Hi brother Sam,

Thanks to your informative posts I have finally realized that I am a faggot. Although my boyfriend is not familiar with the hierarchy, when we have sex he naturally senses my submission and adopts an alpha role. It has also become clear for the both of us that his pleasure is the only thing that matters. He regularly fucks me mercilessly and cunts me until he cums inside me. After he finishes, he says that he is exhausted and leaves me touching myself so I can come alone. It feels natural to be used and treated like a fuck toy.

The thing that leaves me unsatisfied is that in our day-to-day lives we have a regular relationship where we behave like equals. He likes to cook for me and does half of the housework, which often frustrates me. I don’t know how to tell him that I want to become his faggot and fully submit to him without scaring him. Lately, I have been trying to do more housework, encouraging him to have a rest while I clean or wash the clothes, but I feel that it is not working.

What are subtle things that I can do to signal that I want to fully submit to him and help him accept his alphahood?

Hi brother, thanks for the question!

This is a pretty common issue among gay couples. Men too often view submission as “kink play” consigned to the bedroom, while believing equality and mutual respect is the “proper” way to be in everyday life. 

But that’s simply not how true faggots are. I think it’s almost impossible for an Alpha to understand that we faggots are actually HURT (and it’s almost like a physical pain!) when our Alphas don’t allow us to serve as their property, their faggot. For true faggots, it’s not a fetish … it’s WHAT WE ARE BORN TO BE.

Tell you what: I want you to read this article I just wrote and then put it into practice: https://hierarchyuniversity.com/the-way-to-an-alphas-heart/ 

Greet him on your knees and kiss his feet when he walks through the door. Sit at his feet while he’s watching TV. 

Start calling him “Sir”. 

You need to fully lean into your true feelings and submit to him completely. If he’s as dominant as you describe in the bedroom, then surely these steps will help him embrace his dominance in all areas of his life!

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Hello!

I am a fag, and have own for a couple years now. However I have been married for about 9 years, but we are open. My husband is not super sexual, in fact, we have not had sex for a couple years now…however we still get along, make each other laugh etc, and besides sex have a fairly stable relationship. We are fully open, but in a DADT type open relationship, which is fine, but makes it difficult sometimes when I want to be fucked and need to prep.

I have been pretty much locked in chastity for 2 years straight, I have been hitting the gym 6 days a week for a year and have built a lot of good muscle and definition. And I have been doing this because I know that is what will make me more attractive to a real man.

Do I need to cut my losses with my current relationship and seek a real alpha to own me?

I’m suspicious of your relationship anyway, to be honest. You haven’t been fucked by your partner in two years? Unless your partner has some erectile or medical disorder, that is not normal behavior. I’d be shocked if he wasn’t fucking others on the side.

And I say that as a preface to this: yes, I think this relationship is now pointless. It’s like an appendix, doing nothing and waiting to become infected. There’s no way your partner is ever going to satisfy your needs, so it’s time to seek that elsewhere. I mean, the idea that you’re going to return to your partner after being bred and used up by a Master feels really gross and inappropriate to me. 

You’re doing a bunch of prep work for service as a faggot. You’re in chastity, you’re working out at the gym, etc. THAT’S what you really want. So end this relationship and find what you’ve been preparing for. 

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