I work in a refugee center and there are three Arab Alpha Refugees from Syria! They grab their big bulges when I am around! How should I approach them? I feel the need to worship them!

Thank you for writing!

First of all, I thank you for the work you’re doing at that refugee center! As you may or may not know, I rescued an 18-year-old boy from Syria in 2017 at great risk and cost to both myself and him. Fortunately, it worked out eventually, and my precious Baby Boy is safe and thriving in Australia today. He is the most precious treasure in my life, a gift I will forever hold close.

The Syrian people have been brutalized by so many harsh regimes (as well as a punishing religious order) that helping them can be tricky. Baby Boy somehow kept his heart intact through all of the terror and abuse he suffered, but he was one of the fortunate few.

Hierarchically, most males in that region are conditioned to be Alphas. Of course, that doesn’t always “take”, but most of them recognize the natural order. From what I’ve come to know through this site over the years, straight Muslim Alphas have no issue using faggots as long as they can get away with it. Syria is one of the most virulently anti-gay countries in the world (Baby Boy saw gay people getting beheaded in the town square), so there is a lot of dangerous homophobia to be aware of.

Maybe try to acknowledge their bulges with your eye contact (and maybe a sly smile) the next time they’re grabbing them. This might trigger them to know what you are. This is a tricky situation (especially since this is occurring at your job), but you never know.

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I’m a 26-year-old engineer who moved up quickly and recently became a senior engineer at my firm. A junior engineer straight out of school joined the company and was given a relocation package that covered a hotel for two weeks while he looked for an apartment.

At the end of those two weeks, he still hadn’t found a place. Since I have a finished basement close to the office, I offered to let him stay there and pay me rent. He’s been living with me for about two weeks now.

What has surprised me is how naturally a dynamic seems to be developing. Without me asking, he’s started cleaning the house after work, doing laundry, washing dishes, and generally taking care of domestic chores. He seems genuinely eager to be useful and appreciative of having a stable place to live.

He’s younger, smaller, and much less established professionally than I am, and the whole situation has me wondering about the line between landlord, mentor, boss, and something more.

I actually found your podcast while looking for discussions about straight men making use of willing gay boys for domestic service. It got me thinking about whether the arrangement should simply continue as it is, or whether there is value in explicitly defining what is already happening rather than leaving everything unspoken.

If a boy seems happiest taking care of the home and being useful to the man providing for him, is there any reason not to acknowledge that directly? How would you approach a conversation about stopping the apartment search and making him explicitly a live in faggot. How should I take advantage of this situation?

Master, thank you so much for writing! This is an extraordinary letter!

This is not the first time the podcast has led straight Alphas to the site and eventually to the truth about hierarchy. Every time it happens, I’m just so overwhelmed with gratitude for it.

Let me just preface my advice with these hierarchical truths: hierarchically-speaking, straight Alphas deserve worship and service from every inferior, male or female. That includes sexual, domestic, and financial service. Hierarchy is not about sexuality, it’s about power, so when a straight Alpha uses a faggot sexually, it isn’t GAY because those simple labels do not apply to what is happening between an Alpha and a faggot. When a straight Alpha uses a faggot sexually, it doesn’t change the Alpha’s sexual preference. Instead, the straight Alpha experiences an unparalleled rush of power that leads to tremendous orgasms and a sense of completeness that other straight Men cannot know.

That’s a lot to take in, I realize, but it’s important to define that so we can tackle what’s going on (and what needs to happen) with the kid you have now living with you, Master.

I think you’ve already accepted the truth that your new guest is a faggot. I’m guessing by how it is behaving that it has accepted this fact about itself and is trying some of my methods to get your attention (I don’t claim to know it’s ever read my site, but it’s following my game plan to a “t”). This is great.

Here’s what I suggest, Master: tell it that you want to speak to it. When the time comes for this meeting, have it kneel before you. Commend it for the domestic work it has been performing, and that you understand why it needs to do these things. Ask it directly: “Are you a faggot?” Once it admits this, ask repeatedly: “What are you?” and make sure it openly admits that it’s a faggot. Tell it “good boy”.

Then tell it that you want to take ownership of it as your personal faggot. Ask it if that is what it wants. It will say “yes, Sir”. Have it kiss your feet. Then outline your expectations from it, and demand confirmation from it.

At this point I recommend some form of scent training exercise, Master. I don’t know what you’re comfortable with, but you can have the faggot deeply sniff your feet, pits, or dick/balls. This will cause the faggot to imprint on you.

After that, ask it again what it is. Make it say “I’m your faggot, Sir”. Then dismiss it to get back to its chores.

That is how I recommend the first initiation should go, Master.

There could be variations to this depending on how you plan to use your new faggot. If you’re planning on using it sexually, then definitely train it on the smell and feel of your cock/balls. You might feel the urge to feed it your cock/cum on the first day; you should always follow your instincts on this, Master. Nature always knows best.

But the structural approach I’ve outlined helps the faggot understand that you have expectations and it needs to obey them.

As for your everyday approach going forward, you should start outlining expected tasks as part of its duties. So far, the faggot has been doing domestic work as a “gift” in exchange for lodging. This must be mentally changed to “work as an offering to a superior Alpha”. It’s part of the purpose of every faggot.

I hope this sets you up correctly, Master. I have a feeling you have an excellent faggot residing with you, and I have no doubt you’re going to love owning it!

Please feel free to write anytime! Thank you, Master!

Yours,

sam the faggot

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Where can I find true alpha men? I would prefer gay but BI would be okay too.

Thanks for writing!

It’s not that hard, brother. Go wherever Men like to congregate and socialize. Gyms, bars, sporting events, parks, hardware stores (there’s a reason why Home Depot is called “Homo Depot”), etc. If you’re in school, that’s even better because they’re literally everywhere and always horny.

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Hi Sam. I hope you’re having a wonderful day/evening. I wanted to ask how do I make my straight alpha friend become my master? Me and him have been friends for a few years now and I really want him to my master. He’s not fully aware I’m a faggot, but he knows I like kinky things. I’ve been trying to gauge how he feels about these certain things by making “jokes,” like paying to smell his feet, but I don’t know how to further push it without just admitting it to him. I’m just scared it would drive him away if I came on too strong, but I’d really like him to be my master. What is the best way to get the point across? Thank you for your help in advance!

Thank you for writing!

First of all, there is no way to “make” your straight Alpha friend do anything. There are techniques you can try to arouse his dominance, but to my knowledge there is no hypnosis technique for this! Believe me, I wish there was!

So let me get this straight: you’ve made jokes about paying him to smell his feet, and it didn’t register at all? That’s odd, although I suspect that he’s started to turn questions over in his mind.

Given that I don’t know how old you both are, or what your situation is (do you spend a lot of time together alone, etc.), my advice is limited. But my primary recommendation is to print out my “Letter To An Alpha” and humbly, submissively give it to him to read. It’s designed to gently bridge the gap between a straight Alpha and a faggot. Or, you can do something I often recommend, which is to ask him if he considers himself to be Alpha. Depending on his answer, you can lead him to a discussion of Hierarchy. You could even tell him you came across this site and it made you curious about his thoughts on hierarchy.

You obviously need to engage him more specifically. These are the steps I think you should take, brother.

Keep me informed!

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Hi Sam, I’m turning to you with a question because I don’t know who else to turn to. I’m 25 years old and from the Czech Republic (Ostrava, the third largest city). I’m looking for a dominant Alpha man (preferably heterosexual) to serve. I love foot fetish so I’d rather serve an Alpha at his feet, but I also want to serve him in general. Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to find an Alpha for several years. I’ve tried erotic dating sites, classifieds, Grindr, Recon, Reddit. Lately I’ve been desperate and I’ve even tried Tinder where I tried (under fake settings) to find a dominant hetero Alpha. That was unsuccessful. Then I tried to think about who I know from my surroundings who could be an Alpha and then I approached him via Instagram (my anonymous foot fetish Instagram. And that’s because I’m not out at home). This strategy eventually backfired and I tried approaching random guys based on what I thought might be Alphas (I know it’s a bad and rude thing to do). As a result, I got banned from Instagram and I couldn’t find an Alpha.
So I’m asking you, is there any way to find an Alpha that I could serve?

Brother, thank you for the question!

I know this is a common issue for faggots, but it really sounds like you’ve exhausted every angle. I feel your frustration!

It doesn’t sound like you’ve actually tried to approach an Alpha you know in real life for service. Yes, you said you approached an real life Alpha, but through Instagram. However, there’s a lot of suspicion about people offering service without money involved. I think if you just engaged with an Alpha in real life and explained hierarchy in plain terms, you might have better success. Also, you can use my “Letter To An Alpha” in the right sidebar to assist you with that.

Also, you might think about joining my free Discord (link on the LINKS page) and searching the Czech Republic channel.

I know it’s frustrating, but if you remain alert in your day-to-day life, I know you will find success!

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I want to become an obedient servant to my neighbor Steve! I’ve sent messages to him asking for his help in getting his cock into my throat and his balls on my face. He doesn’t respond but when we run into each other he’s pleasant and friendly. I can’t help staring at his crotch and I want to suck him so bad. What else can I do?

Thank you for writing, brother.

First of all, please STOP what you’re doing immediately. You’re doing it completely wrong. You think you’re being sexy for him by acting like a complete whore. Guess what, sweetheart? HE’S STRAIGHT. He’s not attracted to you physically.

That’s why we faggots must use our complete submission to fly under the radar. I always advise fags to offer services like domestic service or monetary service or gifts. I advise having conversations where you unlock his mind to think about hierarchy and his power. Get him to talk about himself. That’s why I advise fags use physical cues for submission (like getting physically/visually lower).

But you’ve blown all of that with your ridiculous actions.

I want you to go to him and humbly apologize for acting that way. Actually say “Sir, I wanted to apologize to you for disrespecting you and your Alphahood. I’m sorry that I offended you. I simply want to be useful to you.” This might get his attention.

But I think you’ve significantly fucked this opportunity.

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Hey I came across ur website a couple months ago, and it got me to realize that being a faggot was something I wanted to persue but I have never tried it so I don’t know where to start when it comes to finding a master. you have any devise or any masters looking for a new faggot?

Thank you for writing!

Congratulations on recognizing the truth in yourself and choosing to take action! That’s half the battle, honestly!

I don’t connect Alphas and faggots anymore. I tried it at the start of this site ten years ago, and it was a disaster.

I don’t know how old you are, but depending on your circumstances you just need to look around at the Alphas in your life that you’d like to serve and start submitting to them in various ways. You can use my free resource “Letter To An Alpha” in the right sidebar to open a conversation and help the Alpha you want to serve to understand what you are and what he is. That letter has worked multiple times.

You can also use apps like Grindr, TheBlowers.com, Recon, etc. Faggots often find Alphas there.

I hope that helps!

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Hi Sam! Super glad your back; i followed you for years, enjoying your posts and your dialogue of spreading the word of Alphas and faggots.

I have a question that challenges me that I hope you can answer,…I definitely believe that im a true faggot at heart, but im having trouble accepting it. I have this platonic male friend who actually deliberately engages in dominance against me. He likes to crush with me with his body (hes much bigger than me), using his body weight to essentially crush me. He enjoys forcefully humping me as a playful act,  as sort of symbol of his dominance. In a way, he seems like hes trying to teach me “you’re a faggot, im the alpha”. I think its a unique opportunity to help embrace my true faggot self…but im still having trouble letting go and fully embracing my true faggot life. Any advice for me?

Thank you for the question! I love my longtime readers!

This is a huge moment in your life, brother. This “friend” is definitely trying to dominate you (even if it’s just subconsciously). You recognize what he’s doing (thanks to me, in part!), which is also to your advantage.

What’s holding you back is fear … fear of stepping over the line and never being able to go back. Fear that your life will no longer be yours. Fear of the possible shame you’ll feel for the rest of your life.

But let me tell you what’s worse: a lifetime of regret from NOT ACTING!

I hear it again and again from older faggots who look back wistfully on a life lived in shadows of unfulfillment. Back in their day they lacked information and a freer society. They were essentially trapped, paralyzed by fear.

You don’t need to end up that way, brother. You have an Alpha who is wanting you to submit to him. Your chance his right there, dry-humping you! It’s insane to let this pass you by!

I’ll tell you the truth: the behaviors of this Alpha that you describe are very similar to the way my first Alpha Roger acted toward me until the day he made me his cocksucker and changed my life for the better!

So stop worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. You need to live in the moment right now. You learn to swim by jumping in the water and letting instinct take over. Well, it’s your time to jump.

Kneel and kiss his feet and let Nature take over. Your time in now.

Get back to me when it happens, brother.

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Hello Sam, my name is Andy. I’m a 20 year old guy in his second year of uni.

First of all I want to thank you Sam, I never really considered myself a fag before stumbling on your content, which made me comfortable with using that title.

The situation is this, last year when I started uni I met a guy in one of my classes, we quickly bonded and became friends. We started hanging out every day and going to the gym together.
He is very handsome and I found him attractive from the very begging.
I subconsciously  started serving him almost immediately after we became friends, giving him my notes, doing his homework, paying for our coffee when we go out and buying him gifts here and there.
Around May of this year I started stealing his gym underwear and socks and jerking off with them before returning them. Whenever I smell his alpha scent I just think about how much I want to serve him, however I come from a fairly homophobic Eastern European country and from the things I heard him say he is also quite homophobic and right wing.
I want to show him the hierarchy chart and explain to him that I want to serve him and be his fag however I’m afraid that he’ll stop talking to me afterwards. Is there any way I can introduce him to this world?

Thank you so much for the important work you do!

Thank you for the question!

Congrats on finding an Alpha close to you that you might be able to serve! This is a big trick I’ve always endorsed, and it works pretty well. Why? Because you’ve developed a relationship with him and he likes you, so he’s more likely to be sympathetic if you ever approach him about this.

First of all, I wouldn’t worry about the homophobia/right-wing shit, brother. Homophobic right-wingers are actually MORE likely to be the ones (a) eager to flex their Alphahood, and (b) more likely to be interested in doing gay stuff. Yes, I know it’s messed up, but that’s reality. Their aggressive homophobia is called overcompensation. Check the Grindr traffic around areas where American Republicans are holding gatherings, and Grindr actually CRASHES from so many in-denial Republicans looking for faggots! So I wouldn’t worry too much about that.

You’re already serving him in a variety of ways, and that’s really good! You didn’t mention his attitude toward all of these gifts and favors you’re doing for him, but I’m assuming he’s just accepting it without even thinking about it (Alphas sometimes take that for granted).

I would suggest that you try to sit at his feet and “get lower” when you’re around him. This action will sometimes lead to the Alpha teasing you with his feet. It triggers something inside them when they see weaker guys in vulnerable positions. He will start to view you as a plaything.

You can try a couple of resources on the site. The Hierarchy chart on here is a solid one, although it might confuse him unless you explain it. The “Letter To An Alpha” linked in the right sidebar is a useful one if you want it explained to him in a concise, logical way. And there is also my book “May I Serve You, Sir?” that’s goes into greater depth (I don’t recommend it for college Alphas).

But before you give him any of those resources, you should ask him a simple question: “Do you consider yourself to be Alpha?” This almost always leads to a response, and you can usually use that response to lead him to a discussion about Hierarchy (and those resources).

Hopefully this gives you something of a game plan, brother. I have no doubt you’ll do fine with whatever course you choose. They don’t always work, but I promise you they work more often than you’d ever imagine!

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I have just started a new job and one of the guys I work with and will in future work closely with is so hot and I’d love to worship him I just don’t know how to do it any advice?

Thanks for the question!

Well, I don’t have very much to go on … but you’ll need to get to know him a little bit first, obviously. Be kind, submissive, genuinely complimentary. Then I would introduce the concept of hierarchy by asking him if he considers himself to be Alpha. This question almost always elicits a response. With whatever he tells you, direct his attention to hierarchy by reasoning with him about his place in hierarchy and the truth of inferior males.

If you show him my hierarchy pyramid, it might open up his mind even more to that and a conversation.

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Hello, I’m 28 and still a virgin. Mainly because I’m a demisexual while being a faggot and those two sides contradict each other often. Usually the demisexual side wins out. How do I get my faggot side to win out so that I can serve alphas? This is a deep struggle I have felt with for a long while.

Thanks for the question!

First, a definition: Demisexual describes a sexual orientation where a person only experiences sexual attraction after developing a strong emotional bond or connection with someone, often within a close friendship or romantic relationship, rather than from initial physical or superficial cues.

Personally, I don’t see your dilemma. You can still develop sexual attraction (and therefore serve as an effective faggot) if you get to know an Alpha. I’ve always recommended that faggots start their search with Alphas they know personally, and that’s particularly true in your case.

Don’t let your unusual sexual quirk stop you from fulfilling your purpose, brother!

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I know this is a very typical question, but I feel helpless here. I’m a faggot, living in a homophobic country and studying at a university (I’m 19). I haven’t been able to get this guy out of my head for a year or so.

He is a real alpha. He’s so charismatic, confident, a little arrogant. He can sometimes be embarrassed and shy, depending on the situation, but more often he behaves like a king and like everything is under his control.

I’m not sure if he’s protective or destructive alpha tho. I heard, that he is caring in relationship, but anyway, he thinks he is better in some way than others. He can hit, if you cross the line. He and his friends even often fight with each other just for fun.

I always stared at him in the locker room and imagined how I could serve him. But the fact is that we barely talk to each other. We only say “hello” when we see each other. And.. I already tried to test the waters.

I asked one person to send him a message, so to speak, a “letter” from me with a confession. But so that I remain anonymous. This guy, the alpha, just laughed and said that he definitely did not need this. After some time I heard him and his friends discussing who it could be. And he clearly thought the situation was ridiculous and absurd. But, I think, he was a bit proud of himself, that he can attract boys too, haha.

I made a mistake. I confessed my feelings. I expected something more like a relationship. Something romantic. But I don’t know if this could ever be possible. No one’s know that it was me, who confessed. And I feel scared to do any more steps. I feel scared, even terrified, that someone will find out and start to bully me or something… The chances are high.

What should I do? Confess, that I’m okay with just being an obedient fag, not expecting anything romantic? Or just leave it behind, because my safety is a priority 1? I really need an advice, even if it’s a stupid question.

My brother, thank you for writing to me! And it’s not a stupid question at all!

One of the most heartbreaking aspects of my time running this site are the many cries for help I’ve received from faggots trapped in homophobic countries. It’s especially hard to hear this from gays in the Middle East, because as long-term readers know, I rescued an 18-year-old Syrian boy from there after he reached out to me through this site. So I have all the empathy in the world for that situation, believe me.

I realize that my message of “be brave and offer yourself” can actually be quite dangerous to people in your situation. It can also be cruel; it’s like demanding that a paralyzed person get up and walk. I never want to add any further burden to anyone.

My first advice is my most urgent: do whatever you need to do to escape your country and start a new life in freedom. Get into a school and learn a valuable skill that can get you out of there (a lot of times schools on the outside will sponsor students to move). If you have anyone on the outside, start reaching out to them and find a pathway. This isn’t going to be an overnight process, but start steering your life in that direction and fight for it like your life depends on it (because it does!).

Now, if you really want to approach this Alpha, you must do it very carefully. Either try to befriend him somehow and start offering to do things for him. Be respectful, complimentary, attentive. Once he trusts you enough, give him the “Letter To An Alpha” that I have linked in the sidebar (I’m guessing that is not the letter you already gave him). Hopefully he will see it in a different light if he cares enough about you.

That’s probably the only way you’re going to do this and still remain safe. I can’t recommend more because I don’t know the situation very well and I don’t want to give you harmful advice.

Just know that you’re in my thoughts and in my heart, little one. I love you!

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Hi there!

like most fags, I have always know my place is to service real men with alpha cocks. My problem is I’m not a twink or smooth. I’m a rougher looking blue collar guy in Wisconsin. I’m wondering how to more embrace the fag I am and how to find more alpha cock to service and cum to swallow.

Hi brother, thank you for writing! 

It’s always difficult to fulfill your purpose when you don’t fit the stereotype Men think of when they think of a faggot. Over the years, I’ve encountered faggots of all types. I’ve met obese fags, muscular bodybuilding fags, twink fags, and blue collar “dude” fags like you. 

And here’s the truth: there’s an Alpha out there for every faggot body type. What matters much more is a faggot’s attitude. Being submissive and service-oriented will go much farther than looks with Alphas. 

Finding those Alphas for someone like you probably involves either searching through the Alphas you personally know, or going to places like gyms, sporting events, bars, etc. and making yourself useful. There’s no magic formula to this. It’s just a matter of making yourself available and being brave. 

Just know that any useful faggot can (and will) be used. You can do this, brother! 

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Hello,

This is a funny story I wanted to share. I think I was about 7 years old and I unknowingly submitted to an alpha.

For some reason I wanted to be my friends footstool. I didn’t say anything about the urge but I just kneeled and got into position when he was on the couch. He laughed and put his heavy feet on my back.

Again, I was like 7, but I remember sniffing his socks and licking his sandals when he left his room.

Somewhere along the way I hid this urge and it has resurfaced. How do I submit to my straight friends?

Thank you for your funny (yet revealing) experience! 

I love when people try to argue with me and convince me that being a faggot is a choice. NO. Fags are absolutely born different from straight and gay Males. There are too many commonalities fags share – and they manifest so early – that it’s undeniable we are born fags. There’s a separate argument about why that is, but that’s for another conversation.

I’m glad you had that early experience, because it’ll help inform you in your decisions today. 

Clearly you have a couple of Alpha friends you’re targeting. I would start treating them to dinner, or buying them things you know they want/like/need. I’d also ask them if they consider themselves to be Alpha, then direct their attention to hierarchy. There are also resources on this site to assist in the process of awakening a straight Alpha, like my “Letter To An Alpha” that’s linked in the sidebar of this site, or my book “May I Serve You, Sir?” that’s in my bookstore in the navbar above. 

Depending on how closely you associate with your Alpha friend, you can offer foot massages, sit by his feet more often, things like that. 

Try one or all of these things. They typically yield results.  

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Ive known that I am a faggot for about a year now. Always been submissive and like to please men but findom has its pull on me. Every time I go to send to an alpha, I cant help but think the money would be better in my cousins hands. He is a typical 18/19 yr old gym rat. Hes incredibly sexy and straight. He deserves to be worshipped. I just dont know how to introduce it to him. Should I message him? Should a friend do it? Any advice on what to say or not say?

Thanks for the question! 

Congrats on accepting your true nature, brother! It makes life so much clearer to know the truth!

I’m always curious about why faggots are “drawn” to findom. I understand that findom is a part of a faggot’s overall service, but to be drawn to that aspect particularly odd to me. 

But I tend to agree with you: the money belongs in your cousin’s hands. You have an Alpha right there in your family, and you’re even considering giving your money to strangers instead?? Nah, that shouldn’t happen.

As far as introducing it to him, I have resources on this site to do exactly that. In the sidebar is a link to my “Letter To An Alpha”, designed as a brief introduction to hierarchy and the use of faggots. Then, I have my book “May I Serve You, Sir?” that is a longer, more in-depth version of that aforementioned letter. Both have worked spectacularly well in the past. Whatever else you try to do, it must come from YOU. Your cousin needs to understand that you are expressing this need to serve, not your friend. 

Keep me posted! 

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Hey Sam, wondering if you have any thoughts on this. I’ve started going to this inexpensive Chinese massage place in the West Village in NYC. It’s got 10 super plush oversized leather lounge chairs along two facing walls – so about 20 people can get foot massages at the same time. The first time I went I was the only one there. I closed my eyes and got a great hour foot massage. I heard people coming in while I was getting my massage but when I opened my eyes – I couldn’t believe the place was filled with these hot studs getting their feet massaged. They were all in their 30’s / 40’s –  clearly finance/tech bros – all in T shirts and shorts – really built — meaty thighs/legs spread while a small masseur kneeled before them at their feet.  ALL were looking at their phones during the massage, or watching the masseur work. None had their eyes closed.  They exuded such testosterone and a cockiness, like “yeah, kneel before me and massage my feet.”  One particularly hot dude kept telling the masseur he wanted it harder – and he’d bark and order how and where he wanted his feet touched. All I could think of was here was perfect hunting ground to meet an alpha. But how?! There had to be some dudes there that would welcome a FREE foot massage.. But how to approach about that? Every scenario I think of sounds creepy. I keep going back and seeing all these hot dudes getting their feet massaged is driving me crazy thinking that here is an opportunity.  Would love any thoughts/advice.

Thank you for the intriguing question, brother! 

All of the places where straight Alphas congregate to get body work done – gyms, saunas, massage parlors, barber shops, etc. – are great places to offer service. Why? Because these Alphas are the ones who recognize their Alphahood through their body and are seeking elite ways to pamper and enhance both the look of their bodies and their social standing. They’re typically well aware and quite conscious of Hierarchy on some instinctual level. You were right to pick this juicy spot! 

Massage parlors (particularly foot massage) are especially great targets because of the inherent power dynamic involved, as well as the Alpha’s built-in desire to have his feet touched and pampered. 

There are a couple of ways to approach this. I’ll outline them all and you can choose which one suits you and the situation best.

1. You could ask the staff when a certain Alpha typically makes his appointments and arrange yours around the same time in order to hopefully end up in a waiting room together. In that moment you could ask him if he considers himself to be Alpha (this is a go-to that works amazingly well). He will likely have an answer. Be ready for him to ask you WHY … you’ll need to have that answer. You might be able to direct him to this site and the Hierarchy pyramid (depending on how the conversation goes).

2. You could wait for him outside and attempt to talk to him after his massage. You could use the approach above, or possibly ask him if he would like free massages and/or domestic service. You’d be surprised at how curious that makes straight Alphas. 

3. Offer to buy him a drink or lunch or something like that (depending on the time of day, etc.). Alternatively, you could buy him something if you notice an opportunity (“Sir, I saw this tie and I thought it would look great with that one suit” or something like that).

4. Print out my “Letter To An Alpha”, write “thank you for your consideration, Sir” and leave contact information on it, and leave it on his car for him to find after his session.

5. Buy a hard copy of my book “May I Serve You, Sir?”, fill in your contact info, and give it to him.  

These are all viable options. You might be inspired by these suggestions to try something else, or a combination approach. But trust me, these work more often than you think.

Let me know what happens!! Happy hunting!  

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Hello.

I have a friend. Well, he was a friend, who I have recently reached out to after a long time of not talking to each other. He has known about me and how I identify as a faggot. Thats actually how we meet. A friend of his was going to use me but he swooped in and got me to meet him prior to anything happing. But I never served him. We became fast friends. He know about my micro penis and the dom sub lifestyle I am into. So we held off on it while we worked together and traveled. But he was always into it. We hung out for a year before we got into a fight over work then we dint talk to each other for 8 months. I was the one who blew him off. But I did it to put a gap between us so I could then approach him as the faggot I am.  I texted him out of the blue a few weeks back speaking to him the way you do an alpha and he was really into and loved the idea of putting my faggot ass to work. I know he wants to but is hesitant and he has a boyfriend who he met just before we stopped talking. He has slowly been taking to me and has plans for me but I am getting the feeling he is holding back. I have offered to clean his car his house take care of his garden. Just today he had me bake him cookies and bring them to him at work. Which is the place out fight actually was over. So it was humiliating to have to go back there and he know that. But I didn’t know that he and his bf where still togther and I now realize that might be what’s stopping him or he is having trouble seeing me as his inferior and a faggot, i was his boss and was training him, its why I never served him. To complicated. But I am not sure. What I would like to know now is what  do I do from here? I don’t want to pester him, so I leave communication up to him because it’s not about my needs or desire to serve him. Today was the first day I saw him in 8 months or talked to him, not through text and I could tell his confidence has grown. and he was gauging the situation. Before he had talked to me about filming him and his boy fuck and edit it for online, so I was thinking of making him or offering my services to his boyfriend too who  I know nothing about. or if he even knows we are talking again. He has not said anything to my offers other than I will build him a green house and maintain his garden, so the desier is there of him but just not sure what to do to cross the threshold. He is super hot him and his bf and I want to please them both but not sure the best way to go about it. I am a masculine looking and sounding faggot most people think I am straight and scary so its causes some problems because I do have the look and demeanor but I want to pacify when texting him and being around him. Any thought or suggestion would be great. Thank you!!!!!!

Thank you for the question, brother!

Your situation is quite interesting, if not a bit weird. I don’t understand why (or how) the chemistry between you and this Dom was ignored and turned into a friendship. Regardless, you took a huge risk in walking away in order to reset the relationship. 

But as far as I can tell, the gambit worked. He’s clearly still interested in using you, but the limitations are probably due to the existing relationship. 

The beautiful thing about being a faggot is the fact that a faggot can be added to a pre-existing relationship as a slave for the couple. So that could work for you, too. You mentioned that you wouldn’t mind serving both of them, right? So I’d shoot for that. 

It doesn’t sound like you’re getting much alone time with this Dom. If you could, I would suggest that you kneel and kiss his feet and ask him if you can serve him properly. Apologize to him for your previous failure to accept your place, and beg him to accept your worship. See what he does. 

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i stopped lying too myself and accepted that i need and want a LTR in S&M … how do i find and approch an alpha to serve and look for ltr… i have no experience and i need and want training…in the privacy in his home, what i crave is being owned by him and making him happy

Brother, thank you for writing!

Congratulations on finally embracing the truth about yourself! That’s a huge hurdle to overcome!

What you’re describing is, I think, the most elusive goal that every faggot wants to find. A long-term service relationship is the ideal, but it might not be realistic at first. You are, after all, brand new to all of this. What you really need to do is look for Alphas to serve, either a one-time experience or in an ongoing way. Learn to walk before learning to run.

There are ways to find Alphas. The first way I always recommend is to look around your social and work circles and find those Alphas you already know in some way. This gives you a relatively safe way to offer services of some kind. If not, then apps like Grindr or TheBlowers.com will help you connect immediately to Alphas looking for service. Those two methods are the going to be the primary ways to find them.

There are more advanced methods (like joining a gym and offering service to the Alphas there), but I wouldn’t recommend them at this point.

Also, findom (online financial domination) is a possible way of at least getting some service time in a controlled way, but I don’t know about your financial situation.

You might want to join my Discord so you can talk to other faggots and some Alphas. You can do that by CLICKING HERE.

All in all, you should be very proud of yourself, brother. Have faith and apply yourself, and you will find success!

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I had what I consider to be a real Alpha / Beta relationship with a guy for quite a long time.  I was his Beta to use when he needed.  He treated me very well because I basically worshipped him and served his needs.  He had be service his friends sometimes too Which was really about him showing to me that I’m there to do whatever he said and I think to show them he had complete control of me.

Anyway, he had to move for work and I ended up moving for a job too.  Now I live in Las Vegas and I thought it would be easy to find a real Alpha to serve.  I’m now in my 50s, so that does make it harder.  But I can’t find anyone.  Yes I can easily find guys who use me as a cum dump, but that is not the same thing as a real Alpha.

My previous Alpha was a long time ago and was pretty easy to find.  Not sure how to find a real Alpha man.  I’d appreciate any suggestions you may have

Thanks for the question, brother!

It sounds like you had a wonderful Alpha/faggot relationship with your former Master! And yes, those things he did with you were designed to show off his power over you, as well as pay honor to his Alpha friends.

I’m sorry that’s no longer in your life! 

Alphas can be found everywhere (bars, sporting events, gyms, any place outdoors) if you choose to approach them. I always advise for a faggot to look around at the friends/associations you currently have in your personal life and see if there is a potential Alpha among them. Then you would start subtly serving them and showing them deference. Ask them if they consider themselves to be Alpha. Work that into a conversation about Hierarchy (you can use the resources on this site) and help him understand the larger implications of his Alphahood and your purpose. 

I understand these ideas might seem daunting. That’s why I wrote the book “May I Serve You, Sir?” to give to Alphas as a primer (see: book store). And that’s why I wrote “Letter To An Alpha” (link in sidebar) that can be used (and has been successfully used) to teach Alphas.

The rest is simply up to you, brother! 

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Hey Sam,

I don’t expect you to remember this at all but a while back I’d messaged asking if you had any advice about pursuing service with some Alphas I knew from my college who I only spoke to via socials.

I took your advice and reached out to the one who I used to kind of serve (still kicking myself for ending that way back when)… but he never responded.

I know I probably should just drop it but I wanted to ask if you had any advice for going forward? Just, keep an eye out for other Alphas in my life? Or reach out to the other 2?

[one hour later …]

Hey Sam,

I just sent a message to you earlier about how the Alpha I reached out to on socials didn’t respond, but a little while after I sent that HE FINALLY DID.

Turns out he really remembered me and we had a nice convo catching up. We don’t really live near each other anymore, it turns out, which sucks. But I apologized for stopping service to him before and for my past behavior, and I even offered to help him with anything he needs. He was really sweet about everything and didn’t make too much of a big deal about it, but seemed receptive.

For literal years I’ve thought about messaging this Man Sam, you have no idea. So thanks for encouraging me to reach out to him. I hope to start introducing hierarchy to him as we continue to talk– maybe one day he’ll find a use for me again!

Sorry for the back to back messages/asks, I didn’t think he’d even remember me but when he responded I HAD to update you.

Yes, I remember you!

I’m glad you worked up the courage to contact him! The first step is always the hardest! And I’m glad he responded and seemed open to something in the future! Definitely try to look for ways to engage him in a more direct conversation about Hierarchy! That’s a great way in!

Keep me posted!

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