Hi Sam,

I’ve been following you for a long time ever since one of my first ever doms told me to start listening to your podcast.  I’m M 25 I’ve known I’ve been submissive for a while now but I’ve always been too scared to really move forward with it.  Recently I started talking to a Master and he basically told me he was going to own me.  He already had a stable of both fags and women that he uses at his pleasure.  I stepped away from him twice now communicating that I wasn’t ready to move forward with an actual owner but he was fun to talk to and I was captivated by his personality.  Most recently I found him again on an app and we started talking again but this time he said I wasn’t running he took all of my info and now has complete control if I don’t do what he says my friends and family will get videos of me debasing myself for my Master.  Do I just accept that I’m now owned.  I’ve always dreamed about having a dom boyfriend but nothing like having an owner with a stable.  I’m a little scared and need some advice.

Shay

Thanks, brother. 

You know, I found it a little weird that you didn’t include the fact that your Master is a black Alpha. Had you not put it in the title, I wouldn’t have known. I believe it does make something of a difference in how I’d answer, and I’ll explain why.

I’ve served a lot of black Alphas, and they really fall cleanly into two camps: (1) the Alphas who are just looking for momentary holes to use, and (2) overwhelmingly dominant Alphas who are extremely possessive and dominant. In my experience, the black Masters simply will not take “no” for an answer and will have their way regardless of situations or protests. That’s your Master. I’d take his threats seriously. 

I can’t tell you how disappointed I am in your Master. Sadly, he doesn’t realize how weak these threats make him look. A truly powerful Man worthy of worship and service DRAWS people to himself naturally and they gladly submit. Forcing you to serve him under the threat of him ruining your life is pretty pathetic. I hope he rethinks such a stupid and inferior course.

But I must add this caveat: No matter how much I disagree with your Master’s threats, you brought on his stern, controlling nature with your immature game-playing. I see this shit from faggots all the time in findom, and I’ve had plenty of Alphas in that scene complain to me about it. Maybe this will teach you that, if you keep tapping a shark on the nose, it’s eventually going to turn and bite you in half!

Your only way out of this is to leave him and let him try to contact people and embarrass you. That will be uncomfortable, but the people in your life worth keeping will forgive you and move on. Trust me, they will.

But before making that choice, it might be worth it to try serving him. Find out what it’s like to live as the owned faggot of an experienced Master. This is your chance. I understand why you’re nervous, brother. It’s a huge step. But like most steps, they produce FORWARD MOMENTUM.

And you’re a faggot who needs that more than anything right now.

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