Questions From Readers
Hey Sam, I’m so happy you’re back!
I have a tricky question for you but I would really appreciate your help. My husband and I have been together for 7 years. I was 18 and he was 21 when he started dating. At first it was a regular vanilla top-bottom couple. I was a full bottom and he a full top, but nothing more than that. After 6 months together, he started to call me faggot during sex when the rut got really intense. I didn’t like at first, but he trained me more and more to accept it. With time, he turned me into a full faggot and I embraced it. I cook and clean for him, he has full access to my body and I never say no, even when I’m not in the mood for sex.
The problem is: although I accept to be his owned faggot, we are also husbands, and I don’t wanna lose that. I really love him and I want to have a family and children with him one day. My main concern is that he has been bringing up more and more having a threesome with another sub bottom. He’s obsessed with that twink Sam Ledger (do you know him?), and frequently tells me to suck his dick while he watched Sam getting fucked. I don’t mind doing this because I know how much it pleases him, but every time he cums in my mouth watching Sam Ledger he says that it would be so hot to have a twink like him in our bed. This is what scares me… I’m 25 now and I’m not getting younger. Do you think that some Alphas can stay monogamic for their whole lives and have a happy “traditional” marriage? This is my dream, to be honest. I really don’t like the idea of him fucking other bottoms but I don’t want him to break up with me and find a hotter twink either.
Do you have any ideas of how I could manage this? He hasn’t fucked me in the past 2 weeks, yet every night he demands a blowjob while he watches Sam… I understand his needs, but it hurts my feelings to think that I’m not as attractive as these models.
Thank you! It’s wonderful to have you back here.
You pose a difficult question, and I’m not sure you’re going to entirely like my answer.
First of all, I’m of the opinion that it’s practically impossible for an Alpha to be 100% monogamous. They’re simply not built to be monogamous. They have a deep-seated need to hunt, conquer, and breed.
Added to that biological programming is the pervasiveness of internet porn, which has trained Alphas to think all sex and sexual partners should be like what they see in video clips. That’s not realistic, of course. You as a marriage partner shouldn’t need to compete against fancy editing, professional makeup and lighting, and overdubbed moaning. But that’s the world we live in today.
I commend you for accepting the faggot role he forced onto you. It was, no doubt, jarring and uncomfortable. But I want you to try something … I want you to lean into the faggot thing. Greet him at the door on your knees. Kiss his feet. Call him Sir or Master. Become that faggot slut he seeks with Sam Ledger. Let’s see if your husband comes around with a little change like that.
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When I was in my twenties I was in the same situation as this faggot – living with my partner who was a total alpha top.
Our relationship did not last for reasons similar to this faggot’s situation — So I would like to offer some thoughts / words of advice.
If your husband is an alpha he is not going to be monogamous with you. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or that you are not his number one, it is simply not in his alpha nature to be sexually faithful. As painful as it is, you MUST allow him the freedom to assert his conquering nature. He is going to have sex outside the relationship whether you want him to or not. It is better if you allow him this freedom than having him feel he has to sneak around.
If he is suggesting a three way you should indulge him in it. Allow it. Bless it. Even if it’s painful to you. You can be honest and say to him “You are a man and have different needs than me. I wish you could be faithful but I know you can’t be, it goes against your nature, so I can’t deny you your right to have anything sexual that you want” I guarantee you will see an immediate change in his behavior toward you.
You are empowering your man and he will love you for it. You DON”T want to be a ball and chain to him. Let him be free and he will always come back to you. Also, I guarantee that if you have a three way there will be a part of you that will be VERY turned on watching your man use and dominate another faggot in bed. And when he’s done with the faggot — YOU will be the one he goes home with. The two of you as a team.
One big mistake you are making (and that I made) is that you are NOT husband and husband as you say. There is only one man in this relationship. Your alpha. You are his fag, his fag-wife, his sub. So behave like it. Always treat him like a king.
I imagine that on some level you are often bitchy and snippy with him outside the bedroom. I imagine you use a tone with him, or give him attitude, because he is not behaving exactly as you want him to – i.e. suggesting a three way. The reason he has been pulling away from you and why he is not fucking you is likely because you are not allowing him what he wants and deserves as the superior man of the house. Change your tone. Change your attitude and he will come back to you in body, mind and soul.
I say this because I want you to avoid my fate. I could not accept my alpha for the superior male animal he was. I thought we were equal outside the bedroom. That we were husbands. I tried to limit his outside sexual needs and eventually he felt too confined – too tied down. I regret this.
It is time you realized how incredibly LUCKY you are that you have this man. Alphas like your husband are RARE. And it’s rarer still that one has claimed you has his own. He will be very hard if not impossible to replace if you lose him. I know, — I lost my alpha husband and have not found someone to take his place. If I had been able to really understand hierarchy and embrace my faggotry/submissiveness we would still be together. All these years later I still jerk off thinking about him wishing we could be together and I could treat him the way he should be. It’s hard to be a worshipping fag wife, but every moment you should worship your husband — empower him to rule and he will always come home to you.
Brother, my goodness that is just beautiful testimony!! Thank you for passing along your experience!!
I would add one more thing for this faggot. STOP worrying about your desirability. Your alpha chose you. He’s been with you for seven years. Alphas are PICKY. If you weren’t desirable he would not be with you. Also, you are ONLY 25, child. You are still a baby. You have a very long time before you should be worrying about being too old. That said, are you taking excellent care of yourself? Are you exercising. Eating right? THAT is a must. You MUST maintain your looks and health. You MUST make and keep yourself as attractive as you can FOR your husband, Whatever most attracts your husband, make sure you do exercises and have a diet that lets you be his ideal. And one last thing. Don’t be a bitchy queen. Something tells me you have an attitude problem. And your husband is not only picking up on it, but he is getting sick of it. I say this only with the best intentions so please take it that way. Follow this advice and you will be fine. Promise.