Questions From Readers

I’m gay and I’m submissive for a while I really believed alpha tops were truly dominant ,but I see in almost every gay guy I’ve met this desire to submit to straight males , even tops. It’s like straight men have power over gays by default because they are “real men” , they are more manly and prone to be alphas. Are we gays just inferior to them ?

It’s not that gay males are all inferior to straight males Hierarchically, because they’re not. The phenomenon you mention (which is almost 100% true) comes from societal conditioning. Homosexuals are almost always closeted for most of their early lives because society expects them to be straight. In many places it’s deadly to be gay. So we grow up longing to be like straight males, or we long to serve them in order to be “accepted” by them in some way. 

Since much of this conditioning occurs in our teen years, it’s very hard to shake as we get older – even for gay Alphas. I have known some gay Alphas who would never submit to any Man, even straight Alphas, but like you said, it’s rare. Broken self-esteem is an epidemic that will likely plague gays until the end of time.  

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