Hii Sam, I am Asher. Few months ago I asked you about my situation with my uncle and my stepdad. Well here is the update.

As you said I started to do the household chores, even started to do his part of chores, he would like that as it would give him more time to relax. Slowly, I started to do all household chores, cooking, cleaning and he did notice that. There were even days, that I skipped college to do his laundry, as cleaning his undies is more important to me than some lectures.

Finally, one Friday evening, when we were watching T.V. , I told him what I felt. At first I just was confused with words, little panicked then , but  somehow kept cool and told him that I am a faggot and looked upto to him as my Alpha. At first he went silent for a minute, then he spoke. “I always felts you were a bit odd. I mean with your dad leaving, then your stepdad, then mom,  know it has been tough on you. And tbh, I kinda knew you were a beta, did not think of you as a fag, but… ya it is quite good you told this to me.”

He knew the hierarchy and he himself told me that he was an Alpha. In fact, even my stepdad is. I asked my uncle then does he have any fags. He said,” Not now, but I did have fags coming and going for many years. I would use them, get bored and tell them to never be seen again.”

Seriously, it felt so good to come out as fag to uncle. I asked him how does my life change after all. He told me that he won’t force me to do anything as it would be my consent, but I told him that I want to be dominated. He just said me to calm for now.

We had a long discussion and he asked me a lot of things , may of which I instantly said yes to. He said me that I must follow house rules as a good fag or I will be brutally punished.

I will remain naked in the house, take care of all the chores and cooking, massage uncle, eat after uncle, sit on floor and  will be sleeping on a mattress in uncle’s bedroom.

After this, I got naked in front of him and had a boner. My dick ain’t that big or thick. So even my boner is like small. My uncle giggled looking at it and asked if I have seen a thick big cock. I told him only in porn. Then he slowly unzipped his pants, and lowered underwear to showcase his monstrous cock. It had all veins on it and thick as a can. I asked him if I could suck or touch it, but he refused. “You have to earn it”, he said.

He noticed I was constantly touching my dick, so he asked me if I would be comfortable wearing it. I said no for now.

What do you think I should do now?

This is a follow-up to THIS QUESTION from January. 

My brother Asher, it is so nice to hear back from you! Thanks for writing!

I’m very impressed by your bravery! I am so tempted to turn this into a proper thread, because your example is just that important. 

I also really proud that you followed my initial instructions, but then took it several steps further on your own! Nice improvisation! 

It’s really awesome that your uncle recognizes hierarchy and your faggot status (and also identifies as Alpha!), which eliminates huge barriers. Things are going to move fast from here. 

Here’s a bit of advice that you might approach your uncle about: going into chastity. The erection you had was embarrassing and should really be under control, and chastity is the way to accomplish that. Think about it.

Keep me posted! 

Love,

sam the faggot

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Hi Sam the Fag,

Long-time follower of your pages—thank you for creating this space, and congratulations on 30 years serving alphas! I’m reaching out because I’m looking for a little guidance or advice.

A bit about me: I’m a 41-year-old Puerto Rican alpha, born and raised in Brooklyn. I’m a stocky, beefy “bear” kind of guy—hairy, strong, and very much comfortable in my alpha skin. I’m shaved-head bald with a goatee/beard and work as flight crew, so I’m on the move but always up for connecting. Over the years I’ve had a few long-term relationships with guys who were always the bottom, but I’ve never really experienced a true alpha/sub dynamic.

Lately I’ve been struggling with finding a submissive partner who’s serious about that power-exchange relationship. Online and on apps I get plenty of attention, but it never seems to develop into the deeper D/s connection I’m seeking. Sometimes I catch myself wondering if my size or hairiness turns subs off—but I know plenty of fags and subs are into exactly that. Still, I could use some tips on how to put myself out there more effectively, how to spot the right energy, and how to make it clear I’m looking for more than just hookups.

Any thoughts on where to meet dedicated subs, how to refine my profile or approach, or simply how to keep the faith would mean a lot. Thanks in advance for any wisdom you can share.

LatinoAlphaBear

Sir, thank you so very much for reaching out to me! This is an important topic! 

It always breaks my heart to hear such things from true Alphas like you who simply want what they know they deserve, but struggle to find the right faggot to provide it! 

Sadly, there is something of a bias among uneducated/untrained faggots who watch too much porn and don’t truly appreciate the Alpha/fag dynamic at the heart of hierarchy. These ones do not take their natural purpose seriously and really need to be broken much the way a Man breaks a wild horse. 

To that end, you (as Alpha) need to be much more direct and controlling over these faggots. Sometimes Alphas think they should try to appeal to a faggot’s emotions to get them to submit, when in reality faggots need to be commanded (at least at first). Utilizing scent training, foot worship, or even denial will make a faggot crazy for service.

I’m assuming that you’re not having trouble finding faggots, Sir, but if you are struggling to find faggots in your everyday life, apps like Grindr or TheBlowers.com can be excellent hunting tools as long as you’re quite specific about what you’re looking for. Don’t be shy about it, Sir. Say you’re looking for a faggot to serve you. True faggots will respond to this like moth to flame!

I truly hope you find a faggot or two to serve you as you deserve, Sir! I can hear the desire in your words. 

And to my faggot brothers: SUBMIT TO GREAT MEN LIKE HIM!  

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Hi brother Sam,

This is an update one week after I sent my question about how to fully submit to my boyfriend.

Thank you so much for your invaluable advice, focusing on worshiping his feet has worked like a charm!

It’s been only a week after I started subtly massaging and complimenting his feet, and they have already become a central part of his dominance. He now often uses his legs and feet to keep my head in place when I’m giving him a blowjob, and he enjoys making me lick and smell his feet. For example, two days ago he came home all sweaty from the gym, and I immediately could sense that he wanted to fuck. I went to kiss him, but instead he took off one of his socks and put it inside my mouth. He then pushed me against the kitchen counter, pulled down my pants, and started to fuck me roughly while his sock was still in my mouth. After he finished he went to have a shower without saying a word, and left me with my pants down and his cum leaking down my thighs. I think that it was the first time that he did not wait next to me while I made myself come.

Fully submitting to him outside of sex is still a work in progress, but I made some improvements. When he is not home I try to do as much housework as much as I can, and I have noticed that he has started to neglect cleaning, cooking, and washing clothes, assuming that I will do it. Yesterday night, for instance, he started cleaning the kitchen, but when I joined him he immediately sat on the sofa to scroll on his phone and left me doing it alone. I could see that he was looking at pictures of hot twinks on instagram. After I finished, he rewarded fucking me like a toy, and I wondered if he was thinking about the guys on his phone while doing it.

I can’t thank you enough for helping me awaken the alpha inside him a little more, and please let me know if you think there are other things that I could do. Tomorrow he will go on a work trip for two weeks, and I am worried him being away will disrupt the progress I was making.

This is a follow-up for THIS QUESTION. 

One of my favorite things in the world about this “job” I have is giving advice, having the person follow my suggestions, and then hearing that it worked exactly as planned! Brother, you made me so happy with this update! Thank you! 

Some pre-Alphas just need a little coaxing until they feel they feel they have essentially been “given permission” to act out the desires they’ve been suppressing. Far too many pre-Alphas have been lost to being polite and thoughtful and WOKE. Alphas sometimes act (and need to act) selfishly and roughly. Non-PC. This is just how they’re made. 

I knew if your boyfriend had any Alpha in him, the feet trick would trigger it. And sure enough, it did! He responded beautifully to it! You did an excellent job, brother!

As far as your concerns, I wouldn’t worry at all. His engine is now running, and he’s experienced what it felt like to TAKE YOU the way an Alpha takes and uses a faggot. He sees you now as an object of lust, a toy that he owns so he can unload his power and rage. He’s going to return from that trip and practically rape you! 

Nice work, brother!  

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Hello sam, its me Ryan again
Thanks for previous advice
I have been with another master for a short period and once he forced me for watersport and i had to drink his piss, though i didnt agree first he forced me to do it. After i did i was bit disgusted and told him im not comfortable. He didnt try after that session. Now after few months im really craving to do it and get trained and im so scared to ask him to do again. How should i proceed or give him a hint that im ready to do it and get trained without affecting our regular meet-ups
Is it going to be a weird situation that i denied once?

This is (I think) a follow-up to THIS QUESTION.

No, it won’t be weird. If this Master is any Master at all then he will understand that faggots act like this sometimes. In fact, I’m betting he’ll be proud of you for considering it more deeply and finally submitting to his will. 

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In my last podcast I discussed the startling true story of Master Andrés, a completely straight Alpha who has taken on a live-in faggot for sexual and domestic service much like Masters Matt, Jin, and Kyler and others have done. During the podcast, I used that story as a jumping-off point to discuss how important it is for faggots to take the initiative and risk to offer themselves to straight Alphas.

I received some interesting feedback from that story and podcast, but I received one comment in particular that didn’t necessarily have a great ending, but contained a valuable life lesson. Here’s what a faggot named Sergio said:

I really resonated with the end of this episode. I was a beta bitch to my Straight Alpha friend for many years, driving him around, buying his drinks at the bar, putting his needs first. I’ll never forget the day I got down on my knees and really offered him service. I came out of the fag closet and let him know I was his to use and abuse. He laughed. He told me to stop playing. I told him I was serious. He told me he wasn’t interested, he wasn’t gay, and he just wanted to be friends. I told him I knew he wasn’t gay. He declined my worship nonetheless.

We went back to the way things had been, him taking the lead and me following his subtle orders, but things quickly changed. I was serving as his foot stool, kissing his feet and drinking his piss straight from the tap within a few months of the first time I got down on my knees and let him know I was a faggot who lived to serve him and men like him. He wasn’t a violent Alpha, but from time to time he kicked me in my balls and laughed while I was on the floor screaming in pain. Whether it was worshipping his feet, drinking his piss, smelling his farts, serving as his footstool or ball torture, I always thanked him profusely for allowing me to serve. He’d just laugh and call me a fag.

It never became full sexual service, although I was almost always rock hard when serving him, but I was a happy fag driving my Alpha friend around, buying his drinks and serving as his comfort and his entertainment, and it all happened because I had the courage to offer him the service he deserved.

Bravo to Sergio for showing the courage to offer service to this Alpha, but even more props to him for continuing to service selflessly even after the Alpha rejected his greater, more intimate offer of service. The Alpha knocked him down, but Sergio recognized that the Alpha still deserved loyal service and worship! That’s the correct viewpoint!

This is what it takes: courage, humility, and resilience!

Hi Sam,

Great blog, it’s helped me realise my beta/fag side and my lust for worshipping alphas.

I need your advice…I had a straight alpha best friend for 10 years. When we became friends, I wasn’t ‘out’. We were very close… going to the gym, going out drinking (him picking up girls) etc.

He was a natural alpha…hot body, great looks, supreme confidence, controlled aggression, and a big cock (he told me and I can verify as I saw it!). He had the pick of women and would regularly tell me of his sexual activities and how women went crazy over his cock. During our friendship he told me numerous times that he knows he is an Alpha and I can tell he enjoys having control over others.

Some of the activities we would do when I was still in the closet involved sleeping in the same bed and aggressively play fighting in our boxer shorts where he would regularly pin me down – I loved it! Frequently, he would pin me down in his boxers by sitting on my chest with his knees over my shoulders, so I couldn’t move my arms, with me ‘pretending’ to struggle while staring at his big bulge. I loved the submissive nature of it and I think he enjoyed the dominance.

On another occasion, we nearly showered together after a drunken night out but he stopped after seeing I was getting a hard-on. Damn!

Anyway, after around 5 years into our friendship, I came out to him when drunk and he accepted me 100%. I was so scared, as previously he had made some jokingly homophobic comments, but he didn’t let it affect our friendship and would often stick up for me if we went out on nights out etc.

Fast forward to around 2 years ago…we went on a night out and we both got very drunk. In the early hours of the morning, we headed back to mine, where he was staying over. I was nearly blackout drunk at this point. He slept on the sofa and me in my own bedroom. Shortly after going to bed, unconsciously, I went up to him while he was sleeping and asked him if he wanted his dick sucked.

He asked me to repeat what I said and I asked him again. I’ll be honest, I thought this was an actual dream that I was having and in that moment I didn’t have any control over my actions. He left my house immediately. The next morning, I apologised – I was devastated. He replied saying that he needed time to think about our friendship etc.

He ended the friendship. I was devastated, gutted and depressed. I lost my closest friend at that point. Anyway, we haven’t spoken in two years. I still think of him most days. I get we won’t ever be friends again but I yearn to serve him even if it is transactional. I was always pretty submissive to him and wanted to please him.

I have often wondered what would happen if I tried to approach him like you have advised on this blog.

Previously he had confided in me that he is a very sexual man and needs frequent service, when talking about problems with his girlfriend (they are still together).

I would love to worship and serve him but I don’t know if I should try to or not. In my eyes, he is a god alpha and deserves true worship. While we were friends, I buried these feelings as best I could but I guess I have lost everything now anyway.

What are your thoughts?

What a heartbreaking letter! I’m so sorry that this happened! 

Sadly, this is always the danger when a faggot offers himself to an Alpha friend. It’s hard to say whether or not the way you offered yourself might have scared him, but he did take some time to think about his decision. That’s tough. 

This Alpha seems like a wonderful Man, very strong and confident. I’m disappointed that he cut you off without much of a discussion. However, I’m sure he did it because he thought continuing the friendship would only lead to pushing you further into obsession. 

I don’t know if there is a way to resurrect the relationship. A long friendship like this shouldn’t be tossed away forever, and I’m sure he agrees with that if he’s anything like I think he is. I don’t think it would be a bad idea to reach out via a message and just tell him you miss him and you’re sorry for what you said when you were drunk. If there could be a way to just talk, I’m sure the situation could be repaired. 

I know you feel embarrassed and scared of him now, but just be tactful and maintain your faith in the friendship you built with him. Keep me informed! 

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