Hi Sam,

I am 45 y-old Alpha and I have a 22 y-old fag. He is very sweet and obedient. We live together and are very happy. However, I found out that he has a serious problem with findom addiction. He already lost thousands of euros doing this online and finally confessed to me. I could just find another one, but as a Man my role is to take care of him. His addiction led to depression because the “masters” that they served online just blocked him when his money was over. It is very difficult for me to understand why he has the urge to send all this money to random guys online if he already serves me so well. But what matters now is to stop this addiction, he literally lost all his savings, and if it weren’t for me supporting the house, my boy wouldn’t have money to buy bread tomorrow.

Instead of sending him back to his mother’s house and find another sub boy, I want to make sure that he is out of this horrible addiction, otherwise his depression will only get worse. I think I will approach this issue as alcoholism and try to find other coping mechanisms for him, but I could really use some help.

Thanks. I hope you can help up.
Adriel.

Master, thank you for writing to me! 

Findom is a pretty insidious fetish, very addictive and distractingly intense. Victims of findom rarely think about the consequences of the money and time wasted on it because their minds are on a dopamine high. I’ve seen far too many of my fag brothers destroy their lives in findom, and I’ve heard far too many Masters who were more than happy to encourage the destruction for their own selfish ends.

You’re right to treat it like alcoholism or drug addiction, Master, because that is (at a chemical level) exactly what it is. A counselor might be a great thing to incorporate into a “treatment” for findom addiction. I really think you should take away his money and give him an allowance, with increases if he starts to respond positively. Your faggot’s phone and computer usage will need to be restricted and/or heavily monitored. If the faggot isn’t in chastity, that needs to happen. Any cracks in this defense will allow the cold, harsh water of findom to seep back into your faggot’s life.

But there is a more complex issue that involves you, Master. Namely, why is your faggot so eager to sneak around behind your back and serve other Men (boys, for the most part) when he is owned by an Alpha like you?  I understand the faggot may have come into service to you with this addiction, but your ownership wasn’t enough to break the spell. That’s concerning. 

To battle that, you really need to emphasize the disappointment you feel. Your faggot let you down, betrayed your trust, and used you. Those are incredibly disappointing behaviors for a faggot that belongs to an Alpha Master of your caliber. You need to underline this to your faggot, and remind it that it is ultimately just a faggot no matter how beloved it might be to you. It can be replaced, and it will if drastic changes are not made.  

I really want to commend you on your commitment toward your faggot despite these struggles, Master. This touched me: “I could just find another one, but as a Man my role is to take care of him.” Not many Alphas take such a resolute stance toward a possession as lowly as a faggot. 

I’m profoundly frustrated and disappointed in your faggot’s behaviors as well, so I certainly hope you can use your natural power to turn this faggot around and help it, Master. My thoughts are with you. Please keep me informed, Master.

Yours,

sam the faggot

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Hi brother Sam, my name is Luke, i’m a faggot and i am serving casually a gay Alpha who i met on grindr, it’s been 8 months we are meeting regularly. He takes chastity really seriously, that’s a big thing for Him. i already enjoyed it, i know it’s good for fags, but i could never go too long with it by myself. He’s pushing my limits, ordering me to keep locked 24/7 since 7 months ago, we had a few breaks between this time, the maximum i stayed locked in a row was 1 month.

The main problem is: i am able to cum caged, i can’t control myself, when i see i am rubbing my locked clit desperate to cum, most of the times i want just to edge myself and stop, but sometimes i went too far and came. i told Him when it happened and He punished me, but i can’t help myself. Do you have any advice? i know i need to stop doing it to focus 100% on Him and His needs.

Thank you for writing! 

First of all, congrats on finding a gay Master who takes chastity seriously and wants to help you deepen your submission. It seems to be a rare thing to find gay Masters devoted to caging their faggots, so that’s great for you! 

I understand your concern. I was uncaged when I voluntarily stopped masturbating altogether. What really helped me was a deep disgust and shame from masturbating because I knew I was insulting Men. Ultimately I do believe that is the only way to success against masturbation. The correct shame needs to be greater than the pleasure. 

Start meditating on why you serve. Really think about and focus on how amazing Men are, and why they deserve obedience, respect, and HONOR. Forget about your peepee and focus instead on your hole. That is what you truly are, after all. 

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So I love gooning and sending to men who are better than men in many ways, it’s fun and pleasurable and I thank them for letting me serve them. I do serve different people though as I can’t pick one master.

The question, I have for you, is how do I do it offline. I’ve only really done it online thru findom but want to try out Chasity with a master, be a part of their sexual lives and find more fulfillment. I have ur book but I’m just as anxious online if not more talking to someone I like whether he be str8 or gay in person

You start by finding Alphas in your circle of people you know, identifying the Alphas, and making an approach.  

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I’m a college student, been a faggot all my life, started to suck dick right after I turned 18. I’ve this one alpha straight man living on my flat, seperate rooms. From the dick print I see on his pants, he has a massive cock.

We share some classes, he knows I’m gay, we interact every now and then. I want him to turn me into his slave, and fuck me or atleast let me suck his dick.

How do I approach him, and get a taste of that alpha cock?

Thanks for the question, brother!

First of all, you need to get some focus. You might not be able to service his cock, but you might still be used as his slave faggot. Are you prepared for that? 

It doesn’t sound like you’ve had the kind of interactions that would allow you to start offering help or service. You might be able to offer to make him some food or give him some food (always a good opener), but going up and offering to do his laundry might be a bit much.

I’d suggest this: next time you talk to him, ask him if he considers himself to be Alpha. If he’s as Alpha as you suggest, he will say yes. Engage him in a discussion of Hierarchy, and ask him what qualities define Alphahood or why Alphas are important in society. 

If he asks you why you’re asking, direct him to this site and the opening post about Hierarchy. Ask him where on the chart he feels he ranks. This is going to get his attention. He might even ask you where you rank; if he does, you MUST be prepared to tell him you’re a faggot! This will startle him, and he will take it seriously. 

I recently had a faggot use my “Letter To An Alpha” post (in the sidebar) to help an Alpha friend of eight years take ownership of him. You could use that, too. 

This stuff works. I’m offering it to you free. Just use it.

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Hi Sam. I’m not sure if you remember me but I asked you for advice a few years ago regarding a situation with my hockey teammate who I was also roommates with at the time. After I tried and failed to assert myself I updated you about well him using his underwear on me and I wanted to update you. A few years later and my hockey career is over. I lost my edge completely on the ice and couldn’t compete physically at all. Instead of training I spent my days sniffing my roommates dirty laundry and performing chores for him. Towards the end of the season he was performing on the first line and I was a healthy scratch. He knew it and would mock me relentlessly, but he had won. On the last day before we had to leave for the end of the season he finally fucked me. I would putty in his hands by that point and he knew it. He had me in a mating press and came deep inside me and it was pure euphoria. He actually went on and now plays college hockey but I couldn’t get him out of my mind so now I followed him to his college (I don’t go there I just live in town) and I watch his games like a fan. Sometimes it’s so embarrassing because I used to be better than him, but now I just feel like an utter simp.

This question is a follow-up to a thread from FWA dating 2022/2023 that has been restored and read by CLICKING HERE!

Oh, awesome! I LOVE hearing back from old stories and receiving updates! Thank you for being faithful and following up with me! 

I do indeed remember your story! How could I forget it? And while FWA technically is gone, I have the archives stored in the new database and I found both of your “Questions From Readers” from 2022/2023 in there! I went ahead and recreated both posts here on the new site in order to properly present your update two years later! That’s how much I appreciate you getting back to me! 

In my response to your previous question (from January 2023) I told you it looked like you were becoming this Alpha hockey player’s faggot. Looks like I nailed that prediction! This is about as Hierarchical as any story I’ve ever heard, and the lessons it holds about the nature of Alphahood are profound. 

I’d now really love to know if he’s breeding other faggots, or if he bred you just to assert dominance. I’ve heard of some straight Alphas doing this, so it makes me curious now that I’ve heard this follow-up.

You feel like a “simp” because he took away your masculinity. This is a result of your own actions, right? You decided to try and subjugate him and make him your bitch (your words), but he turned the tables and thoroughly did that to you instead. It is purely a battle for dominance, and he decisively won. 

I feel like you’re lost and hiding in the shadows stalking him. You’re pining for him and his power. He bred you with his seed, and it’s now coursing within you. You’ve been claimed. It’s only natural that these things pull you to him.

So why don’t you make contact with him, kneel, and offer yourself as his faggot? It’s what you really want. I’m sure he could use a servant like you in his busy life. He’s already bred you, and seeing you submit to him after a couple of years will instantly demonstrate how powerful he is. He’s not going to turn you down. 

It’s what you need to do, brother. Stop living in this twilight world of indecisive wandering and embrace purpose! 

Your other questions can be found here: https://hierarchyuniversity.com/category/fag-bobby-hockey-player/

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Hi Sam, you may remember me from some months ago (or you may not) as the alpha hockey player who was trying to force his other annoying alpha teammate into faggot submission. You gave me advice about walking around barefoot and naked. Wrestling and attempting to humiliate him whenever I could to force his tendency’s to show. Well… it backfired. At first he thought I was just acting kinda strange to bug him at first constantly walking around naked but eventually I did get him to wrestle me and even though he is much skinnier than me he actually beat my ass. He takes time to remind me whenever he can and started asserting himself more in our apartment. Eating my food, taking my shelf space etc. and since I knew he could kick my ass I let him. Over time it has affected my play and my leadership in the locker room. He’s taken my spot on the first line and my presence in the locker room. Recently Ive been having strange fantasies about him and I hate it because he’s such a dick. Recently I was in the showers with him and he caught me staring at him as I didn’t even realize my dick was growing hard. It was extremely embarrassing and I need to know how to reassert myself. Do I need to take combat classes?

[ archived follow-up to THIS QUESTION from January 31, 2023 ]

Welcome to the wonderful world of Alpha politics! It’s complex, brutal, and necessary! Sir, I’m sorry this happened to you! This is an unexpected outcome for sure, one I couldn’t have anticipated just based on your initial description. However, it does aptly illustrate the electric fluidity of the power exchanges within the Alpha fraternity. So I take it you’re not interested in serving this Alpha now that he has asserted his dominance over you? He’s clearly demonstrating that he owns you to some social degree. He probably looks at you like you’re a faggot (or at least HIS faggot). Many faggots would adore these circumstances, but I can certainly understand why you would reject that idea, Sir. If you really want to reassert your dominance and challenge him, you’ll need to take certain steps. First of all, you’ll need to stop him from taking your food and other stuff in the living space. These are simple rules of ownership (it’s literally your stuff) that should be respected. The trickier part is the physical dominance. How much does this mean to you, Sir? Do you want to risk a violent episode for the sake of your Alphahood? If you do, you’ll need to prepare yourself for the confrontation. As a faggot, this is tough to answer. My answer would be to submit completely, but as an Alpha that might be unacceptable to you, Sir. However, I would add that there is nothing wrong with being his subordinate Alpha brother. You can still be Alpha to his Apex Alpha.

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Sup fag Sam, I reached out to you recently and I wanted rob thank you for getting back to me in a timely manner. There’s quite a few alphas on my hockey team, but there’s one in particular that I clash with a lot (he’s my roommate as well). He’s good looking, but his long blonde hair and thin chiseled body looks kind of feminine to me. We argue a lot back at the apartment, and to be honest there’s nothing I’d like more than to look down on his once smug arrogant face and light eyes as I proceed to skull fuck the shit out of his. He definitely seems alpha to me, but I’m wondering… have you ever heard of an alpha becoming another alpha’s bitch? And if so, do you have any good suggestions on how I can start him on that journey. 

[ This is an archived question from July 5, 2022 ]

Thank you for writing, Sir. If you look on my Hierarchical pyramid that opens the site, you’ll see I’ve created a kind of Hierarchy among Alphas. That is intentional. Alphas have a sort of Hierarchy amongst themselves with lesser Alphas serving more powerful Alphas. How to start that with another Alpha might be a bit trickier, but I think a lesser Alpha (or worse, a faggot disguised as an Alpha) could be baited into submitting, Sir. First of all, you need to be barefoot in the shared living space at all times. Watch your roommate’s eyes. Start walking around naked or nearly naked. Rub your cock/balls within his eye-line, and maybe even talk about how you need to unload. You’ll need to watch carefully for subtle clues (they will be very subtle), and then use any subtle clues to your advantage.  Alpha subjugation is a bit like a wrestling match, which brings me to my next point: wrestling and horseplay can lead to some revealing moments (like accidental boners). If you can, try wrestling around with him and get him in a submissive hold where you can taunt him and tease him as your bitch.  Anything you can do to coax his true nature out of him (if there is anything) must be fairly bold and unapologetic. To get him to submit to you and suck your cock, you will definitely need to overpower him with your own show of Alphahood, Sir. Good luck! Let me know how it goes!  

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I think I am dating a god alpha and he says that I am an Apex. So we like to know what is your definition of those.

Thank you both for writing, Sirs! I love to hear from Alpha couples! 

I go over the differences in the post pinned to the front of this site (HERE), but I will go over it a little more.

I think Alphas in general are fairly easy to define for the most part. They are Men who are superior to lesser males physically, socially, economically, and romantically. 

Among Alphas, there are certain Alphas who seem to be ones that other Alphas defer to and follow. These ones are Apex Alphas. There are a variety of reasons why they Alphas “submit” to these Apex Alphas … perhaps due to their advanced knowledge, their expertise, their looks and physique, or their social/economic placement. Whatever the reason, these “lesser” Alphas look up to Apex Alphas.

A God Alpha is sort of an “ultimate Alpha” amongst an Alpha Pack, the de facto leader to whom other Apex Alphas “submit” and follow. The God Alphas I’ve known easily take over rooms of other Alphas and are always the natural center of attention. 

I will add this: the fact that your partner (the one you’ve identified as a God Alpha) told you you’re an Apex Alpha tells me he DEFINITELY is a God Alpha. He recognizes that he is your superior and your leader and accepts/embraces that role and is able to clearly identify both roles between you. That is something a self-actualized God Alpha can and will do!   

I hope that makes it clearer, Sirs! 

If you ever want to share your story with me, I’d love to feature it. Alpha couples are rare and mysterious enough that I think it would be good to examine it in detail and have a prototype for how it can work. You can write to me at hi*****************@***il.com.

Thank you, Sirs!  

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I guess strict terms are useless and we are all on a spectrum because seeing your post about faggots not wanting romance from their alphas made me think I’m not really a FULL faggot but merely a beta/boy with faggot tendencies because while I want to be dominated and used by my alpha I also want the romance part too – like when he’s done with me I’m the boy wife/his princess even though he is in control and rules and I am subservient to him.

Thank you for this brother! It’s funny you should mention this, because as I wrote it I thought to myself, “This isn’t completely accurate, because I MYSELF have been the recipient of great love from my Masters … and I loved every second of it! 

Faggots are human beings, too, and we hurt and feel love and want to be loved. And for the devoted service we provide our Masters, we deserve some measure of love. Why an Alpha would be affectionate with a dog but treat his faggot (who does much more than a dog) like garbage is beyond me, but there are Alphas like that out there. 

Anyway, yes, you definitely deserve to be loved by an Alpha! 

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I do not serve a lot of straight alpha men, but I do have experience. And I’ve also been fucked and used by men who identify as straight. I have often wondered, do you think straight alpha men will use faggots as surrogates for their female sexual partners? So they are able to live out fantasies and do maybe depraved things that they maybe cannot do to females. Either because they respect their female companions too much and don’t see them as objects to be used and dominated, or because they are afraid of possible fallout in the form of accusations of sexual assault (even if that was not the intention). Do you agree that this is the case sometimes?

Thanks for the question!

There are a variety of reasons why straight Alphas use faggots. Some of them are the ones you mention, especially the fear and inability to really let go and be very aggressive with females. 

But I honestly think the biggest reason why straight Alphas use us is because faggots WORSHIP THEM so completely. It cannot be overstated how important and life-changing it is to straight Alphas when they encounter faggot worship and devotion. It turns their worldview upside down, because it runs so counter to everything they thought was true (according to society) about Manhood and Alphahood. 

And frankly, that’s why my methods and advice work so often, because I understand this one fact and believe it completely. 

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hi sam, i’m loving your answers so i decided to give it a shot (it’s gonna be a long one).

26 year old dom-top here. i’m sure i could be called an alpha. i have multiple fags i use whenever i feel like it. i love forcing them to suck my feet, choking them with my dick and fucking their tight holes. i am pretty aggresive but also keep the balance by being friendly as well. you could say who is the superior one even by my way of touching them.

that being said, years before i discovered i’m a dom, i went to a bottom’s house to fuck him. since i hadn’t accepted my nature back then, i wasn’t treating him like how an alpha would. since my dick was too thick for him to take it from the ass, he offered me to give me a rimjob (first time in my life), and i accepted it. and it was the greatest feeling in the world. i learned that i get the most physical pleasure when someone tongues my asshole.

years passed and now i’m an alpha who owns multiple fags. even though i’m pretty communicative in bed, i never told them i love getting rimmed. i fear it could hurt the dynamic between us and diminish how they view me as an alpha if they see i get pleasure from my ass. yes, i could force them to suck my ass just like how i make them suck my dick (and they would do it), i fear they start viewling me as less of an alpha as a result. plus, even though i like the feeling of getting rimmed (favourite feeling next to getting my feet worshipped), i don’t like the idea of me spreading my asshole for some fag. feels submissive, and it’s out of the queston for me to do something that looks submissive from outside.

so what do you think i should do? will my fags see me less of an alpha if i get them to suck my ass? one of my faggots already told me he hates rimming without me bringing it up, and even though i’m a dom, i respect what my subs dislike in bed. i also set up a date with my favourite fag for upcoming friday (valentine’s day), so what’s the best course of action to let him know that i love getting rimmed without hurting my masculinity?

Master, thank you for writing to me! 

This is a favorite topic of mine, so I’m always eager to talk about it with Alphas like yourself. I’ve long believed and maintained that Alphas should have their asses licked by inferiors (either females or faggots) because the act gives the Alpha extraordinary power over the inferior.

People who equate a faggot licking its Alpha’s ass to an Alpha licking his faggot’s ass are missing a vital component. When an Alpha licks his faggot’s ass, he’s doing it to prepare it for fucking and breeding. However, there is no reason why a faggot licks an Alpha’s ass except to honor him and worship him. 

I suspect that feeling of power and honor you get from having them lick your ass is most of the reason why you love it, Master. Even beyond the fact that it physically feels great. I say that because you compared getting rimmed to your love of foot worship, another form of service that has more to do with the act of worship than it does about physical pleasure. 

You are Alpha, Master. You own these faggots. They exist to serve you and please you however you want or need. 

With this faggot on Valentine’s Day (or any of your faggots), you simply need to say, “Lick my ass faggot” or “worship my ass, faggot” and you’ll definitely retain power (frankly, you gain power in the faggot’s eyes, too). If the faggot balks, you remind it that you expect to be completely worshiped and pleased every day. Again, you demonstrate your power and authority. 

To help ease your concerns, I went above and beyond for your question, Master. I put up a poll on my largest X account (@HierarchyPCast) asking faggots if they would think less of an Alpha who got their ass licked. After a couple of hours and 400+ votes, the results are very clear: faggots overwhelmingly do not think less of an Alpha who receives that form of worship. Here’s the proof:

So I do hope this helps you, Master. And I hope you enjoy your Valentine’s Day with your faggot, and you receive all of the worship and glory you deserve!  

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Hi man. My name is David and I’m 25. My English is not perfect, but I think you can understand me. Here the thing: I live with a slightly younger gay roomate. We got along very well, he’s openly attracted to me but he knows I’m straight and he never oversteps boundaries. Nevertheless, I feel like he’s very deferent to me, and he always compliment me a lot. He’s very friendly with girls and he always praises me to them and encourages them to fall for me. And he loves hearing brag about my fucking them. I must admit it boosts my ego to have a gay buddy like that. Looking to your blog, I’m starting to think I could have him submit to me even more. I don’t want anything sexual, but I’m interested in having a loyal servant boy. Do you think I could take steps further ? And how so ?

Sir, thank you for writing to me! 

I’m guessing by your name you’re from France, and France has a huge number of straight/gay Alphas and a ton of faggots … it’s like a Hierarchical paradise. I say that to suggest very strongly that your roommate is very likely a faggot. Even if he isn’t fully a faggot in the sense that I describe here, he’s absolutely available for you to claim as your own property. 

If you would, Sir, please try this with him. If you can get into a position (let’s say, on a couch) take your shoes off and place your feet in his lap and tell him to massage them. He will do this, I’m sure of it. Then tell him to kiss them. When he does this, tell him to get on his knees. Then tell him that you know he’s a faggot (I think you guys use the term pedale) and tell him you want to be his owner. Ask the faggot if that is what he wants. When he says “yes”, tell him “good boy” and then use scent training (armpits or crotch, whatever you prefer) to help cement your ownership.

Please let me know how it goes, Sir! I’m excited for you to take your Alphahood to the next level!  

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Hi Sam ,this is not a question but a thank you . Yes your methods work ,i took the caurage to fb message my bully which has a gf and never did dudes . You can read the whole story on my blog if interested but lss. he drove 5h by buss and i sucked him 3 times and once he fucked my brains out and it was beyond awesome ,he was super cool in every way and it just felt right. Thank you Sam ,you raised a generation . Btw im 28 now ,he is 30 and he used to bully me ,kick me and call me fag when i was 12. Life is crazy

https://noelwyatt.bdsmlr.com/post/789004069

Brother, thank you for writing! 

That’s an incredibly thrilling story! I think most faggots have high school bullies (I know I do!) who we fantasized about, but I also believe a lot of those bullies were trying conceal an Hierarchical urge to dominate and use faggots through violence. 

Reconnecting with those bullies and opening them up to the possibility of still using faggots is another level of fag skill, and I commend you for accomplishing this! Like I always say: JUST TRY. Be bold, submit, and offer service. Yeah, you might get rejected. However, more often than anybody (but me) admits, they might say YES. 

Thank you for the link to the full write-up. I want to reproduce it here (with links to you, of course) so that people can easily access it. 

I’m really proud of you! Hopefully it leads to more service opportunities! 

Here is this brother’s post in its entirety:

Today was the best day of my faggot life. My elementary school bully visited me and fucked my SISSY BRAINS OUT.

I was encouraged one day after smoking a lot to send him a facebook message and i did. I said i wanted to see how he is and he told me that he doesn’t remember ,that i send a pic. So i send him the cutes pic of me and he asked for more. After a while he kept asking me what do i want from him. I said only to check in because i liked him in school and thought he was mighty hot. He said i have balls to admit this but said he has a GF and doesn’t do gay stuff. I said i am not gay im a fag and i feel like a gurl and dress up as one for guys like him. I offered for him to come to my place (which is a 5h drive by bus for him) and told him i will serve him dressed as a anime girl. He admitted

 he already fucked a trans dude once but didnt want to cheat on his GF. I said ,its not cheating ,because its like masturbating. You are using me to masturbate. He laughed it off and said hes coming now and he might fuck me. I payed for his expenses of course as i ve been taught a good fag must do and gave him extra cash which he took almost as a thing was expected.

ANYWAY ,he came ,real cool ,no difference when he was in school ,he is kind but he is aggressive in every way of his being ,real real hot.
We chatted a bit ,me dressed all sissy slut ,he ignored that completely and kept talking to me as if i was a normal boy. at one point he just took down his pants real chill and commanded with finger to kneel and suck so i did.

HE was very rough and came into my mouth. After that he used my PC to play some Dota and i just sucked him of under the table/ Again more cum in my mouth.

And believe it or not after that he told suck again and this time after a short while to get him a condom. So i did. He rough pushed inside me it hurt so bad. I asked for him to give me 20 sec ,he was getting agitated and asked if i want it or not . I said i do ,and let him mercilessly fuck my brains out. it was so good but unfortunately he had a condom. he left maybe i never see him again ,but god i want his cock all the time.

Moral of the story is . Be a faggot ,be yourself ,please your alpha ,do what he wants and you get an awesome time. And it was ,one of the happiest days of my life and also a major fag score ,getting your bully to fuck you.

Thank you for reading ,be inspired ,you can do it also ,sorry for grammar.

Hey Adam fag Alex again,

I tried what you said, it helps a bit I’m sure with more time it’ll get better. I do have a question about releases. What’s your stance on that. My daddy says that I can only cum when he allows. And that being only analy or with a vibrator. Being as we are a long term couple and I’ve yet to see any stories about a dynamic like ours changing to a master/faggot dynamic do you think him jacking me off should be allowed or should I handle that alone when he allows or should he even allow it at all? Sorry for the back and forth haha I have no one else to ask about any of this!

thanks again Sam!

Hi Alex, thanks again for writing! 

Actually I’ve covered many situations like yours that evolved from a relationship to a Master/faggot arrangement many times in the past. Most recently Zack has been writing about his enslavement to his Master Declan, who used to be his boyfriend. 

And like Zack, I’ve overwhelmingly seen faggots who become faggots to their former boyfriends remain in permanent chastity without regular orgasms. I think there is a psychological element at play there. As boyfriends, you were generally of equal standing. Ownership, though, must naturally change everything, and chastity is one such enforcement device. And once an Alpha boyfriend sees his former boyfriend submitted to that degree, he doesn’t want even the chance that his faggot will want to be equal again.

I think you’d better forget about regular orgasms for as long as you’re owned by him, brother. Learn to adjust. 

Hi Sam,

I sent you a message a few days ago about my violent Alpha Boyfriend. I asked him on my knees if he could be less aggressive because he’s a big strong man and I am just a weak faggot. At first he liked my submission and made me suck his cock for a long time, then he told me to undress, I put my ass up, and he fucked me very roughly, much more than I would have liked, but I just closed my eyes and accepted it.

My ass was really sore on the next morning and told them that I couldn’t take his dick again, but I could suck him as much as he wanted. He said that if a faggot cannot take a dick, it is a useless faggot. Then he got really aggressive and punched me several times, I was terrified and thought he would violate me. But I took my phone and called my father and he immediately stopped. I don’t know if you will remember, but I told you that my father was a really good man and a very different type of Alpha. My parents live 3 hours away, but when I sent the pictures of my bruised to my father he left his work and drove 3 hours to rescue me.

Sam, it felt like a movie. My father showed up and I was crying, afraid of what could happen, and with bruises on my arms and my face. He held me in his arms and told me to pick all my stuff from the bedroom. My bf was trying to explain and saying that it was just a misunderstanding, but my father looked at him and just said “you will never touch my son again in your life and, if you try it, I’ll teach you what it means to be a man”.

Anyway Sam, it was a little traumatic, but I am so grateful to have a God Alpha as my father. He literally saved me, took care of me and didn’t judge any of my decisions. I thought he would be mad at me because he tried to stop me when I moved out, but he only offered me love and protection.

It was a crazy week, but I’ve never felt so safe in my whole life. My father says that I’ll find a good man one day, I just need to be patient. I know I’m sexy and young, so there are other men wanting to use me as a cumdump, but is it that hard to find a Man who will use me but also take care of me?

Thanks for your attention, Sam

I love you!

This is a follow-up to THIS QUESTION.

My brother, I was so mortified to hear this harrowing and scary story! I am so sorry you had that happen to you! I feel like my advice was wrong, and that I accidentally sent you back into the lion’s den to get mauled again. I am so very sorry!

Of course, my original answer anticipated this possible outcome because I know Destroyer Alphas and their sadistic violent tendencies. This abuser (not calling him Alpha) is apparently lacking a brain in addition to lacking a heart, and I’m glad to hear you’re away from him now.

Speaking of brains, I wish your Alpha father would’ve splattered this guy’s brains across a far wall.

I am so proud of the power and righteousness of your Alpha father. He arrived like a superhero, like Captain America, and rescued you. It probably horrified him to see the situation his little boy was in, but it sounds like he remained brave and empathetic and protective for your sake.

So now you’ve seen and experienced both the very best and the very worst of Alpha behavior, a Protector Alpha standing up against a Destroyer Alpha in order to defend the weak and vulnerable. Do you have any remaining doubts about what I preach regarding these things? Believe it, because it is very true!

But don’t worry, little brother. There will be other, better Alphas in your life, Protector Alphas who can use you and also care for you the way you need and desire. The only nice aspect of this story (aside from your father’s heroic actions) is that now you know what you’re NOT looking to serve. The signs and symptoms of Destroyer Alpha tendencies will be much more apparent, and you will know what to do.

It’s awful that you had to learn it this way, but your learned it and learned it YOUNG. You still have plenty of years left to get lost in service to amazing and virtuous Alphas. They DO exist, so definitely don’t give up, angel.

I love you!

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I wanna share something with you, Sam. When I was 18 and virgin, I met a guy on Grindr. I went to his house, but when he started to fuck me, my hole wasn’t perfectly clean. He got mad, called me disgusting, and expelled me from his place. I felt dirty and guilty for months after that. When I finally lose my virginity several months later, I was panicking about being 100% clean.

Yesterday my current bf was fucking me and he went too deep, so he got a small stain on the head of his dick. I was freaking out thinking that he would react like that other guy, but instead he laughed, said “that’s what I get for having such a long dick”, then he took me IN HIS ARMS, went to the bathroom, washed his dick, washed my ass and hole with his hands, asked me if I was okay, and then put me on my knees until he finished on my face.

I felt amazing, Sam. I know I am a faggot and a cumdump, but he was so thoughtful and respectful.

Do you think Real Alphas act like that and the picky ones tend to be weaker Alphas? And also, do you have tips for a perfect clean hole?

Brother, thank you for sharing that experience! 

(Sh)It happens, as Forrest Gump once said. I think every faggot or bottom has some experience like yours at some point, because it’s simply the law of averages. Get fucked enough times in your asshole, you’ll eventually hit paydirt, so to speak. 

I have a shit story like yours that makes yours look like a silent fart by comparison. I wrote about it on FWA, but I couldn’t find it in my preserved archives from that site to resurrect. I might write it up again if I manage to get the courage. Thankfully I’m fully stocked on orange vodka, so it could happen soon.

In my case, I was fortunate that the Alpha fucking me seemed to be totally fine with it and badly wanted me to come back for more at another day, but I was too humiliated to do it. I regret that now, because he was a hot, hung young Alpha who was also a clearly a Protector type. But he’s long gone now.

I’m so sorry that the first Alpha treated you so badly. It’s a credit to you that it didn’t break your spirit or your desire to continue serving. Because you didn’t give up, you found this terrific and loving Alpha who comforted you and helped you learn to trust again. He’s amazing, and I hope you will convey to him my thanks and admiration, brother! 

There are a few things faggots can do to greatly minimize this issue. Diet that includes plenty of fiber/roughage is one way. Using enemas rather than douches are another. I have a gravity-fed enema that I use, but there are different types. You must fill the lower two chambers of your colon with clean water (you’ll feel very full), and then push it out. Repeat this over and over until the water comes out clear. Then you should be good for hours of use.

Anyway, thanks again for sharing your experience! I’m sure other faggots can benefit from it!  

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Dear Sam,

your work has changed my life as I’ve come to better understand my role and place as a sub faggot bottom boi, and I’ve had several wonderful opportunities to be my true self and serve a man over the last year. I’m so luckily to have a visit with an Alpha in the Midwest next month. I can’t wait! He emphasizes that I will drink his piss. Thing is I’ve never done it before and have no interest. I know that shouldn’t matter. A previous Alpha made me run his ass, and I came to appreciate how lucky I was to do it and that his pleasure was my focus (it always is).
So, any advice for overcoming my aversion? How should I navigate? FWIW I love manly scents, cum, precum. Please help.
-serv

Brother, thank you for writing to me and those nice things you said! I appreciate it very much!

Piss is a pretty harmless substance, really. It’s mostly just water with some trace elements. It can be tasteless or very strong, and it changes easily with diet. What I’m trying to say is drinking piss is easy if you just do two things:

1. Overcome the mental issue of actually drinking waste water from your Alpha. Some people really freak out over anything that seems unclean (urine is sterile, though). Part of the way you overcome that is by remembering why he’s wanting you to drink his piss – it’s a way to mark you! By doing this, he’s claiming you. By focusing on that, you should be more prepared (maybe even eager) to drink it.

2. Overcome the difficulty of swallowing it without spilling it everywhere. When swallowing it, DO NOT put your mouth on his cock. Keep your mouth open and keep swallowing. Piss comes out much faster than you think it might, so you must keep swallowing once the piss stream begins. Don’t let it pool up in the back of your throat at all. 

Those are my two biggest tips on piss drinking. I don’t know what this Alpha has in mind, but hopefully you’ll be able to integrate what I’ve said here. Good luck! 

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Hey Sam, me again!

To touch on what you said about foot worship I have been doing some massages and mixing some kisses in there while doing so!  He hasn’t reacted badly to it so I’ll keep it up and see how he takes it. I’m glad to hear you definitely think he’s an alpha. I’m just hoping he embraces that role more. Us being together so long I think is his main reason for being slow at embracing this part of himself!  As far as I go I’m full steam ahead haha I’m trying to real myself in and not bother him too much. That’s my fatal flaw impatience. As far as Chasity goes do you have any pointers for dealing with the denial? I went from jacking off whenever I felt like it to only servicing him with releases for myself at this discretion. Which I will say hasn’t been too often. While I’m okay with and want this. It’s definitely a learning curve. Any advice would help I’m new to all of this!

-thanks, fag Alex!

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Thank you for the additional questions brother! 

First of all, I’m glad to hear you’re focusing on foot worship. Trust in this process. I believe you will eventually be able to get him to see the truth and embrace it.

As far as chastity goes, a lot of it is mental. I stopped masturbating years before I went into chastity, and it was purely a mental control thing. I became so deeply ashamed of myself for masturbating like a Man does when I knew deep down that was wrong. So I was already primed for chastity and it proved to be no issue aside from the awkwardness of wearing it. 

Here’s an idea: think about your boyfriend’s cock, the cock that you worship with your whole soul. Deny yourself in honor of that cock, and the Man to whom it belongs. Meditate on that daily. When motivated by deep, meaningful reasons, we can accomplish almost anything. Try it and see. 

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i am a 23 year old faggot who has been in service to my Master Damien for more than two years.  In those two years, my Master has taught me what being a slave to an Alpha Top should be.  He has allowed me to do His laundry, clean His apartment, cook His meals, run is errands, detail His car.  i am sure that you get the idea.. He keeps me satisfied as His fuck puppet also.  He is forceful sexually and insatiable.  He has made my life as His slave joyful.  i can think of nothing i would want to with the rest of my life than to be His servant.

Here’s the problem:  He is being reassigned to a different city for His job and He has made it clear that He is not going to take me with Him.  i cannot understand how He could just brush off my devoted service and my worshipful devotion to Him.  What is a faggot to do?

Brother, thank you for writing! 

I’m so sorry that this is happening! It’s definitely one of the hazards of being a faggot, and if you asked me it’s the worst aspect about it. It’s heartbreaking, but it’s also confusing as well. 

Since I was owned by straight Alphas during my fag “career”, I ended up needing to be dismissed because my Masters fell in love and got married (to females, naturally). It killed me every time, of course, but the first couple of times hurt much more because I was inexperienced with controlling my emotions. I’d come out of being a fag slut and discovered how wonderful (and more fulfilling) it was to be owned and trained by an Alpha, so I was desperate to cling to those Masters (they were incredible Men, too). 

But with my next couple of Masters I had developed myself emotionally to the point that I had a very philosophical, “serve in the moment” focus that helped me remain more detached and accepting of these kinds of losses. 

I guess I’m giving you a long-winded version of a “time and experience heals all wounds” speech, brother. Master Damien gave you the experience of a lifetime, and he shaped you into the wonderful faggot you are today. But he’s far from the only great Alpha Master out there. Your next Master is going to be one lucky Alpha, indeed! 

My thoughts are with you, brother! Love you!   

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hey fag,

So to start of me and my bf have been together since 2013 he’s 32 top and I’m 26 bottom. The last few months since about October, I’ve discovered something about myself through your pod cast and x profile. I believe 100% that I am a faggot. I’ve been talking with my bf a lot about the master/fag dynamic and he seems to be into it. To give a bit about him he’s rather manly while I’m very feminine, long hair high faggy voice haha. I guess my question is this: he’s always been sweet to me. Not a push over he knows how to stand on something when he needs to but it’s been a slow roll on him getting into the idea that he deserves to be waited on hand and foot. Sexually and non sexually. I guess he’s having a bit of a time with calling me a faggot though our daily life. Even though I LOVE IT. And it feels natural to me. Does this mean he isn’t an alpha? I’ve always seen him as such. He’s never bottomed before me or after me not that I desire to. Also I’ve given him permission to find other faggots as I love the idea of him being with other boys. He’s downloaded Grindr but hasn’t used it yet. So any insight on how to handle this or help make him comfortable with all of this would be VERY appreciated!

thanks, fellow fag!

p.s. we also partake in Chastity. He’s taken to that great and keeps me locked 24/7 since November!

Thank you for writing, brother! 

It’s interesting to me how many times I’ve encountered this exact situation over the years. We start off as bottoms, following that natural urge we have, but the truth about what we are – faggots – cannot remain suppressed forever. This discovery is accelerated when we find ourselves in a relationship with a moderately dominant Man (like your boyfriend), because suddenly the possibility of experiencing the fullness of faghood in the safety of a committed relationship becomes real. 

As faggots, we then seek to help our boyfriend unlock the dominance within him that we imagine is there. Sometimes it’s wishful thinking, and other times he absolutely embraces the Alphahood hidden inside and eveything changes.  I’ve seen both outcomes. The story featured here of Zack and his Master Declan is an example of an Alpha embracing his power through the ownership of a faggot.

Having said that, I feel confident in saying that I think your boyfriend IS an Alpha. There are probably reasons why he’s hesitating. Latent Alphas often have traumas in their childhood that causes them to suppress their Alpha urges. Other times, gay Alphas feel the pressure of society (and particularly the gay lifestyle) to treat everyone respectfully and as equals.  

Brother, you’ve done a terrific job of helping your boyfriend embrace some of his power. The fact that he’s calling you a faggot is awesome (this is often a tough hurdle), and it’s really a great sign that he’s kept you in chastity. Clearly, there is something going on within him, but he’s still holding back.

In your letter you didn’t mention anything about foot worship. This can really unlock Alpha urges for actual Alphas. And by foot worship, I don’t just mean massages and licking kissing in a romantic way. I mean when he walks through the door, you’re on your knees to kiss his feet. Honorific foot worship. He’s your King; show him that in every way. 

But I’d like to write something to your boyfriend right here, and you can ask him to read it. 

Sir,

I want to congratulate you on your long-term relationship with your boyfriend, which is definitely a credit to you, Sir. Like you, I want nothing more than to see your relationship blossom and become stronger and more satisfying.

In any successful relationship, adjustments must often be made as we grow together and discover new things about ourselves and our loved ones. Your relationship is going through an adjustment right now, and one that I think is very important and integral to you both because it involves PURPOSE.

Sir, your boyfriend is a faggot, not just a bottom. I’m sure you probably felt like it’s just a fetish or a phase he’s going through, but it’s not. He was really born a faggot, and now that he realizes it he simply can’t let go of the need to worship and serve that all faggots have. 

I commend you for putting him in chastity, Sir. You may not understand it, but chastity helps faggots deepen their need to serve and puts them in a low-level hum of subspace. You’ve probably noticed those effects over the last few months he’s been locked. You can expect even deeper levels of submission as chastity continues.

But in the same way that chastity helps a faggot embrace his true purpose, so too does a faggot help a superior Man embrace his Alphahood. 

You may not believe in Alphas as a real thing, or that some Men are superior to others. But I think any rational examination quickly reveals that Men are not created equal. Some Men simply have the personal power, confidence, genetics, etc., that other Men don’t. Every sports team, military squad, government … all sorted Hierarchically. It’s simply the foundational principle of our world.

I don’t claim to know how you’re feeling Sir, but I do think the power your faggot is offering to you excites you. When you see his useless fag penis locked up and under your control, I’m sure there is a rush of power and pride. I think calling him “faggot” is giving you a thrill as well. 

Ask yourself why it feels good. It’s because within you is an Alpha urge that your faggot’s submission is triggering. Deep down you know you’re superior and deserve to be worshiped and served and obeyed. 

Your faggot wants to be your boyfriend, but he also wants to be your property, your servant, your faggot. Your natural dominance has helped your faggot embrace his truth. Now it might be time for you to embrace yours, Sir.

You were born a King. Become what you were born to be, and see how much more is truly available to you as King.

Thank you, Sir!

sam the faggot 

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