Im Javi and in 24. Im kinda torn on things, I come off very masculine hairy, strong, assertive etc. But I know I’m not an Alpha, while growing up I naturally preferred doing feminine chores with no resistance while I hated doing the manly stuff cutting grass, trimming trees, etc i prefer doing feminine deemed like making perfume. I know that id like to be a fagwife but can’t seem to meet men who make me want to submit or ig I can respect as I dont get the “Alpha” aspect from them. I can respect their ability to be men but not in a way where I can submit without feeling like I settled. Most times its been men who had bravado but I am more endowed than, or men that couldn’t lead. Part of me feels like I should try to dom those under me but I also know my place is serving a real man
I know I shouldn’t hunt for a Man but I am tired of wasting time by dealing with men that can’t own me and would like some insight from an experienced fag.
Hi Javi! Thank you writing!
The issue you’re having definitely occurs with a fair amount of bottoms and faggots. It really speaks to something I’m always emphasizing: the body size, dick size, or body fitness does NOT determine our place in hierarchy! As you so aptly described, our place is determined by the person we are within!
I’ve encountered plenty of tall, beefy, hairy, hung, and/or muscular fags over the years, and it can be difficult to handle given the general expectations of most Alphas.
But I said “MOST” for a reason. I’ve met plenty of very powerful Alphas who love to own/use faggots like you. I think there is some conquering instinct at work in these situations. I distinctly remember Master G (a smaller, straight Alpha) who took ownership of his much larger fag friend Jamie … and he ended us marrying Jamie eventually!
Finding those kinds of Alphas could be a challenge, but it’s not impossible. You really need to emphasize your submission and desire to be useful. Be deferential and complimentary to the Alphas with whom you interact. Be useful to them.
Here’s another, more radical suggestion: put yourself into chastity and parade around the locker room/showers with it on. You’ll be surprised how Men and Alphas react to it, their curiosity piqued and imaginations running. Wearing a chastity cage will instantly eliminate your size issues and diminish you in their eyes.
The following post is part of a thread chronicling the experiences of a French faggot named Fabien who has been claimed by his straight Alpha friend Anthony. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!
The story Fabien told us a couple of weeks ago about accompanying his Master Anthony to visit Master Anthony’s straight Alpha cousin Arthur. Fabien did an amazing job of dropping little seeds of hierarchical truth for Arthur to consider, and he was definitely intrigued. I was so proud of my baby brother!
I also knew there was going to be more to this story … but wow, the story Fabien just sent me goes beyond anything I was imagining!!!
Let’s hear it:
My beloved big bro,
I realized that you had published the story of my encounter with Arthur, my Master Anthony’s older cousin! Thank you so much! I’m so proud to have opened this Alpha’s eyes on Hierarchy and our respective places in it!
I’ve just spent a wonderful week at the feet of these two Superior Men. I should at least tell you what happened the next morning after I wrote to you last time, because that was huge and it set the stage for what happened since then! In fact, I had written down some notes that very day so I could remember as much as possible of what I had said and send it to you later!
The next morning after my last update, Sir Arthur was the first Alpha to wake up and go downstairs while I was doing a little cleaning. He was still half-asleep, shirtless and gorgeous in his pajama boxers. I rushed over to greet him, kiss his feet, and offer my services. I was kind of hoping he’d have me take care of his morning wood, as Anthony had suggested, but he simply asked to have breakfast in front of the TV. I complied immediately, served him, and remained discreetly at his disposal. When I cleared away his breakfast, I timidly asked if he wanted anything else and suggested a foot massage. To my delight, he gladly accepted!
I knelt down in front of him, took his foot in my hands with the utmost respect, and gave it a thorough massage. His moans of pleasure sent shivers down my spine! He looked at me with amused curiosity. Suddenly, he asked: “Are you happy to be my cousin’s slave? Aren’t you a little upset about being dominated like that?”
I smiled at the opportunity to continue my hierarchical teaching. I answered very honestly: “Actually, Sir, I’m happier than I ever was before. Because I have found my true nature and my true purpose. My life has a meaning. I told you, Sir, my existence is to serve an Alpha Man like you. And thank you very much for allowing me to massage your feet. That’s one of my favorite things to do.”
“Really? Why do you like that?”
“Because I got to kneel in front of a Superior Man. To gawk at him while he’s resting in his glory. To touch his feet, the lowest part of his body, therefore the part I’m closer to. And above all, to make him feel good. That is such a privilege, Sir. Thank you very much.”
He had the same smug smile as Anthony. I could see that I was converting him to his destiny as an Alpha and a Master. So I kept going!
“Please, Sir, imagine what your life could be. You would never have to waste your time doing any menial tasks ever. Cleaning, cooking, running errand or whatever else… That is below you. That’s what slaves are for. You got to spend your time doing whatever you really love, Sir.”
My words captivated him and his expression grew more serious. He slipped his hand into his boxers. Deep down, I smiled triumphantly. I brought his foot to my lips and tenderly kissed his toes.
“Imagine, Sir. Inferior boys and girls constantly at your beck and call. Doing whatever you want. For your comfort, your pleasure, your fun. You don’t have to be nice to them, you don’t have to be polite to them. You can degrade them as much as you want. You just do as you feel. You are the only one who matters. They cater to your every need, they obey to your every whim.”
I gently rested his foot back down and moved closer to his crotch. Seeing that he wasn’t stopping me, I respectfully pulled his cock out of his boxers. A big, proud cock! I looked him straight in the eyes as I whispered.
“All the glory and all the wealth of the world laid at your feet. Just because you exist. Because you deserve everything for you who are. Imagine, Sir. Inferior males groveling before you and serving you. The most beautiful women begging you to fuck their pussy.”
I gently sucked on the head of his dick, still looking straight into his eyes, then said “This life can be yours, Sir. That is your birthright.”
Something clicked inside him. Arthur grabbed my head and forced me to suck him off. He stood up to keep going. He fucked my throat very roughly until he came inside me. With my mouth still full of his semen, I looked up at him adoringly and whispered, “Thank you so much, Sir! I saw in him a kind of new, almost frightening rage. Heavy breathing, he flexed and admired his muscles, as if he was rediscovering his body, marveling at his own power. Then he said, “Worship me. WORSHIP ME!” I rushed to kiss his feet fervently, while I heard him whisper, “That feels good… that feels good…” Then he stomped on my head, saying “Do you like that, slave?” I managed to stammer. “Yes, Sir! Thank you for honoring me!”
That’s when we heard Anthony’s amused voice. “Having fun?” He came downstairs, pleased with what he saw. “Here, I’ll show you how to use him”. So Anthony picked me up, threw me on the couch, and fucked me in the ass. Arthur watched intently, before deciding to fuck my mouth at the same time. After they both came inside me, Anthony asked his cousin, “Want to give it a try?” And Arthur was more than happy to!
Arthur is the first Man other than my Master to have fucked me in the ass! Usually, during parties with his Alpha bros, he reserves that right for himself with me. But this time, they both had their way with me, I was spit-roasted one way and then the other. They laughed heartily together, praised and encouraged one another, while I was serving as their sex toy. By the end, I was exhausted and sore, but so proud and happy to have helped strengthen their bond! And to have helped awaken Arthur to the pleasures of power and faggot ownership!
You can imagine what the rest of the trip was like! Catering to those two Alphas was exhausting. Luckily, they brought some girls around to have fun and sex too, which freed up a little time for me to do other servile things ahah! But I felt so useful and so at home at the feet of those two amazing Men. After all, I have been the first faggot to both of them!
Anthony and I are back at his place (aka “my” apartment), and life is getting back to normal. But I have to admit I’m hoping to see Arthur again from time to time, hopefully soon… And I can’t wait to find out how his life will change now that he knows the truth! I look forward to mentor some faggots to serve him as he deserves!
I hope you’re doing well, big bro!
Lots of love!
your loving little bro
fab the fag
WOW!!!
Fabien continues to impress me with both his dedication to pro-level fag service and also his mentor-level representation of hierarchical truth. His training and development under Master Anthony has resulted in an incredible array of skills.
What he did to both teach Alpha Arthur and then help him to take action is a masterclass of faggot enticement. This is how it’s done! Fabien reminds me SO MUCH of how I was in my early days, utilizing my intelligence, my ability to apply hierarchical principles, and my ability to make straight Alphas to feel comfortably excited to convince multiple straight Alphas to try using me. It’s one of my proudest accomplishments as a faggot, and I sense that Fabien is proud to do that, too!
I’ll point out a technique Fabien utilized effectively here to get Alpha Arthur to finally give in to his desires: at one point Fabien made a sexual move (like positioning his head near Alpha Arthur’s dick) and then gave him some encouragement. This combination of stimuli proved to be the cocktail that caused Alpha Arthur to finally take whatever he wanted!
Honestly, this encounter between Alpha Arthur and Fabien should also be credited to Master Anthony. He knew the skills of his most beloved faggot, as well as the needs of his cousin. Master Anthony understood that he only had to arrange the meeting and leave the rest to Fabien. It really reveals Master Anthony’s trust and pride in his wonderful, talented fag!
I know I’m proud of Fabien, too! This is a landmark example of how to seduce straight Alphas! Thank you, dear Fabien!
The following post is part of a thread chronicling the experiences of a French faggot named Fabien who has been claimed by his straight Alpha friend Anthony. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!
I’ve been the First Faggot to at least five straight Alphas, and each time it’s happened I’ve felt such a weight of responsibility. I always want to give Alphas good experiences, but with straight Alphas who have never known what’s it like to be serviced by a faggot, there’s more importance to get it right. I’ve always taken this responsibility seriously.
Fabien is a faggot after my own heart. He’s the little brother I never had, and we both see eye-to-eye on the importance of our purpose as faggots of straight Alphas. We also value and cherish every opportunity we have to be of service to these Kings!
Fabien’s latest update tickled me because it’s full of the joy as well as the scheming that we faggots do when dealing with straight Alphas who are oblivious to the purpose of faggots.
Read on to learn more:
My beloved big brother,
I definitely don’t want to make the same mistake of forgetting to tell you about an important moment in Anthony’s life (and mine), so I’m using the time while the Alphas are sleeping to write you a recap of the day!
My Master and I have been staying in a lovely little villa near the beach since yesterday. Today, while Anthony went to see some friends who were visiting nearby, I was supposed to pick up his older cousin Arthur at the train station. My Master told me that he thought his cousin was probably an Alpha (he’s very popular with girls, scores a string of conquests, and is generally very well-liked by everyone) but that, to his knowledge, he didn’t use any slaves. So I had the pleasure of meeting Arthur today and taking him to the beach, where he wanted to spend some time, and then at the villa, where he’s spending the week with us.
As soon as I saw him, I knew that my Master Anthony was right and that his cousin was an Alpha. Arthur is in his early thirties, about my age, and he exudes confidence and charm. You’ll probably think I’m obsessed with Spider-Man (and maybe I am!), but I think he has a bit of a resemblance to Andrew Garfield when he was younger and more muscular. In any case, my servile instinct kicked in immediately when I was with him!
When I met him, I took his luggage and asked him what he wanted and what I could do for him. I’ll try to transcribe as faithfully as possible (albeit maybe simplifying a bit) the conversation he and I had while we were walking to the beach and I was carrying his things.
“So you’re Tony’s roomate, hey?”
“Actually, I’m more his live-in servant. That’s why I am at your service as well, Sir! Tell me anything you want.”
He chuckled. “What do you mean? Does he pay you to clean his house and stuff like that?”
“No, he doesn’t pay me. Actually, I’m the one who gives him money! He deserves all I can give to him, and more.”
He looked at me with a mixture of amusement and puzzlement. Anthony hadn’t told me what I should or shouldn’t say to his cousin, but I felt it was my hierarchical duty to tell the truth to this Man who, clearly, wasn’t yet living the life he deserved to his full potential.”You see, Sir, there’s a Male Hierarchy, and the Alpha Males are at the top. They are the strongest, most confident and powerful Men who are natural leaders. The most superior Alphas are the ones who own and use slaves, especially male slaves.”
He wore an incredulous smile. “And so, men like you…”
“I’m not a Man. I don’t deserve that name, because I’m at the very bottom of the Hierarchy. I’m a slave. I was born for this.” He seemed more and more interested, though he was still skeptical. So I went on.
“Me and other males, we are natural slaves. We exist to serve Alphas and be used by them in any way they want. We serve them domestically, of course, financially, and we praise and worship them. And even sexually.”
He was surprised. “What? I thought Anthony’s was straight! We used to chase girls together, I practically trained him when he was a teen!”
“Then you did a wonderful job, Sir! Anthony is very popular with girls, I can tell you! He fucks them again and again! But even straight Alphas use inferior males sexually. They fuck us because that increases their power and their dominance. That doesn’t make them gay. Actually, they’re the straightest of straight Men.”
Arthur was silent for a moment, clearly deep in thought. When we were at the beach, and he was resting in the shade on a lounge chair after swimming, I sat in the sand, near him, practically at his feet.
“May I ask you a question, Sir? When you were in high school or college, or even now at work, do you have any bootlickers, any minions? People who do your every bidding? Don’t you see the people who bend over backward to please you?”
“Yeah, sure… In a way, I guess… I mean, I’ve always been popular…”
“That’s Hierarchy, Sir. You could certainly have slaves like me if you wanted. And you could fuck them whenever you want!”
He thought for a moment, then shook his head. “Nah! That’s too weird!”
I shrugged. “Suit yourself, Sir. As an Alpha Male, as I gladly think you are, you are entitled to do what you want. If you don’t want to fuck males, just don’t. I would simply say that, in my humble opinion, you’re denying yourself a great power that should belong to you. And I’m saying that with all the respect I own to my superior, Sir!”
After another moment of silence, he asked me “Do you really think I could have a… a slave like you are to Tony?”
“At the very least, I think you should own some servants to do your chores, Sir. A real Man should never stoop to menial tasks unworthy of him. That’s what slaves like me are for. And yeah, I think you would remained stuck at a lower-level Alpha if you don’t use slaves sexually.”
Another silence. I’m almost certain I spotted an hard-on under his swimming trunks… And then, out of the blue. “Would you suck me off?”
I beamed. “Believe me, Sir, I would be very happy to do this for you. But I belong to my Master Anthony. I’m his property, and I cannot possibly submit to any other Man, however Alpha he is, without his explicit approval.”
When we got home to the villa, Anthony was already there. The two cousins shared a manly hug, and my Master motioned for me to unpack and set up Arthur’s things in the room assigned to him. (The two Men sleep upstairs, I sleep on a futon in the kitchen.) When I came back down, I brought them some glasses on a tray while they were chatting by the pool.
“See! I told you my boy would think to serve us drinks! Good boy! So you told Arthur everything about us?
“Does he really do everything you tell him to?”
“Of course! He’s a slave! Look. Fab! Crawl on the floor!”
“Right away, Master!”
I did as I was told. I crawled on my belly, I kissed Anthony’s feet, Arthur’s feet. Anthony put his foot on me. I felt so honored and proud to be used as a trophy by Anthony to display his power in front of his latent Alpha cousin. I was ready to obey every single order at once. Then I lay down on my back. Anthony cleaned his feet on my face.
“Do you like that, slave?”
“A lot, Master! The dirt on the bottom of your feet is worth more than me, Master. Thank you!”
They both laughed. I could tell Arthur was getting more and more comfortable.
“Want to give it a try? Go ahead, he’s all yours! He has no dignity, he’ll do whatever you want!”
“I don’t know… Slave! Do ten push-ups in front of me and kiss my feet every time you go down!”
I obeyed. And I was glad I’d done some working out under Anthony’s orders to make it possible!
I made dinner while they were having fun in the pool. and I waited on them at the table. Later, I served them drinks and served as their footrest while they watched TV. I took the opportunity to lick Arthur’s foot that was resting in front of my face. I glanced at him to see if he was satisfied, and we shared a smile.
When they went to bed, Anthony said to his cousin, “If you wake up before I do, ask the slave for breakfast! And you can feed him your morning wood. He’s very good at blow jobs now.”
I’m exhausted, I’m going to bed, too! I have hard work to do tomorrow: two Alphas to serve and worship! It’s a lot for just one faggot, but I’m so happy to be helping my Master’s cousin awaken to his Alphahood!
Lots of love!
your loving little bro
fab the fag
Fabien does something here that I’ve emphasized countless times: be courageous, frank, and proud when speaking to straight Alphas about being a faggot or about hierarchy.
Why? Because it DISARMS straight Alphas, who are surprised you’re not ashamed. Also, when you speak plainly and frankly about your hierarchical purpose, it allows the Alpha to absorb and admit the truth of hierarchy through such reasoning.
Once you have straight Alphas on their heels, they become curious about why creatures like faggots exist, and what they can do with one.
An example of this: once Arthur learned of faggots, he asked, “would you suck me off?” That’s exactly what my first straight Alpha, Master Roger, said to me!!! It’s always where the straight Alpha brain goes once they learn they have a proud slave available to use!
All of this was possible only because Fabien was courageous from the start. He’d fixed in his mind that he was going to teach Arthur the truth about his service to Master Anthony, defend his own truth as a faggot, and be a teacher of hierarchy to this unknowing King.
Because of that mental/emotional work Fabien had done beforehand, he was ready with responses to questions he knew would eventually come. That casual frankness disarmed Arthur (as it does other straight Alphas), which allowed Fabien an opening to teach through words and actions!
I’m so impressed by Fabien! He’s learned so much about how to teach with purpose while also serving at the highest level. Master Anthony must be SO PROUD to own a great faggot like Fabien, who only ever honors his Master with exceptional service and obedience!
I know I’m proud to call him my brother and friend!
Hi sam, Many thanks for your answer to my question about handling personal life and service to a Master. The MASTER i’m in contact with online said the same thing but i guess HE wanted me to hear it from someone else, especially an experienced sub like you 🙂 i’ll do my best to find the right Master. i’m surprised however that you say that France is the country with more powerful Alphas per square kilometer than you’ve ever known. What makes you say that? i saw many findom Masters (though i don’t consider most of them like “masters” because they only care for the money) but no so many real Masters… Also, i’d like to add one more question, as you’ve been really nice to me: what is, according to you, the best way to find a Master when you’re a beginner in France? Many thanks again for taking time to answer me. i wish you a great day. faggot didier (as the MASTER i’m chatting with calls me and i love it)
I said that about France because of the number of French Alphas I’ve chronicled on this site over the years, the number of French Alphas and Masters (not cashmasters) I communicate with on X and elsewhere. They all seem to be much more attuned to hierarchy in France than any other country.
To find a Master in France (or anywhere), it starts with your immediate circle of contacts. Think about the Men you regularly come into contact with or personally know. Are any of them Men you’d like to serve? Then make yourself useful to those Men, be complimentary, be submissive to them. When you feel comfortable enough with them and think there is a possibility, you offer your services as their faggot. You can use my “Letter To An Alpha” or my book “May I Serve You, Sir?” to make that conversation possible.
If you try this, you’ll find success. I promise! Especially in France!
The following post is part of a thread following a faggot named Caio who wants to serve his two straight Alpha friends Felipe and Marcello, but they both have different issues with it. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!
It’s a scientific fact that all straight Alphas want to fuck assholes. Why? Because it’s tighter, it’s taboo, and it’s painful for the receiver. Men have deep sadistic streaks running through them, and they can barely hide it even when they’re trying.
There’s just one huge problem for these straight Men and Alphas: women almost entirely hate being fucked in the ass and will do whatever they can to refuse it.
This does, of course, provide a huge opening (no pun intended) for faggots to offer their own holes for use. That’s one reason why we’ve seen an increasing number of straight Alphas owning faggots. Not only will a faggot never tell an Alpha “no”, but it will practically beg for even more dick and cum! Straight Alphas are getting wise to this.
But so are the girlfriends of these straight Alphas. They don’t want to be repeatedly fucked in the ass by their Alphas, so why not arrange for the boyfriend to fuck a faggot instead? It takes the burden off of the girlfriend, while also making use of a fag’s natural function.
It’s one of those few situations where a faggot is a perfect solution to a persistent problem!
Notice how that situation is happening to Caio:
Hi brother Sam! This is Caio again, I sent you two messages about my complicated life with Marcelo and Felipe. Do you remember me?
I told you that Felipe was too politically correct and Marcelo just makes jokes about me being a fag. And I was trying to serve them.
I have been serving Marcelo by making his girlfriend’s hair, make-up, and nails for three weeks now. She is really nice and really sweet with me. She always says how much she loves the gays and how her best friends are all feminine guys. We got really close to each other and it didn’t take too long for us to start talking about Marcelo. After a few days talking about superficial stuff, she said “you know Caio, I’m gonna tell you something because you’re my girly friend, but Marcelo has a huge dick, he gives me too much work”. I was so horny that I needed to make a huge effort not to show her how much I desire her boyfriend’s cock. But I just said “girl, you should enjoy it, I wish I had a pussy like you, that would make my life so much easier” and she laughed and went a bit deeper, and said “you know, I admire you gay bottoms because I would never let a man touch my ass, it hurts to take him in my pussy, I’m sure he’ll never convince a girl to take him in the ass, no matter how much he tries”. I told her that Marcelo is a really great guy and she should at least try, but she just chuckled and said that “she lets anal sex for the gays because she already has a pussy”. I didn’t want to insist, so I just changed the topic and went back to preparing her beautiful hair.
My first thought was to serve Marcelo by convincing his girl to give him her virgin ass, but I don’t think this is gonna happen at all. And I have a a virgin ass too! I have already make out with other fags, and I have sucked the cock of two Alphas, but my ass is completely virgin and perfectly tight. That day when I arrived home I texted Marcelo and said “Sir, your girl is nice and ready for you, I hope you’ll have fun tonight”, then he send a clapping emoji and called me a really good boy. I told him that it is always a pleasure to serve him and that I’d always do anything that I could to make sure he’ll have a beautiful lady to satisfy him. I tested the waters and asked him if his girl was submissive and he just said “not even close”, but I was afraid of saying too much, so I didn’t say anything else.
I’m so horny and confused! I now know that Marcelo wants to fuck some ass, but his girl doesn’t accept it. I have a virgin ass and I’d be really happy to take him in my hole. At the same time, I am virgin and apparently he has a huge cock, so I don’t know if I can do it… please Sam, can you help me? What would you do in my place?
Regarding Felipe, I don’t actually have an update, but we are still in touch and I’m trying to see how it goes.
Thank you my lovely brother!
I’ve suggested in the past that I believe Alpha Marcelo’s “jokes” are not really jokes (I believe all such jokes have a seed of intentional suggestion in them). I do think Marcelo would do something with Caio if the situation was right.
Well, that situation might be right NOW. As Alpha Marcelo keeps joking around with Caio, his girlfriend is putting out vibes that she wants Marcelo to fuck Caio!
Caio asked me what I would do if I were in that situation. I would probably get Alpha Marcelo alone, kneel before him (or at least get physically lower than him) and ask him if I’ve been serving him well. Then emphasize to Alpha Marcelo that pleasing him pleases me (this concept is absolutely foreign to straight Men/Alphas). Then I would tell him about the conversation with his girlfriend, and then make it clear that my body belongs to him if he needs it.
Now, Alpha Marcelo might not immediately react positively to the suggestion, but the seed will have been planted. He’ll go away and think about that offer. Then watch what happens later!
That’s probably not the only way to handle it, it that’s how I would do it. Maybe tailor the approach to your own taste and style.
However, I think Alpha Marcelo is definitely attainable. He’s a ripe fruit waiting to be picked, so go get him, Caio!
The following post is part of a thread following a faggot named Caio who wants to serve his two straight Alpha friends Felipe and Marcello, but they both have different issues with it. CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!
A few days ago I received a letter from a faggot named Caio who asked how he should approach two straight Alpha friends of his who seem to be interested in him in some non-specific ways. You can read that first letter and my advice by CLICKING HERE.
Caio’s situation is frustrating because he’s actually dealing with the two types of Alphas that block faggot approaches the best. Alpha Felipe is the Caring Nurturer type of Protector Alpha who always firmly believes in proper manners and equality and respectful kindness at all times. On the other hand, Alpha Marcelo is the Playful Flirt type of Protector Alpha, a Man who likes to tease inferiors but would never want to actually degrade anyone.
These two types very often deflect approaches for service quite effectively, and I’ll admit that these two types have given me fits in the past as well. It’s hard to get kind, sweet, caring Alphas to see how unequal we are, or how they actually have a right to be served and worshiped in any capacity.
I want to get into Caio’s update right away so I can dissect it a bit more, because it’s complicated.
Hello! This is Caio again, I messaged you a few days ago talking about my brother’s friends, Marcelo and Felipe. I hope you remember me.
I really appreciate your feedback. I tried my best to approach both of them in the past few days, and I wanted to know what you think about my strategy, please. I will try to be concise but there is a lot to say…
First, I copy and pasted your Letter to an Alpha (thanks for that!) and sent it to Felipe. At first, he asked what was going on, so I explained to him that I think he was an Alpha, and I am a faggot, and explained the basic logics of hierarchy. I told him that he doesn’t need to touch me at all, but that I would be happy to serve him in any way he needs. He texted back saying “can I call you, Caio?” I was so excited and expecting a sexy porn movie plot, I was hoping he would call me a naughty fag, demand me to go to his place, give him head, and submitting my hole to him. But I was terribly wrong. He started by saying that I should not refer to myself using the word faggot (I tried to translate it in our language to explain to him), then he refused to repeat the word because he said it was homophobic. And to conclude he said “I think you need professional help to encouter your inner self and your self-steem, I can help you finding a therapist”. Can you believe it, brother? I told him that everything was okay and apologized for telling him about hierarchy. He was really sweet and said that he will not tell anything to my brother, but that I should “understand my self value”. Then we changed the topic and just pretended that nothing happened.
Right after I had this major frustration with Felipe, I decided to try it with Marcelo. Instead of just sending him the letter, I texted him pretending that I was just joking. The last time he saw me was when he slapped my ass, as I told you in my previous message, so I said “remember when you slapped my ass and said that if we were brothers you’d consider incest, or were you too drunk to remember?”, he answer with a laughing emoji. but I guess he thought I was mad, because he added “I think I do, sometimes I’m an idiot with my jokes, but you know I really care about you”. I wanted to show him that there is no reason for him to feel bad, so I said “yeah, you’re an idiot because now every time another guy wants to slap my ass I think about your hand because they don’t have your Alpha energy”. I also added a laughing emoji just to be safe. In case he reacted badly, I would just saying I was joking because unlike Felipe he loves acid and sexual jokes. But I think using the expression “Alpha energy” was a smart move because he reacted to my message with a little flame and said “well, we agree that I’m an idiot sometimes, and we agree that I have Alpha energy, these are already two things we have in common… if we find a third one, I’ll slap your ass again, ok?” I was getting nervous because he seemed to be getting into the topic more and more, but I needed to remain sexy and submissive while keeping it a funny undertone so I would not scare him. So I said “we both breathe oxygen, now we have 3”, and he said “alright, remember me to slap this ass next time I see you.” We kept basically flirting with each other for almost an hour, making jokes like that, and he kept saying how much he wants to slap my ass again, so I decided to take a step forward, and said “if you are an Alpha and I’m a fag, it’s up to you to decide what to do, and I’m sure you can be more creative than just slapping my ass”. So I sent him the very same file with your letter to an Alpha to see how he would react. He thought I was joking, so he said “don’t tease me, you’re my good friend’s little brother” And I told him that I was not joking about it, and if he wanted to embrace his place in hierarchy, my brother would never know. I was afraid he would just stop answering, but he reacted well. I am really good at hair and make-up, I even make some make-up tutorials for YouTube. Marcelo asked me if I could be in charge of his girlfriend’s hair and make-up because he usually pays for her hair, nails, and make-up. Sucking his cock would make me much happier than this, but I understand that it’s not my decision on how to serve him. I said “it’d be wonderful to make sure your girl will always be gorgeous for you.” Our agreement is that he will tell her that he is paying me, and I’ll pretend I’m being paid, and I’ll visit her once a week to give her a full spa day. Let’s see how it goes…
In summary, I think your letter to an Alpha is incredibly helpful, but my approach with Felipe could have been better, it’s my fault. But with Marcelo it worked really well, and I look forward to make sure his girl will be always pretty for him.
Since I wrote a quite long message, I’ll try to wrap up with a few questions to make it easier for you to answer, brother:
I think that serving Felipe will be really hard, but I haven’t given up yet. I just need to find a better approach and show him that hierarchy is beautiful. I do think he has potential to be a good Protector Alpha. He is really sweet and caring with his girlfriend, and even with me, he just needs to understand that being superior is not a problem. On contrary, he can only be so caring with his girl and his friend’s fag brother because he is indeed superior to us. If you were in my situation, would you give up, or maybe try another approach?
I realized that pretending that we are joking, while showing our submissive nature can work very well with some Alphas. It is definitely working with Marcelo. What do you think about it, brother?
Right now, I ensured a chance to serve Marcelo, and I see a slight chance of serving Felipe. But even with Marcelo I don’t know if he will accept sexual service. I know that we fags are always craving straight Alpha cum, but sometimes I think that the vast majority of service to straight Alphas is not sexual… am I right? I have very little experience with Alphas.
Thank you, Sam. I really appreciate your support and would love to stay in touch.
Love, Caio.
I really love how Caio immediately and accurately followed by instructions, and he did a good job of trying to reason with them! These kinds of blocks can be maddening, but Caio has kept his composure and he’s not giving up.
Part of why I told Caio to approach both of them differently is because I wanted these reactions from these two Alphas. The only way to correctly solve a puzzle is to see it from different perspectives.
Let’s take Alpha Felipe first. The Caring Nurturer type is tough because they want to believe in this utopian ideal of equality, like the world is an episode of Star Trek or some shit. It’s NOT, though. It might be nice to live in a vanilla-flavored dream world where we all hold hands and sing “fa la la” all day long, but that’s simply not reality.
Alpha Felipe is an overly-activated Protector Alpha. Even more problematic is the fact that Alpha Felipe clearly loves his little faggot friend Caio, and doesn’t want to demean him by using him. The only way through this barrier is to break it down over time with logical reasoning on the truth of hierarchy. Caio needs to help Alpha Felipe understand that he’s Alpha for a reason (I’ll bet he doesn’t even believe in Alphahood or his own Alpha status) and that logically, if there are Alphas, then the polar opposite must also exist (in other words, faggots). He needs to appreciate that our entire world, natural and man-made, is all built on hierarchy. That hierarchy is NATURAL.
I’m not sure Alpha Felipe will ever come around and see the truth. I’m very sure he will never call Caio a faggot (or maricón) or even accept that truth about his friend Caio. What a shame. Alpha Felipe is missing out on the rich possibilities his own life could be as a King of our world, and the power he would feel if he allowed submissives to submit to him and serve him!
But here’s what I’d suggest next for Alpha Felipe: let him read this post directly from this site so he can examine it. He needs to realize there is much more to this than some silly fetish. It’s REALITY!
As for Alpha Marcelo, his playfulness and good-natured flirting is fun, but he needs to take this more seriously. I think Caio needs to stop joking around with him about this stuff (which puts you on his level as a friend) and start acting submissively toward him. Here’s what I suggest: offer Alpha Marcelo a foot massage. Be worshipful about it. Alpha Marcelo needs to see that you truly worship him and are eager to serve his needs. For straight Alphas, this is usually a revelation, because women do not treat them the way they know they deserve.
In a general sense, it’s important for Caio to be more submissive and respectful. Start calling them Sir, use submissive body language, etc. When playing video games with them, sit on the floor at their feet. Start serving their needs (like fetching drinks, etc.). Just be of more service. The girlfriend makeover is a terrific way to serve Alpha Marcelo, but make it clear that you’re doing it because HE deserves to be satisfied and pleased.
These are my suggestions for right now. I do think these young Alphas can be helped to appreciate their real place in the world, and Caio is just the clever faggot to do it!
I work in a refugee center and there are three Arab Alpha Refugees from Syria! They grab their big bulges when I am around! How should I approach them? I feel the need to worship them!
Thank you for writing!
First of all, I thank you for the work you’re doing at that refugee center! As you may or may not know, I rescued an 18-year-old boy from Syria in 2017 at great risk and cost to both myself and him. Fortunately, it worked out eventually, and my precious Baby Boy is safe and thriving in Australia today. He is the most precious treasure in my life, a gift I will forever hold close.
The Syrian people have been brutalized by so many harsh regimes (as well as a punishing religious order) that helping them can be tricky. Baby Boy somehow kept his heart intact through all of the terror and abuse he suffered, but he was one of the fortunate few.
Hierarchically, most males in that region are conditioned to be Alphas. Of course, that doesn’t always “take”, but most of them recognize the natural order. From what I’ve come to know through this site over the years, straight Muslim Alphas have no issue using faggots as long as they can get away with it. Syria is one of the most virulently anti-gay countries in the world (Baby Boy saw gay people getting beheaded in the town square), so there is a lot of dangerous homophobia to be aware of.
Maybe try to acknowledge their bulges with your eye contact (and maybe a sly smile) the next time they’re grabbing them. This might trigger them to know what you are. This is a tricky situation (especially since this is occurring at your job), but you never know.
I’m a 26-year-old engineer who moved up quickly and recently became a senior engineer at my firm. A junior engineer straight out of school joined the company and was given a relocation package that covered a hotel for two weeks while he looked for an apartment.
At the end of those two weeks, he still hadn’t found a place. Since I have a finished basement close to the office, I offered to let him stay there and pay me rent. He’s been living with me for about two weeks now.
What has surprised me is how naturally a dynamic seems to be developing. Without me asking, he’s started cleaning the house after work, doing laundry, washing dishes, and generally taking care of domestic chores. He seems genuinely eager to be useful and appreciative of having a stable place to live.
He’s younger, smaller, and much less established professionally than I am, and the whole situation has me wondering about the line between landlord, mentor, boss, and something more.
I actually found your podcast while looking for discussions about straight men making use of willing gay boys for domestic service. It got me thinking about whether the arrangement should simply continue as it is, or whether there is value in explicitly defining what is already happening rather than leaving everything unspoken.
If a boy seems happiest taking care of the home and being useful to the man providing for him, is there any reason not to acknowledge that directly? How would you approach a conversation about stopping the apartment search and making him explicitly a live in faggot. How should I take advantage of this situation?
Master, thank you so much for writing! This is an extraordinary letter!
This is not the first time the podcast has led straight Alphas to the site and eventually to the truth about hierarchy. Every time it happens, I’m just so overwhelmed with gratitude for it.
Let me just preface my advice with these hierarchical truths: hierarchically-speaking, straight Alphas deserve worship and service from every inferior, male or female. That includes sexual, domestic, and financial service. Hierarchy is not about sexuality, it’s about power, so when a straight Alpha uses a faggot sexually, it isn’t GAY because those simple labels do not apply to what is happening between an Alpha and a faggot. When a straight Alpha uses a faggot sexually, it doesn’t change the Alpha’s sexual preference. Instead, the straight Alpha experiences an unparalleled rush of power that leads to tremendous orgasms and a sense of completeness that other straight Men cannot know.
That’s a lot to take in, I realize, but it’s important to define that so we can tackle what’s going on (and what needs to happen) with the kid you have now living with you, Master.
I think you’ve already accepted the truth that your new guest is a faggot. I’m guessing by how it is behaving that it has accepted this fact about itself and is trying some of my methods to get your attention (I don’t claim to know it’s ever read my site, but it’s following my game plan to a “t”). This is great.
Here’s what I suggest, Master: tell it that you want to speak to it. When the time comes for this meeting, have it kneel before you. Commend it for the domestic work it has been performing, and that you understand why it needs to do these things. Ask it directly: “Are you a faggot?” Once it admits this, ask repeatedly: “What are you?” and make sure it openly admits that it’s a faggot. Tell it “good boy”.
Then tell it that you want to take ownership of it as your personal faggot. Ask it if that is what it wants. It will say “yes, Sir”. Have it kiss your feet. Then outline your expectations from it, and demand confirmation from it.
At this point I recommend some form of scent training exercise, Master. I don’t know what you’re comfortable with, but you can have the faggot deeply sniff your feet, pits, or dick/balls. This will cause the faggot to imprint on you.
After that, ask it again what it is. Make it say “I’m your faggot, Sir”. Then dismiss it to get back to its chores.
That is how I recommend the first initiation should go, Master.
There could be variations to this depending on how you plan to use your new faggot. If you’re planning on using it sexually, then definitely train it on the smell and feel of your cock/balls. You might feel the urge to feed it your cock/cum on the first day; you should always follow your instincts on this, Master. Nature always knows best.
But the structural approach I’ve outlined helps the faggot understand that you have expectations and it needs to obey them.
As for your everyday approach going forward, you should start outlining expected tasks as part of its duties. So far, the faggot has been doing domestic work as a “gift” in exchange for lodging. This must be mentally changed to “work as an offering to a superior Alpha”. It’s part of the purpose of every faggot.
I hope this sets you up correctly, Master. I have a feeling you have an excellent faggot residing with you, and I have no doubt you’re going to love owning it!
Please feel free to write anytime! Thank you, Master!
Where can I find true alpha men? I would prefer gay but BI would be okay too.
Thanks for writing!
It’s not that hard, brother. Go wherever Men like to congregate and socialize. Gyms, bars, sporting events, parks, hardware stores (there’s a reason why Home Depot is called “Homo Depot”), etc. If you’re in school, that’s even better because they’re literally everywhere and always horny.
Hi Sam. I hope you’re having a wonderful day/evening. I wanted to ask how do I make my straight alpha friend become my master? Me and him have been friends for a few years now and I really want him to my master. He’s not fully aware I’m a faggot, but he knows I like kinky things. I’ve been trying to gauge how he feels about these certain things by making “jokes,” like paying to smell his feet, but I don’t know how to further push it without just admitting it to him. I’m just scared it would drive him away if I came on too strong, but I’d really like him to be my master. What is the best way to get the point across? Thank you for your help in advance!
Thank you for writing!
First of all, there is no way to “make” your straight Alpha friend do anything. There are techniques you can try to arouse his dominance, but to my knowledge there is no hypnosis technique for this! Believe me, I wish there was!
So let me get this straight: you’ve made jokes about paying him to smell his feet, and it didn’t register at all? That’s odd, although I suspect that he’s started to turn questions over in his mind.
Given that I don’t know how old you both are, or what your situation is (do you spend a lot of time together alone, etc.), my advice is limited. But my primary recommendation is to print out my “Letter To An Alpha” and humbly, submissively give it to him to read. It’s designed to gently bridge the gap between a straight Alpha and a faggot. Or, you can do something I often recommend, which is to ask him if he considers himself to be Alpha. Depending on his answer, you can lead him to a discussion of Hierarchy. You could even tell him you came across this site and it made you curious about his thoughts on hierarchy.
You obviously need to engage him more specifically. These are the steps I think you should take, brother.
Hi Sam, I’m turning to you with a question because I don’t know who else to turn to. I’m 25 years old and from the Czech Republic (Ostrava, the third largest city). I’m looking for a dominant Alpha man (preferably heterosexual) to serve. I love foot fetish so I’d rather serve an Alpha at his feet, but I also want to serve him in general. Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to find an Alpha for several years. I’ve tried erotic dating sites, classifieds, Grindr, Recon, Reddit. Lately I’ve been desperate and I’ve even tried Tinder where I tried (under fake settings) to find a dominant hetero Alpha. That was unsuccessful. Then I tried to think about who I know from my surroundings who could be an Alpha and then I approached him via Instagram (my anonymous foot fetish Instagram. And that’s because I’m not out at home). This strategy eventually backfired and I tried approaching random guys based on what I thought might be Alphas (I know it’s a bad and rude thing to do). As a result, I got banned from Instagram and I couldn’t find an Alpha. So I’m asking you, is there any way to find an Alpha that I could serve?
Brother, thank you for the question!
I know this is a common issue for faggots, but it really sounds like you’ve exhausted every angle. I feel your frustration!
It doesn’t sound like you’ve actually tried to approach an Alpha you know in real life for service. Yes, you said you approached an real life Alpha, but through Instagram. However, there’s a lot of suspicion about people offering service without money involved. I think if you just engaged with an Alpha in real life and explained hierarchy in plain terms, you might have better success. Also, you can use my “Letter To An Alpha” in the right sidebar to assist you with that.
Also, you might think about joining my free Discord (link on the LINKS page) and searching the Czech Republic channel.
I know it’s frustrating, but if you remain alert in your day-to-day life, I know you will find success!
I want to become an obedient servant to my neighbor Steve! I’ve sent messages to him asking for his help in getting his cock into my throat and his balls on my face. He doesn’t respond but when we run into each other he’s pleasant and friendly. I can’t help staring at his crotch and I want to suck him so bad. What else can I do?
Thank you for writing, brother.
First of all, please STOP what you’re doing immediately. You’re doing it completely wrong. You think you’re being sexy for him by acting like a complete whore. Guess what, sweetheart? HE’S STRAIGHT. He’s not attracted to you physically.
That’s why we faggots must use our complete submission to fly under the radar. I always advise fags to offer services like domestic service or monetary service or gifts. I advise having conversations where you unlock his mind to think about hierarchy and his power. Get him to talk about himself. That’s why I advise fags use physical cues for submission (like getting physically/visually lower).
But you’ve blown all of that with your ridiculous actions.
I want you to go to him and humbly apologize for acting that way. Actually say “Sir, I wanted to apologize to you for disrespecting you and your Alphahood. I’m sorry that I offended you. I simply want to be useful to you.” This might get his attention.
But I think you’ve significantly fucked this opportunity.
Hey I came across ur website a couple months ago, and it got me to realize that being a faggot was something I wanted to persue but I have never tried it so I don’t know where to start when it comes to finding a master. you have any devise or any masters looking for a new faggot?
Thank you for writing!
Congratulations on recognizing the truth in yourself and choosing to take action! That’s half the battle, honestly!
I don’t connect Alphas and faggots anymore. I tried it at the start of this site ten years ago, and it was a disaster.
I don’t know how old you are, but depending on your circumstances you just need to look around at the Alphas in your life that you’d like to serve and start submitting to them in various ways. You can use my free resource “Letter To An Alpha” in the right sidebar to open a conversation and help the Alpha you want to serve to understand what you are and what he is. That letter has worked multiple times.
You can also use apps like Grindr, TheBlowers.com, Recon, etc. Faggots often find Alphas there.
Hi Sam! Super glad your back; i followed you for years, enjoying your posts and your dialogue of spreading the word of Alphas and faggots.
I have a question that challenges me that I hope you can answer,…I definitely believe that im a true faggot at heart, but im having trouble accepting it. I have this platonic male friend who actually deliberately engages in dominance against me. He likes to crush with me with his body (hes much bigger than me), using his body weight to essentially crush me. He enjoys forcefully humping me as a playful act, as sort of symbol of his dominance. In a way, he seems like hes trying to teach me “you’re a faggot, im the alpha”. I think its a unique opportunity to help embrace my true faggot self…but im still having trouble letting go and fully embracing my true faggot life. Any advice for me?
Thank you for the question! I love my longtime readers!
This is a huge moment in your life, brother. This “friend” is definitely trying to dominate you (even if it’s just subconsciously). You recognize what he’s doing (thanks to me, in part!), which is also to your advantage.
What’s holding you back is fear … fear of stepping over the line and never being able to go back. Fear that your life will no longer be yours. Fear of the possible shame you’ll feel for the rest of your life.
But let me tell you what’s worse: a lifetime of regret from NOT ACTING!
I hear it again and again from older faggots who look back wistfully on a life lived in shadows of unfulfillment. Back in their day they lacked information and a freer society. They were essentially trapped, paralyzed by fear.
You don’t need to end up that way, brother. You have an Alpha who is wanting you to submit to him. Your chance his right there, dry-humping you! It’s insane to let this pass you by!
I’ll tell you the truth: the behaviors of this Alpha that you describe are very similar to the way my first Alpha Roger acted toward me until the day he made me his cocksucker and changed my life for the better!
So stop worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. You need to live in the moment right now. You learn to swim by jumping in the water and letting instinct take over. Well, it’s your time to jump.
Kneel and kiss his feet and let Nature take over. Your time in now.
Hello Sam, my name is Andy. I’m a 20 year old guy in his second year of uni.
First of all I want to thank you Sam, I never really considered myself a fag before stumbling on your content, which made me comfortable with using that title.
The situation is this, last year when I started uni I met a guy in one of my classes, we quickly bonded and became friends. We started hanging out every day and going to the gym together. He is very handsome and I found him attractive from the very begging. I subconsciously started serving him almost immediately after we became friends, giving him my notes, doing his homework, paying for our coffee when we go out and buying him gifts here and there. Around May of this year I started stealing his gym underwear and socks and jerking off with them before returning them. Whenever I smell his alpha scent I just think about how much I want to serve him, however I come from a fairly homophobic Eastern European country and from the things I heard him say he is also quite homophobic and right wing. I want to show him the hierarchy chart and explain to him that I want to serve him and be his fag however I’m afraid that he’ll stop talking to me afterwards. Is there any way I can introduce him to this world?
Thank you so much for the important work you do!
Thank you for the question!
Congrats on finding an Alpha close to you that you might be able to serve! This is a big trick I’ve always endorsed, and it works pretty well. Why? Because you’ve developed a relationship with him and he likes you, so he’s more likely to be sympathetic if you ever approach him about this.
First of all, I wouldn’t worry about the homophobia/right-wing shit, brother. Homophobic right-wingers are actually MORE likely to be the ones (a) eager to flex their Alphahood, and (b) more likely to be interested in doing gay stuff. Yes, I know it’s messed up, but that’s reality. Their aggressive homophobia is called overcompensation. Check the Grindr traffic around areas where American Republicans are holding gatherings, and Grindr actually CRASHES from so many in-denial Republicans looking for faggots! So I wouldn’t worry too much about that.
You’re already serving him in a variety of ways, and that’s really good! You didn’t mention his attitude toward all of these gifts and favors you’re doing for him, but I’m assuming he’s just accepting it without even thinking about it (Alphas sometimes take that for granted).
I would suggest that you try to sit at his feet and “get lower” when you’re around him. This action will sometimes lead to the Alpha teasing you with his feet. It triggers something inside them when they see weaker guys in vulnerable positions. He will start to view you as a plaything.
You can try a couple of resources on the site. The Hierarchy chart on here is a solid one, although it might confuse him unless you explain it. The “Letter To An Alpha” linked in the right sidebar is a useful one if you want it explained to him in a concise, logical way. And there is also my book “May I Serve You, Sir?” that’s goes into greater depth (I don’t recommend it for college Alphas).
But before you give him any of those resources, you should ask him a simple question: “Do you consider yourself to be Alpha?” This almost always leads to a response, and you can usually use that response to lead him to a discussion about Hierarchy (and those resources).
Hopefully this gives you something of a game plan, brother. I have no doubt you’ll do fine with whatever course you choose. They don’t always work, but I promise you they work more often than you’d ever imagine!
I have just started a new job and one of the guys I work with and will in future work closely with is so hot and I’d love to worship him I just don’t know how to do it any advice?
Thanks for the question!
Well, I don’t have very much to go on … but you’ll need to get to know him a little bit first, obviously. Be kind, submissive, genuinely complimentary. Then I would introduce the concept of hierarchy by asking him if he considers himself to be Alpha. This question almost always elicits a response. With whatever he tells you, direct his attention to hierarchy by reasoning with him about his place in hierarchy and the truth of inferior males.
If you show him my hierarchy pyramid, it might open up his mind even more to that and a conversation.
Hello, I’m 28 and still a virgin. Mainly because I’m a demisexual while being a faggot and those two sides contradict each other often. Usually the demisexual side wins out. How do I get my faggot side to win out so that I can serve alphas? This is a deep struggle I have felt with for a long while.
Thanks for the question!
First, a definition: Demisexual describes a sexual orientation where a person only experiences sexual attraction after developing a strong emotional bond or connection with someone, often within a close friendship or romantic relationship, rather than from initial physical or superficial cues.
Personally, I don’t see your dilemma. You can still develop sexual attraction (and therefore serve as an effective faggot) if you get to know an Alpha. I’ve always recommended that faggots start their search with Alphas they know personally, and that’s particularly true in your case.
Don’t let your unusual sexual quirk stop you from fulfilling your purpose, brother!
I know this is a very typical question, but I feel helpless here. I’m a faggot, living in a homophobic country and studying at a university (I’m 19). I haven’t been able to get this guy out of my head for a year or so.
He is a real alpha. He’s so charismatic, confident, a little arrogant. He can sometimes be embarrassed and shy, depending on the situation, but more often he behaves like a king and like everything is under his control.
I’m not sure if he’s protective or destructive alpha tho. I heard, that he is caring in relationship, but anyway, he thinks he is better in some way than others. He can hit, if you cross the line. He and his friends even often fight with each other just for fun.
I always stared at him in the locker room and imagined how I could serve him. But the fact is that we barely talk to each other. We only say “hello” when we see each other. And.. I already tried to test the waters.
I asked one person to send him a message, so to speak, a “letter” from me with a confession. But so that I remain anonymous. This guy, the alpha, just laughed and said that he definitely did not need this. After some time I heard him and his friends discussing who it could be. And he clearly thought the situation was ridiculous and absurd. But, I think, he was a bit proud of himself, that he can attract boys too, haha.
I made a mistake. I confessed my feelings. I expected something more like a relationship. Something romantic. But I don’t know if this could ever be possible. No one’s know that it was me, who confessed. And I feel scared to do any more steps. I feel scared, even terrified, that someone will find out and start to bully me or something… The chances are high.
What should I do? Confess, that I’m okay with just being an obedient fag, not expecting anything romantic? Or just leave it behind, because my safety is a priority 1? I really need an advice, even if it’s a stupid question.
My brother, thank you for writing to me! And it’s not a stupid question at all!
One of the most heartbreaking aspects of my time running this site are the many cries for help I’ve received from faggots trapped in homophobic countries. It’s especially hard to hear this from gays in the Middle East, because as long-term readers know, I rescued an 18-year-old Syrian boy from there after he reached out to me through this site. So I have all the empathy in the world for that situation, believe me.
I realize that my message of “be brave and offer yourself” can actually be quite dangerous to people in your situation. It can also be cruel; it’s like demanding that a paralyzed person get up and walk. I never want to add any further burden to anyone.
My first advice is my most urgent: do whatever you need to do to escape your country and start a new life in freedom. Get into a school and learn a valuable skill that can get you out of there (a lot of times schools on the outside will sponsor students to move). If you have anyone on the outside, start reaching out to them and find a pathway. This isn’t going to be an overnight process, but start steering your life in that direction and fight for it like your life depends on it (because it does!).
Now, if you really want to approach this Alpha, you must do it very carefully. Either try to befriend him somehow and start offering to do things for him. Be respectful, complimentary, attentive. Once he trusts you enough, give him the “Letter To An Alpha” that I have linked in the sidebar (I’m guessing that is not the letter you already gave him). Hopefully he will see it in a different light if he cares enough about you.
That’s probably the only way you’re going to do this and still remain safe. I can’t recommend more because I don’t know the situation very well and I don’t want to give you harmful advice.
Just know that you’re in my thoughts and in my heart, little one. I love you!
like most fags, I have always know my place is to service real men with alpha cocks. My problem is I’m not a twink or smooth. I’m a rougher looking blue collar guy in Wisconsin. I’m wondering how to more embrace the fag I am and how to find more alpha cock to service and cum to swallow.
Hi brother, thank you for writing!
It’s always difficult to fulfill your purpose when you don’t fit the stereotype Men think of when they think of a faggot. Over the years, I’ve encountered faggots of all types. I’ve met obese fags, muscular bodybuilding fags, twink fags, and blue collar “dude” fags like you.
And here’s the truth: there’s an Alpha out there for every faggot body type. What matters much more is a faggot’s attitude. Being submissive and service-oriented will go much farther than looks with Alphas.
Finding those Alphas for someone like you probably involves either searching through the Alphas you personally know, or going to places like gyms, sporting events, bars, etc. and making yourself useful. There’s no magic formula to this. It’s just a matter of making yourself available and being brave.
Just know that any useful faggot can (and will) be used. You can do this, brother!
This is a funny story I wanted to share. I think I was about 7 years old and I unknowingly submitted to an alpha.
For some reason I wanted to be my friends footstool. I didn’t say anything about the urge but I just kneeled and got into position when he was on the couch. He laughed and put his heavy feet on my back.
Again, I was like 7, but I remember sniffing his socks and licking his sandals when he left his room.
Somewhere along the way I hid this urge and it has resurfaced. How do I submit to my straight friends?
Thank you for your funny (yet revealing) experience!
I love when people try to argue with me and convince me that being a faggot is a choice. NO. Fags are absolutely born different from straight and gay Males. There are too many commonalities fags share – and they manifest so early – that it’s undeniable we are born fags. There’s a separate argument about why that is, but that’s for another conversation.
I’m glad you had that early experience, because it’ll help inform you in your decisions today.
Clearly you have a couple of Alpha friends you’re targeting. I would start treating them to dinner, or buying them things you know they want/like/need. I’d also ask them if they consider themselves to be Alpha, then direct their attention to hierarchy. There are also resources on this site to assist in the process of awakening a straight Alpha, like my “Letter To An Alpha” that’s linked in the sidebar of this site, or my book “May I Serve You, Sir?” that’s in my bookstore in the navbar above.
Depending on how closely you associate with your Alpha friend, you can offer foot massages, sit by his feet more often, things like that.
Try one or all of these things. They typically yield results.
