I’ve been checking on this blog for A LONG while. Just found you again after years I feel like.

Anyways, I might be a faggot. I’m not really sure tbh. Maybe it’s my past relationships or maybe just kind of my style, but while really submissive in the bedroom & like taking care of my man, outside I’m dominant//wear the pants.

It’s always been this way & I guess… Idk Sam!! I’m thin. I shave my legs. I’m pretty femme. Like I love the concept or fantasy of serving a true alpha, but maybe the reality of it would hurt my feelings too much. IDK.

A bit about me: I’m married now. Have been for 3 years. My husband is really great. But he recently told me i’ve made him into my bitch so the bedroom has become hard for him. I make more money. I’m the provider. And yeah, I think I can be a bit bitchy. I do wish I could you know… Hype him up in a way. I read these testimonials on here & really wish… like my husband is fit. traditionally masculine. I wish he would talk back, put me in my place, etc. He does have that “alpha” appearance like he’s fit muscular etc, but— idk. He is gay like me & he does have a sensitive/anxious side, so maybe he’s just a soft top.

I just wish he would just… grab me and throw me down and fuck me. like really dick me down. but it’s hard for him because apparently i’m too bossy outside of it. IDK. this is probably stupid, i’m sorry.

1. Basically! hi! not sure. Do you have any advice on what I should do maybe, show him. hey. this is ok? or how do i know hierarchy is for me?

Thank you for writing in after such a long time!

This question – “Am I a faggot?” – hangs over the head of every sub male, especially ones who feel unfulfilled in some way. I’ve been asked it every which way, which is why I finally wrote a book to help unsure subs come to their own answer. It’s entitled “Are You A Faggot?” Most of it discusses the purpose and functions of faggots in hierarchy. However, the book ends with test that will help you understand yourself and your true needs much better.

You can buy that book on instant download RIGHT HERE.

Aside from that, it might do some good for you to show him some of this website. It might open up conversation with him just showing him your question and my response.

If you are indeed a faggot, he needs to understand what you need from him. Many times Men hold back in order to be “respectful” of their partner, but that approach is completely wrong for true fags. He can’t possibly know this unless he becomes informed.

As for you, I think you should check out the book and also work on being more generally submissive. Being “femme” is about more than shaving your legs and wearing panties. It’s about embodying the essence of that persona, namely a service-oriented, submissive mindset. Work on cultivating that.

I hope that helps!

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Hi Sam its Javi again

Thanks for the response I didn’t think you would reply so fast. I’ve been digging through the site and had some follow up questions. Mainly about how to be a ‘good’ fag or how some black fags can fulfill their role better? After reading a few stories specifically Master Girad and fag Kamal I left with wanting to know more about service & desirability as a black fag and to learn from fag kamal in regards to gender studies and the hierarchy. I have taken you up on your last message and been wearing a cage, more frequently, however I am a little hesitant to wear it out as you suggested given how small/connected my city is.

Thanks for the follow-up, Javi!

Because of black culture, I think most black males fall into one of two very distinct groups: (1) hyper-dominant Alphas, or (2) hyper-effeminate, “flaming” gay stereotypical subs.

I usually don’t refer to these subs as faggots because, while they take on the faggot role sexually, they are anything but submissive outside the bedroom. Despite the fact that they’re some of the best cocksuckers on earth, they’re typically more trouble than they’re worth for Alphas because they’re so hard to train.

I know I’m painting with a wide brush here, but hopefully you get my point.

To be a “good” black fag you need to be submissive in all things. Be obedient. Be genuinely grateful to serve. Be clean. In other words, be like every “good” fag of any race!

I’m proud of you for trying chastity! I think you’ll notice changes within yourself as you go deeper into using it. I do understand your concerns about small-town life, but I also think nobody’s going to say anything to you about it except for the guys who might want to use you.

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