Hi sam,

A fellow sub here and first of all, i love your content and the information you give out so freely; it is truly very generous.

A little background about me is that i have only truly started my journey in learning how to serve Men about a week ago. In my previous jobs, i have always felt strangely more compliant and more motivated to work hard whenever a Man asked me to do something for him. After years of consuming gay BDSM porn material and remaining a virgin while lost in my fantasies, i decided it’s time i started living out my truth in my late 20’s at the bottom of the hierarchy and took my first steps to make serving Men a reality.

Mentally, i am already training myself to become more submissive. For physical training, a Dom and i have recently started chatting and He wanted me to begin throat training, starting with a toothbrush since i don’t (yet) own a dildo.

i was wondering if you could suggest any online resources to read on how to improve that sort of physical technique before i start really serving Men.

More than that, please let me know if you have any advice on remaining discreet when practicing for Sirs and Alphas while not having total privacy at home with family (my own room doesn’t even have a working lock ffs). While my family isn’t intrusive at all on what i do, i don’t think it’s feasible to lock myself in the bathroom for hours to train my hole or throat.

Thanks for your time sam!

Thank you for writing! (I wish I wasn’t giving it all away so freely, because it costs me an arm and a leg!)

I’m glad to hear that you’re finally embracing your purpose and you’ve already found a Master willing to throat train you! 

If you look in my “Advice For Faggots” section of the site there are plenty of instructional material in there about cocksucking, although the one huge article I did for FWA isn’t in my archive for some reason. Alternatively, you can search “cocksucker training” and likely come up with some stuff there. 

I don’t know where else you should look except to watch the “videos” section of this site, because even at less than a year old I’ve already amassed one of the finest curated archives of blowjob material anywhere. FWA’s video section (which was eight years old) was head of the class. 

Ultimately, there are no articles or videos that can prepare you for giving a blowjob or training your throat. You really just need to get that dildo and begin trying to take more of it each time and holding it in your throat longer and longer. One pro tip: when you feel like gagging, SWALLOW. Swallowing will not only calm your gag reflex, but it’ll allow more of the dildo/cock to enter your throat! 

Good luck!

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Hi sam.

I’m a soon to turn 38yo faggot from Rio and I’ve been dealing with this gut wrenching anxiety for a while. I’m a good faggot. I’ve always been, since I was 13 and served my school bullies without questioning or even knowing about what being a fag was(or even gay for that matter, I actually used to think I was bi) or hierarchy. I’ve done basically everything there is to do in the fag book: being used sexually, domestically, taking a good beating, degraded, exposed, used by my straight friends to kill their “curiosity” on how does it feel to be sucked by a guy – and completely aware that I was being used by that, and I was ok with it. I’ve served alphas in locker rooms, public bathrooms, You name it. I even got to be used to take an alphas brother virginity so he could practice with a faggot in order for him to be confident and know what to do with his first girl. I was used by a straight alpha whose girlfriend wanted to see him fucking another guy (and I only got to see that girl at the motel room). I’ve done chastity (by myself). I’ve done findom. I mean… It was never, EVER, a problem finding an alpha to serve.

But maybe I’m living a kinda early midlife crisis of some sort. My looks is not the same as it used to (I’ve always been chubby, but I gained a lot of weight over the last year and a half due to depression – which is being treated and I feel a lot better now, though I tried to take my own life last November).

I just… I feel like this is it for me. I can’t get a guy (not even talking about an alpha, but just A GUY) to use me. And yes, I tried escort services unsuccessfully. It’s like they don’t wanna use me EVEN IF I PAY THEM. And this last part is what seems to hurt me the most, idk.

I’ve always been a very proud and confident fag. And I’m pretty lost and loosing faith about it to be honest with you.

Any advise for me? Is there a point of no return in the life of faggots where we’re just disposable like that?

Hi, brother. Thank you for writing.

I understand your pain! Believe me, I get it. Aging is something everyone goes through, and it’s never pleasant. We lose steps, fall behind, things on our bodies fail, and other parts don’t stay where they used to. 

The sad reality is faggots DO have a shelf life sexually … but that shelf life shouldn’t be THIRTY-EIGHT years old, brother. But let’s be honest about things … you’ve let yourself go physically, and we can’t expect Men (especially Alphas) to want to use us sexually if we are out of shape. Men are notoriously visual, and on top of that notoriously hungry for young meat. We can’t expect conditions like those to change for our sakes, right? So we play the game as dictated by the rules in place. 

Let’s do a little test, and be honest with yourself: You might not be able to serve 21-year-old Alphas anymore, but what about a 50-year-old Alpha? What was your reaction to that last question? Did you turn up your nose at that suggestion? I know a lot of faggots who would say “Eww gross” or something like that. Do you see how ageism works in the opposite direction?

My point is we need to adjust our thinking and expectations as we age. We aren’t cute little club twinks anymore with our brains fried on poppers or other substances. The parties that seemed neverending definitely have an end. We must change as our bodies and circumstances change. 

But my message isn’t one of despair and desolation, brother. You see, when we alter our viewpoint and expectations, other forms of service can replace the old ways we served. For example, take a look at Chadwick (featured here on this site). He hid in the closet HIS ENTIRE LIFE until he got into his SIXTIES before finally being bold enough to try and be useful to Alphas. And you know what? He now serves SIX Alphas domestically and is more fulfilled now than he ever has before! 

Chadwick could’ve just given up and reasoned “I’m too old and nobody will fuck me so I guess my life is over.” But he didn’t do that! He adjusted his hopes and expectations, and instead figured out how he can be USEFUL. And sure enough, he discovered that he can, indeed, be very useful! 

And so can you! So pick yourself up, shake off the pity party, and get yourself back in the game. You’re too young and definitely too USEFUL to be feeling this despondent! 

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Hey fag,

Alpha Brock here. I’ve been a reader of the site for years now and have often come back to it just for the amusing stories, but in my early days of recognizing my role in the hierarchy, several of your articles were helpful in helping me find and embrace my nature, and all that is owed to me.

I’ve recently stumbled across a new boy who I can tell is a faggot, but he’s hesitant to use the label and is not familiar with the hierarchy. I’ve had a brief conversation with him about it, and I think he’s receptive to the idea, but I was wondering if you had any good links that I could share with him for him to read up on the nature of a faggot so that he can start to see himself for what you truly is and embrace his nature. I think there used to be something like this on the old site, but I can’t find it now. If you have a single article or a list of a couple that I could send him, that would be great. I’m going to send him the one on cunting, but if there are any base level primers, that’s what I need for him.

Thanks!

Master, thank you for writing! I always love when the Alphas lurking on the site make themselves known! 

First of all, congratulations on finding a new faggot! What you (and other Alphas) are doing by teaching a faggot about its purpose is so very important, Sir. Too many faggots end up living in denial, lost in a life without purpose. It’s only when powerful Alphas like you who know Hierarchical truth come along and help the faggot accept itself that the faggot actually finds freedom and purpose! I’m so happy a Master like you is taking this lead! 

As for your request, Master, I don’t know how you could come to this site and miss the giant “Advice For Faggots” tab at the top of the mobile/desktop versions of this site. The link to this thread is: https://hierarchyuniversity.com/category/advice-for-faggots/.

There are a number of resource articles in that thread, including a recent one about the importance of kneeling and kneeling techniques. I would just assign the faggot to go through those posts, Master. 

The cunting video is a good one. I also think this one would be good for your faggot to ponder: https://hierarchyuniversity.com/the-importance-of-the-word-faggot/.

Additionally, the post pinned to the top of this site regarding Hierarchy and its roles would be good for your faggot to examine and meditate on. Your faggot needs to accept that it was born to serve. This might be a starting point.

I hope I answered your question adequately, Master! Thank you for writing!  

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Is Master Lucas just a story?

No. Everything I publish here is true. I do not publish fiction.

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Hi Sam,

I want to share something that happened last week. I work in a steakhouse and the end of the shift is always the most annoying part because we need to clean everything. One of my coworkers is clearly an Alpha, and this day he was acting properly like one. While me and others were cleaning and making everything he was having a coffee and a snack. At that time I was mad about it, I don’t know why, because I’m a fag and I was in my place in the hierarchy. But the next day I saw a tweet from the profile The Alpha Agenda saying “Work more so an Alpha near you can work less” and I understood that I really shouldn’t be mad, I should be happy to be able to make his life easier. It’s so much better when everyone knows their places!

Very good point, brother. It’s sad that this Alpha probably didn’t consciously understand what you were doing by working harder so he didn’t need to. He was just glad that he got paid to jack around and not do his job. 

These kinds of Hierarchical displays often go overlooked, so I’m glad you brought them out! Thank you! 

Here’s the tweet in question:

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Mr Sam,

Thank you very much for your kind answer. I must say I am very, very proud of my handsome son and I would not be surprised if he were bound for a great superior life. I know that most mothers feel that way, so I don’t want to over-interpret. But the signs seem to point in that direction.

Yesterday, I wanted to have a serious discussion with Lucas about this. I told him that I noticed he was dominant with his friends. He told me “They are nice buddies, and they agree they are inferiors to me. They like treating me like their king.” I asked him if he felt like he was superior to most boys his age and he said that he did. “I like dominating lesser people” he said.

I did my best to explain my concerns while respecting his privacy and his liberty. I said to him “You have every right to enjoy dominating people your age who submit to you, and you are free to take steps to make them do so. But please be carefull to not put yourself or anyone else in danger, my love. And do tell me if there’s a problem.” He gave me a big hug and promised to be careful. I trust my Lucas, even if I can’t help worrying for him – I’m a mom!

To be honest, I’m a bit concerned about his lack of a father figure. I try to balance my time as best I can between pursuing my career and taking care of my son, but I haven’t found the strong, powerful man I have been looking for and who could be a role model for my boy. Do you think living with a single mother can be detrimental to his potential Alpha development? Should I find an Alpha male role model for him to look up to?

Thank you for your help,

Sophie

Sophie, thank you so much for following-up on your previous question! I figured I wouldn’t hear from you again! 

I’m extremely impressed by your integrity, too. You went directly to your son Lucas and asked him the perfect questions to get him to open up about his dominance. This is not an easy thing to do, so I really commend you for this!

Given his answers, it’s clear: Lucas is definitely an Alpha. Not only that, he’s probably a much higher level of Alpha than the typical Alpha. These more powerful Alphas (if you see the pinned post at the top of this site, you’ll see a pyramid and explanations of each level of Hierarchy) often own and use faggots in addition to females. These more powerful Alphas don’t care about what inferior society says about their domination of faggots and females, either. That sounds quite a bit like your son Lucas.

The fact that he’s just 15 years old is also an indicator of his more powerful nature. Every Alpha I’ve ever known or studied who advanced that quickly at that age were always the most powerful ones, virtually unstoppable. By the time they reach their twenties they practically have a Kingdom serving all of their needs! 

Your concerns about an older Alpha mentor are valid. This isn’t an easy thing to find randomly around any corner. Ideally, that mentor would be someone he could interact with personally (as opposed to online). He may already have an older mentor at school (like an Alpha in a higher level in school).

It may not matter that much anyway. Lucas is a true Alpha and will develop as such regardless. He’s already become this very powerful young Alpha with only you in his life, so there’s no reason why he can’t continue to develop that way. 

This website is too much for him to really study because I don’t hold back on the porn or the language. However, that pinned first post might be okay for him to study if you printed it off for him to read and consider. I’m open to speaking to him via email, but only if you give permission and are monitoring it. 

I want to discuss your situation with your son on this Wednesday’s podcast if that’s okay with you. I’m actually bumping my pre-planned topic in order to cover what I consider to be a prime example of the truth of Hierarchy in the story of your son. 

I’m very proud of you and Lucas. Just your acknowledgement of his natural Alpha power and discussing it with him helps him embrace that truth even more. And his honest answers indicate to me that he’s justifiably proud to be an Alpha (even if he doesn’t fully grasp it yet). 

You can always write to me directly if you have anything urgent or deeper to discuss at hi*****************@***il.com.

Take Care,

sam the faggot

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I’m 27 and I’ve been on/off in my following up with your content for  years now (since 2021). I wouldn’t say I’m a true believer in your message, though I feel inspired by some of what you’ve shared. In kink world, I’m a switch and able to express both submissiveness and dominance. However, with men I can only describe as an Alphas, I feel entirely submissive, as if I should kiss his feet and serve. It’s happened multiple times in my life, starting in adolescence. In my most recent experience, I was at a Korean Sauna in my area, choosing to take a full relaxation day. After a few hours of circulating between baths and co-ed saunas, I went to a dry sauna exclusively for the men’s section. I felt oddly comfortable being nude, with my 2” penis barely exposed. That’s when I was joined in the sauna by a guy who exuded confidence. He sat near me, spread eagle, and I glanced a peek at 8” of flaccid beauty. He looked at me and bobbed it, winking at me.

Now, though I am into cruising, I made a mistake. I reached out and stroked him. My heart raced, and I began salivating. I felt him up again and he moved near me. That’s when the attendant burst in and told us both to leave. I felt immediately embarrassed, and a quickly made my way out. Somehow my 2” inverted more as he walked past me to his locker and dressed. To make a long story short, he and I were both banned, and he had me follow him to his car. He said he’ll try to Appeal and encouraged me to do the same. I thought he’d take me somewhere to continue, but he drove off. The rest of the day and into the night, the memory of my sheer impulsiveness to touch him was (and is) my greatest turn on. His confidence and power over me has me rethinking a lot, and perhaps perusing more explicitly my interest in alphas is needed. I guess this, and my direct impulse, has me coming back to the question table.
Not sure what advice there is to give, perhaps this was just some needed venting.

Not much I can add here. I’m glad you followed your instincts, because they were right. You’re born to be a faggot, and you should definitely start searching for opportunities like that. 

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Dear Webmaster,

I am the proud single mother of a fifteen year old son. I found your site on the advice of a friend about my questions about my son.

My son is very good-looking and smart. I know many mothers would say that, but some of my son’s behavior with his friends makes me wonder. Lately, he and one of his friends often challenge each other to video games, making bets. From what I can see, my son always wins, and his friend’s forfeit is to kiss his feet.

This week, he had brought over a girlfriend and two friends. She was sitting on the couch resting in his arms, the two boys were sitting on the floor at their feet. Later, she massaged his back and each of the other two massaged a foot.

Reading your site makes me wonder: is my son an Alpha? Or is he too young to consider it? Is there anything I should do for him? My only wish is for him to be happy.

Thank for your insights,

Sophie

Hi, Sophie! Thank you for writing to me! 

I love when parents come to me with Hierarchical questions about their sons! It goes a long way in demonstrating how inborn and pervasive these concepts really are! We are simply born to fulfill roles, and we often really come to embrace them (or try to) during the teenage years. I commend you as a parent that it’s awesome you’re so attuned to these kinds of subtle changes in your son!

Before I say anything else, I want to preface this by saying that sexualized behavior between teen males is almost completely meaningless in terms of sexuality. I’ve known teen boys who masturbated and sucked each other who went on to be completely straight Men; it was nothing more than an experimental phase.

That’s why all parents should react to these behaviors as well as you have! You’re approaching this from a desire to understand it, rather than just lash out and judge him harshly (which happens far too much). I’m proud of you, Sophie!

Now to your question: It’s hard to make a definitive statement about whether your son is Alpha, but the stories you’ve told me make me lean toward answering “YES”, your son is Alpha. His desire for foot worship and service alone makes me answer that way, but maybe more important is the fact that he’s “enslaved” a couple of sub friends into being his foot fags. Not just that, but he’s more than willing to use these friends right in front of his girlfriend and she doesn’t bat an eye. That’s Alpha-level confidence for sure! 

So what do you do if he is, indeed, an Alpha? Well, there isn’t much you can do except try to encourage independent thinking and aggressive action-taking (it sounds like he’s already there anyway). Many times parents want to tamp down an Alpha son’s assertiveness (for fear he might get into trouble), but as long as he’s being respectful and follows the law, there isn’t much else to do except trust him and the natural power gifted to him. 

If he turns out to be the Alpha I expect, then congratulations! Any son is a blessing, but bringing an Alpha into the world is truly a privilege! I hope I was able to ease your mind! 

Thank you,

sam the faggot (the “webmaster”)

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Sam what is going on with California Alpha these days? I remember him from the old days of your blog and he was/is the ultimate.

I don’t know, unfortunately. He’s disappeared. Believe me, I desperately want to talk to him again! 

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Hi Sam,

This is the first time I’m writing to you on the site, but I would like to share my story if you think it’s appropriate. Thanks to you, I have discovered my nature as a faggot. I have learned about hierarchy and my place at the feet of alpha men. I am grateful to you. My name is Antoine (on social media, I go by Lucien, like my crush). I am Italian, 35 years old, and I am a virgin. Lucien is a former Swiss guard, straight, and alpha, and I am madly in love with him. I was fortunate to live with him for a few months in Rome, and I always showed myself to be available and submissive, obviously without telling him anything, but I tried to make him understand my devotion through my availability and by helping him with many things. I also visited him in Switzerland, and those were the most beautiful moments of my life. In the end, we both returned to our own places, and the distance made me realize how much I depended on him. I bought your book “Can I Serve You?” and I found it fantastic. Thanks to our discussions on X, I was convinced to confess my feelings. Since I did, he hasn’t been treating me the same way; he ignores me, we don’t talk on the phone anymore, he says he has work problems and doesn’t want to. I even offered to help him financially, but he refused. I am desperate! In a few months, I will meet him in Rome with a group of friends who know nothing about all this, and he will be staying with others instead of with me. I have become so jealous that I made it obvious to him, and he responded annoyed, “Stop with these childish things, or I will kick you out of the group.” I am desperate, Sam. Help me; how should I behave when I meet him in front of everyone else? I m a faggot Sam, I need to serve an alpha, to be ed by an alpha. Thank you, Sam; you are precious.

Brother, thanks for telling your story here on the site! 

Lucien does sound like an amazing, very dominant Alpha. I can see why you love him and worship him so much!

It does seem like you’ve pushed him too far or been too needy/desperate with him, and that clinginess is bad for Alphas. They don’t like that, and sometimes react angrily to it. You need to relax and be submissive and quiet and let him dictate things for a bit. Perhaps the trip to Rome might be a chance to offer him help or gift him something, but I wouldn’t make a big production out of it if you do. You really need to allow him to take the lead if he chooses. 

This is a dance. Occasionally a toe gets stepped on, but that doesn’t mean the dance is over. Keep trying.

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any updates on master kenzo, or on the alphas joe and joel from the old site?

Believe me, anything I hear about Master Kenzo will be posted the same day (unless otherwise instructed). The thread on Master Kenzo is a new and current thread, so you’ll hear something when I do.

The thread on young Master Joel was an incredible one from the summer of 2021. I found the stories in the FWA archive buried in the database of this site, and they are truly magnificent. However, I went hunting for his contact information and couldn’t find it. I’m almost positive we corresponded via email, but I can’t find him there. I guess I’ve lost touch with him, which unfortunately happens. I hope he’s well!

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Sup Sam, found your podcast just wanted to ask about my situation. Little bit about me, I’m 19 5’5 , a fit 145lbs, hairy, 8 inch cock, but in my day to day life I’m a little bit more feminine acting. I enjoy more gay things like theater, but I still dress masculinely. I think people intuitively expect me to be a faggot but I have found that I really enjoy dominating. I have both dominated and submitted to guys before but I seem to have a knack and a very intense elation that comes with dominating men, especially taller older men. I also have several guys who are long term submissive to me who do any task I request of them over video. I guess my question is am I still an alpha by your standards if I enjoy more feminine things? Love the pod, great jerk off fodder.

– twink alpha C

Sir, thank you for writing to me! 

I get so tired of people putting limitations and enforcing stereotypes on Alphas. I hear these complaints all the time. “He’s not tall enough to be Alpha” or “his dick isn’t big enough to be Alpha” or “he doesn’t have enough muscle to be Alpha” or whatever. I’ve heard it all and I’ve shot them all down. 

Let me just say it again for the Peanut Gallery in the back rows: An Alpha is defined by what he is INSIDE. 

Now, most of the time there are outward qualities that manifest from that inner Alpha (like he works out because he wants a body that reflects his heart, or a cocky walk or way of speaking), but those outward qualities don’t define the Alpha. 

I’m just going to say this right up front: you’re Alpha. Everything you described to me identifies you as an Alpha in my eyes. 

Let me tackle your “feminine” personality aspects: A findom Master by the X name @ServeElRey is a twink Alpha with a scrawny body, a big dick, and he’s extremely dominant. He’s a gay Alpha, and he mounts bodybuilders twice his size. But when you hear him speak, he sounds like a very feminine, “clubby” gay boy. But if anyone judged him based on those outward factors, they’d be making a mistake; he owns many faggots all around the world and makes more per year than most doctors. 

I feel like you might be holding back from truly expressing your dominance because of some prejudice you’ve built up within yourself based on how you think others view you. I implore you to stop doing that, Sir. You are not only denying yourself the enjoyment of your natural Alpha power, but you’re also denying the world of it! 

So embrace your Alphahood, Sir. Accept your rightful place and start building the type of Kingdom you want for yourself … even if that Kingdom has sparkly unicorns and glitter everywhere! (that last part was just a joke, Sir!)

I hope this helped, Sir! Thank you!   

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Hi, any updates yet on a potential podcast episode/interview with Master Jay and Naveen Roy? They have such good chemistry together and it’s so rare to see this in the scene, give the fans what they want to see]

Yes, hello Sir! We are definitely going to give both of our large audiences exactly what they want to see! I’ve been watching you and I’m extremely impressed with your methodical control over your faggots! I don’t know what it is (maybe the whole Kings and Queens aspect of the culture), but British Alphas are especially attuned to Hierarchy and they embrace it eagerly. You are no exception to that, Sir.

I’m very much looking forward to it! Thank you, Sir!

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Hi Sam, I am a locked faggot who got into cashmasters and I feel like I am doing something wrong. Everytime I get drained I squirt like crazyy. Am I doing something wrong?

No, brother. It’s simply the result of being hyper-stimulated during a drain. It can happen. A faggot can still cum in a chastity cage if they are sexually aroused enough (of course, in those cases the cage acts as a stimulator). I wouldn’t worry about it at all; you’re doing good, brother! 

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Hi Brother Sam,

I never saw this before but I think I’m a 25 year old faggot. Thanks to your podcast and this website I start to realize my purpose in life. Unconsciously I have always surrounded myself with Alpha malesthst I needed to serve.

I have sucked many straight guys, like my uber driver while driving, and been a domestic faggot before. And sometimes I lock myself in chastity to serve a Daddy Alpha as a free use slut. It’s never about my pleasure. The focus in the last 8 years has been on being an obedient slut for real men.

But some part of me wants to have a romantic life with a cute boyfriend that I will eventually marry. Do you think this is possible? Or should I embrace being a faggot and cage myself and get on my knees in my thong to serve lots of strong man? Is being a good faggot more important than my personal love life?

Thanks for everything you do!

x a faggot from the Netherlands

I don’t consider this to necessarily be an “either/or” issue. I know of plenty of Alphas in relationships with their faggots – even marrying them! – so I don’t think they’re mutually exclusive options. In my time running FWA and this site I’ve seen four marriages occur between Alphas and faggots! In fact, right now this site has a contributing writer, Zack, who is a faggot owned by a very powerful Alpha Master AND BOYFRIEND named Master Declan. 

In my opinion, it’s best to start by simply serving the best Alphas you can find as well as you possibly can. Any good Alpha will want to keep you for good, and more can come of it.  Either way, devotion to service will keep you busy and used during the lean times without love and romance. The other way around doesn’t work as well. 

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Hi Sam,

I’ve been serving an alpha gainer who’s 5 years younger than me for over a year now. It started off with him coming over and I’d buy him food and worship him and suck him off, and over time grew to me doing his weekly shopping, laundry, fixing his car etc.

He had a bf but still used me, and when they broke up he used me more often. A few months ago he said he mightn’t be able to see me anymore because he was seeing a new guy and didn’t want to feel bad. I reached out to you and you suggested to continue doing his chores, which I did and he accepted.

However more recently I’ve noticed that he seems to be more distant and not as engaging.

Within the past year I’ve had one serious illness, a health scare and a death in my family, and the family house I was staying in was sold and I had to move back with my parents. I was numb to everything that went on in the last year, but it suddenly hit me recently when the house I was staying in was cleared out, and I felt low. I felt like everything was collapsing around me and I was lost and a failure, especially with my alpha becoming more distant. I reached out to him at my lowest and he helped me through it, and opened up to him about my childhood, job, personal life etc. He wanted to keep his life private, which I respected, but said I would love to know more about him if he wanted to talk.
The other day realised I had fallen for him and had strong feelings for him, which I confessed to him. He said he didn’t want me to think something would come of it, and agreed to keep things the way they are for now.

I’m terrified now that I’ve crossed a line and he will slowly or even suddenly cut me off. I’m afraid to message him back in case I appear needy, but at the same time I’m afraid to not message him in case he decides he’s better off without me.

Please Sam I could really use some advice now, it feels like my whole world is crumbling and I don’t want to think of a life without my alpha in it.

Hi brother! Thanks for writing to me! 

Well, you made a tactical mistake by opening up about being in love with him, but I think you know that so I’m not going to dwell on it. 

This Alpha is clearly a good Man. He’s continued to support you emotionally even though he’s moved on to another relationship. He obviously likes your worship and service. But it’s important for you to realize he’s not in love with you, and likely never will be. That’s okay, because faggots can still be useful beyond that.

But you must be okay with your role. You need to accept your position in his life and not be a burden to him. If you are, he’s going to discard you. So reign in your emotions and just allow him to make the next moves. He knows where you belong in his life, so allow him to put you there and keep you there. Trying to force his hand is only going to lead to results you won’t like at all. 

I know this isn’t much *and it’s not easy to do), but that’s your situation right now. You’ve kinda boxed yourself in with your outburst, but that’s also your situation in general. Just relax. I have great confidence in this Alpha. 

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Hello Sam!

I’m writing with an issue probably everyone had struggled with at some point, however I feel like for me it’s too much, and I need help.

Thing is, I always feel like am two different people, the horny and the regretful. I seek out men all the time,  and every time I get on my knees I already feel deep shame, so bad it even causes apathy, where I space out while in the act.
I totally disconnect from my body, and focus on the cock. That’s a good thing right?
Except I feel no real sensations during that time. It’s like I’m blocking it all out. I barely moan, squeal and then mechanically cum.
During and after the act I feel terrible. I become numb for a couple hours, sometimes even days.
Yet I always come back crawling for more. I really can’t get enough of cock and cum and spit and piss and pits and musk. It’s always the same. The before is always amazing, I fire up grindr and arrange a meet up, I head there when the time comes and again shows up my numbness.
I am infuriated that I cannot find my own pleasure in serving. Isn’t it that my pleasure is supposed to be derived from the man’s pleasure? I feel a deep sense of purpose within it, I really love men and love cock, so I push through the stupid feelings and still accept the cock and cum with my whole heart, mouth and hole.

But still, I feel like a failure.
While I do recognise the deep interplay of shame and desire, and how much it drives me to wanting more and more cock, I feel like it is excessive.

Dear Sam, what would you advise me to do?

– vitale

Thanks for the question, brother!

Here’s the problem: there isn’t really much you can do about this.

You’re experiencing two things I’ve written about quite a bit on the site. The first is SUBSPACE, which causes that empty, mindless feeling you describe. The second is THE VOID, which is that numbed ache that you describe after you’ve served that eventually drives you back for more. 

These are both quite natural occurrences for a faggot who does experience subspace easily (as it sounds like you do). This many not be a matter of doing anything to avoid it (because I largely think it’s unavoidable) as it is a matter of understanding what is happening within yourself and paying attention to how these feelings effect you. By doing this, you can take yourself out of a “victim” stance and become more active in how you process it. 

I hope this makes some sense to you. Just know that what you’re feeling is normal, brother.  

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Hi Sam!

I am happy in a long term relationship but would like to also service an alpha male.  I am wondering whether this is possible and if you have any advice on how to make my current partner embrace the idea.

Hi brother! Thank you for the question! 

I’ve encountered your situation quite a few times over the years. The conventional thought is this: you already have a loving, long-term relationship … so why do you need to also serve an Alpha? Most likely this will be the perspective of your partner once you discuss this with him.

Here’s what most non-faggots don’t understand about us: we MUST serve these Alphas. The superiority and dominance of these Men automatically trigger our submissiveness and put us in a state of subspace that acts like a hypnotic drug. Endorphins flow easily as we kneel and serve these Kings. 

It’s simply the way faggots are built. It’s NOT a fetish. It’s why we exist.

This is not going to be an easy conversation with your partner. But somehow you need to reinforce to him that this is something you need as a faggot, and it’s not a reflection on him.     

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Hey, I love your content I truly do believe the fags and alphas roles highly. I’m @Masterofbanks a financial dom my only problem lately is like to set boundaries once I first talk to the fag and get a better understanding of what they should expect and what they also want it isn’t the most attractive because there is nothing worst then the moment your talking to a fag and I have to stop and tell them a boundary so I guess my question is what’s the best way to start that conversation.

Thank you for your question, Sir!

In my opinion, you’re doing right by setting boundaries right away, especially if there are behaviors you will not accept or that you encounter too often. Waiting to set them invites bad behavior in the faggot, which must then be weeded out through training. 

Starting the conversation is easy. A faggot is subordinate and a possession of an Alpha, so like an employer might do with an employee, you simply focus the faggot and tell it your demands. The faggot should be receptive to this, and if it isn’t then you need to get rid of it. 

I hope this helps, Sir!

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There’s a hot guy i admire on Instagram. I tried contacting him and said i could serve, buy his used shoes and pay him. At first he would only read without answering and then he just blocked. Since i found his email i send him a money transfer asking to be forgiven and to be given a chance saying he could ask for anything so i can make up for it and the intensity.

But is it already too late? Did I lost all chances already?

Is there a way to save this and have me still serving him?

Thanks in advance.

P.s. what would be the best one to approach hot Alpha on social media that are pure strangers?

Hi brother. Thanks for writing.

Yes, I think it’s safe to say that you’ve lost any chance of serving this Alpha. He blocked you, but then you stalked him anyway. So yeah, he isn’t going to want anything to do with you. 

In terms of approaching hot Alpha strangers, rule number one (that you broke with this last Alpha) is this: DON’T BE CREEPY. Be professional and respectful and submissive, not WEIRD or STALKER-LIKE or SCARY or DESPERATE. 

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