Do you think it’s possible to be a faggot if the only submissive thing I do is findom? I’m not submissive in any way in real life, except I absolutely love – and feel it’s a purpose and duty of mine – to send money to straight men. I feel they deserve mine more than me.
Thanks for the question! Yes, of course you can serve as a faggot solely through findom.
But let’s be clear: the way you’re approaching findom is going to leave you only partially formed as a faggot. You’re treating findom, not as a means of fulfillment, but as a fetish. True faggots in findom are wholly devoted to serving a Master through financial means; it consumes their life and informs every decision they make. They aren’t treating Alphas like strippers in a seedy nightclub that exist to sexually stimulate the patrons. No, they’re serving these Men because they are actually superior.
I will add one more observation: your particular situation hints at deep self-loathing. You say you don’t feel submissive in any way in your everyday life, but you feel like straight Men deserve your money more than you do. So your emphasis isn’t on the fact that they’re superior, but rather because they’re STRAIGHT (which in your mind means superior). Don’t you see what that’s saying about your perspective about yourself?
I don’t mean to insult you at all. I actually said more than I intended to, but I felt like I needed to put that out there, too. I hope you understand.
Yeah, I know … another post about my Master @AlphaAesthetic8.
He posted a most extraordinary video regarding one of his owned faggots relapsing again and again in a pathetic attempt to deny its truth.
I think the most devastating aspect of my Master’s personality (and key to his success in findom) is his calm, confident ability to definitively define reality and communicate it with clarity.
I need your help, as all my friend could not understand the situation I’m in.
I have been in a relationship with my ex boyfriend for few years, for at least the last 3 years i became more and more a sub for him, even his slave, his toy…
We succeeded to deal with both relationships quit well (dom and boyfriend) for a while, but now, unfortunately we cannot be boyfriend anymore (it’s more about our future than about feelings). I was the one breaking up with him. But we have continued to see each other few times since because we couldn’t resist the envy of fucking together again…
And I just love being his sub, it feels so natural and i can’t resist being on my knees worshipping him.
Here is my question :
Should I continue serving him, even though it might keep us/me in the past, now that we don’t have a love relationship anymore? We are leaving quit far away so we just see each other during some short period, few weeks now and there…and he doesn’t want for me to serve him if I see other guys. Also he would like me to remain caged…
I am 21, should i give up on this quit dysfunctional relationship and try to find an other alpha i can serve for life as I am still young ? Or should I remain at his service because my true purpose is to serve Alpha, no matter what sacrifice it means for me?
Also, he is very dominant but also very loving (mostly after sex) and likes to hug kiss etc… I’m worried there are still love feelings in this relationship, which would not be healthy both for him and my self but in the mean time when i say i’m serving him, i should not choose how… If he wants to use me by hugging and kissing, i feel like i should do it like I do for every other wants he has. I’m not sure my text is very clear but I hope you will get the point… And sorry for my mistakes, I’m not native English
Thanks for the details. I’m sorry things are falling apart between you and your Master.
It seems to me you’ve pretty much already answered your own question. Like you said, it’s not healthy to continue a pretense of a relationship, romantic or service relationship – given that your lives are naturally moving apart. This is part of the struggle of youthful relationships like this one. Life gets in the way often even in the best circumstances, and remaining on the same track is always a challenge.
In my opinion, it’s silly that you would be bound by this Master’s rules if most of the relationship is dead. I mean, are you supposed to remain sexless and single the rest of your life, devoted to a Master who is never around? When does this contract end?
You guys need to move on. If you want to hook up once in a while, that’s fine, but this idea that you are bound to him in a service relationship (and even wearing his cage!!) is just dumb. He will find other faggots, and you will find another Master. Hopefully you both will find situations that work better for whatever life you each build.
I think this is a philophical question for everyone… but don’t you think aging is much worse for fags and women than it is for Alphas? I am 45 and my straight male friends and even my gay top friends seem to be dealing very well with his age. My female and fag friends, including myself, are always suffering about getting old.
I am almost giving up on finding a true Alpha willing to own me. I’ve met hundreds and 99% of them just want me as a cash fag or for domestic service. Sometimes it seems that for every Alpha around my age that could use me as a cumdump there are already 50 tight 18-year-old twinks ready to seduce them. The last time I had a date, the Alpha took me to his place, and when I finally had the chance to serve me he put NextDoorTwink on his phone and watched while I sucked his dick. I felt miserable afterwards. Do you have any thoughts on that?
Brother, I appreciate your sincere thoughts. It’s true … we faggots (and females) have a shelf life. Alphas don’t, nor do Men in general. I realize that doesn’t seem fair, but it’s reality.
So we really need to come to grips with what really drives our faggot nature. Are we only a faggot because we get off on the hotness of nasty sex? Or is it about something deeper?
Do we yearn to be used … or do we yearn to be useful?
I’ve known older domestic faggots who were eventually used sexually; you see, their faithful, high-quality domestic service earned their Master’s affectionate attention over time. But even if we aren’t used sexually, can we still find ways to be useful to Men and be owned by them? ABSOLUTELY. It’s all a matter of mindset, brother.
So stop making yourself miserable by trying to be the hot 20-year-old faggot you once were and failing. Men aren’t looking at you that way anymore. Make them see the other valuable services you can offer them, and you will likely find service rewarding again.
First, I love you and your content <3 everything you do is so special, I wish I had a friend like you to talk about my life and questions.
I am 22 from Uruguay. I have always felt very submissive at school whenever other boys told me to do something. I feel a natural urge to obey and I’d rather not taking big decisions over my own life. I met a wonderful man a few months ago, he’s 30, very good-looking, smart, and successful in his career.
We don’t use terms like Alpha and Faggot, but he is clearly the one giving the rules. He took my virginity in August after a very romantic date, and since then he has been fucking and breeding me very often, at least 3 times a week. He knows how to be a Man and give the orders, but he’s also very sweet. He taught me how to suck his dick, how to ride him, how to look sexy in doggy style, etc.
My only problem is: he refuses to suck my dick. He told me that he hates the feeling of a dick in his mouth and will not do it just to please me. He likes to rim my hole and it feels amazing, but I really want to feel a blowjob too.
Am I being selfish? Should I just forget about it? How likely do you think it is to find a big strong intelligent Alpha like him willing to suck my dick before fucking me? I don’t mind being a submissive bottom for him, but I am really curious to have the feeling of a warm mouth on dick too.
Thank you little brother for your message!
Congratulations on finding a Man (an Alpha) to serve and worship! I imagine it’s not easy in your country to find someone, so I’m very happy that you’re happy! This Alpha you’re serving sounds incredible and truly perfect for you!
You may not use the term Alpha and faggot in your country, but that doesn’t mean the roles don’t apply. Men are the same everywhere, and they generally want the same things.
I’m just going to tell you plainly: your Alpha is NEVER going to suck your dick. Alphas in general don’t have even the slightest interest in sucking dick because the act would emasculate them (make them less of a Man). Why would an Alpha EVER suck a faggot’s dick. Ewww … I was disgusted just typing that!
You really need to stop asking him for that, because it could drive a wedge between you and him. Just accept that you are his faggot, his property, and do you best to serve him.
If you really need to have your dick sucked, then I suggest you go find another faggot willing to suck it. However, I think you will find it much less exciting and less fulfilling than serving your Alpha.
Let’s call me Flynn (anonymous purposes). I have always been attracted to masculine and muscular men and I have tried submission but it just didn’t work for me. But in my head, it sounds like a great idea. I’m very sensible to touch, which means it’s hard for other people to get into intemacy with me. And on antoher hand, I always felt like I’ve always been a top, but I’m a very socially anxious person, so I dont’t feel very confident just even showing myself. I’m working on getting fitter, but I know this is not the only way I can improve my self confidence. Do you have advice ? And do you know how can I explore being a top and a Master (since I also feel like I need to be desired and worshipped) ?
I’m sorry if it’s not very clear but I really wanted to talk it out.
I’m intrigued by your question. I cannot escape this nagging feeling I’m getting from your words … let me explain.
I think I might be the only person in the Hierarchical space to accurately chronicle the phenomenon I’ve dubbed “Alpha Latency”. I’ve dealt with multiple cases of it, and have even helped “cure” a couple of Alphas who were suffering from it.
And I do mean suffer. You see, Alpha Latency occurs when a natural-born Alpha is convinced that he should be a bottom or at least reciprocal. Many times this “convincing” comes from early childhood trauma or molestation. Due to this conditioning, the Alpha does things that go against his natural programming as an Alpha (like bottoming or sucking dick) and it makes him deeply unsatisfied. This lack of satisfaction then leads to even more confusion and unhappiness.
You sound suspiciously like a Latent Alpha. These desires you kept mentioning in your question (about submission not being satisfied, or wanting to be desired and worshiped) make me think your true Alpha nature is trying to break free and lead you to happiness, but it’s being blocked for some reason.
I do think you desperately need to try and dominate a faggot. Try receiving worship and service. Get verbal, get aggressive. I bet something gets triggered in you if you do.
I’m curious about your reaction to this advice. Please give me some feedback if you can. Thank you!
It’s been an insane-yet-inspirational couple of weeks on the site because of the straight fathers who have approached me to ask about their minor sons who they suspect are actually developing faggots. What they are questioning about their children isn’t a form of child abuse, but rather a desperate desire to understand and help their children to grow up healthy, happy, and safe.
It is the highest form of father/son love imaginable.
I’ve had the occasional privilege to work with fathers who have had similar situations with sons before, but I’ve never seen such an onslaught of similar questions like I have recently. I’ve been intimately involved in the stunning success of two fathers, Sir Pietro and Sir James, in their attempts to reach and help their faggot sons. I’ve started helping another anonymous father in the “Questions From Readers” section as well.
Then, just yesterday, I was contacted by an Alpha father named Wade who had listened to my podcast episode about Sir James and his son Jamie and reached out to me for help with his 14-year-old son.
This is what he said to me:
Hello there. I am a concerned father and hope you can spare some time to chat. I found out recently that my son is gay. Of course I still love him and want the best for him but I was just trying to understand his situation a bit better. As I was looking up resources, I found your podcast, “a straight father’s love”.
Please excuse me for asking this, I just want to be sure – is what you’re talking about in your podcast sincerely true or is this a fetish thing for gay men? I was always under the impression that “faggot” was a derogatory term. But is it really true that some gays are faggots? I’m sorry again and I hope you understand my dilemma. I’d much rather my son be an alpha like his old man. I don’t want him to get hurt. He’s still my little boy. But I think he might fit the “faggot” category more. Any thoughts or resources for me?
I was taken aback by Alpha Wade’s thoughtfulness after so many years of dealing with rude, tough-talking Alphas on the other side of computer screens. Alpha Wade reminded me more of the straight Alphas I’ve served in the past.
So after reassuring him that this was not a fetish, but very real (and explaining the use of the word “faggot”), Alpha Wade continued:
I see. In that case, it would be best to let him develop and express faggot behavior in a safe way, correct? I wonder if I need to have a sex talk with him. I only had a basic one earlier.
I have another concern. On your site and podcast you talk about chastity devices. Is this really necessary for a faggot? Should my son be in one?
I was extremely impressed by Alpha Wade’s detail-oriented approach to the development of his son. I explained to him that chastity can be a very important part of a young faggot’s development. I then directed him to some of the resources here on the site, and especially pointed out Sir James’s amazing success with Jamie.
To my surprise, Alpha Wade had already been reading about it!
I saw that! That made me curious. If there are truly benefits to it, I will consider putting my son in one too. I want the best for him. If it helps him become a better faggot and attract higher quality men, I’m all for it.
I could’ve fallen out of my chair. In fact, I nearly started crying. The fact that this Alpha, obviously a Protector Alpha at heart, wants to do whatever he can to help his little boy just really hit me hard.
I think I’m going to have a talk with him tomorrow, a heart to heart where he can confess it all to me. And I’ll give him all the love and support he needs to reveal himself to me. Any tips on breaking that barrier? He might be hesitant to reveal that he’s a faggot. But I wanna hear it from him or at least make him realize it so we can have full honesty and trust.
Thank you, Sam. I will keep you posted on how it goes. Thanks for being a resource for fathers like me. I never thought I’d be saying this but I hope I can help my son be the best faggot he can be.
I cannot tell you how overwhelming it is to meet great Men like Alpha Wade or these other fathers. Young faggots are very exposed and frightened – I know, because I was once that scared faggot, too. I wish like hell I could’ve had a father like Alpha Wade in my life to guide me and give me a sense of self-worth. His little boy is going to be a strong and confident faggot for sure!
Overall, I can see the paradigm shifting in real time. True Alphas like Alpha Wade are leading the way to an acceptance of faggots as a recognized and valued part of our world.
Hierarchy is the First Law. It’s time that we start living our lives as a reflection of that Truth. It all starts with our youths … and their fathers.
I’ve been fucking women and gays for some years, but I have never had a bisexual threesome. I had a threesome with two bottoms once, and with two women three times, but never with a girl and a bottom. I think this is the only topic where it is easier to convince straight and bisexual women than faggots. I have already came across hundreds of girls willing to be fucked alongside a faggot, but fags usually get really uncomfortable when I try to fuck their boy pussy and a female pussy at the same time. Are fags that allergic to women, or am I just picking the wrong fags?
Keep up the great work. Your effort for both Men and fags is extraordinary. I jerked off to your posts countless times.
Master, thank you so very much for writing to me!
I think you might be picking the wrong faggots, Master. Certainly, there are some fags who are intimidated by female pussy because they feel inadequate … after all, a straight or bisexual Man is likely more attracted to a female pussy (also: TITS).
But I have known multiple faggots who have served Alphas alongside the wife/girlfriend of their Master and did just fine. It does help if the faggot can become friends with the female (like gal pals) so that they both can work as a team for what is (or should be) most important to both of them: serving their Alpha.
I’m sure it’s frustrating to you Master because you want what you want and it’s been difficult to find, but I have no doubt you’ll find the right faggot!
Thank you again for writing and for reading/masturbating to my content, Master! That REALLY encourages me!
This will be an ongoing feature in which I try to point out examples of Alphahood and Alpha behavior as expressed in the arts, primarily movies.
The 1992 crime thriller Glengarry Glen Ross is a middle-of-the-road film about a bunch of mostly broken Men trying to salvage something of their lost lives.
But it opens with one of the most dynamic representations of Alpha/beta Hierarchy ever put to film. Alec Baldwin (in his only appearance in the film) plays a dynamic, successful corporate sales manager sent in to motivate the flagging sales team. The way he does it establishes himself firmly as the God Alpha among the other males. Kevin Spacey plays his beta-dom suck-up. Among the group, guys like Jack Lemmon are like beta cucks.
Only Ed Harris exhibits any potential Alpha qualities, initially fighting back against Baldwin’s bluster. However, Baldwin’s God Alpha character kicks Harris back into place.
I love this clip from Master @thedanalpha. First of all, he’s just kicked-back and enjoying some aggressive but normal oral service (rather than throat raping his faggots as he usually does).
But the faggot gets overwhelmed, and stops. But Master uses a simple hand gesture to resume service.
Master Brandt (@BrandtsBoys) was a college Alpha who parlayed his experiences using faggots into a hugely successful porn franchise. It’s currently one of the most-trafficked porn sites in all of gay porn.
Master Brandt himself has taught multiple Alphas how to use faggots over the years, teaching them how to dominate and use them properly.
Master Jordan is one such Alpha protege of Master Brandt’s teaching. Over the years, Master Jordan has become quite enthusiastic about faggot worship and service.
This scene here is something more Alphas would do if the use of faggots was more widespread. Faggots would be the servants and cum/piss dumps for the Alphas enjoying a football game.
If Master Brandt has his way, that’ll be reality sooner than later!
Over the nine years I’ve been online teaching Hierarchy, I’ve had to deal with stupid faggots making comments about how twinks cannot be Alpha because they aren’t muscular or can’t pick up a car or some nonsense.
ALPHA is what a Man is INSIDE. It does not have much to do with his outward body.
Take a look at this twink with a huge dick. See the bigger, more muscular male that’s bending over and taking that twink’s huge cock?
If you saw them walking together down the street, you’d probably assume the bigger guy was the dominant one.
And you’d be wrong.
Stop judging Alphas based on looks and muscles or cock size! It goes deeper than that!
Look at the way Master Horus Swhenneyder (@Horus23cm) grabs his faggot’s cock and balls while fucking it with his big fat dick!
Why does he do that? CONTROL.
If a faggot isn’t going to be in chastity, there are other ways to neutralize its penis. Sometimes Alphas put a hand over it as a way to demonstrate its meaninglessness.
In this case, Master Horus holds it tightly in his hand to remind the faggot that its penis is nothing, and its pleasure comes from its pussy.
The shaking of the faggot indicates the message is accepted completely!
Hi Sam, I sent you a question yesterday about the presents my Alpha insists to give me. Thank you very much for you thoughtful answer!! I am back here to tell you that his morning I showed your answer to him while he watched the news. He chuckled, and said “good to know your friend understands it, now come here.” Then he put his dick out and told me to worry less about his presents and more about his cock. Of course, I sucked him until he came in my mouth.
From now on, I won’t complain anymore. Your answer and his attitude were what I needed to understand that there are Alphas and Alphas. While some of them want cash fags, others will spend their money on us to feel their power on us. At the end of the they, it is all about their power and pleasure. Faggots just obey.
Oh brother, I’m so happy to hear this! Thank you for taking prompt action and proving to yourself that my words were true! I’m proud of you!
Please also thank your glorious Master and Owner for setting a tremendous example of benevolent, loving power! I’d love to interview him or feature his stories on the site if he’s willing to share. If not, I’m grateful to have had a glimpse of his glory!
Hi Sam, I re-listened to your podcast #236 from a couple of years ago. I guess some people might think of it as rapey. I do not cuz:
As you said on the website, ( I loved your write up on it) my holes and my life are in service to my MASTER, and he decides how and when and where and by whom I get fucked.
Also, as I explained and you concurred, it’s true that I was asleep and woken up in a rough (some would call is violent) manner but I have come to expect this as they are ALPHA MEN, it’s their nature, as you point out. Now when it happens, I’m not surprised, just happy! I still do not get the frequency of this that Devin does but it makes it more special for me when it does happen.
Also once the daze and shock and initial pain of being woken up and instantly and deeply penetrated wears off, as I said, I get into it big time and I’m so happy I earned the honor of being cunted by MASTER REX. It feels so fantastic with his seed inside me – I am so happy afterwards! When it happens now, I am still very fulfilled and I can tell he really likes being rough and brutal with me.
but then sometimes, like when he cunted me last Tuesday night – it was much less brutal- a bit loving, actually, as he pounded me he kept saying what a good faggot I was and how I made his cock happy. I was thrilled!
First of all, I encourage everyone reading this to listen to the podcast episode Tim references: Hierarchy 236: Cunted By Force
Tim! It’s sooo great to hear from you! I’m also glad to hear you’re still owned by and serving a great God Alpha like Master Rex!
I dealt with some trouble over that episode and my coverage of your “rape”, with people accusing me of excusing or endorsing rape. I don’t give a fuck what they think. I’ll stand by the truth against the entire world if I must, and I’ll certainly defend you to my last breath, my brother.
You and Devin must be serving very well for Master Rex because he hasn’t expanded his direct stable of faggots in a couple of years. Of course I don’t know what kind of living situation you have with him, either. I just have this vision of Master Rex as an Alpha with many faggots tending to him and servicing him day and night.
If I dig into the archives I might be able to find that original post I made about you and your situation, but then again I don’t know that I’ll find it. That makes me sad, because yours was such an inspiring story. Thankfully the podcast is preserved, and we can move on from here.
I hope you will keep me updated, my brother! If you have stories you’d like to share from the last couple of years, I’m all ears! My email address is hierarchyuniversity@gmail.com or the old one, fagsworshipalphas@gmail.com.
Sam, I was coming home on a plane from Thanksgiving and at the gate waiting for my flight I saw a father with his 16 year old son. This kid was beautiful — a short fire plug – built like a high school wrestler or gymnast — definitely a jock — but a total pretty boy. A mop of thick black hair framing a ridiculously handsome face that bordered on pretty. Perfect porcelain skin too.
He had on big headphones and was wearing only a blue T shirt, grey sweats and sneakers. But he was built — big jutting jock butt, muscular arms and torso. He radiated a kind of swagger mixed with arrogance that you could tell he was popular at school.
Anyway, I was trying not to stare. (I’m not even into young dudes, I go for older manly alphas) but I was fascinated (and I guess turned on) by how this kid looked and carried himself. I was trying not to stare but at one point he caught me looking. He instantly looked away but something must have registered w/ him because a moment later he looked back at me to see if I was looking. I was. An odd kind of smirk crossed his face. And what happened next kind of astounded me. He started casually stretching — like when you warm up for the gym. Rolled his neck, stretched his back out. At one point he stuck out his ass, as if he were stretching out his quads – his big bubble butt straining in his sweats right near me. He didn’t look at me. At one point he lifted his T shirt as if absent mindedly scratching his stomach — revealing perfect 6 pac abs. He even flexed his bicep a few times, as if checking them out for himself. I thought I was going to die. It was all done so casually but I couldn’t help feeling he was doing this for my viewing, That he knew I thought he was hot and he was putting on a bit of a show. While we were on line to board, he did look back at me once more before he turned away. We didn’t sit near each other but in baggage claim he looked at me a couple times across the luggage carousel. His look was direct now, harder, as if the fact that he would never see me again made it safer. It seemed to me that his look was now saying something like “Faggot. I know you’re a faggot. You think I’m hot, don’t you faggot?”
It all left me breathless for all the obvious reasons but also it got me thinking – Alphas don’t just materialize out of nowhere at 21! At 15, 16, maybe even younger, these kids have to know who they are, know the score in some sense, don’t you think? Any thoughts on this?
YES, Alphas absolutely know who and what they are at a young age. Not all of them are as worldy-wise as this Alpha, but they know they are different. This is why I have always said that Alphas are BORN THAT WAY.
They also LOVE the attention from ANYONE, especially at that age. They’re just learning about the great power they have and the power that comes with their sexual presence, so they like to use it in ways like this kid did in order to see how sexy they really are.
When you’re that young and good looking and built, you receive more than the usual attention and the compliments of adults and it goes to your head a little bit. You start to realize how certain things you do turn people on and make them melt; it’s like discovering you have super powers. And these behaviors of manipulation you’re learning become a way of life.
I have a couple of classic examples of this. Corey Haim and Justin Bieber were both ridiculously good-looking at age 15. And they learned that certain things they did turned girls on and made even adults swoon; Haim had that lip-curling smile, Bieber had that shy-pout. And they just grew up knowing how to control people to get what they want.
But again, they were born Alpha … but then that Alphahood is molded and shaped by their interactions with others and their reactions to those interactions. Who knows how many girls and faggots that young airport Alpha had teased and seduced before he used his power on you, but it’s safe to say he did know what you are. He was born to know.
Hi Sam, how are you doing? I’m from Brazil, 32 years old, and I’ve been a long-time follower of your site (FWA). After your absence, I noticed the site went down, and honestly, I was devastated… it was a true oasis of information and content about the Hierarchy for me. It was the first site where, when I read it, it became crystal clear to me what I truly was: a submissive faggot.
To my joy, this week I “rediscovered” that the address has changed, but you’re back! Welcome back!
I’ve always thought about writing to you, and today I finally took the initiative.
You know, Sam… I’ve always admired virile, masculine men. I rarely have sex with other gay men, as my arousal comes from being used by a brute specimen (and the gay men I know rarely are). I have a normal life, I’m not out, but whenever I can, I go to certain gas stations (popular with truckers spending the night) and bars (I look for the ones with a higher proportion of men). In these environments, I easily find the kind of man that excites me: rough, rugged, ogre-like, macho, virile, and most of the time, needing a hole to stick their cock in and have some fun.
I don’t have mannerisms or a voice that easily identifies me as gay, but in these environments, I always try to wear tight jeans that really show off my huge, round ass. I get absolutely ecstatic watching the men there looking at me curiously. Some even try to approach me. Sometimes a simple conversation happens. But my biggest difficulty, Sam, is getting them to realize what I truly am – without exposing myself to too much risk – in these environments. Would you know how to help me?
Thank you so much,
From your big Brazilian admirer.
Brother thank you for writing and for your support over the years!
I wish I could say there is some copy/paste solution to your question. It’s not difficult to chat with an Alpha (even though you might feel nervous) and help him to see things in a new light (including you).
Be complimentary, particularly about his body. Doing this helps him focus on his sex appeal. Then steer the conversation toward questions about Hierarchy in order to help him start thinking about his place within it. Simply ask him: “Do you consider yourself to be Alpha?” This is a seemingly-innocent question, but it’s loaded implications about his own self-worth and power. From his answer to that question, it’s relatively easy to begin a discussion about Hierarchy in general.
Other methods involve buying him something you know he wants or can use, like supplements for workouts, or a new briefcase, or whatever. Or ask him to get a drink or got to dinner, where you would pay.
I’m just spitballing here, because much depends on the situation.
I don’t know if you read that recent experience I published here where a faggot used my “Letter To An Alpha” to score with an Alpha. I’ve also written a book “May I Serve You Sir?” that’s designed to be given to Alphas.
I’ve created tools for a reason. It just takes a faggot willing to TRY and use them. That’s my advice to you: TRY.
Hey brother, I served a man for a few months and he decided to turn me into his boyfriend. I accepted and moved in to serve him 24/7. I’ve been very happy serving him so far. I cook, clean, do the laundry, and suck his dick every single day. But there’s one thing that bothers me. He loves giving me presents: flowers, clothes, new IPhones, fancy dinners, international trips etc. He always pays for everything. I told him that he doesn’t need to, but he always says that his father taught him to be a Real Man and Real Men must provide their girls with everything they want. How can I show him that I am not his girlfriend? I am his faggot and I should be paying for his things, not the other way around. I want him to own my bank account, and instead he doesn’t stop giving me extra money to buy clothes and look sexy for him. I already showed him this website and even explained what findom is, but he continues to say that he has a dick and balls, so no fag or girl will ever pay 1 cent for him. My guess is: He had 3 relationships with women and they took advantage of his generosity, I am his first faggot, so I think he’s struggling to understand the difference between me and the other spoiled girls who took thousands of euros from him.
Brother, I think this is a first. I’ve never had a faggot write to me upset that their Alpha won’t stop lavishing them with gifts!
I don’t mean to tease you, but you know it does sound a little weird. However, I do understand your issue. I have a TERRIBLE time accepting ANY gifts from people. I prefer to get my stuff myself, and I HATE asking for help. It’s especially hard to receive gifts from our Alphas, for the reasons you mention in your question.
However, there are some incredible Alphas out there who truly value their subs/faggots. If they have the means (as your Alpha apparently does), they will spend ridiculous amounts of money on what is essentially their servant.
You must keep in mind he is not trying to buy you, or guilt you into service. He genuinely cares about you and is grateful that you serve him and submit to him. Some Men struggle to express those things in words, so they speak them in gestures and gifts.
And “express” is an intentional word here, because he is expressing a real desire in his heart. He NEEDS to express these things, because he WANTS TO.
Here’s a little story from my life: My first real Master was a straight Alpha named Aaron, and I was unworthy to lick the impressions of his feet in mud. Inside, I felt absolutely unworthy of his every compliment, his every tender gesture. Then one weekend I had to fly out of the country, and I was petrified of flying. I also hated leaving Master Aaron unattended. But I went anyway (of course). When I returned, there were a dozen red roses on the kitchen table and a note from Master Aaron telling me how proud he was of me. And I broke down and cried.
There are truly astounding Alphas out there who want to show their faggots that they’re valued. It’s important to THEM to do that.
Your job as this Alpha’s faggot is to please him and make him happy, right? That’s what you want to do, right? Well then, stop complaining about his gifts. It makes him happy to do these things for you. He WANTS to do these things for you … he NEEDS to do these things for you. Deeply appreciate your good fortune to be owned by such a powerful, successful, and tender Alpha! Kiss his feet every day and thank him for his benevolent and merciful kindness in allowing you to serve. Make him feel like the King he is!
(BTW, if he has an extra grand or two lying around, ask him to send it my way! I could use the help!)
Sam, how much does your family know about your relationships with men? I ask this because as a faggot I cannot demand that my owner come to family events or holidays. Part of me wants to tell my parents I am in a relationship but I have no control in it. I also fear that this will devastate them. What are your thoughts Sam?
Hi brother. My family knows I’m a faggot; I told them a long time ago. And there was a huge fight about it, and feelings were hurt. However, we are fine now … because we don’t talk about it. And I also don’t bring a Master to the family Thanksgiving dinner, either.
Every family dynamic is different, and only you know how far you can push your family. I don’t think it’s necessary for any faggot to die on the hill for Hierarchy and proclaim it to the entire world. Your family doesn’t need to know a damned thing about what you do in your private life. If you can’t make it to a family function due to a Master … well, then you can’t make it. Your family will adjust to whatever you need to be happy in your own life. It’s your life to live, not theirs.
But let’s be frank – almost every parent, regardless of how liberal and open-minded they are, will be quite unhappy to hear that you’re a faggot. No parent wants their son to be used the way we are often used by Men. Being a faggot means no grandchildren, no family photo ops with little nuclear families gathered around the Christmas tree, etc. So they’ll always be upset.
Which is why I think you should just keep it to yourself and live the way you need in order to feel complete.
