Hi Sam, nice to met you

I am 30 and my boyfriend is very submissive. He is 21, nice and smooth twink, the bottom that any Alpha would love to breed. The problem is: we are together for 1 year and every time I fuck him he tries to make me suck his dick. I hate doing this but because he’s a good boy and I love him I tried to do it a few times. Every time I get close to his dick or balls it feels horrible. I literally want to throw up just to feel the tip of his dick on my tongue. My body automatically rejects it. He says that he can bottom for longer periods if I suck him because he relaxes more, but I do hate doing it. I don’t like rim either but it’s 100x better than sucking dick.

He likes your content, so can you please tell him that I don’t need to suck his dick to be a good Alpha and Master? Or do you think I’m wrong?

Master, thank you for writing to me! I’m glad you’ve found a faggot that (mostly) makes you happy!

I was so disappointed to read how your faggot still thinks it deserves to be serviced and pleased like a Man, or that it has a say or the right to ask anything like that of you. I’m sorry to have to say this, but the responsibility for this rests squarely on you, Master. You didn’t set  boundaries and enforce them when you first took possession of it, and now your faggot has developed bad habits.

The first few months of an Alpha’s ownership of a faggot (particularly young/inexperienced ones) are critical for establishing boundaries and expectations. I know a lot of Alphas think of faggots as just stupid fuck-holes, but they can be quite manipulative. What started off as sweetly suggested requests has morphed into you regularly putting a fag’s dick in your mouth so you can please it. I mean, who’s running this arrangement now, Master?

You need to firmly put a stop to this immediately. First thing to do: put the faggot in chastity and keep it there. If the faggot protests or whines/cries about it, then put it on its knees and explain that this is how it will serve you from now on, and explain that it is free to leave if it will not submit. 

I also recommend some scent training along with call/response mindfucking so that you retrain these bad habits out of your faggot. Put it on its knees and make it spend time kissing your feet, deeply inhaling the musk of your cock/balls. While doing this, ask the faggot “what are you?” and “whose faggot are you?” Then make it suck your dick, all the while telling it, “you were born to suck my dick, right? (yes) Was I born to suck yours, faggot? (no)”. Repeat this process often until you see improvement. I’d also add domestic chores to this faggot in order to get its mind off of sexual service and onto becoming a more well-rounded property for you.

I’m grateful that you wrote to me Master. I hope this helps a little bit. Once the faggot has been corrected, perhaps you can start giving it some privileges as a gift from your heart, since you clearly are quite generous. But now is not the time to be soft with this errant faggot, Master. You need to be strong-willed and determined. In the end, the faggot will be much better for it, and you’ll be able to sleep without the taste of fag dick in your mouth (yuck). Thank you, Master!   

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Hey Sam, love your site! I’m 18 from France and I have a weird situation. My boyfriend is 23 and he is VERY dominant in our relationship, in his work, etc He is a natural Alpha in every single way. I never asked him about being a top or a bottom because I was a virgin when I met him and I taught he would destroy my hole and breed me. For my surprise, when we first had intimacy and the bedroom for us after a few dates, he literally opened his drawer, handed me a bottle of lube and a condom, took his underwear off and put his ass up waiting for me to fuck hahahaha I kept looking at the lube and the condom trying to understand what to do for a while before I started doing it. I had never worn a condom before, so I tried to do my best and lubed his hole. It was a little messy, but my dick is not that big, so it entered easily. We’ve been together for 6 months and every time we have sex he does the same. He says he is a dominant power bottom but I desperately need to feel a dick in my hole, dominating me and breeding me. How do you think I should behave in this case? I think I am a faggot, but I’ve been fucking his big manly ass since July. Is there such thing as a Alpha bottom? Maybe a throuple with a real Alpha would solve it? I don’t know if something is wrong with me but I see so many faggots serving strong men and when I found one he literally has a pussy instead of a asshole looool   Love you Sam!!! Merci beaucoup !

Brother, thank you for writing to me! I love you, too! For whatever reason your question ended up in my email inbox rather than inside the site, so my response won’t reach you directly. Hopefully you’ll see this reply on the site.

I hate to be the one to break this to you, little brother, but your boyfriend is NOT a “natural Alpha in every single way” because truly dominant Alphas aren’t bottoms. How can any Man claim to be dominant when he’s bending over and taking it up the ass?

I’m not saying that “bossy bottoms” don’t exist, but in my opinion they use the “bossy” title as a way to excuse selfish, ignorant, and ill-informed behavior. A lot of these bossy bottoms are the over-the-top “look at me” swish queens who are always way too loud and obnoxious everywhere they go. I can’t stand these types, and nobody I know likes them for anything other than as an object of derision.

You might as well forget about this flake right now, brother. I can almost guarantee this: at some point down the road your “boyfriend” will meet up with a real Alpha, and that Alpha will force him to accept the truth about himself.

But you are such a good boy, and I can already sense you’re going to be some true Alpha’s prized faggot. You deserve to serve a real Alpha who can complete your circle and help train you into the faggot your heart yearns to be.

So send this pretender back to the clubs so it can continue in its delusion without wasting these precious years of your life.

Love,

sam the faggot

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