Hey there. Very new follower here but love the site, been reading/listening for the last few days nonstop. Glad to have found other fags that understand hierarchy and I’ve learned a lot.

You have any tips on making an alpha feel comfortable being assertive and aggressive? I have an alpha that seems to shy away from being too rough with me, despite me telling him I enjoy it. I’m not sure he understands how strong my desire to submit to him is, and that he should prioritize his needs above mine. He says he likes it rough but he is definitely holding back.

Hi brother, thanks for writing.

I’ve gotten this question a few times, and I am also wrestling with this issue with a pre-Alpha friend of mine as well. It seems like such an obvious and easy thing to us as faggots because we have this idea that all Men are cauldrons of dominant aggressiveness. Of course, almost all Men (and Alphas) are plagued by the same insecurities, fears, and societal pressures that we all face. Some Men (like my friend and yours) are just really nice people who genuinely don’t want to be hurtful or selfish. We have to understand that about them, as well as the possibility that it’s simply not in them to be more aggressive.

On the other hand, I’ve also successfully advised some faggots on how to ignite dominance within their Alphas, so I know in some Alphas this timidity can be overcome. My advice is this: stop complaining to him about how passive he is, since this causes anxiety. Instead, ramp up your submission to him. Always seek to position yourself physically lower and at his feet. Become more subservient and agreeable. Rub and kiss his feet. When he fucks you, put yourself in the most submissive positions and make him feel like he’s a sexual god.

In other words, make him feel like a King. What I’ve seen happen is this type of deep submission brings out the hunting instinct in Alphas, and eventually they’ll want to pounce. Now this isn’t usually something that happens immediately, so you need to remain patient and focused. I’ve seen this approach work, so have faith in the process and hopefully you’ll see success.

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As a fellow faggot I wanted to get your opinion on something. When I use apps for Doms to use me I don’t ask many personal questions. However I was talking to a straight guy on Sniffies and asked for some pics. He sends one with a very obvious ring on his ring finger. I asked if he was married, he was. I then asked if they were open. They were not and I just don’t feel great about that dynamic. We did not end up meeting up and the guy didn’t seem bothered. I have had an Owner that used multiple women and his wife. Even though they didn’t know he was using a faggot at least everyone was aware the relationships were open. Is it unfair for me to ask that the Dom is open with his wife or girlfriend? I feel like it isn’t really a faggots place but it just gives me a bad taste in my mouth.

I understand why your hesitant, brother, and I can definitely appreciate a faggot with a conscience! 

I have served Alphas who were in relationships that were not open, particularly early in my fag career, but like you it started to bother me. Fortunately I then became owned by a few straight Alphas who were either single or informally dating females. That suited me better for sure.

It’s really just a matter of what a faggot’s conscience dictates. However, it’s important to remember that it’s the ALPHA who made the commitment, not you. I wouldn’t beat myself up over it too much. 

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Welcome back! My fantasy to find a master and worship him as a God. Is this happening in real life?

Yes, this happens in real life! 

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Hi Sam! I’ve been following your page for a looong time (years lol) and you’ve been instrumental in me realizing i’m a fag. I did have a few questions that I’m hoping you can help me with, and i’d be eternally grateful for a response:

• I know I’m a faggot. I know i must serve men. However I also have a very successful career and personal life. Is it possible to have both of these things? I’ve been too nervous to serve a Man due to how it could impact my “normal” life, i’ve had online doms blackmail before (non consentually), so maybe i’m just a bit overreacting to that.
• where do I find doms irl? do you have a list of locations you recommend frequenting? I’m not a fan of the whole online thing and much prefer to serve in person and that’s how i think i’d be most successful.

Well it’s nice to hear from a long-time reader! I’m glad I’ve been able to help you find your truth! 

I don’t think it’s impossible to have career success while also serving as a faggot. I’ve managed to do it, and so have other faggots I’ve known personally and online. You might remember my interview with Brian, the faggot who served his Master while also enjoying a successful career. I think the real key here is having a Master to serve full time. This was what I did after several years of being a slut, and it made all the difference for me. I think you’ll find that will be the case as well.

Where to find Alphas to serve? Well, you can always find Alphas to service on apps and whatnot, but you’ll rarely find an Owner there. Honestly, the best path is finding Alphas in your everyday life that you can start submitting to in various ways. Then Ownership develops organically. 

I hope this helps! 

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Hi Sam,

Great blog, it’s helped me realise my beta/fag side and my lust for worshipping alphas.

I need your advice…I had a straight alpha best friend for 10 years. When we became friends, I wasn’t ‘out’. We were very close… going to the gym, going out drinking (him picking up girls) etc.

He was a natural alpha…hot body, great looks, supreme confidence, controlled aggression, and a big cock (he told me and I can verify as I saw it!). He had the pick of women and would regularly tell me of his sexual activities and how women went crazy over his cock. During our friendship he told me numerous times that he knows he is an Alpha and I can tell he enjoys having control over others.

Some of the activities we would do when I was still in the closet involved sleeping in the same bed and aggressively play fighting in our boxer shorts where he would regularly pin me down – I loved it! Frequently, he would pin me down in his boxers by sitting on my chest with his knees over my shoulders, so I couldn’t move my arms, with me ‘pretending’ to struggle while staring at his big bulge. I loved the submissive nature of it and I think he enjoyed the dominance.

On another occasion, we nearly showered together after a drunken night out but he stopped after seeing I was getting a hard-on. Damn!

Anyway, after around 5 years into our friendship, I came out to him when drunk and he accepted me 100%. I was so scared, as previously he had made some jokingly homophobic comments, but he didn’t let it affect our friendship and would often stick up for me if we went out on nights out etc.

Fast forward to around 2 years ago…we went on a night out and we both got very drunk. In the early hours of the morning, we headed back to mine, where he was staying over. I was nearly blackout drunk at this point. He slept on the sofa and me in my own bedroom. Shortly after going to bed, unconsciously, I went up to him while he was sleeping and asked him if he wanted his dick sucked.

He asked me to repeat what I said and I asked him again. I’ll be honest, I thought this was an actual dream that I was having and in that moment I didn’t have any control over my actions. He left my house immediately. The next morning, I apologised – I was devastated. He replied saying that he needed time to think about our friendship etc.

He ended the friendship. I was devastated, gutted and depressed. I lost my closest friend at that point. Anyway, we haven’t spoken in two years. I still think of him most days. I get we won’t ever be friends again but I yearn to serve him even if it is transactional. I was always pretty submissive to him and wanted to please him.

I have often wondered what would happen if I tried to approach him like you have advised on this blog.

Previously he had confided in me that he is a very sexual man and needs frequent service, when talking about problems with his girlfriend (they are still together).

I would love to worship and serve him but I don’t know if I should try to or not. In my eyes, he is a god alpha and deserves true worship. While we were friends, I buried these feelings as best I could but I guess I have lost everything now anyway.

What are your thoughts?

What a heartbreaking letter! I’m so sorry that this happened! 

Sadly, this is always the danger when a faggot offers himself to an Alpha friend. It’s hard to say whether or not the way you offered yourself might have scared him, but he did take some time to think about his decision. That’s tough. 

This Alpha seems like a wonderful Man, very strong and confident. I’m disappointed that he cut you off without much of a discussion. However, I’m sure he did it because he thought continuing the friendship would only lead to pushing you further into obsession. 

I don’t know if there is a way to resurrect the relationship. A long friendship like this shouldn’t be tossed away forever, and I’m sure he agrees with that if he’s anything like I think he is. I don’t think it would be a bad idea to reach out via a message and just tell him you miss him and you’re sorry for what you said when you were drunk. If there could be a way to just talk, I’m sure the situation could be repaired. 

I know you feel embarrassed and scared of him now, but just be tactful and maintain your faith in the friendship you built with him. Keep me informed! 

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Hi Sam – So glad you’re back and able to resurrect the site. Will you be going back and restoring content from the old version of the site? There are some HOT accounts of The Hierarchy that I miss reading about! All the best to you – Faggot Timmy

Brother, thank you for the kind words! It’s good to be back! 

I’m resurrecting things in a better way, more focused on teaching and learning rather than simply being a place for hot true stories (although there are plenty of those coming!). 

As for FWA, I’ve discovered a way to possibly restore the entire database of old stories. I’m not sure about the tech specs to accomplish that yet, but it’s now a very real possibility. In the meantime, I am strategically restoring certain threads from an archived version of FWA because I have hot updates for multiple threads. I want those entire threads to be available for readers.

It’s not easy work, but it’s valuable to me! I’m glad people like you appreciate it, too! 

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Hi Sam,I hope this finds you well,I’m writing today to tell you about an encounter I had with my college best friends straight alpha father-he’s late 40’s married silver fox and a total dilf. Over the weekend I was meeting my college bestie John who I handnt seen in over a year at a restaurant for lunch for a catch up ,I arrived 25 minutes early to get a good seat as it was a Saturday and busy,not long after I arrived johns father Max arrived ,I was a little confused as I wasn’t expecting anyone but John ,he looked me over Cooley barely made eye contact and told me John was parking and would be along soon, he was dressed in a navy blue pinstripe suit and dark black loafers carrying a briefcase ,I asked if he wanted to sit and wait with me , the table only had two seats as I was only expecting John ,he said that was a good idea , I pulled over an extra seat for John but to my shock and delight he spread his legs out and put his feet up on the chair opposite me and his briefcase on the other , “you don’t mind do you boy , my feet are aching from working all day and I don’t want to put my good bag on the dirty floor “ I was to stunned to speak and said not at all , where should I sit I said , there were no more free seats available , right here and he pointed to a spot on the floor next to him , I sat next to him totally in awe of his power and dominance over my faghood , he didn’t even know it , I sat on the floor next to him and people stared by I didn’t care I felt oddly at home , after a few minutes he asked me to order him a cappachino , I waited expecting him to offer cash or card but he didn’t -I stood up and made my way to the till and ordered his coffee paid for it and brought it to him , I thought he might reimburse me but he didn’t , he simply grinned and said good boy , I took my place next to him on the floor and soon John arrived , he had been parking the car , John was confused why I was on the floor , his dad said “beats me, I think he’s comfortable there “ I was flustered and said yes that’s right , Johns dad moved his briefcase off my now seat and asked me to hold it for him during lunch , I obeyed snd held it all throughout lunch , johns dad was in a rush so left after 40 minutes -he had been spending time with John as they don’t see each other often ,that’s why he was with him ,during lunch the conversation was pleasant and nothing out of the ordinary but at one point max did start talking about how his feet were aching and he was looking to get a massage and specifically foot rub on the city later that day and looked right at me , I was turned on and fantasising about his big manly sweaty alpha feet , max left 45 mins in to lunch to go back to work and I was hanging with John but thoughts of max never left my mind , as he was leaving he made me hand him his briefcase fetch his coat from coatservice (John was in the bathroom at this point) and as he was leaving said it was nice to meet you boy and left , I haven’t stopped thinking of him since -Sam do you think max was exerting his dominance and superiority over me? I want to contact him and ask about serving him and his feet but I’m unsure how to or if I should do it ? He hasn’t left my mind and he dominated me mentally that day -what should me next step be and how should I approach him ? Thanks -Kyle

Hi brother! What a breathtaking experience with this straight God Alpha father! WOW! Very powerful experience! I’d like to commend you for how you reacted to Master Max’s power and authority! Some faggots might’ve become unglued or angry/insulted, but you did very well. Perfectly, really.

To answer your questions. YES Master Max was DEFINITELY exerting his dominance and superiority over you! Isn’t that blatantly obvious? Not only was he exerting his dominance, he was doing everything except claiming you right there on the spot! He wanted you to massage his feet, and I think you missed that cue. At least, you haven’t acted on it yet.

My advice to you is this: stop reading me and get a message to Master Max immediately. Thank him for allowing you to serve his needs at the coffee shop, and ask him if there is any way you might be of service to him. It’s just that easy. He’s an Alpha with a supernatural level of Alpha confidence, so you won’t need to do anything more than that for him to take the lead.

You’ve just found an Alpha to serve, brother. He wants to own you. GO GET HIM!

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Hey Sam I really love your content! I’m a fag from Italy, 19 y old, and I met a alpha in the gym. He is 25, super hot and amazing, I starting talking about his training and we got closer and closer. I served him in many ways and it took me months to give him a blowjob. His dick is just perfect and I love serving him. However, he refuses to fuck my ass. He says that this is too gay and he would never fuck a male ass. How can I convince him that fucking my boy pussy is not gay? I already suck his dick quite often but I really want to feel him inside my ass. Thank you, Sam!! Your work is amazing

Hi brother! 

Congratulations on finding an Alpha and working your way into providing oral service for him! You’ve followed the plan perfectly! It does take some time to convince a straight Alpha that it’s safe to let you service him! 

I do understand your desire to be fucked by him, but not every Alpha is interested in going there. Let’s face it: ass fucking is somewhat taboo to many people. It’s just not that appealing to everybody. 

You may not like my advice, but I think it’s accurate: be satisfied with the service you’re being allowed to perform. There are many faggots who never get the chance to suck a straight Alpha, and might never get that chance. You’re one of the fortunate faggots who worked my plan perfectly and is gifted with the chance to suck a straight Alpha’s cock. Just be happy with that, continue to be submissive and eager to please, and hope he will change his mind. 

Hi Sam – great to see you back. I won’t ask about your experience as a fag in the place you’ve been as I’m sure it was what a fag would expect in such a place. I’m sure you’re thankful to be out.

I’m a fag too, and have been for a few years, having developed from a sub to a sex slave to a fag – at least I’m nearly there. Your site, testimonials and advice are what many of us have been badly needing in being our true selves.

I was happy to read that you also have a small dick – mine is only a 5″, thin pencildick (if it gets hard) – 1″ in its natural state and, while I know that all fags don’t have small dicks, it is certainly part of my makeup as one (a sub, a slave and a fag). Like you I wear chastity devices (generally when being used for sex, bit recently more often outside of that).

I wanted to ask what part you feel your inadequacy between the legs has played in your faghood?

Also, I know in my head that an alpha doesn’t need a big dick to be the man he is – there is a huge difference between a man with an average dick and a man with a small dick, and in my heart I believe an ‘male’ with a small dick is much better suited to being a fag. What are your thoughts on this?

Jason

Thank you for your kind words! I’m definitely glad to be out and back in my life!

I know there are a lot of people who feel there is a connection between penis size and dominance/Alphahood, but I don’t see that clearly at all. I’ve served powerful Alphas with average-sized dicks, and I’ve known true faggots with huge dicks. I do think Men with large dicks do have a bit more confidence, but confidence isn’t the only determination of Alphahood.

I’m always running up against this question, and some people want to live and die on the “correlation between dick size and Alphahood” hill. I think I’m closer to the truth, but whatever. I’m just not going to tell an Alpha he doesn’t qualify as Alpha because he “only” has a six-inch cock.

Thanks for writing!

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So I’m trying to worship my straight married trainer: some context, I’ve been knowing him for 2 years now and always found him attractive but lately I’ve been wanting him so bad but he is married so I never made a direct move. A couple of times I message him on IG and reply to his stories saying “alpha af” i call him “sir ” when i get drunk I message him likenat 6am or 1 am saying hey , this is so send a message that I’m interested bbecause those are odd hours Last month I paid him 150$ to come train me at home and I was planning to just ask to blow him but I never got the courage . When I texted him saying he looked good in his shirt and his outfit was fire and he replied thank you. Another thing he is always posting stuff about being Christian like posts that say jesus is king etc he literally has Jesus christ is king in his bio

I doubt you have an opening here. He sounds like a good Alpha who is being polite with your flirtations because he’s running a training business. He’s married and he sounds pretty religious so I think it might be best to leave him alone.

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Hey Sam! Glad to see you back! Your website was one of the main reasons of me coming to terms of being a faggot and accepting that. During the time that you were away, I was lucky to serve an alpha online for a few months after I found his personal ad looking for subs and then reaching out. I sent him a few photos of myself and he liked them and took me in to serve him.

Our main dynamic of service was he would give me a task, sometimes with photo examples, which I would then photo or record myself doing. He would sometimes take these photos and videos, edit them and put them in an online album and make that album public for people to see for a short time before privating the album again. These photos got quite a few views, not just a few dozen but my first time being exposed got 600 views.

The photos and videos I sent them were really humiliating, they had me naked, riding a dildo and other degrading things. Eventually he convinced me to start including my face which he would then edit out for my online exposure, but the face videos and pictures were for him to use and share with his alpha friends (not sure if he shared edited versions). I eventually backed out of the relationship after one of my family members died and I used it as an excuse to get out of the relationship since I started getting scared of the consequences of exposure, even though he never showed signs of abusing his power. He made it clear he didn’t want me to talk to him again but I sometimes think of going back to him and apologizing so I can serve him again, however I still don’t know how to feel about the exposure aspect as it’s quite scary.

So my question to you Sam is, despite exposure being enticing for some faggots, do you feel like it is safe for an alpha to be able to use exposure as a form of service and where do you stand on it? Have you heard of other examples of faggots and alphas using exposure in service?

Thanks Sam for all your work!

Thanks for the question and the support, brother!

I’m not sure why any Alpha would only want a faggot to serve by submitting pics of itself simply for exposure. I don’t understand the fetish, I guess. Maybe the Alpha was getting off on the power of making you do these humiliating things? No idea.

I do understand why some faggots crave exposure and humiliation of this sort, but in my experience the thrill only lasts as long as it takes for them to cum. Then they feel regret and want to take back what they shared. This is why I stopped doing exposure for faggots a long time ago. I don’t have the time to go search for the material I exposed and erasing it whenever the fag has second thoughts. As for your direct question, I think it’s perfectly safe for Alphas do get involved with exposing faggots. What’s the danger for them?

However, my original question remains: what’s in it for them in the first place? Thanks brother!

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Even after all of these years of serving Alphas and the years spent researching and writing on the topic of Hierarchy and the Alpha/fag dynamic, I continue to learn new things. Some of these discoveries have changed my life completely (like chastity), while others spark a more intellectual curiosity.

The term agonophilia is one of those latter discoveries. I’d never heard of this psychological condition until it was brought up in the “Ask A Question” section of this site recently by a faggot named Chris (CLICK HERE TO READ). The condition involves sexual arousal arising from inflicting or receiving pain and violence. This is largely foreign to me given that I have a natural aversion to violent stuff.

But Chris not only craves this kind of action, he has found three straight, married Alphas who love to inflict pain as much as Chris loves receiving it.

In his original question, Chris asked if I thought he should tell others about the truth of his darker, more controversial interests. I’m glad to hear back from Chris, who gave me this update:

Thank you for your answer. I have since SHARED my learning of this actual term with one of my Alphas that I serve. Two are what can best be described as a Man’s Man, they are not intellectuals who’s response I feel would be who gives a shit as they punched my lights out while feeding me their dicks. But ONE, the one I’ve served the longest, 16yrs, is more introspective and reads a great deal about Psyches and self exploration, and he was equally surprised and interested by this, and unaware there was a term (relating more to the type of Man HE is than the kind of Fag I am). The other two are married and both fathers. This one has a longtime GF who IS aware of me, but only as an friend he’s known for years. She IS aware of his past as a stripper for bachelor-ette parties and the occasional gay event, and that I am Gay, but oc has NO idea of the true nature of what he is to me and what he does to me. I broached the subj of him joining us here and sharing. He was not opposed to it but said he has to think about it, since, like me, he’s never shared this side of himself with others. So we shall see.

I’m really proud of my brother for being honest with others, but particularly with this particular Alpha! By being brave and trusting his Master, he’s possibly unlocked his Master’s greater power and a provided him with a better perspective of Hierarchical truth!

This is what faggots do for Alphas (particularly straight Alphas!). By our honest submission, we teach them about their own power and place within the Hierarchical arrangement. Honestly, there is no better way to serve!

Thanks for the question! Yours is officially the first one on the new site!

I was wondering how many faggots (and Alphas) would respond to that information about agonophilia. I know a lot of faggots get off on being beaten, so I figured some would be triggered by it. As far as your central question, let’s be honest – most faggots are in hiding and are extremely embarrassed about their needs. After all, it’s not exactly something that one brings up at a family reunion or in the work breakroom.

That being said, I am someone who has almost completely integrated being a faggot with my exterior life. I’ve never been shy or socially intimidated, so I simply let people know (when asked) that I’m a faggot. Nervous laughter follows, but then some healthy conversation usually occurs afterward.

But I realize I’m an outlier and not the norm when it comes to this. In the real world, a faggot needs to pick his battles and reveal the truth to those he can trust. That doesn’t make a faggot any less than he is (after all, he’s a faggot!). You shouldn’t feel shame because you’re hiding some part of yourself right now. It’ll come when it’s the right time for you, not for anyone else’s expectations.

Thank you for the question!

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Hi, thanks for writing! 

Yes, those are certainly possible signs of being a faggot. The first one could also apply to beta males, but the second one certainly seems like the machinations of a faggot.

I have written a book to help people figure out whether or not they’re a faggot. It’s called “Are You A Faggot?”, and it’s available right now right here: https://fagsworshipalphas.gumroad.com/l/VmrBwe

Hope that helps! 

Love,

sam the faggot

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Hi I’m new to this. Iv always seen alpha men as king, and I mean that literally, they fill the same function on a micro social scale as a monarch in the Middle Ages would have done, or at least that’s how I see it. But I struggle with how to treat them given my rather anachronistic view, any advice?

You have EXACTLY the correct view of them. True Alphas are the Kings of our world, the superheroes of our world.

We should be moved by this to humble ourselves completely and do whatever we can to please them.

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I just bought an Alpha I know a brand new roelx, will this be enough to make him notice me or is this to much?

If he doesn’t notice you after you bought him a Rolex, then you need to walk away from him because he’s too stupid to serve. Would he just think the Rolex materialized out of thin air?

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I ask this question with complete humility and total respect for your answer. I’m a Beta male, and willingly submissive to Alpha males, and I would work myself to the bone for an Alpha that could guarantee that I would be allowed to service him sexually if the quality and quantity of my work were to his satisfaction. My question to you is; am I correct in assuming that I would not be in a position to expect him to agree to anything like that? That if I’m going to serve, it must be with the knowledge that I might never be allowed to be of service sexually?

Yes, you cannot expect a straight Alpha to agree to terms like that or ask for terms like that.

In my experience, the act of total obedient and submission over a sustained period of time will cause the straight Alpha to get turned on enough that he will do something.

However, when serving a straight Alpha, we should always go in with the expectation that we will never serve sexually. We should instead find joy and fulfillment in the fact that we get to serve them at all.

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Hi there. I hope I’m not asking questions that have been answered elsewhere. I’m a 29 year old fag who is married to a great guy who treats me well. We met when we were 19, so we’ve been together a very long time, and we love each other a lot. However, I’ve always had this feeling that something is missing in our relationship. I’ve always wanted to be dominated, to be subservient, to hand over control and decisions to someone. I thought it was just a kink, that I was a submissive bottom, and that my husband dominating me in the bedroom once in a while would satisfy those desires. My husband, an enthusiastic top, and even a little dominant, happily obliged. But always at my urging. And always stopping just short of where I wanted him to go, always cautious and never pushing my limits. He bought me a chastity cage, but he doesn’t order me to wear it and doesn’t hold me accountable when I fail to, so I’m essentially self-locked. And the domination always stops when we leave the bedroom. Over the years it has become clear to me that my husband is definitely kinky, and willing to explore my sexual fantasies, but at the end of the day will always view me as an equal. But I’ve also come to the realization that I am a faggot at heart. I don’t want to be equal. I want to be made to submit, to be told when and how to serve, to make a superior Alpha man happy with my submission. I’ve talked to my husband about this. We’ve had an open relationship since the beginning, and he’s been willing to let me explore these feelings both with him and other men. It’s been difficult though. My husband continues to wait for me to ask to be dominated before taking control. I’ve had a couple encounters with Alpha men who have used me, and those experiences have been incredible and I crave more. But I feel limited in how well and often I can serve due to my relationship, and thus somewhat unfulfilled. I know I could be a good faggot if simply allowed to. I don’t want to be a faggot just occasionally on the weekends. I want to grow into my potential.  I guess I’m looking for advice. How can I explain to my husband that this is more than just a kink? Is it possible that by treating my man more like an Alpha, he may grow into the role? Or that I might find an Alpha or Alphas who can fit into our existing relationship dynamic? I love my husband and I want to be with him. But I know I won’t be truly happy if I don’t become the best faggot I can be. Thank you for reading. I’ll appreciate hearing any thoughts you might have on this. <3

This is a VERY common issue with gay couples. It’s a frustrating one because the established relationship (and the roles in it) acts as another barrier to fulfillment for whichever member needs something different, 
 
Fortunately, a faggot can appeal to a Top much easier than an Alpha might appeal to a bottom, if that makes any sense. As you’ve said, your Top boyfriend has already expressed some amount of dominance toward you. The chastity cage raised my eyebrows, too. So clearly, your Top boyfriend has some interests in dominating you. 
 
However, I think he’s pulling back on it because he thinks of this as a “kink” instead of a very real need you have to serve. This is also a very common problem with Tops – they cannot wrap their minds around the fact that their bottom actually needs to be OWNED and USED like property. But that is exactly what faggots crave, and why we are born. 
 
You need to break through to your boyfriend. I mean seriously, start calling him “Sir” all the time, start sitting at his feet, stop eating at the table with him, ask his permission when you leave the room, start serving him all the time on every occasion. He doesn’t open his own doors anymore, etc. Really lean into being his FAGGOT in all aspects, and see how he reacts. This will either trigger his Alpha instincts (if he has them), or it will upset him. At least then you’ll know. 

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