advice for an anxious fag

Hi Sam! I've been following your page for a looong time (years lol) and you've beeen instrumental in me realizing i'm a fag. I did have a few questions that I'm hoping you can help me with, and i'd be eternally grateful for a response:

• I know I'm a faggot. I know i must serve men. However I also have a very successful career and personal life. Is it possible to have both of these things? I've been too nervous to serve a Man due to how it could impact my "normal" life, i've had online doms blackmail before (non consentually), so maybe i'm just a bit overreacting to that.
• where do I find doms irl? do you have a list of locations you recommend frequenting? I'm not a fan of the whole online thing and much prefer to serve in person and that's how i think i'd be most successful.