Thanks to your informative posts I have finally realized that I am a faggot. Although my boyfriend is not familiar with the hierarchy, when we have sex he naturally senses my submission and adopts an alpha role. It has also become clear for the both of us that his pleasure is the only thing that matters. He regularly fucks me mercilessly and cunts me until he cums inside me. After he finishes, he says that he is exhausted and leaves me touching myself so I can come alone. It feels natural to be used and treated like a fuck toy.
The thing that leaves me unsatisfied is that in our day-to-day lives we have a regular relationship where we behave like equals. He likes to cook for me and does half of the housework, which often frustrates me. I don’t know how to tell him that I want to become his faggot and fully submit to him without scaring him. Lately, I have been trying to do more housework, encouraging him to have a rest while I clean or wash the clothes, but I feel that it is not working.
What are subtle things that I can do to signal that I want to fully submit to him and help him accept his alphahood?
Hi brother, thanks for the question!
This is a pretty common issue among gay couples. Men too often view submission as “kink play” consigned to the bedroom, while believing equality and mutual respect is the “proper” way to be in everyday life.
But that’s simply not how true faggots are. I think it’s almost impossible for an Alpha to understand that we faggots are actually HURT (and it’s almost like a physical pain!) when our Alphas don’t allow us to serve as their property, their faggot. For true faggots, it’s not a fetish … it’s WHAT WE ARE BORN TO BE.
Tell you what: I want you to read this article I just wrote and then put it into practice: https://hierarchyuniversity.com/the-way-to-an-alphas-heart/
Greet him on your knees and kiss his feet when he walks through the door. Sit at his feet while he’s watching TV.
Start calling him “Sir”.
You need to fully lean into your true feelings and submit to him completely. If he’s as dominant as you describe in the bedroom, then surely these steps will help him embrace his dominance in all areas of his life!
I’ve been serving an alpha gainer who’s 5 years younger than me for over a year now. It started off with him coming over and I’d buy him food and worship him and suck him off, and over time grew to me doing his weekly shopping, laundry, fixing his car etc.
He had a bf but still used me, and when they broke up he used me more often. A few months ago he said he mightn’t be able to see me anymore because he was seeing a new guy and didn’t want to feel bad. I reached out to you and you suggested to continue doing his chores, which I did and he accepted.
However more recently I’ve noticed that he seems to be more distant and not as engaging.
Within the past year I’ve had one serious illness, a health scare and a death in my family, and the family house I was staying in was sold and I had to move back with my parents. I was numb to everything that went on in the last year, but it suddenly hit me recently when the house I was staying in was cleared out, and I felt low. I felt like everything was collapsing around me and I was lost and a failure, especially with my alpha becoming more distant. I reached out to him at my lowest and he helped me through it, and opened up to him about my childhood, job, personal life etc. He wanted to keep his life private, which I respected, but said I would love to know more about him if he wanted to talk. The other day realised I had fallen for him and had strong feelings for him, which I confessed to him. He said he didn’t want me to think something would come of it, and agreed to keep things the way they are for now.
I’m terrified now that I’ve crossed a line and he will slowly or even suddenly cut me off. I’m afraid to message him back in case I appear needy, but at the same time I’m afraid to not message him in case he decides he’s better off without me.
Please Sam I could really use some advice now, it feels like my whole world is crumbling and I don’t want to think of a life without my alpha in it.
Hi brother! Thanks for writing to me!
Well, you made a tactical mistake by opening up about being in love with him, but I think you know that so I’m not going to dwell on it.
This Alpha is clearly a good Man. He’s continued to support you emotionally even though he’s moved on to another relationship. He obviously likes your worship and service. But it’s important for you to realize he’s not in love with you, and likely never will be. That’s okay, because faggots can still be useful beyond that.
But you must be okay with your role. You need to accept your position in his life and not be a burden to him. If you are, he’s going to discard you. So reign in your emotions and just allow him to make the next moves. He knows where you belong in his life, so allow him to put you there and keep you there. Trying to force his hand is only going to lead to results you won’t like at all.
I know this isn’t much *and it’s not easy to do), but that’s your situation right now. You’ve kinda boxed yourself in with your outburst, but that’s also your situation in general. Just relax. I have great confidence in this Alpha.
I need your help, as all my friend could not understand the situation I’m in.
I have been in a relationship with my ex boyfriend for few years, for at least the last 3 years i became more and more a sub for him, even his slave, his toy…
We succeeded to deal with both relationships quit well (dom and boyfriend) for a while, but now, unfortunately we cannot be boyfriend anymore (it’s more about our future than about feelings). I was the one breaking up with him. But we have continued to see each other few times since because we couldn’t resist the envy of fucking together again…
And I just love being his sub, it feels so natural and i can’t resist being on my knees worshipping him.
Here is my question :
Should I continue serving him, even though it might keep us/me in the past, now that we don’t have a love relationship anymore? We are leaving quit far away so we just see each other during some short period, few weeks now and there…and he doesn’t want for me to serve him if I see other guys. Also he would like me to remain caged…
I am 21, should i give up on this quit dysfunctional relationship and try to find an other alpha i can serve for life as I am still young ? Or should I remain at his service because my true purpose is to serve Alpha, no matter what sacrifice it means for me?
Also, he is very dominant but also very loving (mostly after sex) and likes to hug kiss etc… I’m worried there are still love feelings in this relationship, which would not be healthy both for him and my self but in the mean time when i say i’m serving him, i should not choose how… If he wants to use me by hugging and kissing, i feel like i should do it like I do for every other wants he has. I’m not sure my text is very clear but I hope you will get the point… And sorry for my mistakes, I’m not native English
Thanks for the details. I’m sorry things are falling apart between you and your Master.
It seems to me you’ve pretty much already answered your own question. Like you said, it’s not healthy to continue a pretense of a relationship, romantic or service relationship – given that your lives are naturally moving apart. This is part of the struggle of youthful relationships like this one. Life gets in the way often even in the best circumstances, and remaining on the same track is always a challenge.
In my opinion, it’s silly that you would be bound by this Master’s rules if most of the relationship is dead. I mean, are you supposed to remain sexless and single the rest of your life, devoted to a Master who is never around? When does this contract end?
You guys need to move on. If you want to hook up once in a while, that’s fine, but this idea that you are bound to him in a service relationship (and even wearing his cage!!) is just dumb. He will find other faggots, and you will find another Master. Hopefully you both will find situations that work better for whatever life you each build.
My normal daily life on a Saturday is usually staying at home and taken care of Declan because he works on the weekends. I will make sure the house is clean before he gets home from work since I am off on weekends. If you follow my stories, you know that when he gets home, Declan will go sit on the couch and I make him a coffee and light snack. He will watch a show while I take his socks off and get on my knees and massage his feet. It’s the least I can do for him for being the greatest boyfriend!
But yesterday was different, as he sat down he said: “Only bring me a coffee, once you massaged my feet I want you to have a light snack and then go shower and make sure your ass is cleaned out. I need you to iron my blue dress shirt and dress pants. I need you to also wear something nice”
Im sure you can guess that while I’m massaging his feet that I’m now straining in my chastity thinking of a million thoughts of what might be happening.
I would never ask.
I usually will put lotion on his feet and massage him that way but he said: “No lotion this time, I want your mouth sucking my toes and licking my feet.”
Damn, I’m now hard as a rock… well as much as my chastity will allow me.
After his show, he told me to leave the room and get ready. I had a light snack, showered and cleaned up and as I’m naked ironing our clothes I hear a knock at the door.
Me: “Are you expecting someone Babe?”
Declan: “Yes, go answer it naked.”
As I open the door and peaked my head out, I notice John. You might remember John in my last story “Cock block, cucked and outed” that I posted the other day. He is the sexy Alabama guy who was attracted to me but Declan outed me as a bottom locked in chastity and took him from me. That night John sneaked out and gave my boyfriend a blow job and got fucked by Declan in the washroom stall of the pub we went to.
John pushed himself in and gave me a hug and kiss and said “Oh good, your mouth doesn’t taste like my ass anymore and he grabbed my chastity and laughed” That night, Declan had me sucking his cock once we got home after he had fucked John and that’s why he was teasing me about his own ass.
He slipped his shoes off and handed me his jacket and walked in the living room to go see Declan. Once I hung his jacket, I followed him but I was told to continue my chores which I complied.
Moments later, Declan came in the bedroom and said we were going to leave in 20 minutes and hands me a box. “I need you to put his in your ass before we leave”
What I wasn’t aware is that a company named JeusnMen sent him a toy for him to use on me. We don’t use many toys but I just assumed it was a butt plug of some kind.
I placed it in my ass and was surprisingly comfortable. We both got dressed and obviously he was looking so sexy.
Declan: “Zack you look good babe! Ok let’s go.”
Remember I have no clue what’s happening and where we are going. But I followed them to our car and they both got in the back seat and I got in the front to drive.
Declan: “Ok Zack, put this address in the gps and let’s go.
One of your followers named John sent me $120 for me to take you out for a date night but I decided to take John.
Once we get to the parking lot, I’m going to handcuff you to steering wheel while we have our date. Your only job tonight is being a good plugged chauffeur.”
Fuck! What the fuck is happening is what I’m thinking in my head but then John spoke up “Actually Zack is all dressed up and looking good, why don’t we let the cuck come sit with us and quietly watch us have dinner.”
Declan: “Change of plans Zack, you’re going to join us but only watch us”
I was so glad and relieved that I wouldn’t be left handcuffed in the car while they were in the restaurant. I decided to be a gentleman and pulled over to the door, I got out and opened their door. I let them know that I would park the car and come find them which I did.
They waited for me at the entrance and we then got escorted to a quiet corner table. They sat next to each other and I was told to sit across from each of them. The waiter came by and handed 3 menus at the table and said he will come back to take our orders. Declan took my menu and put it aside.
Moments later, the waiter came by and took Johns order. Declan took his order but ended by saying: “and if you can get him a glass of water and Pepsi that will be all from all of us.”
While the waiter was taken the order, Declan had gone on his phone and went on an app and activated the butt plug that was in my ass. I was rushed with so many sensations and the waiter looked at me and asked if I was ok but Declan responded that I wasn’t feeling the best and that’s the reason why I wasn’t eating.
Now it was time for them to enjoy torturing me as their entertainment. They tried to see how I can prevent myself from moaning out load. It was crazy! This thing had me leaking precum.
The night was actually not as awkward since they were chatting about normal stuff and just having a good time enjoying their meal and playing with my ass virtually.
I found out later that It wasn’t just a butt plug, it was a prostate massager. The device was also attached around my ball which also sent waves of excitement to them.
Declan paid the bill and had to use some of his money since it was over $120.
“Zack, go warm the car and pick us up at the door entrance.” I did and by the time I got there, they were already waiting and I wasn’t able to open their doors for them.
John: “Set your gps to my place” which I did.
We pulled up to a small place but he had his own parking spot. I opened the door but Declan had me sit in the back seat and handcuffed my hands behind my back and then fasten the seatbelt. He shut the door. “Beep Beep”, the car is now locked.
As I sat there for about 10 minutes, that’s when it happened. My ass started to vibrate and it didn’t stop until Declan came back to the car to remove the handcuffs. We drove back home alone and he said:
“Dude, I know I been pushing my boundaries lately but I’m very happy. I’m so fucking proud of you and I’m glad John decided to have you join us for dinner. While he was sucking me off, I was on my phone playing with your ass. You enjoyed our new toy?”
Me: “it was such a surprise and again I got so humiliated trying not to moan and embarrass you at the restaurant. I felt like I was ready to blow all the time. It means a lot to know you are happy”.
As I said that, he put his hand in my pants and laughed “Did you cum or is that just a lot of precum?”
Me: “I didn’t cum”
We got home and Declan got into bed. As I’m massaging his feet until he slept he said:
“John wanted me to give you a gift, it’s in my jacket.”
I kissed him goodnight and left the room to check what he had got me.
A little bag with a note which said: “Thanks for lending me your boyfriend again, put this on tonight” It was the jock strap he was wearing that night and he had blew his load on it while sucking my boyfriend.
Thanks to John and JeusnMen for giving my boyfriend a great night. Funny how people we haven’t met can change and entertain our relationship.
I’m a half black, half white sub-bottom married to a very vanilla non-dominant top who has no idea I’m into being dominated with raceplay. I have chatted with a local white dom who wants to own me and use me. But, I’ve never had sex outside my relationship (unless phone-boning counts). Part of me wants to do it to serve a master who understands my place in society. But, it’s obviously wrong to do this to my husband. Can you help?!
My first question is this: if you knew this Top wasn’t what you needed or wanted, why are you with him? People, if we are getting into relationships with others, we need to go into them honest with ourselves and honest with our partners.
Which leads me to the second point: you haven’t discussed your needs with your boyfriend. You say he’s “non-dominant” and that might be true … but by not even talking to him about it, you’re robbing him of the chance to even try to be the type of Man you want.
So I think you know where I’m heading with this. I don’t think you should run off behind your boyfriend’s back and serve this white Master. Your boyfriend is trusting you and not doing anything deserving of such betrayal. Instead, go to him and discuss your needs honestly. If he can’t do it, then end the relationship so you can be free to find a Man who will.
I had finished cleaning the condo on Friday and was relaxing having with a few drinks. I was single for a couple years, I was not wanting to go out and I decided to stay home chatting with guys on Grindr and Scruff.
I saw this hot guy on Grindr near by and decided to reach out and asked what he was up to. His reply:
“I just got in the city a couple days ago. Staying in a hostel and looking for a place to rent”
I wasn’t looking for a roommate but damn I kinda lied and said that I would consider and asked him if he wanted to come check out the place. Yes I wanted to service him! 😉
As he arrived, I greeted him and told him to make himself at home as I went to get him a drink. We chatted for a while and he mentioned that he was going to be staying in the city for 2 years and was hoping to find a good home. We chatted about how life was here in Canada compared to Australia and warned him “Get ready for a shock as the winter is around the corner and it’s going to be cold.”
I showed him around my home and then we went back in the living room and had more drinks. I can tell that he was trying to find out what I’m all about and the things that I’m into but, he wasn’t successful as he was being polite.
I broke the ice and said that I tend to be submissive to men and I promise I won’t bring anyone home if he preferred it that way.
His eyes lit up and I wasn’t sure if what I said was a good or bad thing that I said.
But then he said:
“What if I get home from a long day at work and all I want is to relax and have my roomate take care of things for me?”
I replied:
“I do anything to help you. Consider it done!”
Declan: “Let’s test it out, find one of your favourite movies, play it and suck me off now”
Fast forward to me sucking and swallowing him. He was testing me out and saying stuff like: “my drink is done, get me another but make it a double and also I need a snack”
I obviously complied.
We watched the entire movie and we were feeling pretty good. I sucked him off 3 times that evening.
Before I even officially offered him to move in he said:
“Ok, if I am going to move in, here are the rules:
1- I expect bedroom cleaned daily, that includes my bed made.
2- You are going to make me dinner everyday.
3- No friends are to come visit here for the first little while until I get to know you more.
4- You are going to do all my laundry
5- Don’t expect anything sexual unless I ask for it, and when I ask for it, do a good job.
6- I will pay this much rent ($)
It was getting late and he decided to leave. I couldn’t believe the great night I had! Since we drank so much, I honestly didn’t think he was actually interested.
The next day at 11am, he sends me his address and says “ok I’m ready to be picked up at 3pm. Make sure you have my keys for my new place. I have 2 suitcases, so I guess make sure they will fit in your car.
As I am reading this I got scared and nervous as I didn’t expect this to actually happen and now he is expecting it. I had no choice. I said to myself “Oh well fuck it, let’s do it Zack.’
For the next 4 weeks, I treated him like a GOD and became his slave roomate. He had full control of me.
I didn’t realize how happy I would be until he moved in. I just wish he would be my boyfriend.
4 weeks later, he was on the couch and had me suck him off and before I can get up he said:
“I am going to make you my boyfriend but I have more rules to enforce:
1- You need to purchase a chastity cage.
2- Clean out a lot of space in your rooms as you will move me in today.
3- My room now becomes an office and we will purchase a desk and chair.
4- We will purchase a cage that I can lock you in anytime I want. No complaints.
I was happy and said “YES!!!”
I said: “Declan, things you don’t know about me is stored in my dresser and you might enjoy them.”
We went in the room and I showed him all my handcuffs, shackles. straight jacket and chastity device.
“Well well! This is great! Go lock your cock and hand me the keys. We only have a few other things to purchase”
In the next two weeks, a cage was purchased and placed by the bed and the spare room was turned in our new office.
He made me sleep in the cage for 2 months. Unlocking the door when he left to go to work. I guess it was his way of “breaking me in” and letting me know there is a new sheriff in town lol
Well that was 7 years ago and we are still happily together and I wouldn’t change one thing. He now makes me journal on Twitter/X: @jktoronto11
The comments we get the most is how caring and protective he is to me. He is my boyfriend 1st and he has final say in everything.
Please follow me on X, you will be able to read and see my daily updates of our relationship.
Tributes are always welcome and they go directly to my boyfriend Declan.
