Hi Sam,

I am 45 y-old Alpha and I have a 22 y-old fag. He is very sweet and obedient. We live together and are very happy. However, I found out that he has a serious problem with findom addiction. He already lost thousands of euros doing this online and finally confessed to me. I could just find another one, but as a Man my role is to take care of him. His addiction led to depression because the “masters” that they served online just blocked him when his money was over. It is very difficult for me to understand why he has the urge to send all this money to random guys online if he already serves me so well. But what matters now is to stop this addiction, he literally lost all his savings, and if it weren’t for me supporting the house, my boy wouldn’t have money to buy bread tomorrow.

Instead of sending him back to his mother’s house and find another sub boy, I want to make sure that he is out of this horrible addiction, otherwise his depression will only get worse. I think I will approach this issue as alcoholism and try to find other coping mechanisms for him, but I could really use some help.

Thanks. I hope you can help up.
Adriel.

Master, thank you for writing to me! 

Findom is a pretty insidious fetish, very addictive and distractingly intense. Victims of findom rarely think about the consequences of the money and time wasted on it because their minds are on a dopamine high. I’ve seen far too many of my fag brothers destroy their lives in findom, and I’ve heard far too many Masters who were more than happy to encourage the destruction for their own selfish ends.

You’re right to treat it like alcoholism or drug addiction, Master, because that is (at a chemical level) exactly what it is. A counselor might be a great thing to incorporate into a “treatment” for findom addiction. I really think you should take away his money and give him an allowance, with increases if he starts to respond positively. Your faggot’s phone and computer usage will need to be restricted and/or heavily monitored. If the faggot isn’t in chastity, that needs to happen. Any cracks in this defense will allow the cold, harsh water of findom to seep back into your faggot’s life.

But there is a more complex issue that involves you, Master. Namely, why is your faggot so eager to sneak around behind your back and serve other Men (boys, for the most part) when he is owned by an Alpha like you?  I understand the faggot may have come into service to you with this addiction, but your ownership wasn’t enough to break the spell. That’s concerning. 

To battle that, you really need to emphasize the disappointment you feel. Your faggot let you down, betrayed your trust, and used you. Those are incredibly disappointing behaviors for a faggot that belongs to an Alpha Master of your caliber. You need to underline this to your faggot, and remind it that it is ultimately just a faggot no matter how beloved it might be to you. It can be replaced, and it will if drastic changes are not made.  

I really want to commend you on your commitment toward your faggot despite these struggles, Master. This touched me: “I could just find another one, but as a Man my role is to take care of him.” Not many Alphas take such a resolute stance toward a possession as lowly as a faggot. 

I’m profoundly frustrated and disappointed in your faggot’s behaviors as well, so I certainly hope you can use your natural power to turn this faggot around and help it, Master. My thoughts are with you. Please keep me informed, Master.

Yours,

sam the faggot

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