Questions From Readers
Hi Sam. I’ve been following your site since FWA, and it has helped me really step into myself in ways that have both scared myself and made me accept myself. It took me awhile to really accept it and really tell myself truly that “I am a faggot.” I’m currently in a relationship of almost 4 years with a wonderful and deeply loving Alpha. My question is admittedly a bit meandering and broad. I have been into chastity for almost 10 years. Most of it has been self-locked, and I’ve always had terrible discipline about it and end up unlocking to jerk off. With my current boyfriend, he has me lock up from time to time, but he also likes watching me jerk off and degrading me while I do so, which I find fairly hot. That said, I still struggle feeling like being allowed to jerk off AT ALL is a failing as a faggot, and I wonder about telling my boyfriend that I want to be locked up for good. I love how crazy horny and submissive I get when I’m locked, but I’ve never been able to get past that point where it’s too much and I unlock to get relief. And with how things are with my man now, it’s kinda the same. Even though he is my Alpha and his pleasure is what matters most, I still wonder about whether I should tell him that I don’t want to be allowed to jerk off, because some part of my faggot self is saying that anything less than full lockdown is a failing. I know this has been a lot, and I’m sorry for the messiness, but I’ve been stewing on this alone for sometime, and I finally got the courage to reach out and ask. Thank you for all the work that you do, and I’m looking forward to your response!
P.S. Do you post ALL the questions you get asked? Or do you ask permission first? I’m a little nervous around privacy just because of my career…
Thank you for writing to me, brother! And yes, I post every single question asked of me unless there are parts they request I remove. As for your career, who can possibly know you from an anonymous ask?
I’m proud of you for your chastity journey and being honest with yourself! That’s more than half the battle! I wish more faggots could even get to that point!
Your emotional journey follows a path similar to mine. It eventually bothered me so much that I simply had no choice except to permanently lock myself up. In chastity, I feel like my proper self. I’m sure you understand.
Your Alpha partner can likely understand at least some of what you’re going through. Have a talk and tell him that you want to be permanently locked in honor of him. Ask him if he would help you accomplish this. I have no doubt he will be honored and turned on by that approach, and he’d probably love to be a part of training you that way.
With him onboard and guiding your continued journey, you should be able to do it while also deepening your relationship and devotion to him!
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