Hi brother Sam,

Thanks to your informative posts I have finally realized that I am a faggot. Although my boyfriend is not familiar with the hierarchy, when we have sex he naturally senses my submission and adopts an alpha role. It has also become clear for the both of us that his pleasure is the only thing that matters. He regularly fucks me mercilessly and cunts me until he cums inside me. After he finishes, he says that he is exhausted and leaves me touching myself so I can come alone. It feels natural to be used and treated like a fuck toy.

The thing that leaves me unsatisfied is that in our day-to-day lives we have a regular relationship where we behave like equals. He likes to cook for me and does half of the housework, which often frustrates me. I don’t know how to tell him that I want to become his faggot and fully submit to him without scaring him. Lately, I have been trying to do more housework, encouraging him to have a rest while I clean or wash the clothes, but I feel that it is not working.

What are subtle things that I can do to signal that I want to fully submit to him and help him accept his alphahood?

Hi brother, thanks for the question!

This is a pretty common issue among gay couples. Men too often view submission as “kink play” consigned to the bedroom, while believing equality and mutual respect is the “proper” way to be in everyday life. 

But that’s simply not how true faggots are. I think it’s almost impossible for an Alpha to understand that we faggots are actually HURT (and it’s almost like a physical pain!) when our Alphas don’t allow us to serve as their property, their faggot. For true faggots, it’s not a fetish … it’s WHAT WE ARE BORN TO BE.

Tell you what: I want you to read this article I just wrote and then put it into practice: https://hierarchyuniversity.com/the-way-to-an-alphas-heart/ 

Greet him on your knees and kiss his feet when he walks through the door. Sit at his feet while he’s watching TV. 

Start calling him “Sir”. 

You need to fully lean into your true feelings and submit to him completely. If he’s as dominant as you describe in the bedroom, then surely these steps will help him embrace his dominance in all areas of his life!

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Hey, I’m an Asian alpha dom—ripped, commanding, and used to dominating guys left and right. I’ve always loved the power, the control, pinning weaker dudes down and making them beg under my strength. But then I stumbled across your post about Asian fags being weak little pussies, getting owned and used by superior white guys, and fuck—it hit me like a freight train. Something deep inside me stirred, a twisted heat I can’t shake. I’ve started fantasizing about it: those chiseled white studs with their huge cocks—way bigger than my modest Asian dick—towering over me, humiliating me, forcing me to my knees. I can’t stop thinking about how hot they are, how their rugged masculinity makes me feel small, inferior, like I’m meant to serve them. I’m confused as hell—I’m supposed to be the alpha, but now I’m jerking off to the idea of being their pathetic Asian bitch, degraded and used. The raceplay shit gets me so hard—imagining them laughing at my tiny cock, calling me a worthless yellow slut while they stretch me out. What the fuck should I do with this? Should I fight it or just give in and let white men own me like the submissive fag I might actually be?

Sir, thank you so much for writing to me! 

Well, this was certainly not what I intended to happen when I wrote that tweet, Sir! If I knew my words had that kind of power, maybe I should tweet about more money! LOL

The path through Hierarchy isn’t always clear-cut and obvious (like in my case). I’ve seen quite a few Doms who have later discovered (usually thanks to a true Alpha) that they really aren’t Dom at all. The most famous instance on this site was the case of Bruno, who originally came to me as a Master and he owned a live-in faggot named Gio. But one night Bruno met a God Alpha named Juan, and he was forced into accepting his true place as a faggot (he’s still owned by Master Juan today). 

I tell you that to assure you that you are far from the first or only Dom facing this. There simply is no way to maneuver around or avoid the truth Hierarchy presents each one of us. We can tell ourselves lies and they might stick for a while, but eventually something will collapse those lies and force us to face reality.

In your case, it was a tweet.

I do think you need to experience submitting to a true Alpha. That’s the only way to be sure about your newfound feelings. I know that’s scary, but I promise you’ll survive. In fact, it’s very possible you’ll not only survive, but THRIVE.

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