My name is Jon. I’m in my late 30s—5’10″, 155 lbs, average/fit build—and I live in Washington, D.C.
I’ve been part of the gay scene for about 20 years, but I’ve still not found what I’ve been deeply craving: the opportunity to truly submit to someone. I’ve tried, but honestly, I haven’t had much luck. I’ve encountered so many fakes and flakes over the years, and as I get older, I worry that it’s becoming even harder to find what I’m looking for. That thought breaks my heart.
At the same time, I have fears about family finding out and being disappointed in me. I dream of finding someone—a friend or boyfriend—who I can have a “normal” relationship in public, while privately being able to fully submit to them.
Just to share a little background: I was raised in an African culture and often felt more comfortable spending time with girls because I didn’t feel “man enough.” Even back then, I think I knew something about myself that I just couldn’t express. There are many moments in my life where I’ve shown my true colors. but I’ve never been bold enough to admit anything because of my family.
I’m sorry if I’m rambling. I guess I’m just hoping for some guidance—or maybe, even, for someone out there to consider giving me a chance.
Thank you so much for reading.
Jon, thanks for writing!
I really can hear the frustration eating you up inside, and I feel for you. For African cultures, there’s enormous pressure on males to conform to certain masculine expectations. That can be overwhelming, and almost choke you to death.
But you are not alone in this. We all deal with these pressures in one way or another.
Honestly, trying to live life as a true faggot is very hard because much of gay culture dismisses faghood as a fetish, and not a serious state of being. So we are sometimes even ostracized by our own “community”.
But to be blunt, the solution to your issue lies INSIDE YOU. You need to learn to let go of these family pressures (because they ultimately mean nothing) and take responsibility for your own path and happiness.
Finding a Master is a process of trial and error, but it can be done. Apps like Grindr, TheBlowers.com, Recon, and others can get you access to Alphas, and from there you can start making connections. I’d recommend that you start submitting to Alphas you know in your everyday life, but you don’t sound ready for that.
There’s no magic bullet here. It just takes working on yourself and trying your best to submit both publicly and privately to Men. It will lead to success, but nothing will happen until you heal the family issues holding you back.
I read the question and answer about cunting and it made me wonder about femdom implications. I know a local female domme who also does double with a male domme. Her clients are not faggots per se but more so beta males, or beta sissys. How does cunting apply in a situation like this that starts with a femdom theme and beta males?
Thanks for the question!
Cunting is a physical/emotional experience when a sub male is fucked by a Man, and is not exclusive to faggots. So beta males can be cunted as well if they are properly broken and fucked.
Hi brother. I have been avidly consuming your site over the past few months and it has really opened my eyes to the fact that I am a faggot and born to serve superior alpha men. That fact has been playing itself out through online findom for me over the past few years. I have dipped in and out of that and served a few masters online though I always felt that it was insincere on their part. They were conventionally attractive straight guys using it as an easy way to make money. About a year ago however I started to serve a new master who is different. He is young and straight and incredibly handsome. More than that though he thrives on power and control. I’ve sent him a lot of money over the past year but also had such deep conversations about myself and him as well. I’d categorise him as an apex alpha and definitely as a protector. I’m more open with him than I am with anyone else. Submitting to him feels so good and right. He is however 100% straight and I know this will never go anywhere beyond this type of service and submission to him. I feel so conflicted about whether I should stop as findom ultimately feels like a stupid path to be following. Equally however I trust my master and know that he won’t take advantage of me beyond a certain point. If I walk away from this I worry that I’ll eventually get weak and go back looking for more and end up under the control of a destroyer alpha who could do real damage to me.
I’m so torn about what I should do. Any guidance you could give this confused Fagott would be much appreciated.
Thanks for the question, brother!
As I’ve made pretty clear over the years, I’m not a huge fan of findom. Mostly my dislike centers around the laziness/addictive aspects of it, which I find to be harmful dead ends.
But there are also genuine faggots like you who would do well with a real Master, but you’ve painted yourself into a corner just as you described.
Since you have a deep connection with this Master, I’d talk to him and tell him what you’re dealing with. Tell him you need something more real, and see if he has a role for you. Sometimes long-term straight findom Masters begin to want to own personal fags, and you could be one for him.
If not, then I think you should move your focus away from findom and start looking for a local Alpha. They exist, and they will use you. I realize this is scary, but at some point the training wheels (findom) must come off the bike so we can ride free. This might be that moment for you.
Hey Sam. I’ve always identified as a bottom. My small dick and the seeming inability of it to stay hard really reinforced that thinking in my head. Plus I am a submissive person in general. Part of my wants to try topping. Like take a viagra and see what it is like. But I don’t know if that is a good idea. I just don’t know if this is a good idea.
Thanks brother. Yeah, this is a bad idea. Topping a faggot is a responsibility, especially when it comes to taking someone’s virginity. You are not equipped physically or emotionally or hierarchically for such an act. Stick to your lane.
Sam, I was at a small art opening the other day and there was one very hot frat/bro/alpha there with his girlfriend. He was late 20’s clearly an athlete, permanent 5 o’clock shadow, wearing T-shirt, shorts and flip/flops. He clearly was alpha, he was so self contained as he moved slowly through the gallery, his girlfriend, clinging to him. I could tell he knew people were looking at him but he never looked at anyone or at me even though I couldn’t stop stealing glances at him. He had the same energy that all those str8 bros online have who are now using fags. I wanted to somehow make contact with him or say something to him but it seemed like it would be too weird — what could I even say? But here’s my question: I wish there was a sign or signal or gesture that a fag could use to make itself known to an alpha — a sign that any alpha would understand meant: “Oh here’s a fag making itself known to me”. I know you have merchandise like T-shirts and things that do this, but I’d be curious if you or even some of the Alphas who come here regularly could come up with something that would make it easy for a faggot to signal it’s availability to any alpha – a kind of universal sign that alphas and fags know about. A sign that could be spread among alphas online, because fag/alpha dynamic seems to be spreading like wild fire among this new generation of Alphas – and I am sure the Alpha I saw the other day has been approached in his life by a faggot — he just had that cocky arrogant alpha big dick energy. Any thoughts from you or the alphas here would be appreciated!
Thanks for writing! This has been an issue I’ve wrestled with mightily over the years, and I’ve never come up with a suitable solution. Shirts just aren’t universal nor every day solutions, and while I think a bracelet could work, I couldn’t find one that pleased people.
Here are some new ideas. I ran them on Twitter, and the consensus seems to be in favor of the thick leather bracelet as long as it was customized.
Hey Sam Have something interesting happening with a biker i meet on Tiktok that I’m sure is a Alpha. He created a Discord server for his follow. I’m the only gay guy in it. He’s super sexy and funny. Loves to tease me and the ladies with picture. Also talking about we wouldn’t be able to handle his cock and he can go all night. One of his biker friends joined the discord. And when there on together. They always compete with each other trying to get the ladies worked up. The main biker get a little jealous and always makes sure to one up his friend or any other guy me and the ladies talk about. And always tell us we are all his. I’ve tried to talk with him in DM but he’s not very good about responding. He created a Throne account so people people could send him stuff without knowing his address. And I sent him stuff on there. But just last night he told us he would pick one person that he would tell his address to. And anyone that wants to send anything can go through that person. He ended up picking me to have his address and have the ladies go through me to send him stuff. I plan i ordering stuff when I get paid to send to him. I’m wanting advice on how best to approach him about his Alpha status?
Thanks for the question!
I don’t think you need to worry about teaching him that he’s Alpha. He knows.
What he might not understand is what larger implications that has in his life (although it sounds like he does know that, too). I have plenty of resources here to send him that can start a conversation with him. My book “May I Serve You, Sir?” will lead him through Hierarchy and teach him why he needs to own faggots. My “Letter To An Alpha” is a quick, one-shot outline of that same material. Send him one of them and see what he says.
I have an alpha that I’ve had for awhile, we don’t live together but I come by his place often. I do chores for him, and of course I service him. Though he is a caring dom, he is becoming very strict, which I have no problem with. If I am not up to his standards, he will punish me- sometimes with spankings, sometimes he will intentionally make a mess for me to clean up. It is more frequent when he is in a bad mood.
The weird part is that I always enjoy when he is like this. I really enjoy being humiliated, and I like the discipline. It makes me a better faggot for him- I don’t want to slack off. It’s never abusive or physically harmful, he is just in charge and I feel like he has the right to. Is it common for fags to enjoy this? And why do fags enjoy this? I think his raw, angry, masculine energy being taken out on me (and my holes) just brings me a level of satisfaction that is hard to describe. Not sure if this is controversial or that if some fags do not enjoy this.
Thank you for the question, brother!
Congratulations on finding a Master who seems to be hitting all of the right buttons with you! You don’t sound unhappy at all about his more aggressive moments, but more curious as to why it is pleasurable to you. (Hopefully I’m reading that right!)
Let me preface my answer this way: while faggots are a natural part of our world, we are undoubtedly broken creatures. We know our imperfections and inferiority well. We feel it deep within ourselves, this worthlessness and shame.
We are often overlooked hierarchically by Men unless we have something to offer them, reinforcing those feelings of being nothing.
When Alphas treat us in abusive or demeaning ways, we recognize their abuse as “what we deserve”, but it’s even deeper than that. When Alphas abuse us verbally or physically, we feel finally “seen” by them. We have a purpose, and having purpose is deeply satisfying to anyone.
Some of this is closely related to Stockholm Syndrome, but I do think there are compelling variations from that classic explanation of abuse attraction. Faggots are poorly understood by modern psychiatry (if they’re acknowledged at all), so there’s very little specific knowledge to reference.
But having been a faggot my entire life, I feel my explanation above is as close to correct as I’ve ever seen. If anyone else has something to add, please do so in the comments.
Thank you for such an important question, brother!
So, i am now 25 years old and own multiple fags, some my age, others older and most of them younger than me. The older faggots I mostly see them as cum dumps and toys to use to let off some steam and the younger fags, although I do like to break them in and training them to be good fags I also like to treat them almost as girlfriends. But it wasn’t always like that. When I was about 18 till I was 21 i had a crush on a friend of mine and I think I almost had fag feelings for him, I wanted to be his fag. Now, nothing happened between us because he was deep in the closet so I got over the crush and started to own faggots and now I can’t even think of ever wanting to be a fag ever again. So… what happened?? Can a fag evolve into an alpha?? Or was I always an alpha and was just infatuated?? Or am I pretending to be an Alpha now and I am in fact a faggot in denial??
Thank you once again and sorry for any misspealing mistakes, english is not my first language
Master, thank you so much for writing to me!
The issue you mention is something that happens to some Alphas and tends to cause a lot of confusion. It involves a lack of understanding of ALPHA HIERARCHY.
As you know as a reader of this site, I outline a distinct, four-level Hierarchy among Alphas. Like any hierarchy, the lower levels of the Alpha Hierarchy “submit” to the upper levels.
Occasionally this submissive obedience/respect feels almost like infatuation or sexual attraction, because all Alphas are sexually aroused by power. That doesn’t mean the lower Alpha is actually a faggot. It simply means that he recognizes the superiority of the more powerful Alpha.
Sometimes sexual encounters happen between Alphas of different levels, with the more dominant Alpha feeding/breeding the lesser Alpha. These do not result in a “fagification” of the lesser Alpha. Instead, there is a mutual interchange of power. Sex between Alphas is almost like mutual admiration, a shared celebration of superiority.
I believe this infatuation you felt when you were younger is part of your growth as an Alpha. This Alpha you mention was likely a more powerful and developed Alpha, and his power intoxicated you. But I don’t think you were ever born a faggot, Master. Your life since then bears that out.
Now you’ve moved on and became even more powerful yourself, Sir. You’ve ascended, and now know the truth about yourself and your purpose – as a leader, an Alpha. You own all of these faggots, and they gladly submit to your every command because you are a natural-born King.
You were never going to be a faggot, Sir, and you never will be. You’ll always be rightly worshiped, just as nature intended from the beginning of your life!
I hope that helps ease your mind, Sir! Thank you again for writing!
It is a fagot from France. It doesn’t know if it has really a question to ask, but would like to share a few things.
First of all, you won’t like it, but it is maried to a woman since 30 years and love her, but does not have sex with her anymore. Therefore being a fagot is not easy. Anyway it knows its place in the hierarchy probably since ever. It will always serve and submit to Alpha in any situation.
It doesn’t only serve Alpha, since there are a lot of Men, shy, Muslim, maried, old or whatever that need a mouth and sometimes an ass to empty their balls and it is happy to help.
It is really lucky to be owned by a wonderful Master since 6 months. Master likes to get a massage and it really improved a lot its skills. It is really proud to please its Master and still works to give better service.
Master is not really into giving pain, and it misses it but has no right to complain. Nevertheless it has been beaten on ass and balls recently because it did a big mistake and needed to be punished : it did play with its clit and of course it ended in cuming. Not real orgasm, hopefully, just a failed one. But Master was really angry and it was really ashamed.
Beating the slave was not the only punishment. The real one was to devoid the slave the right to serve Master in any other way than massage : it was stopped when trying to lick His feet, His ass or His balls. It was of course not allowed to suck Him or be fucked by Him. That’s a real punishment. Master said He’d better masturbate and use a tissue to clean His cock than use the slave. Of course Master is right.
It is really impressive to see how it is craving to serve and worship its Master. It is suppose to be born as a Male, but it is obviously not. It is not looking for any kind of sexual pleasure. Just try to serve. Does a fagot got pleasure when it licks feet or ass or cock? Of course not. But it can’t do anything to repress it from doing it. And is so sad when it is not allowed to do it.
It seems that is so easy for Alpha since fagot are so willing to serve They don’t even have to dominate. But the truth is that fagot will not submit and serve any Man the same way. It will always be helpful to empty balls. But it will only submit and worship Alpha as soon as they smell Them. There is not question. Just the urge to kneel.
Thanks a lot brother for your work here. It for sure helps a lot of fagot and some Alpha to better know what they are and be happy in finding their place in the hierarchy. And also thanks to be very clear about destroyer Alpha.
Thank you brother for sharing your experience! No matter what circumstances we have, we can still make ourselves useful to Alphas!
St. Louis native Joey Mills has always remained true to his natural calling as a faggot, even during his professional porn days when he was being directed to take top roles.
In fact, Joey’s example of tireless submission has been as instrumental as anything else in helping an entire generation of faggots accept themselves and their purpose. My site and others like mine have definitely taught faggots hierarchical truth, but Joey is a living application of those truths.
I’m forever grateful for Joey, my little brother.
Joey’s at nearly one million followers on X, a stunning accomplishment for a faggot. He has transitioned into a successful independent porn star, and he now has the money and fame to do what he wants.
Which is why I’ve been curiously watching Joey in little meet-ups like this one with a relatively unknown Alpha like Master Jake @maxandjake2:
Why is a huge porn star like Joey servicing Master Jake while wearing a metal collar and being humiliated by him?
The answer is obvious: he’s a true faggot. He’s doing what he MUST do.
Here’s another example from today that led me to finally write about this. Findom Master @blakesadistic has become a purposefully/divisive figure in the space because of his cold, cruel attitude toward his faggots. But for a teacher of hierarchy like me, Master Blake represents absolute truths of the philosophy.
But he really surprised me when he posted this:
WHAT?!? Joey Mills is not a findom faggot too, is he?
Yes, it’s true! According to Master Blake, Joey tributed “hundreds” of dollars to him after mere minutes of Alpha influence!
Which begs the question: why would a huge porn star like Joey, a guy who gets famous Alpha dick all the time, feel the need to submit to a findom cashmaster with less than 13K followers??
Because Joey was born a faggot!
Being a faggot is not a choice. The only choice we really have is whether we are going accept it and embrace it, or if we are going to live an unfulfilling lie.
I’m so proud of my little brother Joey for embracing his truth at a young age and experiencing the fulfillment that brings. True, not all faggots will become financially independent as a professional porn faggot, but all fags can experience the same fulfillment!
The following post is part of a thread chronicling the development of a young Mexican Alpha named Master Jose. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!
Some Alphas lead with their dicks. Other Alphas lead with their cunning. Still others lead through brute force.
But some Alphas lead with their heart.
It’s a shame more faggots don’t appreciate such Alphas and serve them as they deserve. If they did, they’d discover the richness possible in being the faggot to such an Alpha, because that heart-led Alpha would appreciate their service. These Alphas bind up wounds and compliment freely and give honest encouragement.
Faggots think such Alphas don’t exist, but I know they do because I’ve not only served them, but because I’ve also come to know Mexican Alpha Master Jose.
One of my very favorite aspects of Master Jose’s personality is his open-hearted and humble honesty. It can be breathtaking sometimes.
Here’s what he wrote to me yesterday following my post about his time in Master Lorenzo’s Alpha paradise:
Hey, Sam This is Jose of Mexico, Lorenzo’s Alpha brother. I am back in home in Mexico after the time with him and I want to tell you some things.
First of all and more important, I want to apologize for way I and the guys disappeared for 4 months. I had a long phone call with Lorenzo today, we talked a lot about you, and how amazing you are. Lorenzo said that he explained to you what was happening before we took our little break outside the virtual world. But he also said that he was guilty when he saw your post saying that you felt abandoned. He said (and I agree) that we could’ve been more clear about just being a break from Internet, not a goodbye. And we finished our phone call saying how proud of you we are and making plans on our next Alpha vacations together. So Sam, this is my message from me, Lorenzo and Juan, the three Alphas you know very well: WE LOVE YOU AND WE ARE SO PROUD OF YOU. Lorenzo thinks you’re not upset or disappointed anymore after his update last night, but I just want to make sure you’re not mad because you and your work really changed my life. You’re a good boy and my favorite faggot on Earth, ok?
Now, I will change the topic to talk about something important for all of us: yes, I sucked Lorenzo’s cock 5 times while I was at his house and swallowed his cum. I need to understand more about myself and my Alphahood and I know you can help me with this. When I arrived in his house I was really nervous because I wanted to fuck Gio of course, but I also couldn’t stop thinking about Lorenzo’s thick dick. But I noticed thanks to his power that I am not a faggot at all, I am a man, a powerful Alpha, but won’t be powerful like him! And that’s okay! I don’t feel like a faggot just because I’m not a God Alpha like him. When he put his cock in my mouth for the first time, I did not feel like a faggot, but I felt that I was doing the right thing. He became a real brother to me, my best friend, and mentor. So when his hard cock touched my lips I thought that serving him was my way to recognize the respect he deserves. Juan for example would never never never put a dick in his mouth, so I guess he is a God Alpha like Lorenzo. You know that Juan turned Bruno into a obedient faggot in a few minutes, so he really knows what he’s doing!! It’s so beautiful to see Lorenzo and Juan fucking fags side by side, they mount and conquer as if it were the most simple thing for them.
I learned a lot with Lorenzo and I feel happy and much more powerful. I’ve been hunting fags in the grindr and found many easy holes around me. Crazy thing, after having Lorenzo’s cum in my stomach, I felt a much stronger desire to breed and conquer fags. So Sam, I know Lorenzo wants to fuck my ass too, but I said that I didn’t know and he respected that (really nice guy!) We talked a lot about that in our conversation this morning and I told him that I needed to think and want your opinion also. I know that next time I go to his house he will be very interested in fucking my virgin ass… I am not scared or afraid but I don’t know if that’s too much. Is it possible to still be an Alpha conquer and fucker after a more powerful Alpha breed me?? He said that he will be gentle and I will feel even more Alpha but I’m confused.
I love you a lot Sam! Thank you for being an amazing faggot for us!
What can I even say about that first part of Master Jose’s touching letter? I thank him endlessly for such kindness and encouragement. It means so much more to me than anyone could ever know to hear such commendation from my superiors! I thank Master Jose, Master Lorenzo, and Master Juan for their love and support! It is my great honor to serve them however I can!
After that Master Jose tackles the fact that he sucked Master Lorenzo’s dick and swallowed his cum multiple times during their stay in paradise together (once more demonstrating his humble honesty!).
I know lots of faggots out there are immediately saying that Master Jose is a beta or faggot because of this, but they’re wrong. Notice what Master Jose says happened to him once he submitted himself to his Alpha superior: he was energized and eager to fuck and breed faggots!
Notice how his reaction is radically different than that of Bruno, who was once a misguided Alpha Master until the day Master Juan took him and fed him his dick … and Bruno instantly realized he was really a faggot!
Master Jose’s reaction is the exact opposite of Bruno’s. Why?
The mechanisms are complex (I really need to finish writing my post about this phenomenon), but they involve Hierarchical standing. You see, when Master Jose submitted to Master Lorenzo, he was essentially “paying tribute” to him, one lesser Alpha to another greater one. For Master Jose, doing this reinforces his place within Hierarchy, and (as always) this gave him peace of mind as well as renewed purpose.
Master Jose went to Master Lorenzo’s home with subconscious questions about himself and his Alphahood. Through submission to a God Alpha and the fucking of his faggots, Master Jose was able to answer his questions and relax in his proper role.
He’s a leader. A breeder. An Alpha.
Master Jose asks if getting bred will change him. From what I know about Alphas breeding Alphas (primarily from Master Chad), I’d say taking Master Lorenzo’s cum this way will not change Master Jose’s need to own and use faggots.
We might look at this situation like fraternity brothers humiliating a pledge before letting him in the fraternity. After the pledge is tested, the pledge becomes an equal brother in the fraternity.
Master Jose is part of the Alpha fraternity. Master Lorenzo wants to test Master Jose by feeding and breeding him. But there is no doubt Master Jose should be standing shoulder-to-shoulder with his Alpha brothers!
I thank you, Master Jose, for sharing your heart with me and for trusting me with it! I will always protect it and cherish it!
I’m a regular user of The Blowers and have had very satisfying experiences with a bunch of cocksuckers there. I was looking for your profile but couldn’t find you. What‘s your profile name? You mentioned it in at least one podcast episode but didn’t show in search.
Thank you for writing to me Sir! I’m glad you’re loving the easy access to faggot throat! It’s just what Men like you deserve!
Yeah, my previous account on that site was tied to my largest X account, so when I lost my X account I also lost The Blowers account.
My newest account on TheBlowers is simply called “Hierarchy”. It’s also tied to my biggest X account, @hierarchy_uni.
Hey how are you all I’m like brand new barely out the box realized I’m a faggot and I was looking into how to become someones full time bitch?
any tips or tricks into how I go about it ?
Thanks for the question!
First of all, congrats on realizing and accepting the truth! I’m proud of you!
To find an Alpha, start with the Alphas you know in the circles of your life. Start submitting to them in various ways. Perhaps use the resources on this site to open a conversation with him about Hierarchy. If he’s Alpha, he’ll respond.
You can also use apps like Grindr, Recon, and TheBlowers.com.
