Hi Sam,

This is the first time I’m asking a question so hopefully this question reaches you well.

I’m an extremely horny voluntarily celibate sub, and the reason for that is that I’m in a situation which would destroy me if my tendencies were to be found out.

I’ve had many men who want me to be a good little fag for them, but I fear for the consequences. How do I navigate this situation as a fag who wishes to be stuffed daily and be in the service of horny hairy men?

Thank you for the question, brother!

I understand what you’re going through, honestly. I don’t know if you know this, but in 2016 I met an 18-year-old Syrian boy through this site whose life was in danger for being gay, so I rescued him and eventually got him to safety. It was one of the most terrifying and (eventually) beautiful things to ever happen to me.

I hate places like the Middle East because of the intolerance and hate there, a place that almost cost me the life of the most important person I’ve ever loved. I don’t know if that’s where you’re from, but it sounds like you are.

In your case, you have Men wanting to use you, which is good. That’s half the battle. Here’s the thing: if you were to serve them despite your life being in danger for doing so, well their lives are in danger, too. So it’s highly unlikely that they will ever snitch on you.

Unless you’re willing to remain unfulfilled until you can finally get out of there, I suggest you try to serve these interested Men. You have to try to live as much as you can!

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Hello Sam!

I’m a submissive boy from Iran. I’m 31 years old and married. My wife knows about my desires and sometimes dominates me it feels nothing for me. It feels so fake. I considered myself straight all my life and I wanna submit to a dominant woman in my dreams but finding a real one seems impossible specially where I live.

I’m your long time reader and alpha men and hierarchy idea really turns me on and I think it’s true. There is a natural hierarchy between men

But here is my problem, whenever I tried to approach or have any kind of erotic or sexual or service based contact with an alpha man I feel turned off by the body and the look and voice and…. Of those men. I’m submissive who craves for power to worship but I can’t find it in women and I can’t enjoy serving men. So I’m confused. Am I a faggot? And if I am what should I do? I tried contacting alpha men few times but each time I felt sick in stomach after our first meeting. And gave it up. Your wisdom and help is well needed and appreciated bro

Thank you so much for the question!!

I dearly love hearing from faggots and others from the Middle East. It crushes me to know my fag brothers and others (like you) who don’t conform to the restrictive sexual rules of that region. I worry all the time about those faggots who might never find fulfillment and/or lose their lives in the Middle East. If you’ve been reading me for a long time, you’ll know I rescued a kid (18-years-old) from Syria that I met through the earliest version of this site. He almost died getting out, but he was determined not to suffocate emotionally there and/or be killed. And there was no way I could let that happen, either.

So that’s my perspective when I get the rare chance to speak with someone like you, my friend. Just know there are people like me who desperately want you to be happy, fulfilled, and safe!

Just reading your question, I tend to think you’re not a faggot, but rather a “beta-sub” on the hierarchy chart. Your wife is trying to dominate you (which is commendable on her part), but we all know it’s ridiculous when females try to be dominant. You want an Alpha to dominate you properly, but you’re simply not turned on by the male body.

So what’s the answer? I think it might be good for you to try being a domestic submissive for an Alpha. That’s nonsexual, but still fulfills your desire to serve and be useful to more powerful Men. In addition, such service would probably be safer for you.

Try it, and see if that helps, my friend! My heart is with you!

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I know this is a very typical question, but I feel helpless here. I’m a faggot, living in a homophobic country and studying at a university (I’m 19). I haven’t been able to get this guy out of my head for a year or so.

He is a real alpha. He’s so charismatic, confident, a little arrogant. He can sometimes be embarrassed and shy, depending on the situation, but more often he behaves like a king and like everything is under his control.

I’m not sure if he’s protective or destructive alpha tho. I heard, that he is caring in relationship, but anyway, he thinks he is better in some way than others. He can hit, if you cross the line. He and his friends even often fight with each other just for fun.

I always stared at him in the locker room and imagined how I could serve him. But the fact is that we barely talk to each other. We only say “hello” when we see each other. And.. I already tried to test the waters.

I asked one person to send him a message, so to speak, a “letter” from me with a confession. But so that I remain anonymous. This guy, the alpha, just laughed and said that he definitely did not need this. After some time I heard him and his friends discussing who it could be. And he clearly thought the situation was ridiculous and absurd. But, I think, he was a bit proud of himself, that he can attract boys too, haha.

I made a mistake. I confessed my feelings. I expected something more like a relationship. Something romantic. But I don’t know if this could ever be possible. No one’s know that it was me, who confessed. And I feel scared to do any more steps. I feel scared, even terrified, that someone will find out and start to bully me or something… The chances are high.

What should I do? Confess, that I’m okay with just being an obedient fag, not expecting anything romantic? Or just leave it behind, because my safety is a priority 1? I really need an advice, even if it’s a stupid question.

My brother, thank you for writing to me! And it’s not a stupid question at all!

One of the most heartbreaking aspects of my time running this site are the many cries for help I’ve received from faggots trapped in homophobic countries. It’s especially hard to hear this from gays in the Middle East, because as long-term readers know, I rescued an 18-year-old Syrian boy from there after he reached out to me through this site. So I have all the empathy in the world for that situation, believe me.

I realize that my message of “be brave and offer yourself” can actually be quite dangerous to people in your situation. It can also be cruel; it’s like demanding that a paralyzed person get up and walk. I never want to add any further burden to anyone.

My first advice is my most urgent: do whatever you need to do to escape your country and start a new life in freedom. Get into a school and learn a valuable skill that can get you out of there (a lot of times schools on the outside will sponsor students to move). If you have anyone on the outside, start reaching out to them and find a pathway. This isn’t going to be an overnight process, but start steering your life in that direction and fight for it like your life depends on it (because it does!).

Now, if you really want to approach this Alpha, you must do it very carefully. Either try to befriend him somehow and start offering to do things for him. Be respectful, complimentary, attentive. Once he trusts you enough, give him the “Letter To An Alpha” that I have linked in the sidebar (I’m guessing that is not the letter you already gave him). Hopefully he will see it in a different light if he cares enough about you.

That’s probably the only way you’re going to do this and still remain safe. I can’t recommend more because I don’t know the situation very well and I don’t want to give you harmful advice.

Just know that you’re in my thoughts and in my heart, little one. I love you!

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