Hey there. Very new follower here but love the site, been reading/listening for the last few days nonstop. Glad to have found other fags that understand hierarchy and I’ve learned a lot.
You have any tips on making an alpha feel comfortable being assertive and aggressive? I have an alpha that seems to shy away from being too rough with me, despite me telling him I enjoy it. I’m not sure he understands how strong my desire to submit to him is, and that he should prioritize his needs above mine. He says he likes it rough but he is definitely holding back.
Hi brother, thanks for writing.
I’ve gotten this question a few times, and I am also wrestling with this issue with a pre-Alpha friend of mine as well. It seems like such an obvious and easy thing to us as faggots because we have this idea that all Men are cauldrons of dominant aggressiveness. Of course, almost all Men (and Alphas) are plagued by the same insecurities, fears, and societal pressures that we all face. Some Men (like my friend and yours) are just really nice people who genuinely don’t want to be hurtful or selfish. We have to understand that about them, as well as the possibility that it’s simply not in them to be more aggressive.
On the other hand, I’ve also successfully advised some faggots on how to ignite dominance within their Alphas, so I know in some Alphas this timidity can be overcome. My advice is this: stop complaining to him about how passive he is, since this causes anxiety. Instead, ramp up your submission to him. Always seek to position yourself physically lower and at his feet. Become more subservient and agreeable. Rub and kiss his feet. When he fucks you, put yourself in the most submissive positions and make him feel like he’s a sexual god.
In other words, make him feel like a King. What I’ve seen happen is this type of deep submission brings out the hunting instinct in Alphas, and eventually they’ll want to pounce. Now this isn’t usually something that happens immediately, so you need to remain patient and focused. I’ve seen this approach work, so have faith in the process and hopefully you’ll see success.
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