Subspace is one of those aspects of the Dom/sub experience that few people truly understand, and even fewer appreciate its power. It’s the power source at the center of Hierarchical exchanges. Without subspace, there would be no ability for a Dominant to overpower and control a submissive, to break into their minds, or help them achieve a sense of purpose in service.

One Alpha recently compared subspace to hypnosis, and the comparison is apt. Like hypnosis, bringing a submissive into subspace involves control and skill, but also great responsibility. In deeper levels of subspace a submissive’s mind and heart unlock, its resistance fades, and many things thought unimaginable become possible.

If I sound a little mystical about subspace, it’s for good reason. Mishandled subspace has led to broken and destroyed lives. On the other hand, carefully nurtured subspace can lead to tremendous fulfillment.

WHAT IS SUBSPACE?

This is a definition I quite like:

Subspace is a metaphor for the state the submissive’s minds and bodies are in during a deeply involving play scene. Many types of BDSM play invoke strong physical responses. The mental aspect of BDSM also causes many submissives to mentally separate themselves from their environment as they process the experience. Deep subspace is often characterized as a state of deep recession and incoherence. Deep subspace may also cause a danger in newer submissives who are unfamiliar with the experience, and require the dominant to keep a careful watch to ensure the submissive isn’t placing him or herself in danger. Many submissives require aftercare.

Notice the disassociative quality of subspace, this disconnection of the mind from the body. This is caused by a very natural process in the body ordinarily triggered by dangerous circumstances.

WHY DOES SUBSPACE OCCUR?

When a human being is confronted by some dramatic or traumatic moment, the body releases chemicals into the blood stream as part of a process known as the “fight or flight” response. Endorphins and enkephalins are dumped into the bloodstream, producing a weightless, out-of-body rush of pleasure. This can last for hours afterward.

This dump of endorphins can occur during pleasurable-but-taxing sexual experiences such as being fucked or sucking dick just as easily as it can during violent and aggressive situations like rape.

THE EFFECTS OF SUBSPACE

It’s the “fight or flight” response shielding that allows faggots (who are extremely submissive males) to perform tremendous (and occasionally shocking and extreme) acts of service. While in “fight or flight”-induced subspace faggots are extremely open to suggestion and will often mindlessly do things that they might never do in their everyday life.

More from the definition of subspace above:

Producing a sort of trance-like state due to the increase of hormones and chemicals, the submissive starts to feel out-of-body, detached from reality, and as the high comes down, and the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in, a deep exhaustion, as well as incoherence. Many submissives once reaching a height of subspace will lose all sensation of pain, as any stimulus causes the period to prolong.

This detachment from reality allows subs and faggots to go much farther in risky behaviors. We see this extreme behavior quite readily in findom. Faggots deep in subspace have surrendered many thousands of dollars in financial drains to online Alphas, only to regret it once they snap out of it.

HOW CAN WE DEFINE “PERPETUAL SUBSPACE”?

I’ve been owned multiple times in my life, including a few stints as a live-in faggot. To accomplish this, I had to get into a state I call “perpetual subspace” (another term could be “persistent subspace”). It’s sort of a low-level, neverending state of subspace in which the faggot is on a constant high due to even the most mundane of tasks (like doing the dishes, or cleaning a bathroom). The faggot’s Master is never far from the faggot’s mind during the course of every day while in perpetual subspace. Everything the faggot does goes to honor its Master.

I liken perpetual subspace to a type of white noise that drives a faggot forward in constant service to its Owner. Think of it in the same terms as listening to the sound of rain or other types of background noise in order to fall asleep. Perpetual subspace is that low-level hum by which the faggot accomplishes much in service.

PERPETUAL SUBSPACE – THE IDEAL STATE

Whenever I was owned in my life and in a state of perpetual subspace, I felt comforted and at peace. My worries were few since my Master took care of me and all I truly focused on were the tasks that my Master expected me to accomplish. Regardless of how menial they were, each task brought me satisfaction because I knew it was pleasing to my Master.

It was easy to keep me in perpetual subspace once it began. My Master running his fingers through my hair and telling me I was a “good boy” or a “good faggot” was enough to sustain the state in me for weeks. Sexual service/worship sessions were obviously part of that as well. All of these stimuli combined to keep me under perpetual subspace, a state that allowed me to accomplish a lot in service, as well as remain pliable to suggestions when my Master wanted to share me with his friends or make me do things I might not ordinarily do (piss drinking and ass licking experiences started under perpetual subspace of a Master).

For Alphas and Masters, perpetual subspace should be the goal. It is the ultimate level of power, for you hold the total life of the faggot under your control.

Ever since I first realized my faghood when I was 17 years old, I’ve always embraced learning and practicing my craft. I just had this need to get better, understand my own motivations, and remain in what I felt was the proper headspace. Eventually I became an owned faggot multiple times, trained relentlessly on several occasions, and developed a natural rhythm as a faggot that has persisted to this day.

However, that doesn’t mean I’ve stopped developing myself. Far from it! I’ve been unowned over the last few years due to a wide variety of circumstances (rescuing Baby Boy, surviving cancer, employment restructuring), but throughout that period of time I’ve tried to keep myself in what I’ve dubbed “Perpetual Subspace“. One way I did that was by voluntarily self-locking my skin tag in chastity two years ago. However, I’ve continued to do ass and throat training exercises, meditation, etc. in order to keep myself ready for service.

I know there are a lot of faggots out there who are unowned and have never been owned for whatever reason. However, that doesn’t mean you cannot experience the deep meaning of your faghood through self-training. In fact, I think this should be a vital aspect of of every faggot’s life regardless if they’re owned or not.

So I wanted to create a guide for unowned faggots in order to help steer them toward purpose and (hopefully) prepare them for service.

PHYSICAL TRAINING

There are certain physical demands placed upon a faggot by most Alphas. It’s important that a faggot work toward certain physical benchmarks in order to be of service.

WEIGHT: Yeah, I know … why must Alphas be so shallow, right? Well, it’s because they are superior Men, and they deserve the best (and they know it). They don’t need to fuck or receive head from a fat faggot when there are ten other perky twink faggots ready to do the same thing. So be mindful of this. If you’re serious about serving, get into some sort of shape. I’m not saying you need to look like Tom Daley, but at least try to get rid of flab and develop an ass of some sort. This involves dieting and gym exercise.

STRETCHING: Faggots are tossed around and bent in a variety of ways while being used. However, it’s more than just being able to get your knees to your ears. It also means being able to arch your back and get into the Bitch Position on demand (and it will be demanded a lot ). This requires a lot of concentrated practice involving stretches designed to loosen those parts of the body. You need to get used to holding those positions while an Alpha is pounding you, too.

THROAT EXERCISES: A faggot is expected to deepthroat pretty regularly. Therefore it is necessary to heavily practice overcoming your gag reflex. I use a 7″ silicone dildo with balls to keep myself tuned up, and I still do that even though I’m currently serving as a straight Alpha’s cocksucker. So just imagine how important it is for a faggot without regular dick to use this method!

If you don’t have a dildo, you could possibly use a hard vegetable like a carrot for practice, but this is a choking hazard in my mind. Instead, use a large metal spoon to stimulate the back of your throat, and see if you can get used to controlling it. This will help you eventually overcome the reflex when you have actual dick in there.

Regardless of your method, practice swallowing when you feel gagging coming on. This will not only neutralize the reflex, but it will also encourage your throat to accept more cock into it.

This is a video from Throat-it-boy that shows the level of cocksucking most Alphas expect. Train yourself to get to this point.

ASS EXERCISES: You’ve heard me discuss Kegel exercises (which are primarily designed for vaginas) a number of times on this site. This is critical. These exercises will help your pussy retain strength over the coming years of abuse due to Alpha rutting. Kegel exercises are covered on this site and elsewhere on the internet, but a more ass-centric version of these exercises were “popularized” via a series of bizarre, uncomfortable instructional videos by Dr. Joe Kramer.

But there is more to ass training than muscle development. There is also hole training. This would ideally involve multiple sizes of silicone dildos or buttplugs. This will help to open the hole and relax the muscles for penetration. However, these devices can be used while inserted to develop the power of the anal muscles by clamping down on them repeatedly.

There’s also a way to stretch your asshole so you can accommodate larger dicks and increased use. It’s the Chopstick Method pioneered by Caged Jock. I detailed it here: https://hierarchyuniversity.com/caged-jock-how-to-stretch-a-fags-hole/

Get accustomed to how your ass works and how it can be used to provide pleasure!

MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL TRAINING

A lot goes into being a faggot. There are mental and emotional hurdles to overcome in order to fully submit to an Alpha and find true fulfillment in his service. Roughly, this can be broken down this way:

ADMIT YOU ARE A FAGGOT: Saying it out loud or repeating it as a mantra can help a faggot break down the mental and emotional barriers that prevent it from reaching acceptance and peace. I never had much of a problem here, but I’ve come to know many, many faggots still trapped behind this seemingly insignificant barrier. I’ve seen faggots CRY when they openly admit it for the first time. It is deeply meaningful.

So how can a faggot come to accept its truth? The most obvious way is to admit it vocally to other people. If you can’t do it in your personal circle, then find people online (Twitter or the FWA Discord are terrific free resources) to whom you can admit it. You’ll be surprised. Another way might be journaling this statement on paper. There is a technique for manifestation which relies on repeatedly writing a phrase on paper so that it will come true. Try writing “I am a faggot” repeatedly on paper and see how you feel.

ADMIT IT TO OTHERS: This goes in conjunction with the previous step, but here I’m advocating actually admitting it to people you know in your personal life as far as you’re able. It doesn’t need to be anything weird. It’s simply an admission of something you’ve come to realize about yourself. Do this helps to ground it and make it more real in your heart.

MEDITATION: I’ve come to find that quiet time spent meditating and visualizing what I want or need in my life helps to manifest them. In part, that’s because these become more powerful goals that I subconsciously pursue. Focus on the type of Owner you want to serve, and be specific. Visualize how you want to serve, what kind of faggot you yearn to be for him, and every detail of that life you desire. Then follow it up with action.

This focus of mind is important even down to certain physical acts. For instance, when I’m preparing to suck a dick I visualize myself so hungry to have the dick inside me that I push myself to swallow it, desperate to have it all inside me. It’s like the way an Olympic jumper visualizes how far he needs to leap, and his body stretches incredibly to achieve every last millimeter. You must WANT IT MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE.

LITTLE ACTS: Performing simple, discreet acts of service for Men during the course of every day can definitely help train a faggot’s mind to the important of always seeking to serve. Opening a door, getting a cup of coffee, offering a drink, getting a towel for an Alpha at the gym. These are simple things that might not mean anything to the Men, but it means the world to the faggot offering.

FINDOM: Far be in from me to advocate findom for faggots. I don’t particularly like how findom ruins both Alphas and faggots, which allows game playing as a substitute for real service and worship. HOWEVER, findom can be a useful starter for the true life of a faggot in the future. It can give new and frightened faggots their first taste of actual service to a Man. For true faggots, it never stops at simple financial transactions – they will eventually develop and want more. But, at the start, we need to experience SOMETHING.

CHASTITY: Ideally, a faggot would be locked in chastity by a Man taking ownership of it. However, an unowned faggot doesn’t have that luxury yet. Still, that doesn’t mean the unowned faggot can’t experience the profound revelation of being in chastity. The faggot can lock itself, try it out, and see what it does over time.

I’m the perfect advocate for this. Despite being a faggot for a couple of decades, I never had a Master who wanted to put me in chastity. I always considered it to be a silly fetish, and I also felt it was unnecessary since I had control over my dicklet and never masturbated or got hard around Men. But over the last couple of years, I really became embarrassed that I wasn’t caged. I felt like I was dishonoring true Alpha cock by leaving mine free and used the way Men used theirs.

So I locked up in March of 2020, and my perspective changed completely. It was like a colorblind person putting on Chromatic glasses and seeing the world in color for the first time. I suddenly became hyper-aware of the Men around me, how they strode confidently while I walked among them locked. It was definitely a transformational moment in my faghood, and that was after many years! So there’s no reason why this should not be an option for unowned or virgin faggots as well.

I really hope this guide helps my unowned brothers find ways to expand their confidence and appreciation of the important Hierarchical role Nature has called them to play. Just keep in mind: your faghood isn’t something that happens to you like a disease. It is already part of you. So find ways to become better at understanding it and enhancing it so that you’ll be ready to fulfill it whenever you get the chance!

love,

sam the faggot

My dear brother Caged Jock (@cagedjock) has been teaching faggots about the chastity lifestyle for more than ten years. He’s been an inspiration to me on my chastity journey, and his innovations are legendary.

His greatest innovation is the chopstick method of hole stretching detailed in the video above. I love this so much that I immediately had Caged Jock on the podcast to discuss it in detail.

The method is labor-intensive, but I believe it would result in a properly-dilated hole without a lot of the severe pain.

Try it!

This post is part of a thread following the story of Sir James, a straight married Man coming to understand and embrace the faghood of his beloved son. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!

When I define love between two people, one of the primary ways I think it’s best expressed isn’t with words, but actions. It involves standing beside the person you love and supporting them even when you don’t fully understand their situation or even agree with it.

This is the kind of love that should always naturally exist between a parent and a child. Of course, too many times we see a lack of this familial love in this most sacred bond, especially (and tragically) when it involves LGTBQ children. And really, these are the kids who need that kind of support the most.

So it’s really no surprise that the recent story about Sir James coming to terms with his 16-year-old faggot son and supporting him has resonated to strongly with my readership. Gays (and particularly faggots) are in desperate need of fatherly support and compassion, and the example of Sir James is quite inspirational.

In the last update (yesterday) Sir James told of a trip he took with his faggot son over the weekend where he finally broke the ice with his son about his service to three Alphas on his soccer team.

But nothing could prepare me for what Sir James told me just happened this morning.

Just to let you know how things are moving forward. And thanks so much for taking the time to write back.

I did spend a few hours last night reading more about faggots and the links to chastity. I found caged jock to be very informative if a little weird. It is interesting how it is also better for a faggots mental health to be in chastity.  So I came to the understanding that my baby boy would be safer and become a better faggot if he was to go into chastity.  

This morning my boy came into the kitchen as I was drinking my first coffee and he was all ready to go to practice. And I have to admit that he is a very good-looking little faggot. As he went by me I gently brushed up against him and noticed that he had not put the cage on.  “You did not put your cage on?” I asked. “No I don’t like the idea of it.” “Well don’t you think you would be showing the proper respect to your mates if you put it on?” I asked. “I guess” was his answer. “Go get it,” I said.

He slowly went to his room and came back with it and handed it to me. I could tell he was very nervous. But I said this is for the best. I sat at the kitchen table, Told him to stand in front of me and I gently pulled down his soccer shorts and gently cupped his smooth balls in my hand. The ring took a little time to get his balls through. And with a little KY the little tube slid on his little pee-pee. I have to say he looked very beautiful in his little cage in his soccer strip. My baby boy went to grab the little key for the cage and I said “No I will look after that.”  

The drive to practise was a little tense as I think we were both a little surprised by what had just happened.

I stayed for the first half of the practice and it was interesting to see some of the body language on the pitch now that I have an understanding of the dynamics of the team. My boy opened the top of his shorts to him to show his Alpha his cage. He seemed to smile and give my baby a nice head rub.  

I do worry and I hope I am doing the right thing. 

I mean, WOW. That’s a mind-blower!

In a previous letter I suggested that perhaps Sir James might take the lead in putting his son in chastity, but I thought that might be far-fetched. But I’ll be damned – he did it!

I adore the way Sir James loves how his baby boy looks in his new chastity cage! It’s one thing to participate in helping his son achieve fulfillment, but it’s entirely another to feel joy over it! There is a kind of fractured beauty about a sub male in a chastity cage. I had a very similar experience when I finally met my Syrian boy that involved diapers, and let me tell you it was one of the most beautiful memories of my life. I think I understand where Sir James’s heart is right now – soaring!

I’ve never encountered a real life example of deep fatherly love like this one. It moves me to tears and gives me hope that other faggots might find a similar kind of acceptance.

Thank you, Sir James, for being that surrogate of hope for faggots around the world!

This post is part of a thread following the story of Sir James, a straight married Man coming to understand and embrace the faghood of his beloved son. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!

Every so often I publish a story that really triggers my audience (usually negatively). Typically, the stories that excite my readership are the ones involving really awful situations and taboo subjects (I try to cover it all).

But recently I published a truly touching story about a straight married Man named James who wrote to me about his son. He suspected his son might be a faggot, but he wasn’t asking for lurid reasons. Instead, Sir James was wanting to know how to reach his son so that he might properly guide his son toward fulfillment.

Many faggots reached out to me about that story, almost all of them echoing my own feeling – that we wish we would’ve had a father like Sir James in our lives, too! So many faggots are alienated from their parents, and in particular their fathers. Sometimes they are beaten, or even worse, abandoned.

So faggots read the yearning and loving desperation in Sir James’s words and were deeply touched, as was I.

After my first post about this situation, Sir James and I continued to discuss how to approach a planned weekend trip between Sir James and his son. It was clear that Sir James wanted to make a connection on this trip.

Thanks so much for your warm post and support. It is indeed difficult to understand the world of faggots.  

I spent some time reading through your site from what I can see chastity is good for faggots as it helps them understand their true place in the world. 

My boy came out onto the pool deck today and it was very clear to see that he had shaved all his body smooth I did not say anything but it was so obvious to see, He’s a is skinny blond boy but it was clear to see that he had taken the time to shave his body. Do you think this may be something his teammates may have asked him to do? 

He does love to go to soccer practice. And I don’t have a problem if he is becoming the team faggot as long as he is safe and not being mistreated. All I what is for him to be happy and lead a good and fulfilling life. 

We plan to go up to our cottage together this Saturday for some bonding time. And I hope I can better understand my baby boy, 

I immediately panicked because I didn’t know how to advise Sir James about the chastity device. So I explained to Sir James that his son may have shaved his body hair on his own and purchased a chastity cage because he was curious, or it might be something that his soccer Alpha told him to do. This was something that needed to be cleared up if he got a chance to really talk to his son on their trip alone together.

Well, the trip happened a day early, and I heard from Sir James with some surprising details.

Hi Sam, Thanks so much for the advice and you were so right. We had a change of plan and went up to the cottage on Friday because my little faggot did not want to miss Sunday practice.

My baby boy did finally open up to me and it involved a lot of tears for both of us. But he just told me that he liked boys and not girls. And I told him that is all good with me and that he has to follow his heart.

But things are a lot more complicated than I thought he has not been just sucking off one of his teammates but NO it is three of them and very regularly. I was a little shocked and after some general digging it seems that his mates got him the cage and he freaked out a bit and that is why it was in his bag and not on his little pee pee.

I am still trying to process it all and I don’t know what to do next.   

So it’s THREE Alphas on the soccer team that are using his son! That was a bit surprising! I explained to Sir James that there is likely an Apex Alpha who first identified his son as a faggot and started using him, and then introduced the faggot son to his Alpha Pack brothers on the team.

But the chastity cage thing threw me. That’s pretty advanced stuff for 16-year-olds! I told Sir James that the Alphas are clearly staking a claim of ownership on his son, and they intend to keep him. That’s a good thing even though it probably sounds awful to Sir James. This means the faggot son will have protection and some amount of care (even though 16-year-olds can get unintentionally rough).

The questions remains – what to do about the cage? I told Sir James that the Master typically puts the cage on his faggot, but these young straight Alphas are probably uninterested in touching a faggot’s “pee pee”. I suggested that Sir James supervise his son as his son puts it on himself. That way Sir James can make sure it fits properly and isn’t hurting his son unnecessarily.

Words cannot properly express how impressed I am with Sir James throughout this entire ordeal! He has approached it with empathy, compassion, and respect. At the forefront of his every action Sir James has led with love and concern for the wellbeing of his dearest son.

And that is the very definition of fatherly love!

Trying to resist the onslaught of Alpha cock always leads to more brutalization. When an Alpha senses his faggot wants to restrain his rut, he usually responds with more force.

It’s an instinctual form of training.

HierarchyIsLaw

HierarchyIsTruth

Is there an image that more completely demonstrates the Alpha/fag dynamic than this one?

Honestly, most Alphas naturally understand this dynamic. They understand it like they understand owning dogs. They don’t claim to understand (or even like) a dog’s behavior, but they know it’s a natural thing to own a dog and enjoy what the dog gives them.

Same with a faggot. This Alpha doesn’t understand why his faggot is the way it is … he just knows it belongs to him and he likes what it does for him.

Alpha: “Where does that dick belong?”

Faggot: “It belongs in me, Sir.”

It’s riveting to watch two Alphas training a faggot to not only serve, but to serve with acceptance of its truth.

That’s where Alphas really gain control over the entirety of their fags! #HierarchyIsLaw