I have found a handsome Man who sees me as a fag and wishes to use me. And that’s awesome. But from the very first (online) conversation, he is wholly uncompromising – doesn’t take “no” for an answer, no matter my concern. He keeps calling me a zero, a filthy floor rag. He also told me I have no rights with him, that his word is a law. That my purpose in life is being flushed in the toilet.

Sounds all hot and fitting to a faggot, alright, but this is a Man I haven’t even met, I know nothing about him and though he is dominant, there is something unhealthy about his demeanor. After all, he’s said he won’t let me go.

It seems he has a great passion for flushing fags’ heads in the toilet, pissing on them, having them lick it and such – and I wouldn’t any problem with it. On the contrary. Except he wants me to film it, over and over and over again with slight variations. And I don’t want to be exposed, for heaven’s sake. I have that right, or do I not? I may be a lowly fag but 24/7 servitude is simply unacceptable. Deference and respect to a Man at all times is different than being essentially a possession for 24/7.

Just what should I do? Thank you.

Hi brother! Thanks for writing! 

In a general sense I’m wary of any online interactions that are not backed up by in-person meets and experiences. Anybody can be anything online. For crying out loud even I could get dominant and write Dom-sounding emails if I wanted to! So just because he’s saying these things online doesn’t mean squat. 

Here’s how you know what you should do: you said that “24/7 is out of the question” and “exposure is not something you want” … but that is EXACTLY what he wants.

So you tell me … what should you do? The answer is clear to me!  

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Hi Sam!

I’ve recently come into contact with an Alpha across the globe in Europe. We’ve had good conversations and he really appreciates obedience above all else, which is why I make sure to address him as Sir within every sentence. Whenever he has an urge to jerk off, he makes me go on a voice chat with him, and I have to verbally degrade myself and worship his status as an alpha. On top of that, he also makes me send him humiliating photos/videos of myself for him to jerk off to, stuff like me riding a dildo while thanking him for letting me serve him. I’ve really enjoyed serving him and making sure he gets the pleasure he rightfully deserves, even if it’s online. Would you consider this meaningful service to alphas, even though it’s not the usual traditional version of service? Is there more I can do to serve alphas when we live so far apart? Thanks for all the work you do Sam, I really look up to you!

Hi brother! Thanks for writing! 

In today’s world we’ve seen a sharp rise in online service/worship in the Hierarchical space. It’s inevitable. Sometimes we meet an Alpha online and things just click. Other times, the only way a faggot can serve safely is through online worship. 

So yes, it’s meaningful service even if it isn’t ideal. The Alpha is getting off to the pics you’re sending to him, so he’s obviously pleased. Who am I to judge that arrangement?

As far as doing more to serve online, you didn’t mention anything about findom. That’s typically what happens in online service. Maybe that’s not a feature of your service to him, but if you can afford it, I think you should add that. 

But nice work, brother! 

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Hi Sam,

First,Welcome back. Hope you are well.

Wondering if you could please give me some advice.

I’ve been DM’ing with a straight military dude on Tumblr. Through our chats I told him why I thought he was an alpha, gave him my thoughts on hierarchy, came out to him as a faggot wanting to serve an alpha and encourged him to assert his alphahood. He was interested in all of this and by the end of the chat he told me that he liked when I called him SIR and told me to address him like that always. He bid me a good night calling me his good faggot friend. Of course this left me swooning.

The next morning I left him a DM just saying that I was thinking of him and wishing him a good day. He simply replied with “Hey”

I feel like I might have overstepped or seemed needy.

because I saw him posting the whole day but he didn’t reach out to DM me.

My question is– how can I continue to engage him? Do I ask him questions? I’d like to get to know him better — he seems very cool and open. (He is obsessed with pussy and getting girls and he posts alot about that)

All to say, how can I develop some kind of connection to him that maybe could lead to him wanting me to be his faggot. Or is that hoping for too much?

Thanks Sam. Your advice is so appreciated.

This is why I don’t put a lot of stock in online service. There’s nowhere for it to go … unless you are willing to serve him as a cash fag.

You see, no straight Alpha wants to befriend a faggot online because there’s nothing there to benefit him. The only thing that will get his interest is money. So if you’re willing to serve him that way, then do it.

But I don’t know how else you can “be his faggot” unless you happen to live nearby, or you pack up and move to him (I don’t recommend it). 

Ultimately, you’re better off cultivating service relationships with local Alphas. That’s what I’ve done my whole adult life, and it works. Save the online stuff for the game players.

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