Collaring faggots isn’t something that comes up often here on the site. I remember covering straight Masters Nick and Matt when they collared their faggots back in the days of FWA. More recently, Master Anthony collared his special faggot Fabien with a pendant that read “Anthony” to clearly mark Fabien as his property. It’s simply not something that is done as often as you’d think.

Whenever a Master asks me about presenting a faggot with either a chastity cage or a collar, I always advise them to turn it into a ceremony. Make it a special, solemn moment between a Man and his faggot. These are, after all, the “wedding rings” of hierarchy. Masters Nick and Matt loved to make caging and collaring their faggots into a day-long event that led up to the moment when they were locked in place. I loved that so much, and so did their faggots!

The subject of collaring came up on the Hierarchy University Discord (JOIN NOW) recently, and one of the older Alphas on the server, a wise, no-nonsense Alpha named Master V, chimed in with some terrific information that I wanted to share.

To set it up, a faggot named @joshfaglondon asked: “Just wondering if anyone has had, or been to, a formalized collaring ceremony? As a worshipful faggot who dreams about being a full-time boy wife, I fantasize a lot about professing my love and loyalty, making lasting promises, and handing over my rights to Sir in front of a supportive congregation. Do these events really happen? Do any Alphas share this fantasy, or is it just wannabe fagbrides like me?”

Here’s what Master V said in response:

Yes, they happen. They are a semi-formal affair, considering the topic. It’s not really a wedding ceremony thing where you declare vows and some Entity standing between you now declares you connected. It’s more intimate, or inter-personal, where the dominant and the submissive acknowledge the collar and commitment between themselves in front of a couple witnesses.

There can also be the confusing situation where this same process is split in to two or three parts/stages and goes deeper into the formalities and protocols. (Think of “the old days” when you started with the courtship, then ask dad for permission followed by the engagement, and finally the wedding.)

To make it even more confusing the order they happen can be reversed.

Basically you have the ‘collaring’ ceremony, and a ‘signing’ ceremony. (Usually in that order. And if 3 staged, the middle one a mix of the two.)

The collar represents the bonding ring .. In the first, more common usage, it is the wedding ring. Once it’s on , you’re part and parcel with the owner’s household.

In the split format, you get the probationary collar. (Or household collar or temp…or whatever collar. [It comes with an adjective.]) Think of that like an engagement ring. And to make matters even more confusing, this might be the promissory ring if you live in separate towns for example. Until one moves to the other’s town, then it might work up to be an engagement.

Then there’s the signing ceremony — this is that indenture contract, the BDSM or Slave contract you hear about. This ceremony is the one with the more formal pomp and circumstance, for good reason. That document is the prenup, the wedding vows, the license and certificate all rolled into one. Treat it with that respect and be serious with the terms.

And for the collars themselves… Each ceremony may come with a new collar… or maybe the first is the one you’ll always wear….. with adjustments.

Ever noticed how some are small thin things with one ring, while others are heavy things with rings all around and usually come with some specialized locking mechanism? There’s your different levels of the collaring ceremony on full display.

** for some of you, you’re not going to be able to see your elders in the same light here…

That small thin, no rings collar used to be called a choker. A tight leather ribbon necklace. Back before the 70s that was free and unowned, but looking to settle down. In the late 60s it became a fashion statement, much like how the leather jacket went from something you earned to something you bought at Walmart.

Then you have the more sturdy, buckled collar – usually with a single D-ring on the front. There’s that promissory collar. Sometimes you’ll even here of a Notice of Intent being put out by the dominant, which is basically a formal notice to other dominants you’re looking at – or courting – this submissive, so hands off. (Just remember, it also lets those others know to report issues they may see or know of to him as well.)

This is followed by the more heavy leather collar versions, with an odd number of rings. Still buckled, but maybe able to take a paddle lock to show more permanence, to represent that engagement. If the dominant puts out a Letter of Intent here, it may come with terms for the submissive like a “starter” contract which would require the submissive to agree and sign. At this point, whether living in the dominant’s home or not, you are to be his and his alone.

And finally comes the signing ceremony. That pseudo-formal contract protocol. The wedding, where your collar stops being symbolic. The buckles might be removed and it riveted on. Or maybe the leather band is replaced for a solid metal one. Or the chain collar went from a small key lock, to a medium combo lock, to now welded closed.

I must admit there was a lot here I’d never heard expressed in such linear terms before, but much of it makes sense. These sequential steps Master V outlines here really highlights the layers of depth that exists in the Master/faggot dynamic!

I do wonder why Alphas have gotten away from collaring their faggots. Part of me thinks it has to do with the new freedom gays enjoy in the Western world, where many feel collaring faggots “dehumanizes” them.

But every faggot I’ve ever known who has been collared was deeply moved by the experience and cherish their collar. So the act and ceremony of collaring isn’t dehumanizing, but rather empowering. Wearing it honors both the faggot and its Owner. It’s something deserving of ceremony and celebration!

I thank Master V for describing these traditional collaring ceremonies, acts that deepen the commitment between Masters and their faggots and emphasize the purpose of each!

The following post is part of a column written by a 40-something experienced faggot who calls himself “Mr. Fag”. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!

Hi Sam,

This is Mister Fag. I saw your response regarding the limp dick and just wanted to point out that a cage may not be practical for various reasons (hello, TSA!). However, a faggot should know that being limp—whether naturally or educated by a cage—is essential to understanding our biology.

I have been traveling a lot recently for business. I wanted to share a little story that occurred during one of those trips. After a full day of meetings, I decided to get a couple of drinks at the hotel bar. Curiously, the only seat available was next to a man who was clearly good-looking and whom I initially thought was straight.

Maybe it was the loneliness, or maybe the vibe, but I started making small talk. I must admit, he was charming. At our second round, he whispered, “So, tell me, are you a fag?” I felt scared for an instant, but after I said “yes,” he replied, “I knew it.” That felt safe.

Later that night, after paying for his drinks, I followed him to his room where I obeyed and let him decide how I should please him.

During the week, I met him a couple more times. I always took care of him (paid for his dinner and serviced his needs). On the last night, he told me he wanted to try ball torture because “you have no real use.” I let him do it—and yes, it is painful during and after.

I don’t want to dwell on the physical specifics, but the experience forced me to realize how vital the bridge of trust is between a fag and an alpha. In the vacuum of a hotel room, far from the social scripts of the daytime world, the hierarchy becomes a living thing that requires communication to function. Over the years, I have learned that a true fag doesn’t just obey orders; he finds his purpose in them. Yet, there is a recurring shadow: fear. It is a specific, sharp kind of fear—not necessarily of the act itself, but of the sheer, uncompromising scale of the alpha’s power. It is the vertigo one feels standing at the edge of a cliff; it’s not that the cliff is “mean,” it’s simply that its nature is absolute and yours is fragile.

And that fear is okay. In fact, it is necessary. It is the recognition of the weight of the man standing above fags. The key, I’ve found, is to communicate that feeling to the alpha. You aren’t “complaining” or “safe-wording” out of the experience; you are clarifying your position within it. You are telling him that your hesitation isn’t a sign of disrespect toward the natural order, nor is it a rejection of his nature. Rather, it is an admission that you are being moved—truly, deeply moved—by the gravity of his power. When an alpha understands that your fear is actually a form of worship, the dynamic reaches its most honest state.

Maybe I am romanticizing, but I thought it was worth sharing.

Respectfully,

Mister Fag

Well done, brother!

My first question: why do you think the Alpha at bar was not straight? Did he say he wasn’t? Straight Alphas are quite clued in to the use of fags sexually, and when they sense a wild fag in an appropriate moment, they will often make a move. In fact, the ball torture makes me think he was straighter than you imagine.

That aside, I thought this was an exceptional entry in your series, Mister Fag! Your central thesis that Alphas carry a weight that inspires respect, awe, and fear in inferiors like fags is spot-on. I’ve actually heard Alphas say how much it turns them on to see how intimidated faggots and females are in their presence!

The Alpha in the bar probably sensed your nervousness right away and read it correctly. As I’ve said many times, Alphas are extraordinary hunters and possess the ability to read their prey. They see nervous eye contact and instinctively know the person can be controlled and used by them.

But your point about how “fear is a form of worship” is particularly fascinating to me. Even when we aren’t intentionally worshiping an Alpha, our natural instinct of fearful respect is also registered as worship in the eyes of Alphas!

Again, that is why I always encourage faggots to TRY to talk to Alphas and offer service. Yes, I know it can be intimidating, but Alphas read it correctly and hierarchically.

Thank you so much for such an insightful post, brother!

~ sam the faggot