Hi, hope you’re well. I don’t really know where to start, for a few years now I’ve been absorbing media surrounding the ideas of hierarchy and what being a fag entails. Something about it feels so comforting, and I recently started a self-locked journey getting my first chastity cage just this past weekend. That being said, I don’t really know how to feel. Part of me thinks that I am a fag, but another part of me is resistant.  When it comes to being around my friends, I’m usually the one who just agrees with whatever is said and I rarely voice my own opinions when it comes to where we should go to eat, hang, whatever. However, when it comes to school projects with random groups, or taking on a leadership position (like my university’s student council), that comes to me just as naturally and I have no problem taking charge. I guess the question here is can there be a balance between servitude as a fag, and fulfilling aspirational goals and having a successful career? I’m really new to this whole world and just don’t know where I stand yet, or if what I am picturing is even possible. Any advice helps, thanks a lot!

Thank you for writing, brother!

This is a pretty common dilemma for faggots, especially newer ones. If your information comes only from porn or Dom/sub fetish sites, it would very easy to think a faggot is nothing but garbage to be used and discarded, a useless, popper-addicted pig with no value to society.

Now, there ARE some fags like that, of course. But these ones are outliers, truly debased creatures who live only from one degradation to another.

But most faggots are like you and I, real males with hopes and dreams and talents and personalities. Some of us are wildly talented and hugely successful. Hell, Sean the faggot built a multi-million dollar company that made him extremely wealthy before it was taken over by his young Master!

However, there is something within us that makes us need to serve Alphas. It drives us, and when we do even the slightest act of service for a Man we feel a fulfillment that is hard to replicate any other way. It’s like a drug, this fulfillment. Hearing “good boy” from a Man makes our lives of sacrifice and submission worth it.

It is not easy to balance those two seemingly disparate aspects of our lives as faggots, but it can be done. Some of this involves serving the right Alphas, ones who are Protector Alphas and who recognize that guiding their faggots toward good, useful, and fulfilling goals makes their service that much better. I’ve been blessed in that regard throughout my life, but part of that has to do with my own self-respect. I view my service as a gift I offer my Owner, so I don’t want it abused, unappreciated, or misused.

So go on a build a life you can find fulfilling. Find success and joy. Build something valuable within yourself so you can submissively offer it as tribute to a truly great Alpha!

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