Hi Sam – great to see you back. I won’t ask about your experience as a fag in the place you’ve been as I’m sure it was what a fag would expect in such a place. I’m sure you’re thankful to be out.

I’m a fag too, and have been for a few years, having developed from a sub to a sex slave to a fag – at least I’m nearly there. Your site, testimonials and advice are what many of us have been badly needing in being our true selves.

I was happy to read that you also have a small dick – mine is only a 5″, thin pencildick (if it gets hard) – 1″ in its natural state and, while I know that all fags don’t have small dicks, it is certainly part of my makeup as one (a sub, a slave and a fag). Like you I wear chastity devices (generally when being used for sex, bit recently more often outside of that).

I wanted to ask what part you feel your inadequacy between the legs has played in your faghood?

Also, I know in my head that an alpha doesn’t need a big dick to be the man he is – there is a huge difference between a man with an average dick and a man with a small dick, and in my heart I believe an ‘male’ with a small dick is much better suited to being a fag. What are your thoughts on this?

Jason

Thank you for your kind words! I’m definitely glad to be out and back in my life!

I know there are a lot of people who feel there is a connection between penis size and dominance/Alphahood, but I don’t see that clearly at all. I’ve served powerful Alphas with average-sized dicks, and I’ve known true faggots with huge dicks. I do think Men with large dicks do have a bit more confidence, but confidence isn’t the only determination of Alphahood.

I’m always running up against this question, and some people want to live and die on the “correlation between dick size and Alphahood” hill. I think I’m closer to the truth, but whatever. I’m just not going to tell an Alpha he doesn’t qualify as Alpha because he “only” has a six-inch cock.

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So I’m trying to worship my straight married trainer: some context, I’ve been knowing him for 2 years now and always found him attractive but lately I’ve been wanting him so bad but he is married so I never made a direct move. A couple of times I message him on IG and reply to his stories saying “alpha af” i call him “sir ” when i get drunk I message him likenat 6am or 1 am saying hey , this is so send a message that I’m interested bbecause those are odd hours Last month I paid him 150$ to come train me at home and I was planning to just ask to blow him but I never got the courage . When I texted him saying he looked good in his shirt and his outfit was fire and he replied thank you. Another thing he is always posting stuff about being Christian like posts that say jesus is king etc he literally has Jesus christ is king in his bio

I doubt you have an opening here. He sounds like a good Alpha who is being polite with your flirtations because he’s running a training business. He’s married and he sounds pretty religious so I think it might be best to leave him alone.

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Hey Sam! Glad to see you back! Your website was one of the main reasons of me coming to terms of being a faggot and accepting that. During the time that you were away, I was lucky to serve an alpha online for a few months after I found his personal ad looking for subs and then reaching out. I sent him a few photos of myself and he liked them and took me in to serve him.

Our main dynamic of service was he would give me a task, sometimes with photo examples, which I would then photo or record myself doing. He would sometimes take these photos and videos, edit them and put them in an online album and make that album public for people to see for a short time before privating the album again. These photos got quite a few views, not just a few dozen but my first time being exposed got 600 views.

The photos and videos I sent them were really humiliating, they had me naked, riding a dildo and other degrading things. Eventually he convinced me to start including my face which he would then edit out for my online exposure, but the face videos and pictures were for him to use and share with his alpha friends (not sure if he shared edited versions). I eventually backed out of the relationship after one of my family members died and I used it as an excuse to get out of the relationship since I started getting scared of the consequences of exposure, even though he never showed signs of abusing his power. He made it clear he didn’t want me to talk to him again but I sometimes think of going back to him and apologizing so I can serve him again, however I still don’t know how to feel about the exposure aspect as it’s quite scary.

So my question to you Sam is, despite exposure being enticing for some faggots, do you feel like it is safe for an alpha to be able to use exposure as a form of service and where do you stand on it? Have you heard of other examples of faggots and alphas using exposure in service?

Thanks Sam for all your work!

Thanks for the question and the support, brother!

I’m not sure why any Alpha would only want a faggot to serve by submitting pics of itself simply for exposure. I don’t understand the fetish, I guess. Maybe the Alpha was getting off on the power of making you do these humiliating things? No idea.

I do understand why some faggots crave exposure and humiliation of this sort, but in my experience the thrill only lasts as long as it takes for them to cum. Then they feel regret and want to take back what they shared. This is why I stopped doing exposure for faggots a long time ago. I don’t have the time to go search for the material I exposed and erasing it whenever the fag has second thoughts. As for your direct question, I think it’s perfectly safe for Alphas do get involved with exposing faggots. What’s the danger for them?

However, my original question remains: what’s in it for them in the first place? Thanks brother!

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Even after all of these years of serving Alphas and the years spent researching and writing on the topic of Hierarchy and the Alpha/fag dynamic, I continue to learn new things. Some of these discoveries have changed my life completely (like chastity), while others spark a more intellectual curiosity.

The term agonophilia is one of those latter discoveries. I’d never heard of this psychological condition until it was brought up in the “Ask A Question” section of this site recently by a faggot named Chris (CLICK HERE TO READ). The condition involves sexual arousal arising from inflicting or receiving pain and violence. This is largely foreign to me given that I have a natural aversion to violent stuff.

But Chris not only craves this kind of action, he has found three straight, married Alphas who love to inflict pain as much as Chris loves receiving it.

In his original question, Chris asked if I thought he should tell others about the truth of his darker, more controversial interests. I’m glad to hear back from Chris, who gave me this update:

Thank you for your answer. I have since SHARED my learning of this actual term with one of my Alphas that I serve. Two are what can best be described as a Man’s Man, they are not intellectuals who’s response I feel would be who gives a shit as they punched my lights out while feeding me their dicks. But ONE, the one I’ve served the longest, 16yrs, is more introspective and reads a great deal about Psyches and self exploration, and he was equally surprised and interested by this, and unaware there was a term (relating more to the type of Man HE is than the kind of Fag I am). The other two are married and both fathers. This one has a longtime GF who IS aware of me, but only as an friend he’s known for years. She IS aware of his past as a stripper for bachelor-ette parties and the occasional gay event, and that I am Gay, but oc has NO idea of the true nature of what he is to me and what he does to me. I broached the subj of him joining us here and sharing. He was not opposed to it but said he has to think about it, since, like me, he’s never shared this side of himself with others. So we shall see.

I’m really proud of my brother for being honest with others, but particularly with this particular Alpha! By being brave and trusting his Master, he’s possibly unlocked his Master’s greater power and a provided him with a better perspective of Hierarchical truth!

This is what faggots do for Alphas (particularly straight Alphas!). By our honest submission, we teach them about their own power and place within the Hierarchical arrangement. Honestly, there is no better way to serve!

Thanks for the question! Yours is officially the first one on the new site!

I was wondering how many faggots (and Alphas) would respond to that information about agonophilia. I know a lot of faggots get off on being beaten, so I figured some would be triggered by it. As far as your central question, let’s be honest – most faggots are in hiding and are extremely embarrassed about their needs. After all, it’s not exactly something that one brings up at a family reunion or in the work breakroom.

That being said, I am someone who has almost completely integrated being a faggot with my exterior life. I’ve never been shy or socially intimidated, so I simply let people know (when asked) that I’m a faggot. Nervous laughter follows, but then some healthy conversation usually occurs afterward.

But I realize I’m an outlier and not the norm when it comes to this. In the real world, a faggot needs to pick his battles and reveal the truth to those he can trust. That doesn’t make a faggot any less than he is (after all, he’s a faggot!). You shouldn’t feel shame because you’re hiding some part of yourself right now. It’ll come when it’s the right time for you, not for anyone else’s expectations.

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Hi, thanks for writing! 

Yes, those are certainly possible signs of being a faggot. The first one could also apply to beta males, but the second one certainly seems like the machinations of a faggot.

I have written a book to help people figure out whether or not they’re a faggot. It’s called “Are You A Faggot?”, and it’s available right now right here: https://fagsworshipalphas.gumroad.com/l/VmrBwe

Hope that helps! 

Love,

sam the faggot

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Hi I’m new to this. Iv always seen alpha men as king, and I mean that literally, they fill the same function on a micro social scale as a monarch in the Middle Ages would have done, or at least that’s how I see it. But I struggle with how to treat them given my rather anachronistic view, any advice?

You have EXACTLY the correct view of them. True Alphas are the Kings of our world, the superheroes of our world.

We should be moved by this to humble ourselves completely and do whatever we can to please them.

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I just bought an Alpha I know a brand new roelx, will this be enough to make him notice me or is this to much?

If he doesn’t notice you after you bought him a Rolex, then you need to walk away from him because he’s too stupid to serve. Would he just think the Rolex materialized out of thin air?

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I ask this question with complete humility and total respect for your answer. I’m a Beta male, and willingly submissive to Alpha males, and I would work myself to the bone for an Alpha that could guarantee that I would be allowed to service him sexually if the quality and quantity of my work were to his satisfaction. My question to you is; am I correct in assuming that I would not be in a position to expect him to agree to anything like that? That if I’m going to serve, it must be with the knowledge that I might never be allowed to be of service sexually?

Yes, you cannot expect a straight Alpha to agree to terms like that or ask for terms like that.

In my experience, the act of total obedient and submission over a sustained period of time will cause the straight Alpha to get turned on enough that he will do something.

However, when serving a straight Alpha, we should always go in with the expectation that we will never serve sexually. We should instead find joy and fulfillment in the fact that we get to serve them at all.

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Hi there. I hope I’m not asking questions that have been answered elsewhere. I’m a 29 year old fag who is married to a great guy who treats me well. We met when we were 19, so we’ve been together a very long time, and we love each other a lot. However, I’ve always had this feeling that something is missing in our relationship. I’ve always wanted to be dominated, to be subservient, to hand over control and decisions to someone. I thought it was just a kink, that I was a submissive bottom, and that my husband dominating me in the bedroom once in a while would satisfy those desires. My husband, an enthusiastic top, and even a little dominant, happily obliged. But always at my urging. And always stopping just short of where I wanted him to go, always cautious and never pushing my limits. He bought me a chastity cage, but he doesn’t order me to wear it and doesn’t hold me accountable when I fail to, so I’m essentially self-locked. And the domination always stops when we leave the bedroom. Over the years it has become clear to me that my husband is definitely kinky, and willing to explore my sexual fantasies, but at the end of the day will always view me as an equal. But I’ve also come to the realization that I am a faggot at heart. I don’t want to be equal. I want to be made to submit, to be told when and how to serve, to make a superior Alpha man happy with my submission. I’ve talked to my husband about this. We’ve had an open relationship since the beginning, and he’s been willing to let me explore these feelings both with him and other men. It’s been difficult though. My husband continues to wait for me to ask to be dominated before taking control. I’ve had a couple encounters with Alpha men who have used me, and those experiences have been incredible and I crave more. But I feel limited in how well and often I can serve due to my relationship, and thus somewhat unfulfilled. I know I could be a good faggot if simply allowed to. I don’t want to be a faggot just occasionally on the weekends. I want to grow into my potential.  I guess I’m looking for advice. How can I explain to my husband that this is more than just a kink? Is it possible that by treating my man more like an Alpha, he may grow into the role? Or that I might find an Alpha or Alphas who can fit into our existing relationship dynamic? I love my husband and I want to be with him. But I know I won’t be truly happy if I don’t become the best faggot I can be. Thank you for reading. I’ll appreciate hearing any thoughts you might have on this. <3

This is a VERY common issue with gay couples. It’s a frustrating one because the established relationship (and the roles in it) acts as another barrier to fulfillment for whichever member needs something different, 
 
Fortunately, a faggot can appeal to a Top much easier than an Alpha might appeal to a bottom, if that makes any sense. As you’ve said, your Top boyfriend has already expressed some amount of dominance toward you. The chastity cage raised my eyebrows, too. So clearly, your Top boyfriend has some interests in dominating you. 
 
However, I think he’s pulling back on it because he thinks of this as a “kink” instead of a very real need you have to serve. This is also a very common problem with Tops – they cannot wrap their minds around the fact that their bottom actually needs to be OWNED and USED like property. But that is exactly what faggots crave, and why we are born. 
 
You need to break through to your boyfriend. I mean seriously, start calling him “Sir” all the time, start sitting at his feet, stop eating at the table with him, ask his permission when you leave the room, start serving him all the time on every occasion. He doesn’t open his own doors anymore, etc. Really lean into being his FAGGOT in all aspects, and see how he reacts. This will either trigger his Alpha instincts (if he has them), or it will upset him. At least then you’ll know. 

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