Hello Sam, my name is Andy. I’m a 20 year old guy in his second year of uni.

First of all I want to thank you Sam, I never really considered myself a fag before stumbling on your content, which made me comfortable with using that title.

The situation is this, last year when I started uni I met a guy in one of my classes, we quickly bonded and became friends. We started hanging out every day and going to the gym together.
He is very handsome and I found him attractive from the very begging.
I subconsciously  started serving him almost immediately after we became friends, giving him my notes, doing his homework, paying for our coffee when we go out and buying him gifts here and there.
Around May of this year I started stealing his gym underwear and socks and jerking off with them before returning them. Whenever I smell his alpha scent I just think about how much I want to serve him, however I come from a fairly homophobic Eastern European country and from the things I heard him say he is also quite homophobic and right wing.
I want to show him the hierarchy chart and explain to him that I want to serve him and be his fag however I’m afraid that he’ll stop talking to me afterwards. Is there any way I can introduce him to this world?

Thank you so much for the important work you do!

Thank you for the question!

Congrats on finding an Alpha close to you that you might be able to serve! This is a big trick I’ve always endorsed, and it works pretty well. Why? Because you’ve developed a relationship with him and he likes you, so he’s more likely to be sympathetic if you ever approach him about this.

First of all, I wouldn’t worry about the homophobia/right-wing shit, brother. Homophobic right-wingers are actually MORE likely to be the ones (a) eager to flex their Alphahood, and (b) more likely to be interested in doing gay stuff. Yes, I know it’s messed up, but that’s reality. Their aggressive homophobia is called overcompensation. Check the Grindr traffic around areas where American Republicans are holding gatherings, and Grindr actually CRASHES from so many in-denial Republicans looking for faggots! So I wouldn’t worry too much about that.

You’re already serving him in a variety of ways, and that’s really good! You didn’t mention his attitude toward all of these gifts and favors you’re doing for him, but I’m assuming he’s just accepting it without even thinking about it (Alphas sometimes take that for granted).

I would suggest that you try to sit at his feet and “get lower” when you’re around him. This action will sometimes lead to the Alpha teasing you with his feet. It triggers something inside them when they see weaker guys in vulnerable positions. He will start to view you as a plaything.

You can try a couple of resources on the site. The Hierarchy chart on here is a solid one, although it might confuse him unless you explain it. The “Letter To An Alpha” linked in the right sidebar is a useful one if you want it explained to him in a concise, logical way. And there is also my book “May I Serve You, Sir?” that’s goes into greater depth (I don’t recommend it for college Alphas).

But before you give him any of those resources, you should ask him a simple question: “Do you consider yourself to be Alpha?” This almost always leads to a response, and you can usually use that response to lead him to a discussion about Hierarchy (and those resources).

Hopefully this gives you something of a game plan, brother. I have no doubt you’ll do fine with whatever course you choose. They don’t always work, but I promise you they work more often than you’d ever imagine!

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I know this is a very typical question, but I feel helpless here. I’m a faggot, living in a homophobic country and studying at a university (I’m 19). I haven’t been able to get this guy out of my head for a year or so.

He is a real alpha. He’s so charismatic, confident, a little arrogant. He can sometimes be embarrassed and shy, depending on the situation, but more often he behaves like a king and like everything is under his control.

I’m not sure if he’s protective or destructive alpha tho. I heard, that he is caring in relationship, but anyway, he thinks he is better in some way than others. He can hit, if you cross the line. He and his friends even often fight with each other just for fun.

I always stared at him in the locker room and imagined how I could serve him. But the fact is that we barely talk to each other. We only say “hello” when we see each other. And.. I already tried to test the waters.

I asked one person to send him a message, so to speak, a “letter” from me with a confession. But so that I remain anonymous. This guy, the alpha, just laughed and said that he definitely did not need this. After some time I heard him and his friends discussing who it could be. And he clearly thought the situation was ridiculous and absurd. But, I think, he was a bit proud of himself, that he can attract boys too, haha.

I made a mistake. I confessed my feelings. I expected something more like a relationship. Something romantic. But I don’t know if this could ever be possible. No one’s know that it was me, who confessed. And I feel scared to do any more steps. I feel scared, even terrified, that someone will find out and start to bully me or something… The chances are high.

What should I do? Confess, that I’m okay with just being an obedient fag, not expecting anything romantic? Or just leave it behind, because my safety is a priority 1? I really need an advice, even if it’s a stupid question.

My brother, thank you for writing to me! And it’s not a stupid question at all!

One of the most heartbreaking aspects of my time running this site are the many cries for help I’ve received from faggots trapped in homophobic countries. It’s especially hard to hear this from gays in the Middle East, because as long-term readers know, I rescued an 18-year-old Syrian boy from there after he reached out to me through this site. So I have all the empathy in the world for that situation, believe me.

I realize that my message of “be brave and offer yourself” can actually be quite dangerous to people in your situation. It can also be cruel; it’s like demanding that a paralyzed person get up and walk. I never want to add any further burden to anyone.

My first advice is my most urgent: do whatever you need to do to escape your country and start a new life in freedom. Get into a school and learn a valuable skill that can get you out of there (a lot of times schools on the outside will sponsor students to move). If you have anyone on the outside, start reaching out to them and find a pathway. This isn’t going to be an overnight process, but start steering your life in that direction and fight for it like your life depends on it (because it does!).

Now, if you really want to approach this Alpha, you must do it very carefully. Either try to befriend him somehow and start offering to do things for him. Be respectful, complimentary, attentive. Once he trusts you enough, give him the “Letter To An Alpha” that I have linked in the sidebar (I’m guessing that is not the letter you already gave him). Hopefully he will see it in a different light if he cares enough about you.

That’s probably the only way you’re going to do this and still remain safe. I can’t recommend more because I don’t know the situation very well and I don’t want to give you harmful advice.

Just know that you’re in my thoughts and in my heart, little one. I love you!

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Eight years ago singer/songwriter/actor Troye Sivan released an audacious trilogy of music videos from his groundbreaking Blue Neighborhood album. The three-song cycle is comprised of Troye’s songs “Wild”, “Fools”, and “Talk Me Down”, and it follows two young boys who grow into adolescence and fall in love with each other, only to be violently torn apart by one of the fathers.

It’s a story that plays out all the time around the world, and it’s heartbreaking every single time it happens.

The sad resignation of “Talk Me Down” has always stuck with me; it’s one of my favorite songs from Troye. The final shot is hauntingly memorable and open to interpretation. There are no easy answers here, and the cycle gives the viewer impressions of feelings rather than heavy-handed story. But the cumulative weight of those feelings … it’s overwhelming.

I wanted to share this because there isn’t enough art being made that really plumbs the depths of what it means to be gay and desiring of unattainable hopes.

I guess I’m just in a mood to share something from the heart tonight.

Years ago on my old site FWA I wrote a fairly legendary defense of my prolific use of the word “faggot”. That article came as an angry response after I’d had something like 13 Twitter accounts and at least seven Tumblr accounts banned simply for my use of the term.

Since then, the world has become even more stridently PC. Everybody takes offense at everything, typically without understanding the reasons why someone might be using a term that someone else might label as “offensive”.

“Faggot” is near the top of such a list of offensive words despite it having a longstanding context rich with Hierarchical meaning.

Since at least the late 1800’s the term “faggot” has been used to describe submissive slave males. Books of that period like “Harry Blount” liberally used the term to describe the male slaves of young straight males. This led to the common 20th century use of the word as a derogatory slur steeped in homophobia.

But thanks to the internet the term “faggot” has been restored to its proper place in Hierarchical language. It is now understood to represent submissive males whose sole function is to serve the needs of superior Men and Alphas.

In the first century these faggots were commonly called “eunuchs” because they were sexless, inferior/failed males who lived to serve. Jesus mentioned this at Matthew 19:12 when he said: “For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs on account of the Kingdom of the heavens.”

Because of its rich, longstanding meaning in the English language, the term “faggot” has taken on a power that can change lives. There are no other words that can force a male to submit like the word “faggot”. It acts like a command in hypnosis, triggering certain submissive males to instantly obey the Alpha using it.

To understand this, all we need to do is imagine someone calling us various slang words for weak or inferior. For instance, we might get rattled if someone called us “pussy” or “bitch”. But if someone calls us a “faggot”, they’re making specific claims about our very nature. This deeper meaning is understood by everyone.

When this term “faggot” is embraced by those actual slave males among us, dramatic, life-changing effects are realized. Now labeled correctly, the faggot often has an epiphany that is accompanied by great joy and relief.

I quite famously participated in an event with a gay Alpha Master named Master A on a live Twitter Space in 2022 that demonstrated the absolute power of the word “faggot”. In that session Master A and I managed to get 88 sub males to admit to the live group that they are faggots. Several of these newly-outed faggots were thrilled to be able to say that for the first time. However, many others broke down in tears and deep sobbing because the emotional weight lifted from them at the moment overwhelmed them.

Now imagine the effect an Alpha Master has when he calls his submissive properties “faggot”. The word creates an instant and massive Hierarchical divide between the Master and his slave that cannot be denied or forgotten. I can tell you from personal experience that an Alpha calling me faggot causes me to immediately shrink and submit. Any experienced faggot knows what I’m saying is true.

That is why I’m so defiantly using the term “faggot” today. There is simply no other word that more accurately captures who I am and my function within Hierarchy. I don’t shrink back from its use, not in the face of the keyboard warriors online or in my everyday life. I am a faggot, born with a commission to serve our greatest Men. To hide from that feels exactly like what it is: a betrayal of natural order.

I’ll give you an example from my recent incarceration episode. When I was being booked, I was handcuffed in a police station holding area. As I was waiting there, an officer walked into the room and started loudly telling another officer about “this faggot” who was doing something wrong. The second time the officer said “faggot” I yelled out: “Please stop using the word faggot like that!”

The officer looked at me, startled. Then she said, “Why…are you one?”

And I stared back at her and replied, “Yes.”

She walked away.

I am not ever backing down from using the word “faggot”. It has changed my entire understanding of my life, and it has helped countless others in their search for purpose. It is a word of tremendous power, both good and bad.

Here is my Hierarchy Series video titled “What Is A Faggot?”. Enjoy!