The following post is part of a thread following the long-term relationship between a 33-year-old faggot named Felipe (Phil) and his Master Klaus. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!

I think the idea of being in a long-term service relationship is a great one for most faggots, and a solid learning experience for Alphas. Faggots need structure, discipline, and guidance, and this is best delivered in a live-in situation where an Alpha can monitor the fag’s progress. On the other hand, Alphas learn a lot about ownership and planning and teaching by taking on the responsibility of owning personal faggots.

Felipe is an early-thirties faggot living in Chile. He recently wrote to me to tell me about his relationship with his long-term boyfriend/Master Klaus.

My name is Phil, I’m from Chile. I’ve been reading your website and listening to your podcasts for some time now, and they’ve helped me open my mind and realize certain things about myself.

To give you some context, I’m a 33-year-old gay man. I’m slim and short in stature. I’ve been in a relationship with Klaus for 10 years, where I’m the bottom and he’s the top.

Klaus is caring and affectionate, and he has a kind and sociable personality that makes it easy for him to connect with others. He’s taller than me—he could be described as a bear, which I find very attractive. Sexually, Klaus becomes quite dominant, often telling me what to do during most of our encounters, though he also gives me some space to take initiative at times.

Over time, his dominance has increased—but only in the sexual realm. As our relationship has evolved, he started spanking and slapping me, and having me wear lingerie and other feminine clothing. He always cums inside my pussy or in my mouth (this has been the case for all 10 years), and he has my consent to fuck me even while I’m asleep. Recently, he has started asking me to worship his feet—without sucking them—and he has also urinated on me while I’m in the shower. I enjoy all of these activities, and they’ve helped me realize that I’m happy being submissive and dominated by him, which makes me feel like his f4g.

I’m willing to continue exploring these practices, and thanks to what I’ve read on your blog, I’ve realized that I want to be more service-oriented in every way. I now try to take care of household chores, especially cleaning (I’m terrible at cooking). But I’m not sure what else I can do to be his f4g at all times.

Well, I just wanted to share this with you so you could know my story, and how you’ve inspired me to keep learning and improving to become the best version of myself and i hope you can give me some advise to increase Klaus’ dominance.

I think it’s pretty common for Alphas to slowly turn up the heat of dominance with their faggot partner over time. It’s the “safer” route, I suppose.

Felipe wanted tips on how to increase Master Klaus’s dominance, but frankly, I think Felipe is doing a great job already. The issue here isn’t Felipe’s effort, but Master Klaus’s needs. Not every Alpha wants/needs to be overly dominant. I think Master Klaus is largely exploring more and expressing more as it develops within himself, and that’s healthy.

Hey Sam, my name is Zach and I have been exploring submission and chastity and I want so desperately to be a faggot even if it’s not my nature. I usually top during hookups but something about faggotry is really calling to me recently. I have tried to find alphas on recon to guide me into faghood but from what I see it’s full of men that are either too ugly to get a normal guy or they want me to drop everything and move across the country. How do I find real local alphas that are worthy of service? Any help is welcome I just want to be the best faggot I can. Do you know any good alphas in the Raleigh NC area?

That’s interesting that you’ve been a Top so far in your life but now think you’re a faggot. It’s not the first time I’ve encountered that, but every time I do it strikes me funny. I commend you for being honest with yourself.

I personally prefer to approach Alphas I know in some way in my personal life, and it’s still the path I recommend. However, if you’re wanting to use an app for a more controlled prospecting opportunity, I’d use TheBlowers.com instead of Recon or Grindr. With TheBlowers.com, you can choose a fag’s role (“Blower”) and then find a local Alpha to service. From there, you’ll likely find an Alpha that’ll want to keep you as a personal faggot. 

I don’t know any Alphas in Raleigh, NC. Sorry.

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Hi there. I hope I’m not asking questions that have been answered elsewhere. I’m a 29 year old fag who is married to a great guy who treats me well. We met when we were 19, so we’ve been together a very long time, and we love each other a lot. However, I’ve always had this feeling that something is missing in our relationship. I’ve always wanted to be dominated, to be subservient, to hand over control and decisions to someone. I thought it was just a kink, that I was a submissive bottom, and that my husband dominating me in the bedroom once in a while would satisfy those desires. My husband, an enthusiastic top, and even a little dominant, happily obliged. But always at my urging. And always stopping just short of where I wanted him to go, always cautious and never pushing my limits. He bought me a chastity cage, but he doesn’t order me to wear it and doesn’t hold me accountable when I fail to, so I’m essentially self-locked. And the domination always stops when we leave the bedroom. Over the years it has become clear to me that my husband is definitely kinky, and willing to explore my sexual fantasies, but at the end of the day will always view me as an equal. But I’ve also come to the realization that I am a faggot at heart. I don’t want to be equal. I want to be made to submit, to be told when and how to serve, to make a superior Alpha man happy with my submission. I’ve talked to my husband about this. We’ve had an open relationship since the beginning, and he’s been willing to let me explore these feelings both with him and other men. It’s been difficult though. My husband continues to wait for me to ask to be dominated before taking control. I’ve had a couple encounters with Alpha men who have used me, and those experiences have been incredible and I crave more. But I feel limited in how well and often I can serve due to my relationship, and thus somewhat unfulfilled. I know I could be a good faggot if simply allowed to. I don’t want to be a faggot just occasionally on the weekends. I want to grow into my potential.  I guess I’m looking for advice. How can I explain to my husband that this is more than just a kink? Is it possible that by treating my man more like an Alpha, he may grow into the role? Or that I might find an Alpha or Alphas who can fit into our existing relationship dynamic? I love my husband and I want to be with him. But I know I won’t be truly happy if I don’t become the best faggot I can be. Thank you for reading. I’ll appreciate hearing any thoughts you might have on this. <3

This is a VERY common issue with gay couples. It’s a frustrating one because the established relationship (and the roles in it) acts as another barrier to fulfillment for whichever member needs something different, 
 
Fortunately, a faggot can appeal to a Top much easier than an Alpha might appeal to a bottom, if that makes any sense. As you’ve said, your Top boyfriend has already expressed some amount of dominance toward you. The chastity cage raised my eyebrows, too. So clearly, your Top boyfriend has some interests in dominating you. 
 
However, I think he’s pulling back on it because he thinks of this as a “kink” instead of a very real need you have to serve. This is also a very common problem with Tops – they cannot wrap their minds around the fact that their bottom actually needs to be OWNED and USED like property. But that is exactly what faggots crave, and why we are born. 
 
You need to break through to your boyfriend. I mean seriously, start calling him “Sir” all the time, start sitting at his feet, stop eating at the table with him, ask his permission when you leave the room, start serving him all the time on every occasion. He doesn’t open his own doors anymore, etc. Really lean into being his FAGGOT in all aspects, and see how he reacts. This will either trigger his Alpha instincts (if he has them), or it will upset him. At least then you’ll know. 

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