The following post is part of a thread chronicling the 15-year relationship between a faggot named Obu and his Master Umhlobo. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!
Cash fags tend to have a relatively short shelf life. In most cases, the faggot becomes so drained and exhausted that it needs to stop, and without anything else to anchor the relationship the situation usually fizzles out.
But when a good, thoughtful Master meets an eager, willing faggot, anything is possible.
I met a faggot named Obu (the name is an acronym meaning “Owned By Umhlobo”) who has been serving as a cash fag for FIFTEEN YEARS for a Master named Umhlobo. I was pretty stunned by the durability of this relationship, so I asked Obu to write up something about their history.
My Master and i have an unusual relationship, but one which works very well for us both. We met online through a findom site about 15 years ago. I was exploring all things BDSM, and that site was a good place to chat. i wasn’t then, and am still not today ‘into’ cashplay, but i am into dominant men, and intelligence. Sir Umhlobo is superior on both counts.
Our play gradually increased until a few years ago we formalised our relationship with a contract. It’s extensive, and commits me to some lifelong obligations, even if our regular play were to discontinue.
I know you’re not a fan of findom — but to us it’s the purest form of power exchange. Money is a tangible symbol of power. It’s clear and unmistakable when someone takes it. When you lose it, your purchasing power diminishes. For most people, financial matters are extremely private. Findom is very intimate. At our level, it requires profound trust and commitment.
Sir owns and controls one of the laptops in my home. It is completely His, and is registered to His name. (As for my name, He owns that too: Owned By Umhlobo = obu). On the laptop, he has access to my bank accounts and credit cards. He could, conceivably, take my entire salary Himself. He has locked me out of one my bank accounts. When i transfer funds to that account, it’s impossible for me to access them. He fully controls the account, and the debit card. i make monthly payments to Him. i send Him gifts, including on my birthday. Recently, i became responsible for the purchase of His phone, and the upkeep of His phone contract (that means ALL present and future phones and contract payments). He restricts my budget and monitors my spending.
He gives me tasks — like cataloguing your podcasts, writing stories, keeping a journal or researching a topic. He also controls what underwear i wear (it has His name on it), owns my email address, and requires that i be hairless.
i suppose from the outside it might seem objectionable for a number of reasons — and those reasons are likely very good reasons for the people who hold that opinion to not engage in this type of relationship. A good relationship is one in which both parties are happy, healthy and better together than apart. i can say honestly and unequivocally that i am a happier, more skilled, more financially stable and knowledgeable, person than i was without Sir, and it is precisely through loss of power, dignity and control, and full surrender to Him that i have GAINED more than it appears i have lost , and far more than i thought possible. i am, therefore, unreservedly dedicated to His happiness, amusement, pleasure and satisfaction.
It’s really intense for a findom relationship, isn’t it?
I’m truly humbled that this great Alpha is using the material on this site and podcast to train his faggot Obu by having him study and catalogue the material. While I have known Alphas who have directed faggots to my material, I’ve never had it studied so carefully. The pressure is on!
I’m really proud of my brother Obu for serving Master Umhlobo so faithfully!
