The following post is part of a thread following Master Nathan, the Alpha husband of a faggot, as he applies Hierarchical principles to deepen and solidify their relationship. CLICK HERE to read all posts in this thread in chronological order!

I was intrigued when a message from an Alpha by the name of Master Nathan dropped into my “Questions From Readers” inbox regarding his marriage to an obvious faggot partner. Master Nathan wanted to help his husband embrace his faghood and become more comfortable with letting go of the fear that restricted him.

So often when I receive these kinds of messages, I never heard from them again with updates. But I was pleasantly surprised when I received the following email regarding their progress:

Just writing to update you, as I was able to take homecumming leave back to Texas to see my husband and family in person for the first time in a good while. We have been discussing our relationship in terms on hierarchy for a minute now and, God damn are the effects immediately apparent. As soon as we got home from the airport my fag closed the door behind him, stripped, and began pulling at the hem of my jeans to get at me. While this was incredibly hot, I chastised him and called him impatient- as I mentioned originally it was always me initiating sex prior to our discussion of his faggotry and what it means for our relationship. While I only meant to tease him he seemed to take it to heart and apologized, preparing me a quick snack and a bringing me a drink before sitting down on the couch with me to enjoy our first meal together in over 6 months. Still nude, he sat in my lap as we shared a sandwich. Fuck am I glad to call him my husband. Once he took the plate he kneeled before me on the couch again. Obviously he was anxious to initiate again after my teasing, but it was clear what he needed. I asked him for another beer and as I opened the can I unzipped and gave him the go ahead with a nod. I made sure not to let him take off my briefs at first, and let him get used to my scent again, just keeping him between my thighs and pressing his nose and mouth against my growing bulge. The underwear were soaked by the time I told him to take them off.

Later on during my visit the effect showed in different ways. He’s always been a bit anxious in crowds or around new people so while at a concert I danced with my arms around him from behind. When I tried to separate myself for a few moments to clap or dance on my own he eagerly held onto my arms when I came back and after said how much being held helped his anxiety. While dancing I got hard and let myself grind against him while dancing. I knew his anxiousness with crowds would prevent us from going too far but couldn’t help myself from bringing my arms from around his shoulders to his hips and pulling him into me further.

Once we returned to the car he got into the backseat rather than the front passenger and again stripped as soon as the door closed behind him. I let him sit naked back there before finding an isolated place to pull off to the side and join him in the backseat.

As far as decision making goes, we went shopping for groceries together and talked about recipes I use to get more fiber. He’s been anxious about his weight (stupid bc his tiny belly is so cute to me) but was excited when I told him more veggies would help with that while also making prepping for sex easier for him.

I’m headed back to work this week and just wanted to thank you on behalf of both of us for the perspective that has enhanced out marriage.

My heart fluttered when I read these words: “We have been discussing our relationship in terms on hierarchy for a minute now and, God damn are the effects immediately apparent.” Nothing changes an interpersonal situation like the application of Hierarchical mechanics! It literally informs everything in every relationship we have in life, so how would it not improve Master Nathan’s marriage?

I’m just glad to see how deftly he’s applying his natural power as an Alpha to help his faggot husband embrace his truth! It sounds like his faggot is really flourishing in deeper levels of subspace!

After receiving the above letter, I wrote this to Master Nathan:

You don’t really mention it, but I’m curious – do you feel that moving into the role of Owner and Master (rather than only a husband) has helped YOU grow? How has this change helped you grow and embrace your personal power as an Alpha?

His reply was quite powerful:

Good question Sam. 

To be honest, I don’t really think about it all that much. I’ve never been powerless so the extent of my “alpha power” growing is mainly just felt in the way we’ve interacted together. In public I do take care to make sure he’s as comfortable as possible, whereas before I was a bit more concerned with not being overbearing. I’ll make sure to take the keys even when we take his vehicle, keep him at my side especially in crowds, etc. I’ve enjoyed the ways he’s responded to my embracing the power dynamic. But as for ME not much has changed except for much less hesitation on my part. Now that I know he WANTS to serve and be submissive to me, I don’t have to worry about taking the lead and steamrolling any of his actions or ideas. I guess I would call that freedom, not being held back by a desire to keep things between us completely even. He has expressed gratitude that he has much less to worry about with me around as most things are taken care of for him. We both were dreading my return to work as it means he has to be a lot more self sufficient and I don’t have access to my prince of a faggot. But we’ve made it through long stretches of LDR before and we look forward to me moving back home full time once my contract is up. 

Master Nathan here correctly identifies the give-and-take aspect of Hierarchical power dynamics. For him to feel complete as an Alpha, he needs his faggot to fully submit … and for his faggot to fully submit, he needs to feel safe expressing his dominance. Very important understanding!

I love seeing Hierarchical principles save relationships! I’ve helped enough people with it to confidently say it’s usually one of the major issues between couples straight and gay, but it goes unrecognized because people don’t understand Hierarchy.

But I do!

Thank you Master Nathan for continuing to share your insights!

Hey faggot.
I have been together with my, now, husband for about 4 1/2 years now. From the get go he has always been a lot more passive and has deferred to me for decisions and initiating things like sex and the life decisions that have come our way.

For the first few years of our relationship I would have never considered our relationship to be anything like the Master/Fag dichotomy you seem to dedicate a lot of time and thought to. After all, he was and is more to me than just a faggot. I love him, he is who I want to raise children with, he’s who I want to spend my life with.

All that sappy shit aside, as important as it is, I still find myself making most of our decisions, no matter how much I try to coax opinions and preferences out of my lovely fag he will always give me the final say. I don’t dislike this at all, but I guess assessing the relationship from a traditional perspective, I want to ensure we are truly partners. That being said, our sex life is truly hierarchical, as is our lifestyle with me taking on the responsibilities and roles of a traditional husband.
Lately, in exploring a bit more sexually together he’s been more open about enjoying the set up we’ve had going on, loves being the one to get fucked, loves looking to me for guidance, support, and help with decisions and loves being called a faggot while having me inside any of his various holes.
I mostly found this funny, we are both- by definition – gay. But now I’ve started using “fag” as a pet name outside of the bedroom as well and it’s so fun watching him learn to respond to that call.

I suppose my question is whether or not, from your perspective, a longterm life partnership can be built from a master/faggot relationship. Because that is what it seems our relationship has evolved into over time. Most of my exposure to this dynamic comes from porn and once-and-done hookups (fag is also a cuck, who would’ve guessed.) And while I do love using my faggot husband, I also love HIM. I don’t want the service and sex to belittle the more intimate aspects of our marriage. Though obviously, not looking to skimp out on being services and using my boy as I please either.
Thoughts?

-Master Nathan

Master Nathan, thank you for writing to me! I think your concern is a common one, so it’s good to address it.

First of all, congratulations on the longterm relationship! Finding faggots is easy, but finding a GOOD faggot that you’d want to keep is harder than finding IQ points at a Trump rally. And honestly, your outlook has much to do with the success of this relationship given that you’re leading it and molding it. I would also add that it’s to your credit that you (as an Alpha) want to settle down with a primary faggot given the Alpha need to hunt and conquer. That can present a bunch of issues, but you seem to have found the right balance with your faggot.

To answer your question directly, YES it is entirely possible to maintain a Master/faggot dynamic in a longterm relationship. In fact, if you own a true faggot, keeping that dynamic is almost critical. Being a faggot is NOT a fetish that can be turned on/off like true fetishes the leather scene or furries or any of that shit. A faggot simply is a faggot every moment of every day of its life. 

I often compare faggots to dogs, and I think the analogy is apt. A Man owns a dog. He loves the dog. He cares for it, plays with it, disciplines it, cherishes it. But no matter how deeply they love each other, the dog is never going to be equal to the Man. It works because both of them remain in and perform their natural roles.

Like a dog, you love your faggot. Your faggot might be your most cherished possession, the one thing you truly love above all others. Yet, it is still a faggot … and no matter how deeply you love each other that disparity cannot be erased or ignored. 

To be honest, it’s only when a Master and a faggot embrace that dynamic and their respective purposes with it does the relationship really shine. I know this because I’ve diligently chronicled these kinds of relationships over the years, and in many cases I’ve been personally involved with them. My sites (FWA and now this one) have seen FIVE MARRIAGES of Alphas and faggots (three of the Alphas are straight, too!). In fact, I was privileged to pick out the wedding bands for one couple (straight Master G and his faggot Jamie)! 

In all of these successful cases the Master/faggot dynamic actually strengthened their bond. What can I say? Hierarchy WORKS! 

You shouldn’t worry about treating your faggot in a “degrading” way while in a loving, committed relationship. The positive reaction of your faggot to your casual use of the word “faggot” should tell you everything you need to know. Your faggot WANTS to serve you, Master … it NEEDS to serve you. 

I really hope I’ve answered your question sufficiently, Master. I really want the best for you and your faggot, and I love the relationship you’re building together. If you have more questions or if you’d like to keep me updated, you can always write to me at hierarchyuniversity@gmail.com! Thank you, Master!  

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