Hello Sam,

Im Javi and in 24. Im kinda torn on things, I come off very masculine hairy, strong, assertive etc. But I know I’m not an Alpha, while growing up I naturally preferred doing feminine chores with no resistance while I hated doing the manly stuff cutting grass, trimming trees, etc i prefer doing feminine deemed like making perfume. I know that id like to be a fagwife but can’t seem to meet men who make me want to submit or ig I can respect as I dont get the “Alpha” aspect from them. I can respect their ability to be men but not in a way where I can submit without feeling like I settled. Most times its been men who had bravado but I am more endowed than, or men that couldn’t lead. Part of me feels like I should try to dom those under me but I also know my place is serving a real man

I know I shouldn’t hunt for a Man but I am tired of wasting time by dealing with men that can’t own me and would like some insight from an experienced fag.

Hi Javi! Thank you writing!

The issue you’re having definitely occurs with a fair amount of bottoms and faggots. It really speaks to something I’m always emphasizing: the body size, dick size, or body fitness does NOT determine our place in hierarchy! As you so aptly described, our place is determined by the person we are within!

I’ve encountered plenty of tall, beefy, hairy, hung, and/or muscular fags over the years, and it can be difficult to handle given the general expectations of most Alphas.

But I said “MOST” for a reason. I’ve met plenty of very powerful Alphas who love to own/use faggots like you. I think there is some conquering instinct at work in these situations. I distinctly remember Master G (a smaller, straight Alpha) who took ownership of his much larger fag friend Jamie … and he ended us marrying Jamie eventually!

Finding those kinds of Alphas could be a challenge, but it’s not impossible. You really need to emphasize your submission and desire to be useful. Be deferential and complimentary to the Alphas with whom you interact. Be useful to them.

Here’s another, more radical suggestion: put yourself into chastity and parade around the locker room/showers with it on. You’ll be surprised how Men and Alphas react to it, their curiosity piqued and imaginations running. Wearing a chastity cage will instantly eliminate your size issues and diminish you in their eyes.

I hope this helps, brother!

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I published this video a day or so ago about rimming, and in it I made mention of how the tips contained in it, despite being directed at pleasuring bottoms, can also be applied to pleasuring Alphas. However, I added a caveat: “Use discernment”.

Some unidentified reader (who sounds Alpha) picked up on this and wrote the following comment that I wanted to highlight:

When it comes to rimming, Sam said used discernment, so use it.

If you’re an Alpha and getting rimmed, the first thing to know is that you would not be positioned like the faggot in the video. Instead, consider standing in front of a floor length mirror, so that you can see your faggot as he KNEELS behind you. That’s right. Your faggot lowers himself to his knees, and KISSES YOUR ASS (because you’re the boss). Don’t just pass over what I’ve written; take time to really think about it. There’s a faggot on his knees kissing your ass. That’s the reason an Alpha has a faggot rim him. And while it’s occurring, that’s the perfect time for any verbal reinforcement or training. Your words will penetrate deeply during this moment of union.

As for the actual mechanics, the video gives great advice. Start light, and end with full tongue penetration of your Alpha ass. You’re thinking “Huh? I won’t do that. My ass is sacrosanct.” The problem with that is you’re thinking like a man, and how your ass doesn’t get fucked. You need to flip your mindset for better understanding. Your ass is not, never will get fucked. Dicks do fucking. What is happening with tongue penetration is that you are being RESPECTED. Your status, your authority, your dominance are being given proper, full respect. The only question is whether you want to be lightly respected, or deeply respected. As an Alpha and as a Master, you should want to be deeply respected.

That’s when you reach behind, grab the back of your faggot’s head, and push his face completely into your ass. Rub your ass up and down. Make sure your faggot gets his tongue firmly implanted into your ass. Further than either he or you think is possible. This is the full Omega position to your Alpha status. When we look up “Alpha and the omega”, this is the picture the dictionary should use to illustrate it.

This is exactly what I meant by “use discernment”. Rimming an Alpha is (and should be) a completely different experience with a different set of intentions and approach. Rimming an Alpha should be a profound act of worship, not a way to emasculate him.

Something like this:

Like I’ve said elsewhere, more and more straight Men and Alphas are exploring this option for the immensely-satisfying power they feel when its’ done correctly!

Thanks to this anonymous reader for the added perspective!

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