Hey Sam,

Thank you very much for your reply, it was a good read and a pleasant surprise to get not just a reply but get it so quickly too!

I have two further questions if you don’t mind

1. How, specifically, would you differentiate a beta sub and a faggot? I’ve read your descriptions for both, but honest the beta sub description sounds very similar to the faggot one but more critical lol.
2. Do you have any advice on how on earth I’d be able to find a dommish partner who is alright with no sex? Feels like an impossible task but I really don’t want to be alone forever. Just want a guy who will rub his sweaty socks on my face in a dom way, have slight control over the reigns in the relationship, AND is okay with no sex. Maybe this question is outside the content of this website though, if so just ignore it if you want.

Thanks again!

This is a follow-up to THIS QUESTION.

Thanks for writing again!

1. The primary difference between a beta-sub and a faggot is the fact that a faggot is more of a slave or object, a possession. A beta-sub is a partner in a relationship, with certain rights and independence and a stake in it. Hopefully that clears it up.

2. I think you will have a hard time finding a partner, honestly. There simply aren’t many Dom Men (even  slightly dominant) who aren’t interested in sex. Frankly, your insistence on these sexualized acts makes me think you aren’t fully asexual. Any asexual people I’ve known want NOTHING to do with sexual acts of ANY kind. So I think you have some soul searching to do on this. 

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Hi Sam,

I’ll be honest, your philosophy really intrigues me (much to the horror of my heart lol) but I feel like I don’t fit into your hierarchy at all.

Basically, I’m asexual, kind of. I refuse to partake in anything traditionally seen as sex/sexual (anal, bjs, hjs, rimming, etc) because I am sex-repulsed. But, I still get turned on by dominance (and feet/socks lol) and wish to enter a relationship with a slight power imbalance with my partner as the dom.

I wanted to know if you think I still fit into the hierarchy, or if I exist separately from it? Apologies if this is too vague, but I really want to know what you think.

Thanks,

Thank you for writing! 

Believe it or not, I have some personal experience with asexuality. My precious Baby Boy, the kid I rescued from Syria, is also asexual. We sort of discovered this about him over long conversations, and he finally came to accept this about himself. I’m so proud of him (and you) for embracing this unusual aspect of your lives!

As far as asexuality in Hierarchy is concerned, you’re misunderstanding something. Hierarchy is not a SEXUAL structure of societal composition, but rather a way to understand the POWER and SOCIAL INFLUENCE aspects of societal composition. 

Now, sex DOES come into play (due primarily to the power play aspects of sexual encounters), but sexual orientation, sexual position, or sexual preference has nothing to do with where we are Hierarchically. 

If I had to guess without knowing more than what you told me, I’d say you are a “beta-sub” on my chart. That’s a comfortable place to be for a sub-leaning asexual! I hope that helps!  

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I’m glad I was able to find you again Sam as I followed your fags worship alphas site and wondered what happened when you disappeared.  My question is for further clarification on the difference between fags and betas. I love to suck cock and serve dominant alpha guys but a part of me feels drawn to being fully and sexually submissive. Does that make me beta?

I’m glad you’ve found me again, brother! Thank you! 

Faggots are essentially slave males. They don’t have natural rights like most other males; they belong to Men and Alphas to use as they will. A faggot has a need to be enslaved and used by Alphas without choice or question.

Submissive/bottom betas (beta-subs) are autonomous males who do not have a slave mentality and are simply more comfortable being fucked. It’s more of a sexual position rather than an entire lifestyle.

Hopefully that clears up your question.

As for you, I think you sound more like a faggot based on what you mentioned. However, you can try to use my book “Are You A Faggot?” (check out the link in the “Book Store” section). It’s designed to help you answer this yourself.  

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