Hi Sam!

I’m so happy you’re back. I’ve been a long-time reader since basically Day 1. I have a situation I could use your wisdom and advice on – a real world problem of Hierarchy clashing with our world’s warped ideas of equality.

I’m a faggot. I’m not entirely owned or entirely “free”; there are two wonderful Straight Alpha Men in my life who make use of me periodically in different ways, but none of us have a structured arrangement.

Despite my inferiority, I’ve done well in my career. I’m a manager in a small but successful organisation and I just hired for a junior role in my team, where I’m the most senior “male” in the business. I earn a very good salary and have a role of international importance despite our small size. Ironically, the alphas in my life enjoy teasing and embarrassing me with the fact that being a cocksucker makes all of that meaningless. Herein lies my dilemma: we’ve hired a stunning, amazing Straight Alpha male ten years my junior, and I’m his manager. Let’s call him Jack.

Jack is confident, charming, outgoing and naturally talented despite being a career change candidate. He exudes an effortless masculinity. He’s tall, handsome, athletic and dresses in a professional way that still manages to stimulate me (he insists on having his collar open to show off what looks like wonderfully maintained chest hair, and it drives me wild). Just being around this guy puts me in heat. His simple existence is colonising my mind. I can’t help but fantasise about what his cock looks like, or imagine how incredibly sexy he must look fucking what I just know is a thick, heavy, powerful load into his girlfriend. I’m so grateful to be able to experience his divine presence in my life.

As a real man, I firmly believe it is his right to exploit me for his own pleasure, entertainment and/or personal advancement. His masculinity deserves unconditional devotion and worship. As a faggot, I feel it is my duty to serve him however I can, and toil for his greatness. If he were my boss this would be simple (and I have been in that situation before).

But we are now in the ridiculous situation where I am his manager, with responsibility for giving him instruction and direction, and maintaining work discipline. He’s 10 years my junior as I said so there’s certainly a lot he has to learn about the actual job. But leadership and authority? I’m perfectly confident in my skill-set and I’ve earned my position, but ultimately I am just a cocksucker playing at these things because society makes me. That was fine when in the past I was managing women and other fags, but these things are his birthright.

I am genuinely distressed by the idea that this young god is being expected to treat a faggot with deference and respect. I mean for god’s sake Sam, sometimes I go to work straight from servicing one of the alphas in my life. It’s ridiculous that our society creates situations where alpha males like him are expected to take instruction from a freshly seeded cocksleeve. Sadly, I need my job so I can’t take decisive action to correct this injustice. I don’t think being between this stud’s legs is in my foreseeable future.

But Hierarchy is important to me. I know what I’m for and I believe upholding the Hierarchy between males is crucial for our collective wellbeing. I need to be careful, but I also need to find ways to render this stud the obedience, respect and service he is entitled to.

Before I ask for advice, there are two things I’m proud of in this situation about my conduct so far. First, I fought hard to get him the job. The other members of the panel wanted to give the role to a woman of equivalent skill. I used my authority as hiring manager to persuade my boss that he was the best candidate. He made clear he really wanted this career change, and I considered it my duty to ensure he got it. I’m really delighted to have been able to use my influence to help him advance his life goals! I am much more proud of this than any professional achievement.

Second, I am in long-term chastity. Even though none of the men in my life are my keyholder I consider it an essential act of deference and submission to every real man I meet. Whenever we’re together I can’t help but be aware of my cage and I force myself to dwell about how there’s only one man in the room. The whole situation is a great example of why chastity is critical for faggots, honestly. Being caged around Jack both ensures I can’t tell myself lies about equality and condemns me to a state of perpetual cocklust I can’t get relief from, which keeps me in the proper frame of mind for a faggot. Every day after work I think about how wonderful it is he’s almost certainly fucking his beautiful girlfriend or stroking his cock that night whilst I ache in my cage.

So Sam, I’d love to get your take on my situation and any advice you have for how I can be a good faggot. How do I add value to his life, honour his manhood and respect his natural authority whilst being – on paper – his “boss”?

First of all, thank you for your loyal support over all of these years and through the topsy-turvy, turbulent life of this platform! 

I’d also like to congratulate you on the two straight Alphas you’re periodically servicing! Those are two relationships you skillfully cultivated over the years with patience and focus, and I’m proud of you (and them, frankly) for finding and embracing purpose! 

You have an incredible and COMPLEX situation with this new Alpha at work. There are no easy answers to this, either. 

As a long-time reader, you should be well-acquainted with my dear brother Sean, the faggot business owner whose entire life (his ownership of the business, his house, cars, everything) was overtaken by a stunning and very powerful young God Alpha named Eric. I’ll be restoring Sean’s incredible story here soon, but I’ll touch on a few details in my answer to you now.

As one of the owners of the business, Sean had more power and security (possibly) than you do as a manager, but he also had much more to lose in submitting to Master Eric. But right away Sean was being submissive around Eric, offering him his office and things like that. 

In Master Eric’s case, he was vastly more aggressive than I think I’ve ever seen in an Alpha before. He went straight for Sean’s throat and ingratiated himself quickly so as to take over Sean’s place in the company. Your Alpha might not be that aggressive (or he may not yet sense the possibilities). He might need to be coaxed out of that societal cocoon that holds many Alphas back. 

So how to fix that? I don’t think it’d be poor etiquette to ask him out for dinner and/or drinks (you pay, of course). That way you can pick his brain about his point of view, and maybe bring up the idea of Hierarchy (which can be related to the business world very easily). Ask him if he considers himself to be Alpha (he will say YES) and tell him you agree, and tell him why. This will start the wheels turning in his head, and he’ll start seeing things from a Hierarchical perspective.

I had another wild thought, too, but it would be down the road a bit (once you’re on solid ground with him). You could show him the Sean thread on this site (once it’s restored) that details Master Eric’s takeover of Sean. Any straight Alpha reading that will recognize their natural right in that story. Again, that’s not something that can be done right away.

Here’s another potential resource: those two Alphas you’re servicing. Perhaps one (or both, if they know each other) can get together with this young Alpha and you and they can talk to him about what you are. Do not underestimate the Alpha fraternity! They are often quite eager to flex power with each other, and this is an ultimate flex. I would ask one or both of those Alphas their advice as well, and find out if they’re willing to be a guide for this young Alpha. 

This is a very tricky situation. I’ve sketched out of scenarios, and I think any of them can work. You obviously have enough experience with straight Alphas to navigate this without any harm. Trust in the truth! 

Good luck, and keep me informed! My email is hierarchyuniversity@gmail.com 

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Hi Sam, I am a 56 years old fag. I am a big fan of muscular tall strong jock. I tried to find some alpha’s here, and end up juste emptying their balls. But not much more. I would love to try to be a domestic fag, but also, serve my master and his friends, while they watch their match.

Long story, short, I have no chance here with Recon, think there is less of a croud for that here then in US.

I offer my free massage service, but, again, only happens now and then.

I cant help to stare to the muscular guys at the gym. Those men need to be emptied, I can feel it and have their body worshipped.

Any advice how to find a regular alpha to serve here?

First of all, I congratulate you on what seems to be quite a successful record of serving Alphas! You sound frustrated, but that’s a lot of Alphas you’ve served in some way! 

Recently I’ve highlighted techniques a few faggots have used to generate Alpha interest. Faggots have used my approaches, as well as the “Letter To An Alpha” post featured in the right sidebar. I’m emphasizing these approaches because those Alphas in the gym that you’re leering over can be respectfully approached and engaged. Compliments work, asking for tips, offering them help, asking them if they consider themselves to be Alpha … all of these approaches can be utilized. 

They aren’t going to beat you up. At most, they’ll say no. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.  

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Are you familiar with @AlphaLufty?  I think you’d have a lot of grateful fags if you could get him do to a podcast with you (or any kind of interview.)   If you don’t know of him check him out. Would love to hear what you think of him.

I am following him on Twitter. Yes, he’s sexy, but he doesn’t say much. I’ll approach him about an interview and see what he says.

Meanwhile, here’s a clip from him:

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I can’t get enough of your videos, they are so hot.  Is there a website where I can get longer videos showing the hierarchy is on full display?

You haven’t seen anything yet, lemme tell you. My previous version of this site, FWA, had what I consider to be the finest Dom/sub porn collection on the internet. That’s because I meticulously curated them, and I have pretty good taste in that kind of porn (if that is even something to brag about).

You can find porn like this anywhere if you search for it. I like xvideos .com personally.

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Hi there,

My name is Andrew and I am a 49 year old sub pup living in Sydney Australia, with sadly a disability I was born with.

One thing I have struggled with is because of my disability is meeting and having Master & Sirs interested in me because of my disability.

Sadly because of this I have issue with well bladder and bowel issues (I wear pads/nappies since I was a young toddler) and having to most use walking crutches/sticks though can walk without them most of the time.

Dom tops I do meet with somewhat regularly and one off say I do service them well but they say they can never accept someone with a disability as they see it would be an impediment to being able to serve them and honestly I don’t know what to do to change this. I have been working hard to make improvements and pushing a lot of my limitations which have somewhat reduced but it seems it’s not enough.

What can I do to possibly fix this or should I just give up?

I have known I am have been a sub fag since I was fucked by some men at a local best in the late 90’s where I lost my virginity and sucked a few cocks and took a few large cocks up my fag hole but I am beginning to wonder if it’s worth the pain, time, and well effort to try a find a permanent master/owner. Granted I am on the chubby hairy side (103kgs and 5ft8 inches tall) but no matter what I do I just feel it’s never enough to have someone want to own me permanently.

Any advice or suggestions is welcomed.

Brother, first of all let me commend you for continuing to try and find fulfillment in service despite being disabled! I can imagine it’s been very difficult to gather up the courage to put yourself out there and try to serve despite the disability!

Let’s be honest, though: EVEN IN PERFECT CIRCUMSTANCES, faggots have a shelf life on the sexual side of service. As tragic as it is, Men want attractive young holes to fuck. All faggots must prepare for this eventuality and be ready to shift their service to domestic and financial forms of worship. It’s just reality.

Add in your disability, and it becomes a no-brainer.

I personally think service should be low on your list of priorities at this stage of your life. Protect yourself and take care of yourself at this point. Maybe you’ll find love – and that does happen – but in terms of pure service, it’s time to hang it up.

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Hi brother!!
I am 19 and I serve a 33-year-old Master. We live together as husbands, but we are not equals at all. I am totally submissive to him. I love him from the bottom of my heart and wanna serve him more and more.

I am his type (smooth skinny twink) and try my best to be a good faggot for him and look attractive. However, he only uses me sexually twice a week. He usually fucks me on Saturday and Wednesday, sometimes three times a week but never more than that. Is this normal for an Alpha in his 30s? He says I am perfect for him but sometimes I think that I could be better and turn him on more. What do you think? I see some Alphas around my age claiming to fuck their faggots every single day. Is this normal for an Alpha at age 33 to cum only twice a week, or he is probably using other faggots?

Thank you, Sam! I love your website.

Thanks for writing. I’d hate to make any guesses here because I don’t want to create mistrust between you and your Master/husband. I do think it’s unusual that he’s only using you twice a week (on a schedule, even!) when he’s just 33 years old. Alphas in their early thirties are still near the top of their sexual powers, so it’s hard to believe he doesn’t need to empty his balls more often.

Of course, there are other factors to consider. How stressful is his job? Sometimes Alphas with high-stress jobs struggle to get worked up for sex because of the massive amounts of tension in their work life. 

But my gut feeling is he has a faggot(s) on the side he’s using, too. If so, I’m mystified as to why he thinks he needs to hide it from you, his primary faggot. He’s an ALPHA. Not only are they programmed to spread their seed, they have a natural right to use whomever they want. As an Owner of you, a faggot, he should already know that he simply needs to tell you that these are the rules, and you will obey. 

If he is using others, I suppose he’s keeping it from you because he cares about you and doesn’t want to hurt you. However, true faggots are not wired that way. We almost get turned on when our Masters go out and hunt/breed other faggots. It simply verifies in our mind why we serve them in the first place.

I’d like you to show your Master this answer and see what he thinks about what I’ve said. 

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I’m gay and I’m submissive for a while I really believed alpha tops were truly dominant ,but I see in almost every gay guy I’ve met this desire to submit to straight males , even tops. It’s like straight men have power over gays by default because they are “real men” , they are more manly and prone to be alphas. Are we gays just inferior to them ?

It’s not that gay males are all inferior to straight males Hierarchically, because they’re not. The phenomenon you mention (which is almost 100% true) comes from societal conditioning. Homosexuals are almost always closeted for most of their early lives because society expects them to be straight. In many places it’s deadly to be gay. So we grow up longing to be like straight males, or we long to serve them in order to be “accepted” by them in some way. 

Since much of this conditioning occurs in our teen years, it’s very hard to shake as we get older – even for gay Alphas. I have known some gay Alphas who would never submit to any Man, even straight Alphas, but like you said, it’s rare. Broken self-esteem is an epidemic that will likely plague gays until the end of time.  

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Hi brother Sam, fag Andrew here and I had a friend of mine who is also gay change over the last year let me explain. So, my friend of mine let’s call him Peter just because I don’t have his permission to use his real name online he tries to have a mostly private life. I known Peter for around two years and I always seen him as an alpha male we talk, I served him before and for a brief time I was owned by him but due too life getting in the way it didn’t work out. He’s in his mid twenties and it’s been around a year and a half since I talked to him. Now within the last week I reached out to him and meet up with him to see how he was and I realized something changed his spoke lower, his muscles wasn’t as big and he shaved his body hair from what I saw which before is something  he never would have done, and most importantly before he would flirt with me in a dominant way but now I don’t feel any alpha masculinity coming from him. Sam I’m wondering is it possible for a an alpha to fall into faghood?

Thanks for writing! First of all, you don’t really know what’s going on with him, right? You’re just guessing based on some outward signals. Just wanted to get that out of the way.

The answer to your primary question is YES, some gay Alphas can present themselves as Alpha (and may even thoroughly believe it) and then suddenly switch and become bottoms or faggots. (I will add that this happens almost exclusively among gay Alphas). Why does it happen? Well, among gays role assumption is pretty haphazard and fluid. A gay male’s role within the relationship often depends highly on the role tendency of his partner. 

Since Alpha hierarchy is so clearly defined and fiercely defended, a gay Alpha might find himself partnered with a much more dominant Alpha and forced into service through sheer will. Other times a gay Alpha thinks he’s Alpha because of many possible misleading factors, but when confronted by a true gay Alpha, the false Alpha breaks down and accepts he’s a faggot rather than an Alpha.

This actually happened in real-time on FWA right before I reported to prison. “Master” Bruno was living as a gay Alpha and actually owned a faggot named Giovanni. However, Bruno met a true God Alpha named Juan one night at a bar. Master Juan instantly knew what Bruno truly was, broke him down, and claimed him as his faggot. And Bruno has been serving Master Bruno ever since (their story has an update that is still pending). 

So that was a long-winded answer to a pretty simple question. Hope it helps!  

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Hi Sam, I don’t know if you remember me or not but this is the faggot that has the coworker who contacted it on FB randomly and sent a bunch of photos of himself in European type swimwear.

Well I had planned on wishing Him a happy Thanksgiving and I did and we chatted briefly but He said he was at a huge family gathering so I backed off quickly saying I didn’t want to interrupt, and left it at that.

A couple days went by and we’re back in the work week and we both happen to be traveling, Him somewhere warm and He contacted me again. He said he was tormenting old ladies walking around in His suits. He even sent me pics of the two He brought with Him and was wearing. I was obviously very complementary and flat out told Him He is sexy AF (He really is too, He’s a part time fitness instructor, toned, large defined muscles ugh, delicious!). He thanked me and I slipped in a couple of “Sirs” into the conversation. Most of it was extremely suggestive without being graphic but I was very complementary more so than any straight guy would ever be. At one point I even said I think He likes torturing me while I’m at work and can’t take care of the little problem He created and He laugh reacted to that. He actually laugh / heart reacted to a few statements.

So how should I proceed do you think? Should I flat out state that I’m a faggot and ask to serve Him? Or should I see where He leads thing? Or something else all together?

Thank you for the help, I’m not very experienced doing this sort of thing, but I want to get better and better and treat Him the way He deserves to be.

This is a follow-up to THIS QUESTION. 

Brother, thank you for the follow-up! 

It sounds like this Alpha continues to torment you (whether it’s on purpose or not, we don’t know) and you continue to vaguely flirt with him. So largely the situation is still the same as last time, right?

There are still unresolved problems. This guy is (I’m assuming) still religious. And also, you don’t live anywhere near each other anymore. So this sort of flirty cycle is going to continue until either he just loses interest or you finally break the stalemate.

I think you should push his buttons a little bit harder. Show him the stick post “What is Hierarchy?” at the front of this site, or the “Letter To An Alpha” in the sidebar. This will force him to confront reality and make a decision. 

If he rejects you, then at least you know this and can move on. But if he doesn’t … well, that’s where things might get interesting. 

It’s worth a shot.

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Hey Sam, I also wanted to thank you for all the content you put out there. Even though sometimes it can be a bit much for me, you changed my life. I’m one of those people that always had a tight grip on life and wouldn’t let loose. But I always had that very submissive side of me so a few years ago after I bumped into FWA, I decided to give it a try. It’s funny to think about it now but I remember thinking okay, then I have to make my pussy nice for alphas so I started working out my ass which grew quite easily and then that transformed into a full body routine. Nowadays, I get a lot of attention for my ass and men assume it’s just always been like that. You also taught me to be more daring, I remember back then after reading your content I started paying more attention to who might be an alpha and when I was in the gym showers I found one, jumped into his stall and he face fucked me until he came. Since then, I’ve served straight alphas and gay alphas as a cocksucker and just have learned to not only let men use my ass but I’ve become pretty good at milking them with it.

Oh, I also approached the straight alphas around me in a flattery way which then grew into friendships. That influence made me cooler since I had to keep up with them. So now, I don’t really bother having non alpha men in my life since other men usually don’t do well at work, socially nor at life in general. I’ve learned that if the alphas put you in their team, you’ll likely succeed and they’ll build you up or you’ll grow just from being around them. It so funny because alphas really started liking me after I started showing service towards them even platonically.

Nowadays, that all has become second nature and I can gauge relationships better. You helped me release my sexuality and that made me very confident. There’s a certain power that came with living out my faggotry that I don’t quite understand but thank you for all that.

Well thank you for the compliments and the experiences you shared! I’m glad that What I’ve taught you has helped you. I love that you went to work on your body so diligently and achieved results that helped you get attention from Alphas! That’s the kind of humility and dedication that is necessary! 

Your strategy of cozying up to Alphas and developing friendships with them is something I have naturally done my whole life without really ever thinking about it. When you mentioned it, I smiled with the thought that I have always developed strong relationships with successful Alphas and served them in whatever ways I could organically. It’s been a key of success for me, and it sounds like you’re the same!

Thanks again for writing!

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Hi Sam, I hope you’re having a great day.

I am 20y.o. fag, from Spain, and I seem to have kind of a problem but I don’t see it like that, and I just need a wise advice.

I have come across a lot of alphas, older than me, whom I have liked and have given me truly moments when I am enjoying my best ‘fag life’; however, they seem to dislike me when I get into my brat attitude, but it doesn’t come out of nowhere.

I have noticed that the doms I have encountered are so decided to get you, to own you, to dominate you at first, and then… they just become a dead body on the couch giving orders, and I am like… ‘you know that I’ll do anything you ask me, can you just… I don’t know, move? go back to be that man that was obsessed touching me and enjoying me like the object I am’.

Am I the drama? HAHAHAHA thank u! xoxo.

Brother, life is not like porn. You want to have wild sex and be used constantly and treated like a hot sex object all the time, but everyday life doesn’t work like that. Men have lives, jobs, taxing issues on their minds, and (if you’re serving older Alphas) less stamina and energy when they’re older. 

You think it’s supposed to a whirlwind of sex and orgasms and cum flying everywhere, but that’s not realistic. Moreover, the real magic of the Alpha/fag dynamic isn’t just with sex … it’s in the everyday service and submission of a faggot to its Master. 

So yes, you and your bratty, self-centered attitude is the problem here, but you’ll grow out of it.

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Hi sam,  i want to thank you for bringing your site back and giving giving a voice to faggots like myself. So many of us feel alienated and alone. As for myself, i have always struggled with similar emotional, physical and financial issues. The posts from faggots voicing to their struggles are powerful and helpful. It may be difficult and unconventional, but it is fierce how so many are taking matters into their own hands and making their lives better.

Thank you brother for your kind words! I like highlighting faggots who have overcome repression, poor self-esteem, and fear in order to find fulfillment. I’m grateful to ones like you and the other brave faggots who have lent their examples!

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Hey Sam, I’m a faggot from Aus I’m 21 years old about a year ago I had a sub/dom relationship with a dom we both got along and only spoken online for a year but he knew all my limits and safe words prior to us meeting I arrived and everything was going well until I kept saying my safe word and he didn’t stop I got to the point where I froze and saying my safe word and stop I left and blocked him on everything but I haven’t been able to have the courage to put myself with a man or a dom since so I guess my question is am I overreacting with my last dom and how should I get over it, thank you for making a beautiful platform I do agree with your views.

It’s impossible to answer this since you told me nothing about the encounter. What was happening that caused you to use a safe word? Did he rape you? Did he pass go without paying $200 in Monopoly? Because I don’t know what happened, I can’t tell if you overreacted or not, right? 

My gut tells me you did overreact, because this Dom took his time with you, indicating a thoughtful approach on his part. But without the information, I hesitate to venture a firm guess. 

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People seem to need titles for everything so I do not know where I fall in,sub slave or what. I was trained in 1985 my trainer called me piggy1 I was his first to train as a pig. I was tought that I had free will that he did not  want to tear it down but build on that. He said that The person that I am is part of being a pig. I had to learn to accept who I was what I was and what I be used for even the good the bad and those basic primal feelings. I serve a Handler I live my life I am skilled in pleasuring That is what I am used for a pleasure pig so I serve I please and Pleasure my Handler. I have done so for 6 years He is my husband my Handler and I am his pig.

I do everything freely  and willingly. So My question is what am I. I mean I have gone beyond what my trainer taught me. I have a dom side that I use at time but I rather serve more than anything. So what do I fall in. I am a pig I am called still piggy1 My Handler said why retrain me I do everything I was trained as. Piggy1

Many subs want all of these different titles to describe their own particular fetish or interest. There are faggots, pigs, objects, slaves, etc. 

I use the term faggot because it is a more all-encompassing term denoting both inferiority and servitude. The term also ties into the bullying aspect of what we are as inferiors and that need we have to experience that. 

In my philosophy, faggots are all equal in a general sense. I have recently had an epiphany regarding faggot hierarchy, and I’ll be releasing that soon. 

As far as you are concerned, you’re definitely a faggot … but faggots have different skills and uses. There are faggots who serve in a piggy way, and that would be you. I wouldn’t obsess over it much more than that, brother. 

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I do admire your work and all the effort you put on this website, but I have a feeling that you only talk about Alphas and Faggots. What about the middle? Your hierarchy model has several other layers. Could you please talk more about Betas? I am 19 years old, I am very attracted to powerful man, but I don’t see myself submitting and becoming property of an Alpha. Am I a Beta?

Sorry if I sound rude, but I’m in a conservative Catholic family and it’s really hard to find material about that. When I finally find someone gay they want to fuck and breed me as submissive bottom, but I’m not sure if this is what I am.

You’re absolutely right, and I’m always conscious of my overlooking beta males in my coverage. I think part of the reason for that is that betas are generally overlooked in LIFE, and that’s not fair because beta males have done amazing things. Think about someone like Mr. Rogers, surely a beta male, and how he transformed the lives of generations of children. Many great scientists and musicians are betas. It’s funny but while I was locked up I sketched out a video highlighting famous beta males! I haven’t gotten around to it yet, but it’s coming!

As for you, the answer to your situation is still up in the air because you’re young, and because most people are attracted to powerful Men without being faggots. I created a book titled “Are You A Faggot?” which is designed to walk the reader through a questionnaire to help them figure out if they are a faggot. That might be a place to start. The book can be found by following the link in the Book Store section of this site. 

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Do you think it’s possible to be a faggot if the only submissive thing I do is findom? I’m not submissive in any way in real life, except I absolutely love – and feel it’s a purpose and duty of mine – to send money to straight men. I feel they deserve mine more than me.

Thanks for the question! Yes, of course you can serve as a faggot solely through findom. 

But let’s be clear: the way you’re approaching findom is going to leave you only partially formed as a faggot. You’re treating findom, not as a means of fulfillment, but as a fetish. True faggots in findom are wholly devoted to serving a Master through financial means; it consumes their life and informs every decision they make. They aren’t treating Alphas like strippers in a seedy nightclub that exist to sexually stimulate the patrons. No, they’re serving these Men because they are actually superior.

I will add one more observation: your particular situation hints at deep self-loathing. You say you don’t feel submissive in any way in your everyday life, but you feel like straight Men deserve your money more than you do. So your emphasis isn’t on the fact that they’re superior, but rather because they’re STRAIGHT (which in your mind means superior). Don’t you see what that’s saying about your perspective about yourself?

I don’t mean to insult you at all. I actually said more than I intended to, but I felt like I needed to put that out there, too. I hope you understand.

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I need your help, as all my friend could not understand the situation I’m in.

I have been in a relationship with my ex boyfriend for few years, for at least the last 3 years i became more and more a sub for him, even his slave, his toy…

We succeeded to deal with both relationships quit well (dom and boyfriend) for a while, but now, unfortunately we cannot be boyfriend anymore (it’s more about our future than about feelings). I was the one breaking up with him. But we have continued to see each other few times since because we couldn’t resist the envy of fucking together again…

And I just love being his sub, it feels so natural and i can’t resist being on my knees worshipping him.

Here is my question :

Should I continue serving him, even though it might keep us/me in the past, now that we don’t have a love relationship anymore? We are leaving quit far away so we just see each other during some short period, few weeks now and there…and he doesn’t want for me to serve him if I see other guys. Also he would like me to remain caged…

I am 21, should i give up on this quit dysfunctional relationship and try to find an other alpha i can serve for life as I am still young ? Or should I remain at his service because my true purpose is to serve Alpha, no matter what sacrifice it means for me?

Also, he is very dominant but also very loving (mostly after sex) and likes to hug kiss etc… I’m worried there are still love feelings in this relationship, which would not be healthy both for him and my self but in the mean time when i say i’m serving him, i should not choose how… If he wants to use me by hugging and kissing, i feel like i should do it like I do for every other wants he has. I’m not sure my text is very clear but I hope you will get the point… And sorry for my mistakes, I’m not native English 

Thanks for the details. I’m sorry things are falling apart between you and your Master. 

It seems to me you’ve pretty much already answered your own question. Like you said, it’s not healthy to continue a pretense of a relationship, romantic or service relationship – given that your lives are naturally moving apart. This is part of the struggle of youthful relationships like this one. Life gets in the way often even in the best circumstances, and remaining on the same track is always a challenge. 

In my opinion, it’s silly that you would be bound by this Master’s rules if most of the relationship is dead. I mean, are you supposed to remain sexless and single the rest of your life, devoted to a Master who is never around? When does this contract end?

You guys need to move on. If you want to hook up once in a while, that’s fine, but this idea that you are bound to him in a service relationship (and even wearing his cage!!) is just dumb. He will find other faggots, and you will find another Master. Hopefully you both will find situations that work better for whatever life you each build. 

Just not together. It happens. Move on. 

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I think this is a philophical question for everyone… but don’t you think aging is much worse for fags and women than it is for Alphas? I am 45 and my straight male friends and even my gay top friends seem to be dealing very well with his age. My female and fag friends, including myself, are always suffering about getting old.

I am almost giving up on finding a true Alpha willing to own me. I’ve met hundreds and 99% of them just want me as a cash fag or for domestic service. Sometimes it seems that for every Alpha around my age that could use me as a cumdump there are already 50 tight 18-year-old twinks ready to seduce them. The last time I had a date, the Alpha took me to his place, and when I finally had the chance to serve me he put NextDoorTwink on his phone and watched while I sucked his dick. I felt miserable afterwards. Do you have any thoughts on that?

Brother, I appreciate your sincere thoughts. It’s true … we faggots (and females) have a shelf life. Alphas don’t, nor do Men in general. I realize that doesn’t seem fair, but it’s reality.

So we really need to come to grips with what really drives our faggot nature. Are we only a faggot because we get off on the hotness of nasty sex? Or is it about something deeper?

Do we yearn to be used … or do we yearn to be useful? 

I’ve known older domestic faggots who were eventually used sexually; you see, their faithful, high-quality domestic service earned their Master’s affectionate attention over time. But even if we aren’t used sexually, can we still find ways to be useful to Men and be owned by them? ABSOLUTELY. It’s all a matter of mindset, brother.

So stop making yourself miserable by trying to be the hot 20-year-old faggot you once were and failing. Men aren’t looking at you that way anymore. Make them see the other valuable services you can offer them, and you will likely find service rewarding again. 

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Hi Sam!

First, I love you and your content <3 everything you do is so special, I wish I had a friend like you to talk about my life and questions.

I am 22 from Uruguay. I have always felt very submissive at school whenever other boys told me to do something. I feel a natural urge to obey and I’d rather not taking big decisions over my own life. I met a wonderful man a few months ago, he’s 30, very good-looking, smart, and successful in his career.

We don’t use terms like Alpha and Faggot, but he is clearly the one giving the rules. He took my virginity in August after a very romantic date, and since then he has been fucking and breeding me very often, at least 3 times a week. He knows how to be a Man and give the orders, but he’s also very sweet. He taught me how to suck his dick, how to ride him, how to look sexy in doggy style, etc.

My only problem is: he refuses to suck my dick. He told me that he hates the feeling of a dick in his mouth and will not do it just to please me. He likes to rim my hole and it feels amazing, but I really want to feel a blowjob too.

Am I being selfish? Should I just forget about it? How likely do you think it is to find a big strong intelligent Alpha like him willing to suck my dick before fucking me? I don’t mind being a submissive bottom for him, but I am really curious to have the feeling of a warm mouth on dick too.

Thank you little brother for your message!

Congratulations on finding a Man (an Alpha) to serve and worship! I imagine it’s not easy in your country to find someone, so I’m very happy that you’re happy! This Alpha you’re serving sounds incredible and truly perfect for you! 

You may not use the term Alpha and faggot in your country, but that doesn’t mean the roles don’t apply. Men are the same everywhere, and they generally want the same things.

I’m just going to tell you plainly: your Alpha is NEVER going to suck your dick. Alphas in general don’t have even the slightest interest in sucking dick because the act would emasculate them (make them less of a Man). Why would an Alpha EVER suck a faggot’s dick. Ewww … I was disgusted just typing that!

You really need to stop asking him for that, because it could drive a wedge between you and him. Just accept that you are his faggot, his property, and do you best to serve him. 

If you really need to have your dick sucked, then I suggest you go find another faggot willing to suck it. However, I think you will find it much less exciting and less fulfilling than serving your Alpha. 

Hi fag Sam,

Let’s call me Flynn (anonymous purposes). I have always been attracted to masculine and muscular men and I have tried submission but it just didn’t work for me. But in my head, it sounds like a great idea. I’m very sensible to touch, which means it’s hard for other people to get into intemacy with me. And on antoher hand, I always felt like I’ve always been a top, but I’m a very socially anxious person, so I dont’t feel very confident just even showing myself.
I’m working on getting fitter, but I know this is not the only way I can improve my self confidence. Do you have advice ? And do you know how can I explore being a top and a Master (since I also feel like I need to be desired and worshipped) ?

I’m sorry if it’s not very clear but I really wanted to talk it out.

I’m intrigued by your question. I cannot escape this nagging feeling I’m getting from your words … let me explain.

I think I might be the only person in the Hierarchical space to accurately chronicle the phenomenon I’ve dubbed “Alpha Latency”. I’ve dealt with multiple cases of it, and have even helped “cure” a couple of Alphas who were suffering from it.

And I do mean suffer. You see, Alpha Latency occurs when a natural-born Alpha is convinced that he should be a bottom or at least reciprocal. Many times this “convincing” comes from early childhood trauma or molestation. Due to this conditioning, the Alpha does things that go against his natural programming as an Alpha (like bottoming or sucking dick) and it makes him deeply unsatisfied. This lack of satisfaction then leads to even more confusion and unhappiness. 

You sound suspiciously like a Latent Alpha. These desires you kept mentioning in your question (about submission not being satisfied, or wanting to be desired and worshiped) make me think your true Alpha nature is trying to break free and lead you to happiness, but it’s being blocked for some reason. 

I do think you desperately need to try and dominate a faggot. Try receiving worship and service. Get verbal, get aggressive. I bet something gets triggered in you if you do. 

I’m curious about your reaction to this advice. Please give me some feedback if you can. Thank you!

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