I have been chatting online with an alpha on a cruiser type website and we are hitting it off and are to meet so he can determine if to take me on.  He says he’s married and I’ve accepted his need for breeding and saying he’s clean but worry he may be just using me and not honest about his situation. Also wants to meet me at a ABS as first time. Can I ask anything else or just do as told?

Thank you for the question!

I’m not sure how to advise you about this. On one hand, the Alpha claims he’s married, so he’s probably clean. But can you trust him about being married? This is definitely going to be a one-time thing, so you really need to weigh your needs with the risk.

For me, married Men who are creeping around gay cruising apps are just unappealing. You’d be much better off trying to offer yourself to Alphas you know.

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Hello , I want to let a man try dick trampling ( use me dick like a carpet a footstool, kick it, and more)

I fear to damage me dick.

What ideas and recommendations can you have me ?

Thanks for the question!

I really don’t have much to say about this except: don’t do it. I don’t understand this fetish, honestly. I mean, there’s not much to it. Alphas love kicking faggots in the nuts. Just go find one.

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Hey Sam! Hope you’re doing well in these crazy times.
I’ve been following your page for a pretty long tome now, discovered it in my early teens while I was still trying to figure myself out. It’s been a weird journey of identity crises and questioning but I think I have come to a pretty nice conclusion, at least for now.
at 17 I met my boyfriend, we dated until I was 18 and I broke up with him. I was unsure of what I wanted and how I wanted to live my life and I didn’t want to lead him on only to break his heart down the line after years of relationship. Only a few months after the breakup we started seeing eachother as friends with benefits, as I still wanted to be of service to him, and one thing lead to another, we’re back together and honestly stronger than ever. In the time spent apart I had a little slutty moment but quickly learned that I did in fact want to be in a monogamous relationship with one man, and that turns out to be him. He is perfect, deeply caring and in love with me but also quite dominant with a sadistic streak. Slowly we’ve been working on power dynamic in which he is the leader. I have been locked for two months after which he has decided to make me cum, but I am back in my cage now. We have had some serious conversations about our relationship and the way we want to move forward. We want to work on me becoming his slave and him my master. I feel a deep need to give up all control to him and become his property.

Now, we know that doesn’t happen overnight and we want to take small but steady steps in the direction of total power exchange. My question would be how to do that. I would be really happy if you could give me some sources, books or just general advice.

I have read the posts here and I’ve found that most of them focus on something a bit different, but I am not sure where to look for something more specific to our situation. We are still boyfriends and in a very loving relationship, but we do not wish to be equals. I want him to be my absolute leader and he wants me to be completely obedient to him.
I honestly just need some serious advice, that goes beyond just sexy role playing and encompasses power exchange as a life style.

Thank you for the great work you’ve been doing helping boys and men like us find our true place in the male hierarchy. I’m really looking forward to your response!

Brother, thank you for writing!

Congratulations on finding a complementary Master who has compatible interests with you in the TPE (Total Power Exchange) subgenre! That’s often the hardest part!

While it’s true that this site doesn’t deal with extreme versions of TPE, there have certainly been examples featured here. Most notably, the column fag Zack writes about his enslavement to Master Declan (who definitely love each other). You can read that by following the link in the right sidebar. Occasionally I’ll come across an extreme case of deep slavery, like the faggot slave Tim from the days of FWA.

TPE is featured here on occasion. You just need to know where to look!

Hi brother sam, i recently wrote you how i found a dominant straight Alpha. i found Him via Silverdaddies website. i am an older fag, late 50s, who was married to a female for 26 years. After my divorce, i returned to my desire to serve Men. Initially, while i was still married, i was cunted by a real estate broker in an empty house that was on the market. That experience left me with a void that i desperately needed to fill, as you know. i ended up getting a divorce and started to search for Alpha men who could satisfy my cravings. i will tell you more about what led to that later, but after recently placing an ad in Silverdaddies, i found a straight Alpha man, who is married to a woman, but isn’t satisfied sexually. i wrote to you about that.

Well, sam, i have met this Alpha Man, and His wife,  and i am now His concubine.  i was extremely nervous when i met His wife, but she was very supportive. She said that as long as i was willing to satisfy Her Man, She was “OK” with me servicing Him regularly. i wrote you sam about my misgivings, since He seemed to be a bit of a predator. He stalked me, found out my address and phone number, and began bombarding me with demands to service Him. You intuitively suggested that i practice caution, which i did. But He continued relentlessly. i caved, and met Him, and His wife. She was looking for a way to preserve Her family, as they had two children, but keep Him satisfied. i decided to fill that void sam. He has started to demand sexual service from me every other day. He aggressively takes me, making me suck His cock, lick His ass, and fucks me, until He shoots a big load in my ass. i can’t begin to tell you sam, how this makes me feel, especially after meeting His beautiful wife. We have been together since this started, and she has thanked me for satisfying her Alpha Husband’s needs, so she can focus on their children. i am in ecstasy but feel like a whore. Do you think i am doing the right thing?

What makes matters even more important, is that He and i are both hunters. i am not so much of a hunter as i was when i was younger (i’m now in my late 50s), but He, in His late 50s is an enthusiastic hunter who has land and hunting shacks. He wants me to be His sexual slave when we go out to His lands, so He can be satisfied, multiple times, while we are there. His wife is very excited about this and wants me to “drain him sexually” so He is ready to spend time with her and their children when He returns. sam, i am amazed and humbled by this experience, an older faggot realizing his life’s ambitions. But i trust your judgement, and want to be assured that what i am embarking on is a good thing. i spent a better part of my life chasing women, but have found a Man who loves to have sex with me as His ‘sex slave.’ His wife assures me that this is what she also wants. It seems almost too good to be true. He is very demanding, showing up at my home without warning, and taking me for His sexual release. There is part of me that loves this, but part of me that makes me fearful. i do love sucking His cock, and being fucked by Him, and am encouraged by His wife’s support. What are your thoughts on this satisfying but challenging relationship?

Thankyou,

fag brother mark

This is a follow-up to THIS QUESTION from a faggot named “Marco” then.

Hi brother! Thank you for writing back!

I’m so glad to be wrong about this situation! I was thinking you should get away from him, honestly. But back then I didn’t know all of these details, either.

You need to completely submit to this Alpha and do everything you can to satisfy him. You’re in your late fifties, brother – you may not have another opportunity as golden as this one. And he literally sounds like a perfect Alpha breeder who is also learning how to be a Master of a faggot. What else could you even want or expect?

Submit to him and give him whatever he wants. I think it will be a life-changing experience!

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Hey Sam, happy new year. I hope things are going good for you. They’re going great for me.

Now to my problem recently I had a friend named Jose he Kept flirting with me and flirting with me, but in a jokingly way, and I got tired of it, and I actually took him up on that offer and he didn’t back down he Thought I was still kidding and he said can we get Colton and William in on this? Jose and William are 25 each and Colton is a fresh 20 year-old and he’s actually homophobic but he’s kind of coming around and I think he’s curious

They all thought I was serious until I got down on my knees and said unzipping Jose‘s pants and I pulled out this beautiful sits inches beautiful foreskin with a big thick vein running right through the middle. I took his dick in my mouth and from what I’ve heard from his past girlfriends is that his cum tasted horrible because he used to smoke. He tasted pretty good and we had a Safe word put up if they say stop I stop and I started with the dirty talk each time I deep throat in him I felt him get harder and harder in my throat.

I can feel him struggling not to blow early and I didn’t want him to so I pulled off and told him sit down. Let yourself go limp and then I’ll come back and I’ll suck you again. William tap me on the shoulder and I looked over and I see this beautiful hairy muscular man just all he said was do you like what you see and I under my pants and my cock came out and he said obviously yes, and as I started to suck on William, I ran my hand through his chest hair played with his balls. I was really into him because you know that feeling you get when you’re tasting this guy and you can’t explain it, but there’s something drawing you back to him he had a nice 8 inches and a thing I noticed about William even more is that he was the most aggressive.

When I felt another cock pushed me in the side of the mouth I thought it was Jose left over. There’s Colton this skinniest a twig 20 year-old with an average dick 5.5. I don’t judge I don’t care and I sucked him off. It’s obvious it was his first time he blew within like two minutes and he kept saying I’m sorry I’m sorry and I stood up so fast pulled him into a hug and then I kissed him swapping my load back into his mouth and I actually felt him swallow. I told him it’s OK. It’s your first time I get it.

I go back to William, but I see him eyeing my ass I asked him if you want to get really freaky now you wanna fuck your faggot He told me to get down on my hands and knees. I was expecting a nice thick cock head, but I felt his tongue In me and it’s obvious he knew what he was doing. I won’t lie. He had me moaning riding around. I’ve never felt that for a long time. Jose got back up and said there’s always something I wanted to do, but I’ve never trusted anyone else two dicks one ass and as I climbed on top of William, I felt him into me and I actually started shuddering It’s like electricity was flying and I know he could feel it. I did too and when Jose started fucking me in the ass just like William I went from soft the hard in seconds flat they reduced me to have oh my God, even though I’m older than them. I start calling out for William to fuck me harder, daddy and he did. Worst part is he called me son and I don’t know why that did it for me, but I blew even harder seconds before they did. Jose passed out on top of me. I was barely keeping my strength didn’t want to flatten William by accident and as they all pulled out of me, just making sure that I’m not bleeding. I felt another dick inside me I look down and I saw Colton.

He asked me if I could, and I said go for it again he didn’t last too long, but I held onto him and wrapped my legs around his ass, so he couldn’t pull out and he deposited a healthy load kept asking me. How did he do and each time he asked, I kissed him like a lot

after Colton and Jose left, but I noticed Jose had his hand on Colton‘s ass. I think I sparked something there with them and I’m now laying here typing this out while Just looking at William sleep I think I found a new alpha but the problem is he’s 10 years younger than me and my inner guilt is getting to me. How do I get it to stop?

Sorry about going on I just wanted you to know the Full context

Thank you for that entire story!

Your basic question is whether or not this Alpha is too young for you because he’s 10 years younger than you? I guess it’s a matter of taste, but a Man can be young and be Alpha. I’ve known 15-year-olds more Alpha than Men three times their age. Age is meaningless when it comes to hierarchy. If you’re a faggot, then you should kneel and respect any Alpha regardless of their age.

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Hi Sam! I am a faggot that served a Brazilian Alpha for some months named Thiago. He has a huge cock that I found challenging to take at first, but over time He managed to shape my insides to his cock. Last month, I noticed that my hole had become looser due to all the stretching and it now looked like a slit with swollen edges, mimicking a vagina. I got very excited because I immediately recognised it as the boy pussy that you talk about in your website. However, I noticed that Thiago gradually called me less and less to fuck me and when I asked him if something was wrong, he confessed that my pussy was not satisfying him anymore. He assured me that he was very attracted to my boy pussy externally, but that it was not tight enough for him anymore. He told me that he is known by other faggots as the “Pussy Maker” and that most slaves served him to get it. I respected his wishes, of course, but I feel sad. I am scared that other Alphas will see me as “used” or “broken” and that my pussy will not be as tight as they expect. Do you have any advice for me?

Thank you for the question, brother!

Wow, it sounds like Master Thiago had one monstrous cock! Was it really called the “Pussy Maker” or the “Pussy SPLITTER”? I’ve heard about the giant cocks in Brazil, but your letter has caused me to book a flight there.

But yes, proper fucking by larger Alpha cocks can cause our holes to transform into vagina-like openings that I call “Boy Pussy”. It’s pretty amazing, honestly. It’s like our bodies know to do this.

I’m sorry Master Thiago acted that way, but it’s pretty common for Alpha breeders like him to move on after a while. I’m sure his blunt assessment of your pussy hurt you, which is a shame given the fact that it was his cock that loosened it!

As an advice, I want to introduce you to Kegels for faggots: “anal breathing”. This creepy gay doctor from the ’90s named Joe Kramer pushed this method for strengthening the muscles of the anus. I was doing a form of this naturally after I started getting fucked, and then I saw this video and realized I was doing it right.

The anus has a web of muscle surrounding our hole to control what goes in or out. Like any muscle, it can be worked out and strengthened.

Here is the video I’ve had stored on my computer for ages. It teaches several exercises that should help to tighten your sphincter:

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Hi sam hope you are having a good day. I’m just reaching out to you as i want to have my first experience with a Man but im not too sure in what way.

I do believe in hierarchy and i do feel like i am a faggot. I often fantasize about serving a Man in ways that a standard sexual partner wouldnt. The idea of a Man enjoying having his feet licked and piss drank feels so alien to me but feels so inspiring at the same time because it must require a level of pure cockiness and understanding they have the power to make someone do that, which i know is something i definitely dont possess.

The thing is i am yet to have any sexual experience at all. Im early 20s so im perhaps a little late to the game compared to most gay guys haha. I have just always been nervous about sex and struggled a bit with shame due to religious trauma. Over the years, ive explored fantasies online but i used to be much more vanilla. I dont know if itd be wise to jump straight into the deep end and find a master to serve or whether it would be better to try more vanilla experiences instead. I want to be well prepared for a master/slave dynamic and wouldnt want to disappoint him as a newbie. But im also a bit scared of the impact it would do to the work ive done to combat the shame ive felt about being gay as being a slave to a Man kinda adds another layer of complexity to it. I also dont know if i will end up enjoying being more vanilla and a typical sub bottom rather than a faggot. I guess i am just unsure if i am thinking wisely to go from not having done anything with a Man to worshipping his feet, doing his laundry and wearing a cage for him all at once lol. I know hierarchy is reality but im not too sure if i am thinking of too much fantasy. Im not sure if im overthinking or not. I would really appreciate some guidance from you sam as i love reading your stuff and coming here has definitely helped me realise the importance of knowing your place within the hierarchy.

Thank you for writing!

I understand your fears and the programming you’re fighting against. Many faggots are so nervous and timid that they struggle to make any headway with their purpose as you’re experiencing.

But here’s the thing: if you continue on this course, you’ll never experience anything you truly desire. You don’t want that. There’s nothing worse than looking back in regret.

Just go on TheBlowers.com or Grindr and find a Man to service. You need to just get started. From there you can build with more confidence.

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I’ve been here before ages ago confessing I was craving to serve this Alpha, which with much courage I did a few times. But it’s been a couple of years now I’ve become top and come to realise I’m a proper switch, love to dominate when I fuck, and serve when I’m a bottom. So the other day I was in bed with my husband and this huge urge to dominate him surged over me and started fucking his mouth. Seeing him so eager and feeling him only as a hole to be filled. It was so amazing how submissive he was for my cock and it felt amazing cumming on his face. Felt like a real Alpha this time like all these dominant Alphas I used to love to serve.

Thank you for the experience!

The situation you describe makes you sound like a good candidate for “Alpha latency”. Many times due to trauma or childhood conditioning a gay Male will think he’s supposed to be a bottom to be gay (or they’re mimicking what they learned from abuse).

In most cases of Alpha latency, the subject is unhappy or unfulfilled as a bottom. This is their true Alpha nature trying to assert itself.

Now, you sound like you enjoy being a bottom, so perhaps you’re not dealing with Alpha latency. In any event, I have plenty of resources on the subject. You can CLICK HERE to examine it.

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How publicly exposed and to what detail should a faggot be? Is being out as openly gay enough? Or should it be known to friends, relatives even, exactly how gay they really are? How they are totally passive bottom submissive for all and any Men? Should a faggot expose itself or trust a Real Man to expose them properly?

Thanks for writing!

I don’t think a faggot necessarily needs to come out as a faggot. Coming out as gay is more than enough. I have found it useful to openly admit my faghood, but I’m a different breed and I would never insist on that course for everyone.

Now, some Masters like to push their faggots to come out as a faggot. I don’t really agree with that. But I’m not a Master, and I don’t expect Masters to listen to me.

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I want to become an obedient servant to my neighbor Steve! I’ve sent messages to him asking for his help in getting his cock into my throat and his balls on my face. He doesn’t respond but when we run into each other he’s pleasant and friendly. I can’t help staring at his crotch and I want to suck him so bad. What else can I do?

Thank you for writing, brother.

First of all, please STOP what you’re doing immediately. You’re doing it completely wrong. You think you’re being sexy for him by acting like a complete whore. Guess what, sweetheart? HE’S STRAIGHT. He’s not attracted to you physically.

That’s why we faggots must use our complete submission to fly under the radar. I always advise fags to offer services like domestic service or monetary service or gifts. I advise having conversations where you unlock his mind to think about hierarchy and his power. Get him to talk about himself. That’s why I advise fags use physical cues for submission (like getting physically/visually lower).

But you’ve blown all of that with your ridiculous actions.

I want you to go to him and humbly apologize for acting that way. Actually say “Sir, I wanted to apologize to you for disrespecting you and your Alphahood. I’m sorry that I offended you. I simply want to be useful to you.” This might get his attention.

But I think you’ve significantly fucked this opportunity.

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This faggot has a question about cunt status, I was anally raped by a Man when I was underage, that was my first sexual experience. I didn’t tell anyone at the time and never really thought about it until I became an adult and had naturally gravitated towards Men and developed my own understanding of what being a faggot was going to mean for me. A recently, I met this particular Man who was one of if not the biggest I have taken and we have since been seeing eachother 2-3 times a week for a few months now. Only recently, I have seen a change in my assholes appearance and I believe my cunt is developing. Would my official cunting be the first Cock I took? Or the first Cock that started my cunting process?

Thank you for the question, brother!

I’m afraid you’ve misunderstood what I mean by the word “cunting”. The term refers to the internal orgasm a faggot experiences when an Alpha fucks them right. There are lots of resources on cunting (including a film I made) in the link on the front page.

What you’re experiencing is the natural transformation of your hole into a boy pussy. Congratulations on that! It’s an amazing thing that we get from our Alphas. They love seeing a faggot with a boy pussy, because their natural attraction to pussy triggers them.

That means your Alpha is stretching you out! Enjoy it!

Hey I came across ur website a couple months ago, and it got me to realize that being a faggot was something I wanted to persue but I have never tried it so I don’t know where to start when it comes to finding a master. you have any devise or any masters looking for a new faggot?

Thank you for writing!

Congratulations on recognizing the truth in yourself and choosing to take action! That’s half the battle, honestly!

I don’t connect Alphas and faggots anymore. I tried it at the start of this site ten years ago, and it was a disaster.

I don’t know how old you are, but depending on your circumstances you just need to look around at the Alphas in your life that you’d like to serve and start submitting to them in various ways. You can use my free resource “Letter To An Alpha” in the right sidebar to open a conversation and help the Alpha you want to serve to understand what you are and what he is. That letter has worked multiple times.

You can also use apps like Grindr, TheBlowers.com, Recon, etc. Faggots often find Alphas there.

I hope that helps!

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Dear Sam,

I came across your blog yours ago and recognized myself a lot in the description of a fag. However being in a relationship I didn’t do much actively about it, only fantasizing. The last few years, the sex in my relationship dropped from no more anal sex (my bf says I’m too tight) to just a few times a year where he let’s me give him head. Most of the times he is just laying there on his back and let me do my thing. Getting frustrated I started to go on the apps behind his back to search for fun. I limit it to hookups where I suck the guys, a lot of time straight man. Probably because anal sex would need more preparation time and would feel even more like cheating since it’s a lot more intimate.

With this experiences in the last year, I tend to hookup more and more with dominant guys, that wont to be deepthroated or facefuck. I really enjoy this submissive role.

A few weeks ago I came across this real alpha who lives nearby and works in the same building. We met a couple of times now where he makes me suck him and rubs his dick over my ass before cumming all over it. When he writes me, he want me to come over immediately, which is hard for me being in a relation but I do when I can. It’s clear that he doesnt like to get no for an answer.

I feel that he wants to fuck me and come in my ass but for now I always find a reason for it not to happen (no time to clean, not practical in the toilets, …). I’m afraid he will loose interest in me if I don’t let him fuck me. On one side, I would like to be fucked again, on the other side, it’s really a big step which I feel uncomfortable with of crossing. His dick is also really big and he likes to play rough, so I’m also afraid my ass will get hurted of injured after all this time. I’m not sure what to do here. Any advice?

Thank you for the question, brother!

I’m sorry about the failing relationship. Sometimes Men lose interest in sex over time for a variety of reasons, but that’s a shame in your case because you have a faggot’s desire to serve and he’s wasting it.

I’m glad you found this truly dominant Alpha who is also very conveniently located! You’re taking the right steps to unleash your inner faggot, which I’m glad to hear!

The Alpha is going to fuck you at some point. If you don’t get ready, it’s either going to be really painful, or he’s going to lose interest and move on. So I suggest that you get ready for getting fucked.

For your level of experience, I recommend that you get this combo set of three buttplugs:

If you buy it through me, you get a discount. Again, HERE IS THE LINK. You need to use those buttplugs to loosen your hole. I’d also get some good water-based lube.

As far as your ethical concerns with your partner, I wouldn’t worry about it too much. He’s the one who has abandoned you. It’s time for you to experience your truth as a faggot.

Hello. I serve a Master who takes advice from you. He recommended I listen to your podcasts, and I have joined your discord.
I am confused about some of your posts and podcasts though.
Is it OK for Alphas to have nonconsentual sex with fags? Is it OK for Alphas to lie to fags about safe sex by stealthing?
You seem to have posted conflicting views on these issues.
Thank you.

Thank you for the question, brother!

I must say, your Master should be very proud to own such an intelligent and thoughtful faggot as you! You’re a credit to him!

I’ve often said that I don’t consider myself a reliable voice when it comes to rape because I was raped. And while it was scary in the moment and something that took a while to overcome, I noticed that my feelings toward my rapist and the event itself transformed into something valuable. I acknowledge that might not be the case with every faggot/rape victim, but I’ve heard from plenty of faggots who’ve had the same experience.

So to your question about whether it’s “okay” for Alphas to rape faggots, I’ll phrase it this way: Alphas have the right to take whatever they want from a faggot (rape, so to speak), and they always will. The idea of it being “okay” implies some justification based on human law, but Alphas operate under natural law. It’s the so-called “law of the jungle” that we know as hierarchical law. And under hierarchical law, Alphas can and do rape faggots.

That said, I wish Alphas didn’t rape faggots … but wishes won’t change nature.

As far as stealthing, I don’t really condone the practice overall; the video featuring stealthing I recently posted was just hot. I think if an Alpha wants to breed a faggot, he should just state his intentions outright and then do it. Why the subterfuge? Almost all faggots want to be bred by Alphas/Masters anyway, so the act of stealthing simply indicates untrustworthy behavior. And should diseases be spread via stealthing, there are hefty prices to pay for it. I prefer upfront, direct, and honest communication with the Alphas I serve.

I really hope I answered your questions, brother! Tell your Master thank you for his support, and for training up such a wonderful faggot brother like you!

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Hi again Sam

I hope you don’t mind this faggot following up on your very interesting reply to my last question.  Faggot wondered if it could ever be  the case that true Masters  occasionally like to take cock themselves – your answer made faggot think it’s not acceptable yet it  has had some further thoughts on this which it would like to share.  Masters have the freedom to seek pleasure wherever and however They choose. By exercising  that choice They are asserting Their rights, and faggot guesses (obviously no faggot can truly understand the mind of an alpha) that sometimes some Masters may enjoy the sensation of having Their hole penetrated. Faggot wonders if this would be  per se a loss of dignity or a diminution of a Master’s masculinity?  An interesting question, faggot thinks, for discussion in the Hierarchy University.

Of course in this faggot’s case the particular issue in the original question was its own embarrassment at having to use its dicklet in such a way; but then again, as Master has always declared that faggot’s dicklet belongs to Him then faggot supposes it could be argued that Master is merely using His own property to please Himself. This is all very perplexing for a mere faggot brain!!

The issue of faggot’s relationship with its dicklet (not really belonging to it but to Master, of course) is sometimes a difficult one to manage.  Faggot has for many years had a serious problem with masturbation but Master prefers it not to wear a device because He believes that developing self-control is a  much more fulfilling practice.  By having to struggle every day when temptation arises faggot is constantly having to focus on and strengthen its commitment to Master’s command.  However over time this has become much easier and faggot now finds the idea of masturbation repellent and selfish whilst the word itself – masturbation- seems ugly.  Faggot guesses that its growth towards dissociating its dicklet from any legitimate kind of sexual  pleasure (even though it still experiences powerful erections) has made it more difficult to satisfy Master’s very occasional commands to fuck Him – yet again faggot finds itself shuddering at the inappropriateness of those two words! Thank you Sam for taking the trouble to take on board this silly faggot’s meanderings.  It hopes you have more wise words to dispense!

Thanks for writing again, brother!

Even though I’m now a big proponent of chastity (locked for all of five years aside from my two years in prison), that wasn’t always the case. None of my Masters ever required it of me because I have a tiny penis that never got hard while serving, so it wasn’t an issue. However, I DID have a secret masturbation problem for my entire life until right before I self-locked. I overcame that issue thanks to starting this site, actually! I became intimately involved with some God Alphas, and they so humbled me that I eventually became ashamed of masturbating. Then I eventually became ashamed of using my penis like Men do (for example, using a urinal). So masturbation stopped, and I eventually self-locked out of desperation.

It sounds like your evolution is following the same path as mine. I think it’s wise of your Master to have you overcome masturbation voluntarily using self-control rather than a device. But once you do have it under control, I do hope your Master does agree to lock you in chastity. There is something profound about being locked. It has truly changed my life for the better.

I do think you should have a respectful-but-frank conversation with your Master about your feelings regarding you topping him. You need to help him see how this is hurting you, and also how it is hurting how you view him. You need to help him understand that you want nothing more than to serve him and submit to him, but topping him not only makes you extremely uncomfortable, it bit also degrades that submission you feel toward him.

Your Master sounds like an insightful Alpha. I’m sure he will listen and understand if you explain it to him.

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Hi Sam, happy new year

I was wondering, have you ever come across this before I was at a party and I saw this couple this 275 pound muscle man hairy as all hell I won’t lie. I wanted to get fucked by him a lot but he was already with someone.

His partner was this skinny surfer boy type, and I thought that he was the bottom well they invited me back to their hotel room for the night, and I learned that the big guy was actually the bottom and the little guy was the master and he actually had quite a nice healthy looking 8 inches on him

Have you ever encountered this before or do you think it’s like just a one time thing because I’ve only encountered this once and that was 10 years ago

Thanks for the question! Happy New Year to you, too!

The situation you describe is one of the great proofs of a definitive hierarchical truth: our place in hierarchy is something we are born with INSIDE, and has nothing to do with our bodies or circumstances. By all rights, that Master/faggot couple you met should’ve fit the pattern that their outward appearances suggested, but they were the exact opposite! The skinny surfer dude with the big dick was born Alpha, and the burly, muscle-bound hairball was born a faggot!

This is why I’m repeatedly warning against judging Men based on outward appearances!

You asked if I’ve ever encountered such counterintuitive couples before, and the answer is YES! I’ve chronicled multiple couples like this. My favorite was straight Master G and his giant muscle fag Jamie. Master G was a short Alpha, and his faggot Jamie was a bodybuilder with a large dick that Master G had caged. Their thread ended with Master G marrying his faggot (using a ring he allowed me to choose!).

So yes, it’s a very real (although I’d also add RARE) thing within hierarchical couplings.

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Hello

I am a faggot who has been adoring my straight friend since high school. Even at 16 he looked like a 20 year old bodybuilder. I was adoring him ever since. In high school i didn’t pursue any gay relationships, and I had very little in common with him, but I always hung around him. On graduation day we had a party where he stripped. I drank beer from his pecs and licked his nipples. Still a core memory. When I brought it up some years later he didn’t remember.

Anyway. Over the years I have come out to him and I have saved a gallery collection of his thirst traps he has sent me. I have at times been either drunk or extremely horny and begged to be his slave or serve him in any way, and he has rejected every offer. He has never told me off for thirsting after him, but he has also never given me any indication that he will let me do anything beyond admiration. At one time he was even offended that I thanked him for tolerating my bs so much, telling me he views me as a friend and equal. At one time he said he doesn’t mind that I’m in love with him because we have very little in common, and had I not been gay we wouldn’t have become friends

One time when I was at his place we were sunbathing together on the roof terrace of his apartment building. I tried to offer massaging his feet and I got close at one point, but he didn’t let me do any of it. Zero interest.

At this point he has gone through several long term relationships with beautiful women, and atp it breaks my heart. I really want to serve him. I even tried to fix an alpha twitter for him so he could get some extra money. Am I pursuing a futile goal here? It’s been 10 years now, I really want to know if I’m just hurting myself.

Thank you for the question!

What you’ve described is the classic faggot conundrum. I think every faggot has had a straight Alpha they wanted to serve in high school. Most of them never get as close to it as you have, so that’s to your credit, brother!

The kind of Alpha you describe is the toughest type to “break”. I call them “Indifferent Alphas”. They’re so laid-back and genial that they never take a position on anything. Nothing bothers them or arouses them (except pussy, of course). You’ve even tried a carrot that typically does work – FINDOM – and your Alpha isn’t interested. That can be difficult.

Here’s what I suggest: send him a copy of my “Letter To An Alpha” (in the right sidebar) – or better yet, have him read it from the site – and then ask him about his thoughts regarding it. That letter has had some success, mainly because it condenses the hierarchical outline into a clear truth that most true Alphas can agree to.

I’d say if he rejects that message, then you need to give up. You are definitely hurting yourself with these rejected attempts to sway him. There are other Alphas who really are interested in owning you. You’d be better off submitting to them.

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Dear sam,

First, Happy New Year. Thank you for all that you do for the community.  You provide a valuable service and a supportive forum for faggots and Alphas alike. Your work is appreciated.

When an Alpha asks for information on likes, dislikes, or limits, how much information should a faggot give? Sometimes in answering this question, it feels like i am trying to influence what the Alpha does.  Even though my intent may be to help the Alpha control me better, i can’t honestly say that i’m not trying to guide Him toward doing certain things and away from doing other things i do not like.  Would it be OK to preface the list of dislikes by saying that i hoped He would help me overcome any of my dislikes or limits that He found objectionable? Or perhaps to supply only a list of health problems that made certain activities dangerous?

Recently another faggot told me that his Alpha punished him with spankings, which he secretly enjoyed.  Should a faggot inform an Alpha that he actually enjoys His punishments so that the Alpha can use a punishment that that faggot actually finds painful?

In short, how does a faggot toe the line between self-serving information and Alpha-serving information.

fagjohn

Thank you for the interesting question!

I’ve always been of the opinion that a faggot should simply submit and allow the Alpha to guide how things go, augmenting any sessions with information (like health information, etc.) as they arise. Preliminarily loading up an Alpha with a bunch of prequalifications and conditions would only confuse or frustrate the Alpha before he can even receive service.

I don’t want to discourage you, though, because your heart is in the right place. Such deep considerations are a key to a successful and fruitful faghood, brother. We have so much to discover about our submission! We can reap the rich bounty of self-actualization that comes when we meaningfully meditate on issues like these, so I’m proud you are doing that hard-but-beneficial work!

Love,

sam the faggot

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Hi Sam

Faggot hopes you can help it with a bit of a problem but first of all it needs to give a bit of context.  Faggot is very lucky to have irregular but relatively frequent meetings with a Master who is significantly younger than it is.  Faggot feels very privileged to be able to serve and does so to the best of its ability.  Master likes to administer pain and to humiliate faggot (both in private and occasionally with other men present).  He also uses faggot for sexual relief.  Faggot craves the lash, thrills to the humiliation and longs for Master’s seed – a precious gift which He bestows when He sees fit.

The problem for faggot is that very occasionally Master likes to take a cock in His arse and He has instructed faggot to uses its dicklet to fuck Him.  It embarrasses faggot even to write these words, so unfitted does it feel  to perform this function.  Master generally refers to its penis as a dicklet or a clit and faggot has learned to consider it to be of no importance in any sexual encounter.   Over the years, however, faggot has developed its own mantra ‘Master, if it pleases You it must please me.’ This is a mantra it uses whenever Master instructs it to perform a new task and He has the grace to ask if faggot likes it.  On the two occasions it has been told to fuck Master (how shocking those words sound!) it has been unable to perform. Faggot has lost its hard-on and has feebly fumbled around trying to insert its inadequate and rapidly softening dicklet into His most private place.  Master has tried to convince faggot that this is not a situation of faggot ‘taking charge‘ because by fucking Him (again it pains faggot to write those words!) it is merely obeying an order, just like any other command.  Faggot hates to be disobedient (obedience is its favourite word in the whole English language) but it has come up against a block in its journey of submission and feels itself to have let Master down.  Master, in His wisdom and kindness, does not dwell on the point but it is clear that He is disappointed and for faggot this is almost too much to bear!

Faggot would love to hear your comments on this, please.

Fag charlie

My dear brother Charlie, thank you for the question!

Believe me, I absolutely feel your pain and frustration! I’ll admit this: every time you mentioned being forced to perform this with your Master, I literally flinched in horror. I felt like I was reading about gruesome torture.

Frankly, I do think this is a form of faggot abuse. Of course, since we are faggots we don’t have “rights” per se, but neither does a dog … but normal people don’t abuse dogs, do they? Why would a Master torment a faggot like this? I understand that some Masters like to play games with their faggots as an amusement, but this is clearly upsetting you. It would upset me, too.

Here’s the other thing I don’t understand: a Master who is occasionally demanding that his faggot fucks him is (in my opinion) degrading himself and surrendering some of his power and respectability. To effectively submit to a Master, a faggot needs to respect him. I don’t understand why any superior and dominant Man would degrade himself in this way. It would make me question whether or not he’s really the Man for me.

You seem like a much meeker sort of faggot than I am, Charlie. I don’t want to give you advice that isn’t going to help you. I’ll tell you what I would do: I would respectfully ask my Master to stop demanding this of me, mainly because it makes me lose respect for him. Couching it in those terms puts the onus on the Master’s reputation as a Man, rather than my personal preference.

But I will tell you that I am so very proud of you for your cultivation of a perfect faggot outlook and personality. You’re humble, service-oriented, and gentle. You’re the type of faggot any Alpha should be proud to own, and the type of faggot I’m proud to call my brother! I love you, Charlie! Thank you for writing!

I’m looking to chat with Sam regarding a thought I’ve been thinking about for 2 years.  I wonder if it’s worth posting here.

Thanks for reaching out, I guess! I’m a little confused by the question, since I’m probably one of the most accessible figures on social media. I’m on multiple platforms, including this giant website. Go to the navbar of this site, and you’ll see a tab for “LINKS” that contains an entire page of ways to contact me.

In fact, it’s even weirder that you typed this question into an “ASK A QUESTION” box that obviously feeds directly to me, sam the faggot, the one who has been answering questions here for ten years.

So if you have a question you’ve been thinking about for two years, you should’ve just written that question in that box LOL. So try that again, or write to me at hierarchyuniversity@gmail.com, or contact me on X at @hierarchyuni (among other accounts), or on Tumblr, BDSMLR, blah blah blah.

I’m everywhere.

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