Open-minded Dad
Hello! My name is Alex, I am 39, talking from Mexico. I'd like to share my story with you, Sam. I have a 19-year-old son called Samuel just like you. I got married when I was his age, and he was born when I was 20. I wanted to spend my whole life with his mother as my loyal wife and raise Sam to be confident and successful man. But tragically my wife had cancer and passed away in 2021, when Sam was 15. Since then, I have committed my whole life to take care of my boy, night and day. My top priority in life is to see Sam happy, no matter who he is or what he feels.
Sam has always been very obedient and a really good boy at school and at home. When he was 5 or 6 he used to love Barbie movies and he spent most of his teenage years watching make-up tutorials online. So for me it is very obvious that he is gay, and this is totally fine for me. I love him no matter what. I am very young and always try to be a open-minded father for my son. But since my wife passed away Sam has been really depressed and I feel that I hardly ever see his beautiful smile nowadays. I talk a lot with him about the importance of moving forward, and that his mom wouldn't want to see us suffering forever. But it's been really hard to navigate this.
But the reason why I am telling you these things is because my best friend from school, whom I've been friends with for 25 years now, is gay and married to another guy. His name is Pablo and has known Sam since he was born, he was always the nice uncle (although not blood related) bringing presents to my son. When my wife passed away, he proved to be a real brother and gave a lot of support to Sam when I needed to work. I've asked Pablo many times if he thinks Sam is gay, and since my kid was 12 Pablo had no doubts that Sam was gay. More recently, I've tried anything to see my son happy again, you have no idea. There is nothing in the world that I want more than seeing my son moving forward and having a happy life. So a few weeks ago, since they are so close to each other, my friend Pablo asked me if I would allow Sam to spend some time at his place with his husband.
At first, I didn't like the idea because I've protected Sam with my own hands since he was born. But Pablo was very honest to me and said that in his opinion my son is lost and he needs a male figure that I cannot be for him. He said that with his husband Sam would have a better environment to relax, open his mind, and explore his identity. We've been friends for 25 years and know everything about each other's life, so I was very straightforward and asked him if he wanted to have sex with my son. Then he admitted that it wouldn't be a bad idea because Sam is a virgin and needs to have a real Man guiding him. Pablo thinks that losing his virginity with someone he trusts will make Sam see other possibilities in life.
As I said, I'm very open-minded and would accept my son no matter what. But I don't know how to react. Pablo said that he will not try to seduce my son without my consent, but he truly believes that it's time for me to let it go. I asked Sam if he would like to spend a few weeks with Pablo and his husband, and my son opened a big smile and was really excited about the idea. I also should say that Sam loves social media and loves to put sexy pictures wearing his swim trunks for his close friends on Instagram stories. And do you know how I found it out? I am not on his close friends, but Pablo was, and I suspect that Sam only had Pablo in his close friends because my son is very shy and would not show sexy pictures to anyone.
So I have many hints that Sam is into Pablo, but at the same time I'm afraid that this is a bad idea. I wanted my friend to find a boyfriend his age who would treat him well, and love him. I have never thought about my best friend to do so. He has a open relationship with his husband, but I don't want my son to be just a little side fun for them. I trust Pablo more than anyone else on Earth, and he told me that he wants to "take care" of my son, not just have sex.
After some time discussing this, Pablo said that he has been following your work for many years on Twitter, and sent me this website. He told me to read some stories and learn about hierarchy. And I did it. I understand everything you say here, and I understand that some men are submissive, others are not. I can deal with all of that, and that's fine. But in Sam's case, I really need an outside opinion before deciding what to do with my son.
In any case, I would like to thank you for your time and I hope you could share your thoughts with me.
