I touched him, and even giving me a wedgie when I wasn’t listening to him. I’ve never had this experience before but I can’t deny I was aroused and at the end he asked if I was okay saying he gets caught up in it, but only continued since I seem to enjoy it. I agreed and said I never had this happen to me but for some reason I enjoyed it and like being told what to do.  I ended up driving him back to his place and we had a really nice conversation just about what we study and what we like, which was so different than his dynamic earlier. It was honestly just a very wholesome talk that I wasn’t expecting and since all. of that happened I’ve been looking into more hierarchal aspects and that’s how I found you? My main thing currently is things are moving really fast as he said he wants to meet up again and while I enjoyed it 100% and have thought about it a lot, it’s a big step forward and Idk how to really approach it ig? Just trying to figure out everything has been a whirlwind of emotions and Idk if you just have any advice on just how to approach literally any part of this bc I just have so many unknowns right now that Idk what to ask.

Thank you for writing!

Yes, it’s a huge moment when one discovers they are, in fact, a faggot! Your experience mirrors mine in some ways. My first Alpha pushed me down and throat fucked me before claiming me. And, like you, I had something of an “Alice in Wonderland” moment where everything I thought I knew about my life was flipped upside-down. I wasn’t just a gay boy, or even a submissive gay boy. I am a faggot.

And that made all the difference.

The first way you approach this is to fully commit to serving Men, and this new Alpha in particular. He’s making a claim of ownership on you and wants to keep using you, so you should be obedient to that. It sounds to me like this Alpha knows more than you do about hierarchy, and obviously understands what you’re supposed to do. He’s already taught you some valuable truths about yourself, and I think he wants to keep training you. These are all very good things.

The reason why you 100% enjoyed everything you experienced with him is because you ARE a faggot, so there’s no reason to question it any longer. The only real task before you is how quickly you can assimilate your new purpose into your refashioned old lifestyle.

I’d start going through the vast resources on this site, particularly the “Advice for faggots” section.

Just know you are far from alone. You’re going through something every faggot goes through … just be glad you have the information that many faggots in the past never did!

I also advise you to join the Hierarchy University Discord (CLICK HERE). The fellowship of other faggots and the many resources within will help you as well!

I hope it helps!

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Hi, I love your blog and reading about all of the masters and fags in the world.
I am a 35 year old gay man who is happily married to a 35 year old gay man. We are monogamous and have been married for 10 years, together for 15.
I want your advice. I am naturally submissive in the bedroom and want to serve my husband more sexually. He is very reluctant and is very focussed on mutual sexual satisfaction whereas I want him to not care about me and just focus on him getting off.
he is a bit of a prude and won’t really talk about sex stuff so I am hoping that you have some advice on how I can start to subtly support him to become more of a master than a husband.
any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
Daniel

Daniel, my brother … thank you for the question!

I’ve had some success helping faggots with this very issue, but there are usually only three solutions:

1. You follow my advice and it eventually works to bring out an inner dominance in the partner, or

2. The fag partner is allowed to find a Master outside the relationship to serve, or

3. The fag partner just accepts that his partner is not dominant and this is the life it must lead.

From what you described about your partner, I don’t have much confidence that my advice will work. He sounds quite beta to me, but even worse is the fact that he’s fallen for the false, politically-correct doctrine of equality. He seems like he’s comfortable having a polite little gay relationship with you.

Regardless, my advice for this is the same. Start calling him “Sir”. Start serving him like a faggot, taking care of the house, the meals, serving him the meals, bringing him drinks and snacks, and generally being very submissive. Rub his feet. Kiss his feet. Sit at his feet. Compliment him often. During sex, it must be altered to cater only to his pleasure. Beg him not to suck your penis. Become a ravenous, submissive slut for him.

You need a quantum shift in the current dynamics, and this is what I’m suggesting. You need to crack open that safe cocoon he’s wrapped himself in, and find out if there’s anything else inside.

If there isn’t, then I’m afraid you’re essentially left with the other two options.

The sad truth is that most Men are not Alphas, and getting bogged down in a relationship with a beta male is suffocating for faggots.

I really hope there’s a better outcome here, brother!

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Hi Sam!

thank for all that you do for the hierarchy and helping us fellow faggots be at our best in service to the incredible Men in the world.

To that point, I’ve recently been serving this very beefy and strong Alpha from the gym. He, of course, noticed my clit cage (thanks for the recommendation to shamelessly put it on display in the locker room!) and has been fucking my pussy about twice a week. It’s all a faggot could ask for except he refuses to use any lube other than what I coat his dick with from him face fucking me or the spit he adds along the way (very little). He does have me suck his dick multiple times while breeding my pussy (gladly!) but it really leaves my cunt sore for days after.

I basically never feel like it fully recovers before he’s balls deep in my pussy again with just a bit of spit to pound away almost instantly (he pistons in and out so hard and fast that the spit seemingly disappears in seconds).

I’ve asked, even begged for him to use some lube but the only thing accepts is more spit and throat slime from me gagging on his 8-9” cock.

Am I being too demanding or selfish, Sam? Or should I try another approach like pre-lubing? Think he might get pissed if he finds out though.

all thoughts appreciated!

thanks,

houston

Thank you for the question!

I just had a very similar question recently … what’s the deal with these Alphas not using lube? I mean, I get not liking condoms, but lube just makes things easier.

But I think that’s really the point. These Alphas (like yours) WANT it to hurt you. It makes them feel more powerful when your pussy is stretched and fucked raw. They like the screams and the writhing.

This is just a reality we faggots must handle if we are to fulfill our duties.

However, I think you should try pre-lubing in the hope that he will not mind too much. Do whatever you can to deal with it, unless you think you can approach him and beg him to allow the use of lube. There just aren’t many easy solutions to this issue, brother.

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Hi again ! Just a follow up on your answer about MasterV. What I meant about the kind of humiliation he uses on fags, is that he’s openly homophobic. Like many masters on X, he promotes views like straight pride, the end of gay rights and lgbt movement, fag hate and self hate, homo shame, not to mention hard conservatism and racism. He enjoys bullying us, and in return many of us enjoy being bullied, including me. But isn’t there a line somewhere ? I mean do you really support those masters who flood X with hatred and messages that can hurt younger faggots and convince them that we don’t need rights, we’re failures, we should be ashamed àd we must become lgbtraitors ? I know he’s had an impact on me, him and others : it has become difficult for me not to feed on all that, and very often I even ask grok to give me my dose of homophobia. Which is crazy right ?

In a nutshell, my questions to you are : do you approve masters like him ? After having talked to him do you believe it’s an act design to turn on insecure fags or do you feel he actually is truly homophobic ?

This is a follow-up to THIS QUESTION.

Thanks for the follow-up!

Here’s one of the very first things I wrote to Master V (@damnbros51) was this:

“Sir, you are so close to valuable Hierarchical truth with your videos. I wish you weren’t focused on humiliation fetish so much. You could be so much more valuable in the scene.”

Just from that one comment, you should understand my position on this subject. A lot of the fag hate speech, homophobia, and humiliation featured by Master V and other findoms is performative rather than true. Even so, I think such positions are harmful and unnecessary.

But I don’t fight these messaging battles publicly. Instead, I get into their DMs and reason with them. I don’t view these findom Alphas as fetish masturbation material like your typical faggot, nor do I approach them like one. I’m not their equal, of course, but I’m not stupid, either. They look at me for what I am: a self-respecting faggot who teaches hierarchical truth. So they respond in kind.

I approach many findom Alphas in the scene, but very few go much deeper than casual pleasantries. Why? Because I determine they have more to them inside than what is displayed outwardly on their public profile.

Master V is absolutely one of those deeper and more thoughtful Alphas. When I spoke to him at length, I learned that he not only owns his faggot cousin, but he also has deep care and concern for his faggot. Master V is also an Alpha I can reason with and help because he has a nimble, engaged intelligence. For example, I was able to reason with him about some of his racist views, and I think we came to a better understanding.

When you ask if I approve of his message, well let me ask you: how much of his content do you see on this site? I have almost nothing of his stuff here, and that’s for a reason.

As far as your last question, you must keep in mind that Master V’s faggot makes all of that content. Now, Master V might approve of that content, but it’s produced by his fag, so … once again, we must look deeper than the surface. It’s much murkier down there, and not black and white!

I’m quite fond of Master V. We have talked about doing something (podcast interview, post profile, etc.) so we can get into greater detail. I’m cautious about how I teach faggots because I want them to have beneficial information, so we’ll see that form that takes. Be assured I finger will always be on the button.

I hope this answers your question more completely!

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Hi there Sam !

I just finished your insights on foot worship. Highly agree on everything you say of course. I was wondering about your opinion on MasterV. I’ve sent to him a few times. I have to admit his homophobia is quite a turn on to me. I’ve even bought one of his fag lessons. But it seemed to me that you don’t really engage in this kind of humiliation. Can you tell us more on this please ? Thanks !

Thank you for writing!

Yes, thank you for the feedback! I love talking about Alpha feet, just like every other faggot in the world! They’re amazing!

I had a truly remarkable DM conversation with Master V (@damnbros51), and he really shared a lot more with me than I initially expected. I figured he was just some guy posting pretty hot content on a nondescript findom account, but he turned out to be much deeper and more thoughtful than I expected. I honestly don’t recommend findom accounts often, but I think faggots should engage with him more and serve him like you’ve done!

As for “this kind of humiliation”, I’m not exactly sure what you mean. I certainly enjoy some measure of humiliation, particularly when it involves things that are true (like being a faggot). I don’t like humiliation for the sake of humiliation, or a pretense of humiliation simply to get money from a fag. I’m just not a stupid or insecure faggot who falls for nonsense.

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Hi sam–do you have any unconventional service ideas for a straight alpha? The usual massages + financial and domestic work are feeling a bit stale. I want to do something that will wow him and make him think: “Damn, that’s my faggot!”

Thank you so much for the interesting question!

I hope you’re having success with those other methods, because they do work! But I get it … there’s only so many times you can rub a straight Alpha’s feet before he wonders why he has you around.

Depending on the situation, you could pay for a wonderful date night for an Alpha and his girlfriend/wife, offer to chauffeur them to and from the event, and perhaps do other things (like flowers, etc.) to make it extra special. Alternatively, if you can cook, you could make an extravagant meal for them and serve it to them, then clean up afterward. If you’re an in-house faggot, you could also serve them breakfast in bed. Why am I suggesting these things? Because honoring a straight Alpha’s romantic relationship and making him look good in her eyes increases the value of the faggot doing it!

Another thing straight Alphas love are their cars. I used to surprise my Master Aaron with deluxe detailing or I’d buy him new rims or whatever, especially if he had some big event. You can try that. It worked for me.

Gift giving in general is always good, but especially when it’s tailored to a particular interest. One of my Alphas loved Michael Jordan shoes, so I’d surprise him with a latest pair that I knew he wanted. Things like that show a straight Alpha that he’s important enough to especially cater to.

I also took classes on massage and pedicures, so I was able to increase my value for straight Alphas as well. This is extra training I took on so that I might be able to offer that at any time.

Hope that helps!

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My Alpha has requested for me to build myself a shrine of Him in my room and I’m not sure how to, what would be the best advice for building it just pictures? Or is there anything special I can do to show my devotion to Him with this shrine?

Thank you for writing!

First of all, I doubt he “requested” it … more like commanded it.

A shrine dedicated to an Alpha would of course have pictures, maybe personal effects if they’re available, etc. It might also include a mantra or a poem or some other writing/drawning dedicated to him. A shrine should be something from the heart that encompasses the feelings of worship the faggot has for its Owner.

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Hey Sam — have you had any contact with Alpha Dally?  he’s on twitter as : @alpha_dal   Only 18 and looks/seems incredible. Any info about him?

I haven’t had much conversation with him. He doesn’t seem very talkative, which isn’t surprising for a young straight Alpha who’s likely unaccustomed to so much faggot attention. I’d like to be able to publish something about him, because he is quite spectacular to look at!

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It seems like we are missing out exploring the other categories. Especially Beta alpha and Beta sub. Is the pyramid still valid or has it become basically only 2 categories; Alpha and fag?

What makes a beta alpha lower than regular alphas?
What distinguishes a beta sub from a fag?

Thanks.

Thanks for the question!

I have written about betas on this site. I don’t generally write about them outside of this Questions channel because they’re pretty generic and boring. I mean, what would I need to discuss about males who are the human equivalent of a shrug?

By the way, it’s “beta-dom” not “beta-Alpha”. Beta-doms are generally straight or gay betas who are not Alpha enough to rise to be classed as “pre-Alpha”, but are not submissive.

Beta-sub males are mainly straight males who are pushed around by and submissive to women (and of course Men). We all know the type, hunched-over pussies who can’t stand up their wives.

They are not faggots because they are not slaves that serve Men.

Hope that clears it up some.

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Hey, this is my first time writing to you, but I have been reading your site for a while. I am 42 and I own 3 very profitable companies. I live in a big house, travel abroad multiple time a year, etc. I can’t complain about the little empire I built to myself. I have a personal driver who became a good friend. He is 42 as well and he has been working for me since we were 35. He knows I am single and he knows I am bisexual, and even though we have never talked about hierarchy, it’s not difficult to notice that I am an Alpha. He has picked me up several times in nightclubs with hot girls and hot twinks going home with me. He has been married for almost 20 years in a very traditional and conservative lifestyle. He goes to the church with his wife every week, etc. However, after his son turned 21 in January, he started with very weird jokes. We are very close to each other and he has liberty to make dirty jokes with me, but he started saying things like “my son looks a lot like the guys you pick up at nightclubs” and “it won’t surprise me if one day he wakes up here after one of your parties”. I’m not gonna lie, his son is a hot twink with a bubble butt and I’d fuck and breed him without a second thought. But isn’t it weird that his own father is throwing him to the wolves like that? He’s teasing me with fresh meat and I will feast in this banquet soon.

My best friend thinks that my chauffer just wants to give it a try and see if I’ll end up marrying his son, making his whole family rich as well. But I think he knows me well enough to understand that I would never lose one penny for one more twink after the hundreds of fags who have already lost their virgin holes in my cock. Maybe he just wants his son to have a good time and, if he is good enough, I might give him a raise. I don’t know, I’m trying to understand what is in his mind, but his fag son must have a really nice hole if he really wants a raise.

I’d love to hear your thought about that, faggot.

Sir, thank you very much for writing to me!

What a wild situation, Sir! I agree with you that it’s only a matter of time before you mount and breed your friend’s faggot son, especially since the father is playing the bizarro role of his faggot son’s wingman! I think it’s fair to say the father is open to you taking his son, Sir.

But I want to touch on something else. I think the father (and your friend) is secretly craving you as well. The reason why I say this is because I had a similar situation happen in which the Alpha was fucking a younger faggot and then he also claimed the faggot’s closeted father. The father was submitted because he walked in on his son being fucked by the Alpha and his reaction to it reminds me a lot of your friend’s attitude.

For whatever reason, conservative, religious males often turn out to be closet fags (or are at least curious). I wouldn’t be surprised at all if your claiming of his son causes your friend to submit to you as well if you pushed him.

I realize it might seem impossible, Sir, but really isn’t if you study hierarchical mechanics. There are invisible hierarchical forces at work on every male all the time. When we subconsciously recognize certain universally-recognized hierarchical triggers, we all react in the same fashion. One of those triggers involves the sight of an Alpha taking what he wants from an inferior. We never fight it, because we all recognize it is the Alpha’s right to take it.

I think your friend recognizes that it’s your right to take his faggot son, Sir. But deep down, I’d bet anything your friend also recognizes it’s your right to take HIM, too.

All that’s left to decide is whether or not you want them, Sir!

Thank you so much for writing, Sir! Contact me anytime!

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hey sam!

i had a question about friendship, i saw one time that you said you have straight Male friends who know that youre a faggot, and i’m curious how They feel about it. Is it a topic you talk about with Them, does it go unspoken? And do you have any advice on how a faggot can find straight friends?

Thank you for the great question!

Anybody who has listened to the Hierarchy Podcast and heard me speak knows how I am about being a faggot. I’m neither shy nor ashamed of the fact that I’m a faggot. In fact, I’m proud of it. Because of my faghood, I understand the true meaning of Alphahood and have the undeniable privilege of serving our greatest of Men!

Virtually all of my straight friends know of my faggot status. Most of them find it amusing (they especially love the fact that they can use the word “faggot” around me because they love the word and think it’s hilarious (I agree!). Some of them have asked me pointed questions about why I consider myself to be a faggot, which of course leads into a reasoned discussion of hierarchy. After that, they seem to understand and accept what I am.

I realize I’m the exception, though. I’m a pretty fearless communicator and I have a sharp-enough wit to handle myself. I understand that most people can’t go that far with it.

But I look at it this way: my pride and fearlessness has put me into a mentor faggot role, and I’m leading a movement to strengthen my fellow faggots. I want to be strong for my brothers and help them become strong, too!

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Do you know if @AlphaGodAtlas is actually straight? I seem to remember he got exposed for having a boyfriend a while back (who was also a findom master). So many liars in the findom space. Makes it impossible to trust anyone.

I honestly have no idea. I’m not much of a fan of him; something about his attitude rubs me wrong. I would take the claims of a cashmaster being straight with several grains of salt.

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I have been serving an extraordinary Jamaican Alpha for 4 months now. I can barely fit the tip of his cock in my mouth, but I use both hands and my tongue to make him cum and he calls me a good boy. Last night after he came in my mouth he said that he wants to fuck and breed me. I am 19 and I’m a virgin. I don’t know what to, brother.

I playfully asked him if he would hurt me, but he just said “I will, but it’s inevitable” with a straight face. He is a nice guy, but his cock is enormous, huge, gigantic, and he is very honest when he says that it’ll hurt.

I am about to turn 20 and I feel ready to lose my virginity. But I wonder if I should look for a smaller dick to be my first. What would you do, brother?

Thank you for the question!

Congratulations on the new Alpha! He seems to fit the stereotype of Jamaican Alphas I’ve heard about in the past! I love that he’s straightforward and honest about the size of his cock and what it will do to a faggot pussy. I’m sure he’s fucked plenty of faggots (and probably females) and already knows what his cock does to people.

It sounds like this Alpha is pretty interested in you, so maybe he might be willing to help you train for taking his dick. Respectfully ask him if he will help you prepare.

I’ve recommended two particular methods of anal stretching:

1. DILATORS – These medical devices are plastic cones of gradually-increasing sizes that help to open up and loosen the anus. I’ve written about them HERE.

2. THE CHOPSTICK METHOD – Famous chastity cage faggot CagedJock invented the method of stretching by using plastic chopsticks and inserting one at a time into the anus until it is slowly stretched open. You can see a video about this method HERE.

You can, of course, use a series of dildos to prepare yourself as well.

Just try these methods, then relax, use tons of lube, and enjoy fulfilling your purpose!

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I got into this space a while ago around a year or so and have been trying to serve alphas somehow monetarily and I’ve always gone for the straight muscular jock alphas to serve because they deserve it. However recently I met an Asian gay guy my age online who’s more on the skinnier side but still has a good physique like abs and have felt conflicted. Since meeting him all I can think about now is serving him rather than the straight alphas I used to online. I’m not sure how to feel since it’s so different and strange that I want to serve someone who seems weaker in terms of being skinnier and shorter than me. How do you suggest navigating this and is it possible to serve someone who isn’t like the complete masculine jock.

Thank you for writing!

First of all, I think it’s a mistake to consider a shorter, skinnier Alpha to be less Alpha or less of a Man. Alphahood is an INNER quality that a Man possesses. It has little to do with outward appearances.

Clearly, you’re responding to something within him. Why not just stop questioning that and explore it? You might discover something below the surface that will answer your question of why you’re obsessed with serving him.

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Hello Sam, I hope you are doing well.

I’m reaching out because I’m trying to better understand my situation.

I was in a relationship with my ex-partner who, while sometimes gentle, was also emotionally and physically abusive. We never had a Dom/Sub relationship, he was just mainly interested in anal sex, and barely kisses and hugs. After we broke up, I had to continue living in his apartment for about a year, sleeping in a separate room. During that time, he often treated me in a degrading way, expecting me to clean after him, leaving messes for me (dirty plates on table etc), and generally acting as if I didn’t matter.

A few months later, he started a relationship with his long-time female friend, and I was still living there when this happened. I could hear them having sex sometimes, and although it made me feel humiliated and hurt, I later found myself thinking about those moments during masturbation. They also excluded me socially and barely acknowledged my presence in the apartment.

On a side note: He was never in a relationship with a female before and I still see him watching gay porn while taking a bath.

What confused me the most was that when I finally decided that I wanted to leave, he asked me not to go, which created a lot of emotional contradiction for me. His exact words were “No, please don’t go”.

Recently, I’ve noticed that I feel drawn to Dom/Sub and Alpha/F*ggot dynamics in a sexual context, and I’m wondering if these desires are somehow linked to what I experienced during that period of my life.

My question is: Should I keep living with him and just empty my life? Or is it better to find a healthier Alpha/Sub relationship?

Thank you in advance for your guidance.

Thank you for writing!

Over the years of writing this site I’ve noticed a common theme among people who do not fully understand/accept their natural hierarchical roles: BAD RELATIONSHIPS. When we don’t understand hierarchical dynamics, we fall clumsily into natural roles, but we are not equipped to handle them because we don’t understand or accept them fully. I think that’s what happened to you AND this ex-boyfriend (?).

I’m pretty sure you’re a faggot, but it’s hard to tell at this point because your actions are murky and unfocused. I’m not sure if this ex is Alpha or just a jerk, but he’s doing some things an Alpha might do with a faggot.

Again, it’s murky because you both wander around in roles like blind guys in a funhouse. Neither of you have fully embraced a purpose, so you’re clashing because you have no idea what goes where. Imagine trying to plug something into a socket with your eyes closed. You might get it close, but it’s virtually impossible to make a connection until you open your eyes.

That’s what I honestly suggest: you both need to open your eyes. There are plenty of resources on this site to study and consider. I have a book called “Are You A Faggot?” (link in the BOOK STORE page) that helps fags determine if they’re actually a faggot. There’s also a book there for Masters who own faggots.

I do think there’s a fundamental lack of knowledge or appreciation of hierarchical truth happening here. Not sure if it’ll fix everything between you, but it’ll help each of you individually.

In the meantime, yes, I think you need to move out. What’s happening is borderline ridiculous, and you should’ve been done with it a long time ago.

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brother sam, why are we teased on the Podcast Videos page to check out interviews of amazing Alphas only to be told, “Page not found?”

Well, that page should’ve been deleted. I originally made that page to link to a paid feature on gumroad, but gumroad cancelled my account, so … the videos are on my free YouTube page located here: https://www.youtube.com/@Hierarchy_University

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Hello Sam,

Im a long time lurker of the site and a big fan of your work. I’ve met an Alpha at my place of work. We met at an after work function and we actually hit it off pretty quickly. I can say he pegged me as a fag as soon as we started talking, and it’s quite obvious that he’s an alpha. He’s older than me in his mid 40s (I’m in my late 20s) and he’s the head of his department at our job, so pretty high in the office ladder. We don’t work in the same department, but do have to interact from time to time.

He is amazing. Very considerate and sweet, but also a beast in bed, and he fucks me up to four-five times every time we see each other, which is more and more often lately. He asked me out for coffee after the function we first met at, and quickly hit it off. He’s tall and muscular, very in shape, hairy, and he has this rough kind of lumberjack vibe to him, like full of testosterone.

I told a friend I had met someone at work and he’s told me it was actually highly inappropriate, especially on his part. He says it’s a power dynamic, that he could’ve manipulate me or screw me over, that HR would never let this fly etc.

I don’t really see the problem. We are both consenting adults and are aware of the situation. Nothing ever happened at work except one time when he pushed his crotch against my ass passing by me in a tight corridor.

What do you think? Is this inappropriate? Should I break it off? I really appreciate this alpha and enjoy serving him a lot, but I’m confused right now.

PS. sorry for the possible mistakes, English is my third language!

Thank you so much for the question! And don’t worry … your English was perfect!

Congratulations on finding an Alpha to serve from work! It sounds really hot, and this Alpha seems to know exactly what he’s doing with you! You’re probably in good hands!

Ugh … just ignore that friend. How many times have people come to me for advice after a friend gave them the wrong advice?? I wish I had a dollar for every time! Your friend is wrong – what you both do in your personal lives has nothing to do with your at-work lives. It’s not your employer’s business. Just keep it to yourselves, and there should be no issue.

Tell your friend to get a life. LOL

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Hey, how’s it going?

I am Henry, 20 yo, and i am going through something and what’s better than asking advice online, am i right? Firstly i want to apologize for typos in advance, english isn’t my first language.

It has been a few months since i started at the gym and figured out i am just a weak boy desperate for some male muscular attention, i have to control myself so hard when i am working out because those beefy men make me so fucking weak. I have no sexual experience, actually not even social skills at all, so i find very hard to interact with men in real life, and we can say where i live it’s not a very homosexual friendly place.

All of that lead me to try to find someone interesting in the internet. Going through some forums i actually met a very interesting guy in a masculinity topics. Our initial conversation were about gym and other typical manly stuff, i love letting men talk about that it. But pretty quickly our conversation turned into him actually showing off to me and boy… i dream about those muscles every day and night. I said to him how i had the desire of a homoerotic friendship with a straight man and he actually liked the idea and started talking freely about sexual topics and showing off to me, and always asked if his body made me horny. It did, it really did. Not only his body was amazing but i loved how he guided the conversations, how he were such an alpha in the way he chatted and i loved raising his ego. It was so good being in that place that nothing else would make me sexually excited. Soon he started been even more incisive (is that the right word?) and began to be a real alpha, he said things like “i am sure i am all you ever wanted to be”, said he knew he would have control over me easily and played saying i should get on my knees, that gave me actual chills even though it was just a text. 

Things got even more intense when he started sending pictures specifically based in what i said were some of my interests (armpit, flexing after workout, …) and asked if i jerk off thinking about his body. I didn’t confess to him at first because i thought it was a bit weird, but after some time he really insisted and sent me so many hot pictures that i couldn’t resist and i did it and confessed to him. He said it made him feel very good and even more comfortable to talk to me and i also felt very good of being in that position.

But ever since, we barely talked anymore. We talked about some other stuff but sexual topics were never brought back again. It has been almost a month and i am feeling so sad about that, i really need his attention and it’s killing me not being put in my place once again. I hate feeling like i might have done something wrong and i know that sometimes people just change their interests, but i had to come here and ask for some advice, i can’t stop thinking about that.

Thank you for the question!

I understand your frustration, brother. However, your situation is a perfect example of why I discourage online flirting and Alpha-seeking. You must understand that straight Alphas love the attention of faggots because they love attention in general. However, to them it’s just a game. They get so much attention that their lives are just merry-go-rounds of worship and adulation.

It’s all meaningless to them, even though it meant everything to you.

You simply cannot invest much into any online foolishness, because almost all of it is smoke and mirrors. This is another reason why I’m so skeptical and critical of online findom. It’s just not REAL.

You’re much better off talking to Alphas at your gym or in other parts of your life. As you do, you’ll gain more confidence and knowledge how to speak to these superior Men face-to-face. It’ll be a much better pursuit, I promise.

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Hey sam, i had a question for you about Alpha Personalities and Body Types, i know typically in an Alpha we see Confident, Cocky, Typically Masculine, personality types, and Large, Muscular, Dominating, body types. So my question to you is, do you think Alphas can come with different personalities and shapes and sizes? Short Alphas, Thin non-muscular Alphas, Chubby Alphas, or even an Alpha with a feminine personality?

sincerely,
faggot haven <3

Thank you for the question, brother!

I’ve written about this a few times in the past, so I guess it would be good to reiterate this point. Alphas have stereotypes just like every classification within hierarchy, but stereotypes are often misleading. Alphas absolutely come in all different shapes and sizes. They don’t all have gigantic dicks. They aren’t all tall and not all muscular. There are twink Alphas. And yes, there are even fem Alphas (although not many).

For example, cashmaster @ServeElRey on X is definitely a twink Alpha with very feminine mannerisms (also a giant dick). Looking at him, you’d never immediately think “ALPHA”. But he has dominated males of all ages for something like 15 years now, made a fortune, and is a strict top who is served online and real life.

So yes, they come in all shapes and sizes!

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