Should I get divorced?

Hello!

I am a fag, and have own for a couple years now. However I have been married for about 9 years, but we are open. My husband is not super sexual, in fact, we have not had sex for a couple years now...however we still get along, make eachother laugh etc, and besides sex have a fairly stable relationship. We are fully open, but in a DADT type open relationship, which is fine, but makes it difficult sometimes when I want to be fucked and need to prep.

I have been pretty much locked in chastity for 2 years straight, I have been hitting the gym 6 days a week for a year and have built a lot of good muscle and deinition. And I have been doing this because I know that is what will make me more attractive to a real man.

Do I need to cut my losses with my current relationship and seek a real alpha to own me?