Questions From Readers
Hello sam
I’ve been following your content for approximately a year now and have finally turned 18, and I’ve become interested in understanding male hierarchy, Alphahood and where I personally fit.
i have a few questions:
Firstly, i unfortunately live in a very homophobic household so all mentions of fags must be kept secret as my family would disown me
my first question is:
how does someone know whether they are truly an Alpha or the other levels of hierarchy you have mentioned ? i understand that youve probably answered this however im not sure what suits me.
Personally, I have predominantly taken the dominant role in my relationships with men where majority of the time i am the top (i have only recieved one blowjob however during talking stages and dates i am the top. However, there are occasions where I find myself feeling submissive towards certain men. This has made me question whether I can genuinely consider myself an Alpha.
Does occasionally experiencing submissive feelings towards another man contradict being an Alpha, or can someone predominantly occupy a dominant position while still experiencing submission in particular circumstances?
In terms of my own experiences, I currently have two subs. One is a finsub who sends me money as i have recently started findom, while the other has a more traditional submissive dynamic with me and is currently in chastity however both are american so it is all online.
I used to be very overweight and have never had girls show interest in me but since hitting the gym i have also recently discovered an attraction towards women. I haven’t fully explored this side of myself yet, but it is something I’m becoming increasingly curious about.
i recently had a girl cheat on her bf with me , however before she could do anything other than kiss me her boyfriend found out.
i made the unfortunate decision to come out as gay to my school so most girls think im flirting as a joke.
i did genuinely feel like i liked this girl however im not sure as she ended it with me as she thought i was not serious about her.
My main questions are:
- How do I establish whether I am genuinely an Alpha?
- Can someone be an Alpha while occasionally feeling submissive towards another man?
- How do relationships with submissives, including findom, fit into one’s position within hierarchy ?
- Does attraction to both men and women affect where someone sits within the hierarchy?
- What would you recommend someone in my position does to develop their understanding of Alphahood and potentially progress further within it?
- this is likely irrelevant, however i do feel like i should mention that i am not the tallest, do you think this affects my role in hierarchy? both my subs are much taller than me however i find it extremely hot to have someone bigger than me be submissive towards me
I’m not simply looking for a label. I genuinely want to understand the hierarchy, my own position within it and what separates someone who considers themselves an Alpha from someone who genuinely occupies that role.
I’d really appreciate your honest thoughts and guidance.
Thank you for the wide-ranging questions, Sir! You turned 18 and came charging right out of the gate!
First of all, congratulations on sensing the early rumblings of Alphahood within yourself! When you ask how someone would know if they are Alpha, it’s sort of like knowing you’re gay or straight. You don’t need someone to tell you because you just know it. That feeling comes from the reactions that you receive from others. When they naturally submit to you or follow your lead, that builds up the knowledge within yourself that you’re Alpha. Clearly that is already happening with you, Sir.
I think it’s already significant that you own a couple of faggots and are simultaneously receiving interest from females. This is another sign of blossoming Alphahood. I would stop putting yourself in categories like “gay” or “straight” right now, because Alphas don’t often fit neatly into them. Just explore your power with everyone, and let nature tell you the correct path.
Let’s try to tackle your questions:
- Like I said above, you’re already establishing that, Sir. You own faggots and you have multiple opportunities to have sex with either gender. I would start specifically telling people to do things for you and see how they react. You’ll notice that people are willing to do what they can to please you.
- Yes, this is absolutely a thing that occurs, which is why I expanded the top of the hierarchy pyramid to reflect Alpha hierarchy. If you’re an Alpha but you’re in a room with a God Alpha, you’re likely to feel some submissiveness around him. This is perfectly natural, and doesn’t mean anything other than you have a respect for the hierarchy itself.
- An Alpha’s relationships with his subs helps to define his Alpha character, including his standing to some degree. A very powerful God Alpha can be cruel to his subs or benevolent, and I guarantee he will be a much more successful God Alpha by treating them with benevolence.
- Sexual attraction has nothing to do with hierarchical standing even though some argue that straight Alphas are superior. Hierarchy is about POWER, and power doesn’t have a sexuality. Ultimately truly powerful Alphas will be attractive to all subs, both males and females.
- I get the sense that you have very limited sexual experience, Sir. There is no better way to express power than to have sex with people. Natural positions become exposed quite profoundly through sex. I recommend that you start flexing that side of yourself, Sir.
- Again, size has nothing to do with Alphahood. I’ve served God Alphas multiple inches shorter than I am. Like you said, you think it’s hot that taller males submit to you – that’s another sign of Alphahood. Go with it.
I do hope those answers help you on your way, Sir! This is an exciting time for you, and I think you should confidently explore everything while you’re young. There’s a whole life of power awaiting you!
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