What’s is wrong with me Big Daddy? Why do I want to be possessed, owned and controls by a superior man? Even when I am sad feel like I am missing a strong Daddy to control me, possesses  me and own me. yet I am stubborn and don’t given in. I get wishy washsy when letting a Dom come over, because I haven’t clean my self out for him properly yet, or I am scared. I struggle to fully be taken and use as a submissive should. I am saved that there is a part of myself that I loss but love about myself. Yet when I offer myself up and do follow through I don’t feel the presents of the Dom with me in the room. i don’t know what so do with myself Sam, I am really struggling here, to let go and embrace submission on many levels. Advise, ideas, thoughts on this. Would even take a Dom’s insight on this.

Who in the world is “Big Daddy”? I’m a faggot named sam. Put your poppers bottle down and clear your head.

You’re having these difficulties because you haven’t yet fully accepted the truth: you ARE a faggot, and this IS your purpose. 

You’re currently living in the phantom zone, a place of indecisiveness in which you think too much and make excuses too much. You keep thinking that whatever you’re doing isn’t as right as some other shiny objective. 

This cycle of unproductive nothingness is going to continue indefinitely as long as you continue to lie to yourself and deny yourself the opportunity to actually embrace what you are.

Admit it to yourself: YOU ARE A FAGGOT.

There’s no escaping it. Even if you did nothing and died a sad virgin, you’d still die a faggot … just a useless, unfulfilled one. 

So figure it out! 

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Hi Sam. I wrote you quite a few times. Now, maybe that could be of some interst.

I am a 56 years old gay man, out of the closet at age 19 in my northern country.

It was frightening at the time, since I have 3 bros and 3 sis, older siblings,  all straight, not talking of my older mom, a real good catholic. I could tell you about my coming out to her, wich was so funny, but let’s try to make a short story short.

I had a long term rs with a guy, still good friends.

I wrote you earlier, and told you I want to serve young alphas muscle dudes that I see at the gym. I just love to touch their muscles, use their pride to show off, cause it turns me on.

I guess I am not your average fag, being only 5’9 and 160 lbs, using any chance I get to touch those beautiful bodies.

So for me, it’s less a matter of fucking or getting fucked, its being able to have the type of body/men in my bed, and some of them are real trophies, cause they were fuckin tall, hot, hung and fit and way younger then me.

Does this makes me an alpha faggot wanting to use alpha dom at my own needs?

The term “Alpha faggot” is only an oxymoron, and nothing more. It is not a real thing, because what your describing violates the principles of both Alphahood and (especially) faghood. 

A true Alpha doesn’t get fucked. But, more importantly, a true faggot isn’t SELFISH. A true faggot seeks to please its Owner or superior regardless of any self-interest. Does that sound like your behavior? Of course not. But your selfishness doesn’t make you Alpha, it only makes you untrained and misguided.  

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In the middle of figuring myself out

Im A 23 year old non white male w/who always found other white males growing up attractive in school, sometimes I stare hard, now it has gotten better

Anyways I’ve started my life during my teen/college years diving into p**n and maybe obsessed w/ p**n and while I fall more on serving and enjoying the feeling, I’m mixed.

1. I rather be on top of hierarchy, never fucked a women, or topped, I don’t feel like fully dominating but at the same time fully serving feels weird. Am I just in the middle.I often live life independently so being w/someone of doing things w/ (groups or two people) is also a bit foreign

u might not be able to give me an answer but I envy those straight hot college guys that look like they blend into life so preciously, it’s like they live life on easy mode and have no problems in life, I’m jealous

If we all could choose where we’d be in Hierarchy, we’d all choose to be Alpha. We look at Alphas and we see the blessed life they enjoy and we want that for ourselves. Who wouldn’t?

But that is not how nature works. That’s not how Hierarchy works. If there is a Top, there is a bottom. If there is a Predator, then there is prey. If there is a King, then there are slaves. 

Judging from your confused question, I’m going to guess that you’re a beta male right now. You seem to lack any experiences of any kind, so that’s where you need to start your journey of self-discovery.  

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