Dear Sam the Faggot,

We could be brothers. I wish we were. I’m probably much older than you, but you are much wisher than I.

I am a faggot, or at least I think I am. But I’m not out to myself completely, and you are the 2nd person I have told I have fantasies of serving. The first person is a dominant man younger than I, who lives in another state. We met via social media accounts that neither of us use anymore, so we communicate via text messages or snail mail.

I have a boyfriend, a partner of 10 years, and we have a house mortgage, but I’m not out to him.

I’m torn. I feel I should try to live my remaining years happy in my relationship, and continue to hide my fantasies of serving dominant men. My BF is plain vanilla in many ways, and I feel confident that even approaching the topic of needing him to be more dominant would cause the relationship to end.

I apologize for wasting your time since I don’t really have a question. I’m just venting. However, I really do appreciate your website. Thank you for your posts and advice.


My dear brother, thank you for writing!

One of the greatest compliments I ever receive from doing this work are the many letters I get from brothers like you who open up their true feelings for the first time. I know the suffocating burden you’ve been carrying around your entire life. I hate that you’ve been unable to truly experience your life as you were born to – as a faggot.

I hate when people diminish or dismiss the feelings you and I have. We aren’t crazy or fetishists. We’re faggots. It’s how we were made. 

I’ve always remained on that hill, insisting that faggots come to accept the accurate knowledge of Hierarchy so that they might be free. It was one of the primary motivators for this site more than ten years ago. I’ve met a lot of brothers like you in that time, believe me. Some of these ones have openly wept when I got them to admit publicly to me that they are faggots. I cherish every one of them and their confessions, just as I cherish yours, my brother.

Fortunately, your story isn’t as sad as some brothers who must suffer in silence alone. You’re in a loving relationship, and you also have an Alpha with whom you can discuss your proper role.

You didn’t say your age, but I’m guessing in the 50-60 range. It’s probably too late in the game to upend your cozy life in favor of maybe serving an Alpha.

My advice: stay where you are, build a cozy life of love with your partner, and rest easy in the knowledge that your faggot truth was heard, acknowledged, and treasured by me, your grateful brother!

love you!

~ sam the faggot

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