This post is part of a thread following the story of Sir James, a straight married Man coming to understand and embrace the faghood of his beloved son. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!

I recently had a very touching Questions From Readers question from a worried 34-year-old father about his 16-year-old son he suspected was a faggot. You can read that question by CLICKING HERE. Despite some dumbasses in the comments section crying “FAKE!”, I think constructive people joined me to comfort that distressed father and give him a sense of direction with the issue.

This is a deeply personal and complicated problem for a straight father to confront. Faghood is something no father would want for his son, and in some ways it stabs at his own masculinity. Bad fathers would try to beat that faghood out of his son or even worse. But good fathers want to understand how they can understand the issue and try to protect their son while preparing them well for a future they can’t possibly understand. It can be overwhelming, to say the least.

Over the years I have received letters from parents of faggot sons much like the father above. It’s frightening to them, but always inspiring to me. These parents are the types of caretakers who truly love their son no matter what they are born to be. They just want their faggot sons to be safe and healthy and fulfilled in life. It’s a beautiful expression of love.

The father’s question was sent to me a week ago. Now I’ve received an email from a second father with a very similar problem:

Hi Sam,

My name is James and found your site because I was just doing some research because I have a feeling that my 16-year-old son may indeed be a faggot.  

A few weeks ago his soccer coach told me that he walked into the locker room after a soccer practice and my son was on his knees sucking off one of his teammate. Then the other day his mother found a chastity cage in his gym bag. We are a bit of a loss on what to do next with him.

Should we sit down and talk to him. Should we cage him to keep him out of trouble? We are both a bit of a loss at this moment

I was deeply touched by the level of involvement these parents were prepared to try in order to help their child. I immediately wrote back.

Sir,

Thank you for reaching out to me! I can hear the tension in your words, and I do sympathize with you. 
Just don’t worry. It’s going to be okay!

First of all, let me remove any doubt: your son IS a faggot. There’s no question about it. If he’s sucking off straight Alphas on his team and he’s purchased a chastity cage (or was given one), then he’s most certainly a faggot. 

Being a faggot isn’t necessarily a bad thing. The word has negative connotations, of course, but if your son has come to accept this as his identity, he can grow up to be very fulfilled as a proud faggot (like me) and find purpose as an owned faggot of an Alpha. 

You and your wife need to put aside your own dreams for your son and allow him to express these things. I know that isn’t easy, but it must happen. If you try to box him in, he’s only going to rebel or, even worse, come to live a miserable life as a ghost of what he potentially could be. I’m sure you don’t want that. 

It’s hard to advise you on how best to approach the subject with your son because I don’t know what your relationship is like with him. If you’re particularly close to him and speak freely with him, you might be able to have a full-blown talk about how you want him to be happy as a faggot but that he needs to be more careful about where he services Alphas. If you’re not as close, you might just tell him to make sure he’s careful when having sex in general. 

Again, don’t panic. He’s always going to be your son even if he’s a faggot. Approaching this with care and love will assure that your son has the best possible start as a faggot, and he will have the self-respect required to make good decisions about who he serves. 

If you have any additional questions, please feel free to write me, Sir! 

This is always a difficult piece of advice to give a parent. I’m not officially a parent, so what do I know? But I gave this father my heart in the hope that I might reach his.

And it seems to have helped. I received this lovely response from this father today:

Hi Sam, Thanks so much for your reply, We have always been a very close family and learning that our little boy is indeed a faggot does not change a thing. And we are hanging out together this weekend and I will be telling him that I understand and we will always be there for him.

I hope you don’t mind me writing to you as I watch my baby boy blossom.

That means so much to me to hear him call his faggot son “baby boy”! I refer to my Syrian son as “Baby Boy” as well. They will always be our babies, no matter how old they get. And, like babies, we as fathers will do whatever we can to protect them!

I thank Sir James for sharing his story and trusting me with it. I will always stand beside these straight fathers who are willing to brave the unknown frontiers of their son’s futures!

The following is part of a thread following the adventures of Jonah, a black faggot who serves as a “cabfag” for an older white over-the-road truck driver. CLICK HERE to read these posts in chronological order!

I’m consistently surprised at the creativity of some of my fag brothers. I’ve always considered myself to be something of an innovator when it comes to my service as a faggot, but every so often I come across a faggot who thinks outside the box. I’m always eager to highlight these ones, because I believe it inspires other faggots to stop being so timid.

Jonah is already a rarity – a black faggot. I feel black fags have extra layers of difficulty and prejudice to climb through in order to find fulfillment because of the expectations heaped upon them because of their race. It might be these hurdles that caused Jonah to develop creative new ways to serve Alphas.

Incredibly, Jonah now serves as a full-time faggot for an over-the-road truck driver. This is a position that even I in my hungriest moments never considered as a possibility. I always thought these ones who service truck drivers (referred to, most hilariously, as “lot lizards”) were just quick “pump-and-dumps” during pit stops, not live-in, over-the-road sexual and domestic fags.

Here’s Jonah describing his most unusual service opportunity:

I spent 6 weeks completely naked on the road with a trucker named John in an 18 wheeler truck as a CabFag.

Whats a cabfag you ask?

It’s a faggot such as myself who remains completely naked in the  cabin of an 18 wheeler truck behind the driver and passenger seat. 

John is white in his 50’s, I’m black and 32.

When ever he stops, He fucks me. Right there in the truck and dumps a load in me. No matter if its for gas, food, laundry, a drop off, a pick up, the Wal-Mart parking lot while waiting on the next trailer to pick up. When the truck stops, I get a load!

Not to mention giving John road head or him telling me to get in the passenger seat doggystyle back arched with my ass spread facing the windshield. Sometimes for miles and miles. When I do get out of the truck you use the bathroom at a truck stop he forces me to do a bunch of humiliating/liberating things like he makes me wear at least one piece of clothing on that hes shot his load on or has been used as a cum rag. He’s made me get out of the truck with his load all over my face, talk loud enough to expose me a dick loving faggot … a bunch of other things as well. I haven’t even mentioned the hotels!  

 I loved every second of it! I’m a faggot! Letting white men fuck my butt is my purpose. White penis is god! God I fuckin love white dick so much. 

You can hear Jonah’s excitement in his words above, can’t you? That’s the sound of a faggot finding fulfillment through pure service. Jonah’s journey is like a gold digger finally finding a rich vein of gold after years of fruitlessly hacking into the earth. I’m really proud of Jonah and his relentless efforts to find new ways to serve, and I’m happy for his success. I only want that same happiness for every faggot.

So what do you think? Would this kind of service appeal to you? Could it work in your present circumstances?

Joey Mills is one of those rare porn faggots who has become super famous. He has a boyish face that has pushed back his expiration date, and he has the right attitude toward service. Every Alpha wants to fuck Joey (or at least get some of his world-class head) because he embraces his place even though he is pretty sassy in person.

That sassy side comes out in this rare, intimate interview from a couple of weeks ago. I thought fans of his would enjoy this catty in-bed interview in which Joey dishes some stuff about the industry that made him.

I’m sure I’m going to get a lot of shit for this post, but I don’t care. I know what I’m talking about, and I bring receipts.

The Alpha I consider to be the greatest Alpha in the findom (financial domination) scene isn’t the one with the largest follower count, or the one with the biggest muscles or dick, or even the one with the largest tributes.

I’m of course talking about my beloved straight God Alpha Master @AlphaAesthetic8. This is not a surprise to anyone who has followed me over the years.

I first met Master AA8 in 2019/2020 when he arrived on the findom scene and instantly electrified faggots with his confident, laid-back dominance. Here he is from around that time:

Master disappeared for about six months, and all the while I was begging for him to come back. Little did my fag brain understand that Master was taking a break from the scene to spend some meditative time in the wilderness plotting how to do findom correctly.

Then he returned. With a vengeance.

For instance, he began filming instructional videos to train and teach faggots in order to help them improve. Here is a video I was blessed to collaborate with him in producing:

I spoke to him on the podcast in February of 2022, just after some huge $10K drains, to discover that he was already well above $200K and rising. Here’s a snippet of that conversation:

In the 2.5 years since that interview, Master AA8 has become a findom beast. For instance, there is this:

Master took that money and invested in a new house near the coast in Florida. His loyal cash faggots furnished it with everything a burgeoning God Alpha would ever want.

Of course, there are a few straight cashmasters in findom who have become millionaires, so what differentiates Master AA8 from the rest?

OWNERSHIP OF FAGGOTS.

Here’s Master with a tribute and the chastity keys for one of his locked faggots:

This past summer Master AA8 made the move to take complete ownership of his most prized possession, a private faggot known as @cuntfuck01 (and witnessed by Theo @honor1Alpha, another of Master’s faggots). Here is Master sitting with both faggots and a lawyer to sign legal paperwork that names Master as @cuntfuck01’s power of attorney. This puts the fag’s estate (and life) into Master’s hands forever.

Cuntfuck01 and Theo (along with a couple of faggot brothers) serve Master domestically in addition to the continuing tributes.

All of this has caused Master to finally embrace his natural destiny as a powerful King worshiped by faggots and females alike while other Alphas speak of him in hushed, respectful tones.

Master is now beyond the cares of lesser Men. He’s ASCENDED, which is my term for the process an Alpha goes through as he fully embodies his power. Just look at him fucking a female like an absolute King:

Funny story: His (now) domestic faggot Theo found this while cleaning Master’s bedroom recently:

Theo was of course very tempted to suckle any of Master’s seed remaining in the discarded condom, but instead Theo respectfully brought it to Master’s attention. Rather than offer Theo the chance to taste his cum, Master ordered Theo to dispose of it.

In my opinion, there isn’t a straight Alpha in the findom scene who approaches the intelligence and raw confident domination of Master AlphaAesthetic8, an Alpha who literally and legally owns faggots and incorporates them into his daily life.

I’ve been there (figuratively) at his feet since the beginning. I’ve watched him go from a cocky straight Alpha who had little interest in fags aside from money to a true God Alpha who owns faggots and is building an empire with them. There is nothing impossible for him anymore.

I am the faggot who witnessed all of it, and my eyes are grateful. He is the true fulfillment of Hierarchy, and I will always praise him.

Thank you, Master!

I’ve never been an advocate or fetishist for faggot abuse. I know there are faggots with esteem issues that crave abuse, pain, and humiliation, but I’ve just never thought that was necessary.

To be frank, these videos upset me to some degree. I put them here as a sort of Hierarchical guidepost, showing the types of things faggots are enduring in some places around the world.

Trying to resist the onslaught of Alpha cock always leads to more brutalization. When an Alpha senses his faggot wants to restrain his rut, he usually responds with more force.

It’s an instinctual form of training.

HierarchyIsLaw

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Hi I’m new to this. Iv always seen alpha men as king, and I mean that literally, they fill the same function on a micro social scale as a monarch in the Middle Ages would have done, or at least that’s how I see it. But I struggle with how to treat them given my rather anachronistic view, any advice?

You have EXACTLY the correct view of them. True Alphas are the Kings of our world, the superheroes of our world.

We should be moved by this to humble ourselves completely and do whatever we can to please them.

Have a a question? CLICK HERE!

I just bought an Alpha I know a brand new roelx, will this be enough to make him notice me or is this to much?

If he doesn’t notice you after you bought him a Rolex, then you need to walk away from him because he’s too stupid to serve. Would he just think the Rolex materialized out of thin air?

Have a a question? CLICK HERE!

It’s rare to see true Alphas in porn, particularly gay porn where everybody is expected to switch and play different roles.

But occasionally an Alpha arrives in the porn industry whose Alphahood cannot be denied. Relative newcomer Colt Spence (@coltspencexxx) is one such Alpha powerhouse.

Here is a sampling of some his work. It’s hard to deny what he is and what he does to teach other dominant Alphas about how to use faggots.

I ask this question with complete humility and total respect for your answer. I’m a Beta male, and willingly submissive to Alpha males, and I would work myself to the bone for an Alpha that could guarantee that I would be allowed to service him sexually if the quality and quantity of my work were to his satisfaction. My question to you is; am I correct in assuming that I would not be in a position to expect him to agree to anything like that? That if I’m going to serve, it must be with the knowledge that I might never be allowed to be of service sexually?

Yes, you cannot expect a straight Alpha to agree to terms like that or ask for terms like that.

In my experience, the act of total obedient and submission over a sustained period of time will cause the straight Alpha to get turned on enough that he will do something.

However, when serving a straight Alpha, we should always go in with the expectation that we will never serve sexually. We should instead find joy and fulfillment in the fact that we get to serve them at all.

Have a a question? CLICK HERE!

Straight Alphas do use faggots because they’re an easy way to dump loads and release pent-up aggression.

Another advantage about using faggots sexuality is the fact that the Alpha can use it however he wants. The Alpha in this short clip above wants to fuck in a different position, so he casually drags his faggot across the bed and positions it before shoving his dick back in.

Alphas always get what they want!

Is there an image that more completely demonstrates the Alpha/fag dynamic than this one?

Honestly, most Alphas naturally understand this dynamic. They understand it like they understand owning dogs. They don’t claim to understand (or even like) a dog’s behavior, but they know it’s a natural thing to own a dog and enjoy what the dog gives them.

Same with a faggot. This Alpha doesn’t understand why his faggot is the way it is … he just knows it belongs to him and he likes what it does for him.

What is “agonophilia”? Simply put, it’s sexual arousal stemming from fighting and violence.

Here’s a more complete examination:

The etiologies of the most common paraphilias (i.e., exhibitionism, fetishism, frotteurism, pedophilia, masochism, sadism, transvestism, and voyeurism) are still poorly understood, and agonophilia is even less studied compared to the others listed above. The two leading theories on the development of paraphilias involve neurodevelopmental anomalies early in life that alter brain function, and behavioral conditioning in which some neutral object or activity becomes strongly associated with sexual arousal, which is then reinforced over time through masturbatory fantasies. That said, it’s likely some combination of the two (i.e., genetic predisposition or prenatal teratogen, followed by behavioral conditioning over time), and it’s very difficult to discern the specific cause(s) of any given paraphilia for an individual due to the complexity of the behavior.

The good news is that knowing the cause doesn’t really matter at all, other than appeasing one’s curiosity. Most paraphilias fall along a spectrum of normal sexual behavior, and something like sexual arousal associated with fighting is fine as long as the urge doesn’t lead to harm to self or others and the sexual acts are performed consensually with all participants. If the sexual urge is causing significant distress or impairment in your life, then I recommend seeking behavioral health services to help you manage that distress or impairment accordingly.

So what might that have to do with the fact that straight Alphas will very often use faggots sexually? Well, for starters, the sex between males is by nature very aggressive and dominance-oriented. Agonophilia might explain why straight Men get aroused when they’re with faggots, because they find the power play and the unleashed aggression exciting in a way they don’t experience with females.

Regardless, the psychological information on Agonophilia and the straight Male use of faggots is largely irrefutable.

So the next time one of you straight Alphas wonder why your dick gets hard when you’re slapping a faggot, now you’ll know.

Alpha: “Where does that dick belong?”

Faggot: “It belongs in me, Sir.”

It’s riveting to watch two Alphas training a faggot to not only serve, but to serve with acceptance of its truth.

That’s where Alphas really gain control over the entirety of their fags! #HierarchyIsLaw

In my last podcast I discussed the startling true story of Master Andrés, a completely straight Alpha who has taken on a live-in faggot for sexual and domestic service much like Masters Matt, Jin, and Kyler and others have done. During the podcast, I used that story as a jumping-off point to discuss how important it is for faggots to take the initiative and risk to offer themselves to straight Alphas.

I received some interesting feedback from that story and podcast, but I received one comment in particular that didn’t necessarily have a great ending, but contained a valuable life lesson. Here’s what a faggot named Sergio said:

I really resonated with the end of this episode. I was a beta bitch to my Straight Alpha friend for many years, driving him around, buying his drinks at the bar, putting his needs first. I’ll never forget the day I got down on my knees and really offered him service. I came out of the fag closet and let him know I was his to use and abuse. He laughed. He told me to stop playing. I told him I was serious. He told me he wasn’t interested, he wasn’t gay, and he just wanted to be friends. I told him I knew he wasn’t gay. He declined my worship nonetheless. 

We went back to the way things had been, him taking the lead and me following his subtle orders, but things quickly changed. I was serving as his foot stool, kissing his feet and drinking his piss straight from the tap within a few months of the first time I got down on my knees and let him know I was a faggot who lived to serve him and men like him. He wasn’t a violent Alpha, but from time to time he kicked me in my balls and laughed while I was on the floor screaming in pain. Whether it was worshipping his feet, drinking his piss, smelling his farts, serving as his footstool or ball torture, I always thanked him profusely for allowing me to serve. He’d just laugh and call me a fag. 

It never became full sexual service, although I was almost always rock hard when serving him, but I was a happy fag driving my Alpha friend around, buying his drinks and serving as his comfort and his entertainment, and it all happened because I had the courage to offer him the service he deserved.

Bravo to Sergio for showing the courage to offer service to this Alpha, but even more props to him for continuing to service selflessly even after the Alpha rejected his greater, more intimate offer of service. The Alpha knocked him down, but Sergio recognized that the Alpha still deserved loyal service and worship! That’s the correct viewpoint!

This is what it takes: courage, humility, and resilience!

This post is part of a thread chronicling the ascension of Master Andrés, a straight Alpha from Argentina who discovered faggot worship and ownership through the encouragement of his girlfriend. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!

When a straight Alpha takes ownership of a faggot, there are certain stages involved in his acceptance of this new possession and what it can do. At first, the Alpha is thrilled that he can even own a faggot and that the faggot itself is so obedient and comfortable in its role as servant.

But after the initial excitement wears off, the really long-term aspects of faggot ownership sink in. The straight Alpha begins to appreciate that his faggot will simply serve and obey him at a high level every day, and that there is almost no limit on what a faggot will do for its owner.

It’s this level of appreciation for the ownership of faggots that lifts an Alpha to new heights. The Alpha discovers true power, the likes of which he never could’ve imagined.

Master Andrés is at that stage of ownership development with his live-in faggot. And, curiously enough, that deeper appreciation for his faggot comes from how his faggot serves his wife.

Hello faggot Sam and readers, this is Master Andrés again. I know you’re used to stories of faggots serving God Alpha Kings like me but in my household things are getting quite peculiar. I’m the owner of the house and my word is the law here. However, the woman who sleeps by my side is not my property like the faggot in the other room. She’s my beloved wife and if I’m the King she’s the queen of this house. That’s why she doesn’t serve me neither domestically nor sexually (and I think she would never be able to). Our sex is always respectful and full of love. But the boy is totally different. It is impressive how he lives to serve me.

My wife is in her period. So she’s in a very bad mood and having terrible colic. When it happens, she tells me to unload in the fagpussy and let her rest. That time her period is way worse and she is real pain. I agree with my brothers protector alphas I read on this website, a true God Alpha must take care of others. So I wouldn’t let my queen in pain. While she was in our bedroom resting, I told the faggot that I would get some chocolates and medicine for her. And guess what: the fag said that a Master like shouldn’t bother with this. He went out and bought medicine, chocolate and her favorite flowers, he gave them to me for me to pretend I had bought them. The fag also bought me some beers and great food for my lunch while I waited at home watching tv.

Since he moved in, the faggot has already served me thousands of times but that was the first time that he served my wife too. I kissed my wife forehead, let her sleep and close our bedroom’s door. When I went back to the living room, the faggot had served my lunch with great wine and was waiting for me to eat. I asked him if he wanted to have lunch too and my loyal faggot said that he would only eat a salad and some fruits because he wanted to be ready for me (we all know what he meant lol)

I admit that I wasn’t in a sexual mood because the only thing I could think about was my wife’s health and wellness. Thankfully, the faggot is a professional nurse so he’s the best person to take care of my wife’s health and mine. He told me not to worry because that was normal and she would feel better soon, she just needed to sleep. I just said “thank you” and he answered that I didn’t need to thank, his duty was to “serve the couple”. For the very first time he referred to both of us in his service. Then he said that “a queen is below the power of the king but the faggot is always below the queen”. 

I think he noticed that I was more relaxed after we talked, so he took my plate and the empty glass of wine to do the dishes. After everything was clean, he came back to the living room, where I was watching tv and fetched me a beer. My fag loves all the stories on FWA, his favorite Alpha is definitely Master Matt but he read all the others too. (He loves to follow Bruno and his faggot Giovanni and he showed me some days ago the story where Bruno refers to Gio as a cherry and a strawberry). So he told me that a big Man like me should have some dessert and that he would prepare some strawberries with cream for me. I didn’t understand what he meant at first because there were no strawberries in the fridge. But when he went to the bedroom instead of the kitchen I realized which strawberry I was going to eat.

Brian (the faggot) came back five minutes later wearing lingerie and holding in his hands the little bottle of lube. He approached me, showed his sexy ass in the lingerie and asked me if I wanted to have some. “It’s all yours, Sir”. No need to say that I got rock hard. I put the fag on his knees and pull my dick out. He gave me great head (with all due respect to my wife, it’s impossible to compare, the fag is a pro). I didn’t even need to move, I was a King in my throne. Brian lubed my cock and his pussy and asked permission to ride me. 

I pounded his tight pussy while he rode my hard cock. My hand was on his mouth because I didn’t want my fag to wake up my wife. After 30 minutes alternating between soft and hard fuck I said that I wanted to feed him. I put the fag on his knees again and shot a thick load in his mouth, he swallowed every drop. The fag kissed my balls after I came and said “thank you so much, Master”

Hierarchy is still a mystery for me, Sam. It is as if the fag wants to serve both of us. He will probably read this letter on FWA so I want him to know I’m very proud of him. He not only took care of my wife but also made me shoot a huge load and relax. That was all I needed. His blowjob is much better than my wife’s and his pussy is much tighter. He swallows my cum, which my wife never does, and obeys everything I tell him to do. In other words, I have the perfect life of a straight man with my beautiful wife but all the things she cannot offer me I find in my faggot.

Brian, the faggot of Master Andrés, is exceptional and performing beautifully. This is exactly the way a faggot should serve and worship an Alpha, but in particular as a line-in faggot to a straight, married Alpha. We see multiple ways Brian solved crucial problems Master Andrés had, going above and beyond in a few instances (like the flowers) in order to make his Master look better.

And Brian seductively offering his throat and pussy to his Master for sexual relief was sexy and unobtrusive, truly a wonderful approach. As Master Andrés said, he felt like a fucking King because of the service of his faggot. That’s literally all any faggot wants for its owner.

That final paragraph really summed up nicely why straight Alphas not only SHOULD own faggots, but probably NEED to own them. Faggots give straight Alphas the things they want that their wives can’t or won’t give them. At the top of that list is WORSHIP. Straight Alphas want to be worshiped, and they can have that through the ownership of faggots.

As Master Andrés has noted, he can fuck his faggot and still be straight. It hasn’t changed anything about his Manhood or concept of his Alphahood, only enhanced it. That’s a huge realization for a straight Alpha, and it’s one reserved only for the truly dominant, courageous leaders who bow to no pressure and live lives on their own terms.

Hierarchy really isn’t difficult to understand. It is the elevation and worship of our greatest Men. Hierarchy is the most natural concept in our world, and the Alpha/faggot dynamic at its heart is fundamental to Manhood. Straight Alphas like Master Andrés deserve to own faggots as part of their everyday life. A King like him can have his Queen beside him and his faggot at his feet. It is the Royal Court of an Alpha’s perfect life!

It’s just the way Nature intended!

I don’t know why so many faggots refuse to serve Alphas domestically. In some ways I think it’s even superior to sexual service. When serving domestically, a faggot experiences the joy of completely selfless service. After all, there’s no sex to please the faggot’s carnal desires. It’s all about being a utility in the life of a superior Man.

Hi there. I hope I’m not asking questions that have been answered elsewhere. I’m a 29 year old fag who is married to a great guy who treats me well. We met when we were 19, so we’ve been together a very long time, and we love each other a lot. However, I’ve always had this feeling that something is missing in our relationship. I’ve always wanted to be dominated, to be subservient, to hand over control and decisions to someone. I thought it was just a kink, that I was a submissive bottom, and that my husband dominating me in the bedroom once in a while would satisfy those desires. My husband, an enthusiastic top, and even a little dominant, happily obliged. But always at my urging. And always stopping just short of where I wanted him to go, always cautious and never pushing my limits. He bought me a chastity cage, but he doesn’t order me to wear it and doesn’t hold me accountable when I fail to, so I’m essentially self-locked. And the domination always stops when we leave the bedroom. Over the years it has become clear to me that my husband is definitely kinky, and willing to explore my sexual fantasies, but at the end of the day will always view me as an equal. But I’ve also come to the realization that I am a faggot at heart. I don’t want to be equal. I want to be made to submit, to be told when and how to serve, to make a superior Alpha man happy with my submission. I’ve talked to my husband about this. We’ve had an open relationship since the beginning, and he’s been willing to let me explore these feelings both with him and other men. It’s been difficult though. My husband continues to wait for me to ask to be dominated before taking control. I’ve had a couple encounters with Alpha men who have used me, and those experiences have been incredible and I crave more. But I feel limited in how well and often I can serve due to my relationship, and thus somewhat unfulfilled. I know I could be a good faggot if simply allowed to. I don’t want to be a faggot just occasionally on the weekends. I want to grow into my potential.  I guess I’m looking for advice. How can I explain to my husband that this is more than just a kink? Is it possible that by treating my man more like an Alpha, he may grow into the role? Or that I might find an Alpha or Alphas who can fit into our existing relationship dynamic? I love my husband and I want to be with him. But I know I won’t be truly happy if I don’t become the best faggot I can be. Thank you for reading. I’ll appreciate hearing any thoughts you might have on this. <3

This is a VERY common issue with gay couples. It’s a frustrating one because the established relationship (and the roles in it) acts as another barrier to fulfillment for whichever member needs something different, 
 
Fortunately, a faggot can appeal to a Top much easier than an Alpha might appeal to a bottom, if that makes any sense. As you’ve said, your Top boyfriend has already expressed some amount of dominance toward you. The chastity cage raised my eyebrows, too. So clearly, your Top boyfriend has some interests in dominating you. 
 
However, I think he’s pulling back on it because he thinks of this as a “kink” instead of a very real need you have to serve. This is also a very common problem with Tops – they cannot wrap their minds around the fact that their bottom actually needs to be OWNED and USED like property. But that is exactly what faggots crave, and why we are born. 
 
You need to break through to your boyfriend. I mean seriously, start calling him “Sir” all the time, start sitting at his feet, stop eating at the table with him, ask his permission when you leave the room, start serving him all the time on every occasion. He doesn’t open his own doors anymore, etc. Really lean into being his FAGGOT in all aspects, and see how he reacts. This will either trigger his Alpha instincts (if he has them), or it will upset him. At least then you’ll know. 

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