Questions From Readers

Hi ! I am 20 years old and I have two questions ( and sorry I m french so my English is horrible) :

– First : I search what is my place une the hierarchy, yes it’s strange but for the moment I don’t know. Effectively I have two part of me : one part want to be more manly, practise sport many time in week, love to be superior, love to command, and think I have charisma ( but this part is hard to assume because I have bad self esteem and stress disorder ) ; the second part want to obey and be useful for a real man, feel weak in front of certain man and be excited by story of fag ( but I scare because I have toxic sexual part and I can’t  to dissociate toxic of good for the moment ). So I don’t know where is my place in hierarchy.

– The second question is more simple, I have two boyfriend, I m in love with us but they no sensual and dominant so often I want more sensuality and hard sex, what can I do ?

thanks and have good day

It is a little difficult to understand what you’re asking me! I’ll try my best!

Whenever we are confused about our place in Hierarchy, it is useful to try a few things sexually. It sounds like you have a few options with whom you can experiment. Try topping only, try bottoming only. See if you can isolate what makes you feel most complete and comforted. 

I often liken that feeling to coming home after a long trip. That feeling of comfort, of being in the right place.

From what I understand of what you wrote, I think experimentation is the best course.

As for the two boyfriends, it’s clear that you are not sexually compatible with them. Yes, you love them, but you’re not PASSIONATELY in love with them. So you’re wasting your time by focusing on them. 

I hope that helps, even thought I’m shooting in the dark.

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