Questions From Readers
Hi sam hope you are having a good day. I’m just reaching out to you as i want to have my first experience with a Man but im not too sure in what way.
I do believe in hierarchy and i do feel like i am a faggot. I often fantasize about serving a Man in ways that a standard sexual partner wouldnt. The idea of a Man enjoying having his feet licked and piss drank feels so alien to me but feels so inspiring at the same time because it must require a level of pure cockiness and understanding they have the power to make someone do that, which i know is something i definitely dont possess.
The thing is i am yet to have any sexual experience at all. Im early 20s so im perhaps a little late to the game compared to most gay guys haha. I have just always been nervous about sex and struggled a bit with shame due to religious trauma. Over the years, ive explored fantasies online but i used to be much more vanilla. I dont know if itd be wise to jump straight into the deep end and find a master to serve or whether it would be better to try more vanilla experiences instead. I want to be well prepared for a master/slave dynamic and wouldnt want to disappoint him as a newbie. But im also a bit scared of the impact it would do to the work ive done to combat the shame ive felt about being gay as being a slave to a Man kinda adds another layer of complexity to it. I also dont know if i will end up enjoying being more vanilla and a typical sub bottom rather than a faggot. I guess i am just unsure if i am thinking wisely to go from not having done anything with a Man to worshipping his feet, doing his laundry and wearing a cage for him all at once lol. I know hierarchy is reality but im not too sure if i am thinking of too much fantasy. Im not sure if im overthinking or not. I would really appreciate some guidance from you sam as i love reading your stuff and coming here has definitely helped me realise the importance of knowing your place within the hierarchy.
Thank you for writing!
I understand your fears and the programming you’re fighting against. Many faggots are so nervous and timid that they struggle to make any headway with their purpose as you’re experiencing.
But here’s the thing: if you continue on this course, you’ll never experience anything you truly desire. You don’t want that. There’s nothing worse than looking back in regret.
Just go on TheBlowers.com or Grindr and find a Man to service. You need to just get started. From there you can build with more confidence.
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