Hey man, love the info and guidance you share on being a faggot so here’s my questions
im a 26yo guy and have been recently really into being owned and being a faggot for alphas.
i met this one guy of Grindr and it was a transactional thing however he made me feel really comfortable and I think he also felt comfortable around me. The issue is I don’t know if he’s into the alpha and faggot dynamic but he gives off huge God alpha vibes.
I met up with him again yesterday but more to just chat and hang out and he was talking about how he sees other fags for money and I started to get jealous but didn’t make it obvious.
as I’m dropping him off he says he can’t be bothered with meeting up with a random and whipped his cock out, grabbed my hand and made me stroke him and then said I got have to go out if you wanna pay. I was completely took over by this and happily agreed. It felt really good to go and buy him things after I was allowed to drain his 9 inch cock.
i know this is quite long ended but i wanted to know whether you think he’s just here for the money or if he wants a faggot and how can I try to convince him to own me?
thank you
Thanks for the question!
I don’t think there’s any doubt he’s in it for the money. If you’re find just being used that way (i.e. paying him money so that you can suck his dick occasionally), then I guess continue down that road.
If you don’t want to essentially paying for a prostitute, then I would ask him if he has ever considered taking ownership of a faggot. My guess is that he’s doing this on the DL and might say “no” upfront … at which point you can tell him how you feel and see if he might be willing to change the way he treats you.
These kinds of Alphas are difficult to read because they’re so transactional, and they don’t operate on any level of good faith.
Have you known SomeMenAreJustBetter on Tumblr in the 2010s? I remember consulting this blog when I was a teenager, and it really introduced me to Male Hierarchy. The author boldly embraced his superiority and his domination of inferiors. He was a true inspiration. I sometimes wonder what became of him.
I do remember him, yes! I had fewer conversations with him than I did with some of the truly leading lights of Hierarchy on Tumblr back then, but when we did talk I found him to be thoughtful and direct.
Just for fun I sent him an email to say “HI” and ask about his life. I didn’t receive an error notification, so at least he never closed it.
thank you again for all your work educating us on hierarchy! This website and its predecessor changed my life and helped me understand my true faggot nature. I am a married fag in a marriage (to a woman) that is 100% non sexual and we are fine with it. We are together as friends raising a family and I have full latitude to pursuit my sexual needs as I see fit. This has opened up my life to pursue my true sexual calling as a submissive male. I’ve been very lucky to have a number of very satisfying encounters including my original master Alpha who “made me” a year and a half ago and showed me the way of the faggot serving his master and I never looked back. I only see him sporadically as he lives 5 states away and his only ask is that I share with him all details of any sexual activity and I always do with pleasure. Recently I found a new Alpha who is amazing! He’s younger than me which I usually don’t like, but I could not resist his power. I was rewarded with incredible stamina and my first 4 load session from an Alpha (wow, so lucky i am!)
the issue is he is incredibly possessive. He has ordered me to end all communication with my original Alpha and does not want me serving anyone else. He wants me to be owned exclusively by him. I am uncomfortable with this as I feel obliged to my original Alpha and I’m so grateful to him for showing me the way. one of the liberating and beautiful things about gay sex, man on man sex, in my view is a rejection of monogamy. Men have sex for pleasure and as a true faggot I want to give pleasure to any Alpha who wants it. Recently even forbid me from addressing other men as sir. I address all my superiors with respect as a true submissive, it’s against my nature not to.
i don’t agree with the idea of him forbidding me from serving other men ever.
to be clear, it’s not an issue of getting his permission, which I would, of course happily do. He’s very clear and there’s to be no one else in any way shape or form.
what do I do? It seems ridiculous, even absurd for a old faggot like me to turn away from a big powerful virile younger Alpha who want my ass all the time. Like a good fag I have learned to embrace dressing up like a sissy faggot for him something which was never part of my interest in anyway, but I now enjoy because it is pleasing to him. Because as you’ve taught me, it’s his pleasure that is the most important thing. I shared this to say that I have been willing to grow and adapt as a good faggot should for a master.
as an aside he also gets off on saying filthy disparaging stuff about my wife, which I tolerate but it doesn’t do anything for me, and actually bothers me because we have an understanding and I it’s a huge distraction from my faggot identity to have to refer to her as a bitch, whore, etc.
sam, I need your guidance as always.
Thank you for the extraordinary experience, brother! I’m very proud of you for righting the wrongs of the past (even though it resulted in a family you love, it was still a mistake) and throwing yourself wholeheartedly into service!
It’s sounds like you’ve been quite fortunate to have found at least one God Alpha (more likely two) to serve in a relatively short period of time! That should be an inspiration to other older faggots out there in situations as sticky as yours. I must also commend your wife for being so understanding and loving! I’m sure it was difficult for her to adjust!
I commend you for your loyalty to your first Master, brother. Most fags would just shrug their shoulders and move onto the next Alpha, but you didn’t do that. I’m sure your first Master appreciates that about you.
But here’s the truth: your first Master can’t be consistent in training you given the long distances. And given the fact that you’re a new faggot, you’ll need training and refining. I think you sense this yourself, which is why you ended up with this young Master.
Meanwhile, you have this powerful young Alpha who wants complete ownership of you to the exclusion of every other Man. This is very interesting, and the potential for training and development is tremendous.
BUT … overly-dominant Alphas can also cut off EVERY bit of support for a faggot, leaving the faggot vulnerable and alone. This is a dangerous situation. I’ve definitely heard of abuse happening once an Alpha gets a faggot locked down like that. I wouldn’t want that to happen to you.
I’m especially grieved by your young Master’s denigration of your wife. Like it or not, she’s the mother of your children and someone who has been supporting you through this discovery phase of your life. That shows profound stupidity and a lack of respect.
As much as I’d like you to stay with this young Master, I think there are too many negatives. I’m not sure you’re going to grow in the right way with him. I think you should respectfully tell him why you’re discontinuing service, and see what he says. Sometimes an Alpha with a bad attitude can be snapped out of it when confronted by the loss of a good faggot.
There are plenty of great Alphas out there to serve who would value owning a good faggot. In the end, we must at least value the gifts we offer to superior Men enough to say “no” to Destroyer Alpha types.
I hope that helps! I really agonized over this one!
Hello Sam, I’m at a tough spot as a 24 year old fag. All my friends are dating and want to get me on dating apps and start going out with guys to get a boyfriend. Right now my priority is finding an Alpha to serve, but I’m having trouble balancing these two separate sides of my life. What do I do?
Thank you for the question!
I’m a little surprised that there aren’t more questions like yours, honestly. I would imagine this would be on the minds of a lit of faggots!
The ideal circumstance would be to find an Alpha who could also be a boyfriend, like Declan and Zack that are featured here on this site. It happens a lot, so I wouldn’t discount that.
If that’s not possible, then here’s my take as based on plenty of empirical experience: Your desire for a boyfriend can be satisfied within the confines of serving an Alpha, but your needs as a faggot will never be met by a regular boyfriend. The need to serve Alphas is so primal, so hardwired into us that it’s impossible to lock it away. You’d be in that relationship with a vanilla boyfriend and forever be gazing distractedly at the horizon thinking about that ache to serve.
In fact, it’s this powerful need to serve that distinguishes faggots from gay bottoms. It can’t be ignored.
So my advice is to specifically seek an Alpha near your age who is looking for a bottom/faggot to have as a boyfriend. Then you can have your cake and eat it, too!
Hi there, I remember your earlier series of podcasts and where you discussed Apex Lias. You’re probably aware that he’s deleted his Twitter and Instagram recently. What’s interesting is that I feel Lias’ power and influence has grown significantly over the years, basically the extent of his apex alpha-ness is far stronger and more developed than it was back when you did that earlier podcast, given the number of people who followed him. And likewise of course Lias has become even more attractive, muscular and frankly even more hung (his cock is now longer and thicker than ever), causing him to exude even more powerful energy. Is this sort of growth typical for apex’s or is this a factor of his own drive/determination? Hopefully he will return to social media at some point.
Thanks for the question!
Actually, with everything that has been happening since my return, I didn’t know he had deleted his social media.
I had a tempestuous relationship with Lias. We had some productive conversations, but he had a short fuse (mostly due to his overwhelming arrogance), and for a liberal Alpha he seemed to have little concern for anyone but himself. Honestly, he seemed to despise the audience he craved so much. I never understood it, other than the fact that he loved the attention his mammoth cock and plastic surgery-enhanced good looks brought to him.
I did FINALLY get him to admit that he lived off of the money of a wealthy faggot, which afforded him the opportunity to leisurely travel the world, indulge in the arts, and spend lots of time taking selfies in every single mirror he encountered.
If I sound like I didn’t like him, that’s true.
But he was beautiful to look at! I’ll include some pics of him from my archives after the jump!
What’s is wrong with me Big Daddy? Why do I want to be possessed, owned and controls by a superior man? Even when I am sad feel like I am missing a strong Daddy to control me, possesses me and own me. yet I am stubborn and don’t given in. I get wishy washsy when letting a Dom come over, because I haven’t clean my self out for him properly yet, or I am scared. I struggle to fully be taken and use as a submissive should. I am saved that there is a part of myself that I loss but love about myself. Yet when I offer myself up and do follow through I don’t feel the presents of the Dom with me in the room. i don’t know what so do with myself Sam, I am really struggling here, to let go and embrace submission on many levels. Advise, ideas, thoughts on this. Would even take a Dom’s insight on this.
Who in the world is “Big Daddy”? I’m a faggot named sam. Put your poppers bottle down and clear your head.
You’re having these difficulties because you haven’t yet fully accepted the truth: you ARE a faggot, and this IS your purpose.
You’re currently living in the phantom zone, a place of indecisiveness in which you think too much and make excuses too much. You keep thinking that whatever you’re doing isn’t as right as some other shiny objective.
This cycle of unproductive nothingness is going to continue indefinitely as long as you continue to lie to yourself and deny yourself the opportunity to actually embrace what you are.
Admit it to yourself: YOU ARE A FAGGOT.
There’s no escaping it. Even if you did nothing and died a sad virgin, you’d still die a faggot … just a useless, unfulfilled one.
I’m a vers gay and I found this page about 2 months ago and have been following it ever since. I always enjoyed the dom and submissive roles in sex and thought the stories you posted were hot but I never thought I would fall into one myself. This past week I’ve had recurring dreams of seeing two of my friends shirtless and vividly thinking about their feet and found myself noticing it more like how big they are when we saw each other. I’ve been so confused about that since in how to make sense of all of it especially since I never had these thoughts before and I consider one of them like a mentee of sorts.
Thank you for the question!
I’ve long contended that being “versatile” is merely a delusion. Every so often a vers person attacks me for that stance, and I clam up about it. However, I have yet to encounter someone who remains versatile throughout their life. Eventually, the true role/need is revealed, either through self-discovery or by encountering the right person who will help them accept it.
For you, I think encountering the message of this website has triggered you to start accepting your true desires for these Alphas in your life.
Your fascination with their feet is a pretty common “first trigger” for faggots. You desire to touch them, kiss them, smell them, worship them. These are natural feelings for natural-born subs.
As far as your concern about one of these Alphas being a “mentee” … let’s be clear that a “mentee” is someone you mentor or train, right? That kind of relationship means little here. There are plenty of faggots serving Alphas who are “lower” in social status, financial status, or professional status. It’s likely that this “mentee” already sees your weaknesses, but is being respectful.
If you want to get a better handle on this question of whether or not you’re a faggot, I recommend my bestselling book “Are You A Faggot?”. It’s designed to help you figure out what you are through a series of self-answered questions. You can buy that by CLICKING HERE.
What’s up fag took your advice and it submitted to me in seconds it was like throwing a dog a bone. I expected that it was a fag already but I didn’t think it was that desperate. I had it kneel and kiss my shoes first and while it was reluctant at first a few slaps got it slobbering like a dog. It admitted that it was a faggot quickly and I had it yell it louder each time that I think my housemates heard it. Despite feeling amazing owning this fag and it being obedient, my issue is how hard it was getting. It took away from the pleasure of slapping it and forcing it below me when I saw how i could see its dick get hard from licking my feet and even more when I slapped it. I only have a short period of time with this faggot before summer so I want to train it better to break its habits so it can serve better while I can enjoy dominating it without seeing it be hard. I thought about threatening it or telling everyone but didn’t know if that would make the situation worse since I want to psychologically break it and make it completely subservient.
Thank you very much for following up on this situation, Sir!
First of all, congratulations on taking ownership of your first faggot! It sounds like you were exactly right about it, and I’m glad my suggestions worked! I think what you did to get it to loudly admit that it’s a faggot was quite effective; it’s almost like how drill sergeants use loud call/response commands in the armed services to get into the minds of their soldiers!
Now, let’s talk about your complaint, Sir. You’ll remember that I WARNED YOU about using harsh discipline on faggots because they often get excited by it. But you didn’t heed my warning, Sir, and so you ended up with something you didn’t want. It became a vicious cycle of increased violence and increased arousal.
Here’s the other thing: no male can really control their erections naturally. They just happen. I’m sure when you were younger you had erections at inopportune times. They just happen, Sir.
If you don’t want to see your faggot aroused, you must try to resist beating the faggot, Sir. I understand that beating it might be your natural urge, but to get what you want from the faggot, you’ll need to try a different approach … much like the one I outlined for you in my first response.
I might also add this suggestion now that you’ve taken ownership of it: chastity. Lock up your faggot’s skin flap in a chastity cage so that (a) it’ll be prevented from getting a full erection, and (b) it’ll be concealed from your view.
I do suggest that you be the one to lock the faggot in chastity, Sir. This is more official in the mind of the faggot and becomes almost a sacred ceremony for the fag. However, if you’re squeamish about touching the fag there, then you can oversee the faggot locking itself into chastity. Just make sure it’s secured on the faggot properly.
Overall, I’m pleased to hear this news, Sir! I’m glad you now can experience deeper and more resonant power, and the kind of like an Alpha deserves!
What’s up fag, name’s Caden and I had a question for you. I transferred colleges this year and saw this fag I knew since elementary school. Since 8th grade, he was always lingering in the locker room and when we did basketball dares he always would “dare” me to flex or take my shirt off and was a pussy who threatened to report me when I threatened to beat him up once. I haven’t seen him in two and a half years prior to this year since we went to separate colleges til now but he’s in the same club as me and has been making advances on me even though I told him I have a gf and I’m not a fag. At this point I’m just over it and wanna punish and own him for just being a fag hitting on me so much and force him to submit to me, any brutal methods you got to humiliate him?
Thank you for the question, Sir!
Younger faggots can be a problem for straight Alphas because they are untrained and generally have not accepted their proper place in Hierarchy. They often make the mistake of thinking that they are equal-but-submissive, and lack the respectful behavior that Alphas deserve.
I want to forewarn you, Sir: physical/violent punishment doesn’t work well on faggots because they often get off on it. That’s the opposite of what you want, I’m sure. It’s better if an Alpha gets into the faggot’s head first before administering physical punishment, because then the Alpha’s violence has an emotional component and not one of pure hate. Do you see what I mean, Sir?
I propose this: the next time you’re with the faggot and it starts its nonsense, tell it to stop, get on its knees, and kiss your feet. If it doesn’t obey, then either slap its face or spit in its face and repeat the command. If it still doesn’t comply, then use force to get it on its knees and make it kiss your feet.
Once it does this, have it look up at you. Then ask it: “what are you?” The only acceptable answer is: “I’m a faggot, Sir.” If it does not answer correctly, slap it and ask it again. Once it does this, repeat the process again and again until you are satisfied. Then, tell it “good boy” or “good faggot” to reinforce the training (like giving a dog a treat).
Then dismiss it, but not before making it clear to the faggot that it is to refer to you as “Sir” or “Master” and that it now belongs to you exclusively.
After that session, the next sessions should involve tasks you want the faggot to perform to your satisfaction, followed by additional reinforcements like foot worship or scent training on your pits or your crotch.
This training I’ve outlined is pretty standard, and is designed to break a faggot of bad habits and start a reprogramming based on faggot fetishes/addictions. As Alpha, you can make adjustments on the fly as you see fit, Sir. I’m just outlining a scenario. I hope it pleases you.
I can already tell you’re quite a dominant Alpha. I have no doubt you’ll own this faggot quickly! Please keep in touch, Sir!
The following post is part of a thread following the rise of a straight college Alpha named Jason who has taken ownership of a faggot classmate named Mason! CLICK HERE to read all of these posts in chronological order!
I’ve been blessed with some truly wild circumstances during my ten years of teaching Hierarchy online. I tutored multiple straight Alphas in Canada on how to own personal, live-in faggots. I’ve covered dramatic rapes almost live via email. I’ve helped fathers and sons navigate hierarchical roles with compassion and care. I’ve witnessed a fag brother having his entire company taken over by a young God Alpha. I’ve had my podcast cause a straight Alpha to take ownership of the faggot he caught listening to it. And on and on. Longtime readers know of my track record.
Many times these stories seemed unbelievable to ME, let alone my readership, and I was often accused of making things up. But these stories are all true.
However, few stories have blown my mind quite as much as the following story that has been developing here over the last couple of weeks. I’m not even sure what the chances are of this situation happening randomly – they must be infinitesimal – but that’s exactly what happened!
I’ll try to walk you through it.
Readers may remember a recent series of “Questions From Readers” asks from a faggot named Mason who thought he was an Alpha but found himself fantasizing about a more powerful Alpha at his school. I’ve assembled those asks HERE.
There were three such asks from Mason, and I was advising him on how to tempt this Alpha into using him. This mostly involved asking leading questions or even kneeling before this Alpha to trigger his dominance. Mason would cautiously try these suggestions, and they did seem to be producing the desired result.
Meanwhile, I received a nondescript ask from an anonymous Alpha about a friend he wanted to force into submission. You can read that HERE.
Then, out of the blue, I received the following email from that anonymous Alpha:
Yo I wanted to keep you updated on my story. But I’m writing as an email instead of a question because I think my friend, Mason, who I’m making my fag is the guy who’s asking questions about thinking he was an alpha until being in college. I say this for a couple reasons, one we both are in a frat together like his story, two his physical descriptions in the story are similar to my friend, and three the day I did part of what you told me, he sent you his story about being called a good boy. I find this so amusing because I did only part of what you said because despite being an alpha I care deeply for my friends and wanted to truly confirm before making a decisive move. But now I know he’s already a fag so no need in holding back LMAO. I just saw his story today and plan on giving him one more day to admit who is to me before making my move. For now though I’ve just had him mainly massage my feet, do my laundry for me, head locked him under my pits, and just small triggers before going further. Crazy small world that we both messaged you for advice haha.
CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT?? Both the college Alpha and his latest faggot prey were unwittingly writing to me for advice from both sides of this situation!!!
This Alpha introduced himself as Master Jason. He is a straight college frat guy who discovered the use of faggots two years ago thanks to a faggot named John. Master Jason kindly shared his experience with that first faggot:
Yo Sam of course, regarding John, ownership with him was easy because he approached me wanting to serve me and already knowing he was a fag. When I took ownership, I followed a similar process to what I’m trying to do with Mason, having him worship my muscles, feet, and body, and making him cook, do my laundry, and wash the dishes, he was my little live at home slave. The process was slower because I was new to the alpha scene, but when I saw how animalistic and desperate he was for me, I felt right asserting my will over him since he clearly would do anything for me. Right now, I still own John, but unfortunately he no longer lives nearby but across the country with his family right now, as he had issues to take care of. He still comes to visit occasionally where he always serves me, but I understand and despite him being my fag, I respect that he is taking care of his family right now, since I was in that situation before. I’ve owned a couple more fags since then, but I’ve haven’t found one that has taken care of my needs to own them for the long term because worshipping me is a privilege that not every fag should have.
You see how natural this is? Master Jason is perfectly straight, but it just takes a good, honest-hearted faggot to help trigger the inborn dominance of an Alpha to want to own and use inferiors! It sounds like my brother John was the right faggot to open Master Jason’s eyes!
But Master Jason’s journey to his acceptance of his Alphahood wasn’t quite the straight line that many experience. He continued:
In terms of your question about alpha hood I think I had a different growth curve. I didn’t realize I was superior to other males until two years ago when I was first introduced to hierarchy. In high school I liked to stay out of the spotlight which might be different from most alphas but my reasoning was I had to work to help take care of my mother and younger brother. Given that I never had much time to notice my superiority from fags but everyone I knew respected me and never messed around me. On the basketball team I was the “unofficial captain,” I never tried to become captain because that wasn’t my priority. But every time we had practice or a game everyone would listen to me instead of the “actual captain”. I’ve always been a very action oriented person I never commanded or yelled at people I just led by example and it seemed everyone just fell in line. In high school thought, one of my close friends always told me he knew girls who would want to get with me if I wanted, but I turned them down because I had other priorities. I think it’s how I was raised to be more of a protector alpha which is also why I wanted to be careful when first approaching Mason. In terms of fags though in high school I never noticed it but looking back there was one guy on the basketball team who always lingered behind in the locker room whenever I was changing and I realize he was probably a silent fag. I noticed more fag attention in college when I would first get hit on by guys all the time at frat parties and bars, but it wasn’t until my first fag, John, showed me your page did I realize how many more guys wanted to serve me.
For my alpha hood now I think I’m still navigating how everything is and which fags I decide to just use or which to truly own. I don’t find myself concerned with the labeling of what alpha I am but what I see is I’m a protector alpha. I look out for people I care about and always have been the person everyone turns to in group settings whether I am officially deemed the “leader” or not I know people look up to me and in college I’ve been able to better appreciate and revel in my power.
Can you hear the calm, level-headed nature of Master Jason’s answers? He’s a true Protector Alpha in the sense that he naturally leads and instinctively protects/uses/fulfills inferiors!
So I realized I was now in service to a truly all-natural Alpha Master who understands and really embraces the ownership of faggots as part of his purpose as a developing King. Even more urgently, I was simultaneously assisting Master Jason and Mason to finally break through the hierarchical dance they were doing by advising both separately.
Now that façade was done! I could finally help guide it in a meaningful, less blind way! However, Master Jason forbade me to inform Mason of the fact that we were talking, at least not until Master Jason could actually break Mason’s will himself!
And that finally happened a couple of days ago! And very dramatically:
But back to my update I finally broke Mason a bit this morning. We usually hit the gym in the morning but today I told him I was sore so I wanted to have a rest day. He asked if there was anything he could do for me and I told him my feet were sore and asked him to massage my soles. His eyes widened when I said that and I found it amusing but I could see the desire in his eyes. He started massaging my feet and I told him to take off my socks and he obeyed and began rubbing my bare feet while I took my shirt off because of the heat and talked about how sweaty and smelly my pits and feet are in this heat. At this time his eyes looked the same as fags I’ve had who begged to worship my feet and I knew he couldn’t control himself. So I asked him why are you so obedient to me? He stuttered before I cut him off and said no it’s because you’re a faggot who wants to be used right? He started blushing and didn’t look up so I had to force him to look up at me and told him to say yes sir I’m a faggot. He struggled with his words again but ended up saying yes sir I’m your slave. When I prodded him again to say faggot instead he couldn’t so I just told him good boy and to just smell my feet and pits instead. I could tell he was obsessed though he ended up sniffing my pits for 15 min before one of my frat bros knocked on my door and he jumped back. Before he left I told him he would address me as Sir from now on and he said yes sir before he left.
I don’t remember all the details but I the fact that this guy that everyone would think could pull bitches and was an alpha was nothing but just a fag under my feet made me feel so good. I will say I was disappointed he didn’t submit to me first nor did he admit he was a faggot. But I try not to judge because I don’t know what he’s going through. I do want to break him in further but it seems he’s still scared of admitting he isn’t an alpha so I don’t know if you have any advice to get him more comfortable. It feels different than other fags I’ve broken in since I know he wants to serve me but I can see there’s resistance. I’ll keep you updated with anything that happens man and I appreciate your advice here.
I was just as disappointed in Mason’s resistance as Master James was, but unlike Master Jason, I DO know what Mason’s going through. It’s hard to accept a truth when it so deeply contradicts what you’ve believed about yourself for so long. This is especially true when it means accepting an inferior position with other Men and in life.
However, notice Master Jason’s insightful stance: “But I try not to judge because I don’t know what he’s going through.” Spoken like a true Protector Alpha!
I think Master Jason is one of the finest examples of young straight Alphahood I’ve ever encountered. He’s totally in control at all times, and he sees everything. He’s blessed with that preternatural Alpha hunting instinct, and he has the dominant intelligence to manipulate the weak into fulfilling their purpose!
Mason doesn’t yet appreciate the astounding privilege he has standing over him right now! Mason has been chosen as the personal property of a very special straight Alpha! I hope Mason comes to accept his true purpose soon and submits to the will of Master Jason!
It’s a story too good to be true that is about to get even better!
Thank you, Master Jason, for your honesty, benevolence, and kindness!
An update of my situation dealing with my previous hometown friend. I appreciate the advice you gave but just wanted to give some clarification I don’t think I ever saw myself as an alpha even tho I was a vers top I just saw myself between an alpha and beta-dom just unlabeled until this point in time.
Since college ended for me I returned to my hometown for the summer where he’s no longer my neighbor but still not too far away. When I got back I actually ran into his mom at the grocery store and found out he’s actually going to the college I just finished. It gave me the perfect excuse to dm him because I was honestly stressing on how to casually text him after so long of not keeping contact.
So i ended dming him about college and we just caught up for a while him asking about my college and me asking how high school has been since I left and actually got to making plans to hang out for a family dinner. Eventually, I mentioned how I saw his gym pic and how hes so lean and muscular and that he should train me at the gym since he has a better physique and looks stronger than me now. His response caught me off guard as said “Man yk I’ve been stronger than you since I was 14 remember when I beat your ass when you were a senior lmao” but played it off as a joke. I took your advice and agreed with him saying it definitely taught me a lot about myself before he asked what I meant. I didn’t elaborate on this in my first question but despite being a vers top a lot of the bottoms I fucked were power bottoms. Even though I didn’t like being degraded or dominated I realize now that after that moment in high school I subconsciously took a more passive role or at least less aggressive role in sex and also a lot of rope play I think came from me being bound the first time.
I didnt tell him all this yet but just said that it brought up submissive feelings in me where I liked helping other people achieve what they needed. He probed further and asked me if that meant I just liked being a loser. I admitted that I felt that way in his presence and he left me on read before texting me to go over to his place to talk out of no where. I was curious so I did when I arrived he immediately kicked me down and chokeholded me before moving onto different positions making me tap out multiple times. By the fifth time or so I finally caught my breath to ask what this was for and he said thus is what you wanted right and he’s doing this because he enjoys the thrill of making another man submit to him. At the end he had me bow down to him and verbally say that he was a better man than i could ever be. Before I left he said he had heard of guys liking being dominated from his friends and found it kind of hot that he had someone older he used to look up to be groveling at his feet.
We haven’t talked more as I think I am and he is figuring out what to make of all this. I won’t lie I still think I might be a top but just him specifically makes me so submissive and while his physique is impressive it isn’t the best yet I literally can’t stop staring at his abs. Is there anything I can do to proceed to let him know what more he can do.
Thank you for following up on your previous question!
I commend you for trying some of what I suggested to you! I’m sure it wasn’t easy!
The last time we spoke, I said this:
“So i recommend that you write to him (you could call too, possibly) and feel him out. Be complimentary about his physique, and toss in some commentary about that incident. Be complimentary about his power, and hint that it was a major turning point in your life. Chances are, he’ll pick up that hint and want to know why.
At this point, you’ll need to be a little brave and admit that the incident awakened submissive feelings in you. If he’s Alpha (as I suspect), he will pick that up and run with it.”
Obviously I nailed it. This is almost exactly what happened! In fact, he was straight-up telling you this when he said he “found it kind of hot that someone he looked up to would be groveling at his feet”. In fact, I think that entire final episode when he called you to come over and he wrestled you multiple times and asked you probing questions about your feelings was the opportunity he was giving you to admit what you are. The fact that he told you his Alpha friends have been talking to him about guys like you is a HUGE sign that he was probing you!
Even though you did a good job in telling him his presence made you feel submissive, you held back too much. He was looking for something more explicit. When you didn’t outright confirm what he thinks you are (a faggot), he didn’t feel like he should push it. However, I do firmly believe (based on what you said happened) that he did, in fact, want you to admit to him that you’re a faggot.
You just didn’t take the chance.
It’s not over with if you still want to serve him. I want you to start a conversation with him (either text or voice) to tell him that you’d like to talk to him about your last encounter. When he invites you over, you kneel and kiss his feet. Ignore the resistant voices in your head and do it. He obviously wants this, and you’re going to give this to him. He’s going to ask about this, and you’re going to tell him that his power made you realize you’re a faggot. USE THE WORD, BE SPECIFIC.
He’s going to know exactly what to do with you then. I promise.
You can keep telling yourself whatever you want to believe about what you thought you were in the past. That’s all gone now. He’s a much more powerful Alpha – a true Alpha – and you need to finally submit to him and offer yourself.
Anyone who reads my stuff or listens to my podcast or follows any of my other social media knows that I have something of a controversial perspective on rape and forced sex.
There’s no doubt my opinions on the subject are heavily colored by my own rape at the age of 19/20 years old. Honestly, I feel my rape helped me to clarify a truer and deeper understanding of the hierarchical forces fueling rape. I better appreciate the way such experiences sculpt hierarchical dominance, as well as force acceptance of purpose into faggots and other inferiors.
I’m not justifying rape, mind you. I’m simply saying that it explains hierarchical mechanics in a raw, unfiltered way.
For every person who criticizes what I say about rape and forced sex, there are countless others like Mark who discover the truth of what I teach here and tell me their stories.
Listen to Mark’s eloquent words:
Dear Brother Sam, As a devoted reader of your writings and a man who identifies with the submissive role you so eloquently describe, I feel compelled to share my personal journey of transformation and the profound impact it has had on my life. Your work has inspired me to reflect on my experiences with clarity and gratitude, and I hope my story honors the hierarchy you illuminate.
In my younger years, I was still exploring my identity and desires, uncertain of my place in the world. I sought out the company of older, dominant men, yearning to serve them in intimate ways. My focus was never on my own pleasure but on the fulfillment I found in submitting to their desires. I would often reflect on these encounters later, savoring the memories in private moments. During this time, I lived a double life—outwardly dominant in my professional and married life, yet inwardly craving the release of surrendering control. I pursued these encounters without protection, fully aware of the risks, driven by an urge to submit that I could not ignore.
Everything changed through an experience orchestrated by a trusted dominant friend, a real estate salesman who had guided me in similar encounters before. Without my prior knowledge or consent, he arranged for me to meet another man, a real estate broker, at a property listed for sale. Such arrangements were not unfamiliar, as my friend and I had shared intimate moments in empty homes before. I arrived at the back door of the house as instructed, and the broker welcomed me inside, leading me to an upstairs bedroom where a bed remained.
As we entered the room, the broker’s demeanor shifted. He seized me with intensity, kissing me with a commanding force that left me breathless. I offered no resistance, my body responding instinctively to his dominance. He began to undress me with urgency, tearing my clothing in a way that left it unusable. Overwhelmed, I surrendered completely, unable to resist his authority. He was a tall, slender man, and though I was accustomed to larger partners, his approach was unlike anything I had experienced. He entered me with a fierce determination, each movement accompanied by a powerful declaration of his intent. For a fleeting moment, I felt a pang of resistance, but it quickly dissolved into overwhelming pleasure. I was consumed by the experience, my body and mind yielding entirely to him. Tears welled up as waves of ecstasy and surrender washed over me—it felt natural, profound, and deeply fulfilling.
Afterward, to my surprise, he held me gently, offering words that resonated deeply: “It’s alright, you’ve been claimed as you needed to be. Now you know your place.” His tenderness contrasted with his earlier intensity, leaving me both comforted and transformed. He left abruptly, and I never saw him again, yet his words and actions marked a turning point in my life.
In the aftermath, I noticed a profound shift within myself. My desires realigned entirely, and I no longer found fulfillment in the intimate moments I once shared with women, including my wife. My thoughts and dreams became consumed with serving men, embracing my true nature. This experience—what I now understand as a moment of profound submission—freed me to live authentically, to embrace my identity as a submissive man with pride and clarity.
I am forever grateful for this transformation, which allowed me to understand and accept my deepest desires. Brother Sam, your writings have given me the language and courage to celebrate this journey and to honor the hierarchy that guides us. Thank you for your wisdom and for creating a space where men like me can feel whole and understood.
With utmost respect and gratitude, brother mark,
Isn’t this experience amazing?? This Alpha literally forced Mark to take his cock and his load, cunting him in the process and reducing him to tears, and then actually vocalizes his intent by saying, “now you’ve been claimed as you needed to be. Now you know your place”!!
You see, ALPHAS UNDERSTAND THIS INSTINCTIVELY. They know that subs and faggots need to be broken, by force if necessary. They need to impose their will in order to help the sub or faggot embrace their deeper hierarchical needs.
That’s what happened to Mark, and that’s why Mark broke down and cried after it happened. He wasn’t crying from being traumatized … he was crying because of the exhilaration of being set free!
We faggots should thank Alphas who take us this way, who force us to take their ruts and their nuts in aggressive, dominant ways. We should be grateful when they cunt us through violation.
It might be terrifying in the moment, but in the end we are overjoyed with a richer understanding of our place in hierarchy. It’s like someone born colorblind trying out Enchroma glasses for the first time and breaking down in tears at the wonder of true vision!
The Alphas who cunt you through rape and force are the hierarchical version of those Enchroma glasses. They force you to see yourself through hierarchical lenses, and the world will never look the same!
Hi Sam, I think this is my final update at least for a while, but I wanted to say thank you for helping and really drillling the idea that I am fag into my brain I can finally admit that to myself and my friend now. I never thought I’d be here serving someone else but after my experience I think it’s my true calling.
Taking your advice I decided to seek out my friend for the first time instead of waiting for him to approach me. I greeted him in the morning by being on my knees and asked if I could worship him or serve him. I think he enjoyed seeing me finally truly submit because he let me immediately smell his pits and massage his body and had this cocky grin that turned me on so much. He forced me to look at him again this time and said straight to me “so are you ready to accept your place as a faggot” and I found myself saying “yes sir” without him needing to ask further. I will admit it took a minute before I could say “I am a faggot” and “I am your faggot Sir” because it’s just been such a difficult journey to change my mind and worldview but he was clearly satisfied by my responses telling me “you’re such a good fucking boy” and I felt free after that moment. But what made me realize it was the correct choice was actually what happened after. You know it’s been a difficult process getting to admit who I am and I had a small breakdown after I admitted who I was because I felt like such a failure that my parents sent me to college and I ended up becoming a fag. But he was so reassuring saying “I’m proud of you man and I know your parents are proud of you too and I got you no matter what.” It really helped in that moment that despite him being such a dominant alpha he was willing to give me so much support. Even when I talked about more of my concerns he listened and also promised me he wouldn’t tell anyone and that we could still be bros outside while I served him at home. I think I just needed reassurance and he provided it to me and showed me what a true alpha was like. At the end he gave me a treat of letting me lick and worship his feet for the first time and I never thought I have a foot fetish but he has completely turned me. All I could think about was how dirty and sweaty his feet were but I was so hard while licking them and sucking his toes like all that mattered was his pleasure. My addiction to his feet is so sudden and big now that I stole one of his gym socks and have been sniffing it continuously since then. I don’t know where everything will go since there’s so much for me to figure out especially with how my image is as a masculine guy turned fag. But I’m happy to say that I finally figured out this route is probably the best for me and I’m so happy to serve my friend. Thank you for leading me down the right path.
This is another follow-up to a previous question. I’ve assembled them into a thread … you can read them in chronological order by CLICKING HERE!
YAY! I’m so proud of you for finally submitting to this incredible straight Alpha! You followed my advice to a “T” and it worked beautifully!
You know how I know you’re a natural-born faggot? Because you love worshiping feet! Admitting our truth leads us to discoveries about ourselves that we never imagined to be possible before! That’s why the crux of everything I teach here involves being honest with both ourselves and others! Once we do that, amazing things happen!
Speaking of honesty, it’s time for me to be honest with you, brother. This straight Alpha you’re now serving contacted me a couple of weeks ago and told me he thought your questions to me were about him!!! Ever since then I’ve been talking to him about his life as a straight Alpha and his experiences with faggot ownership, in addition to advising him on how he can take possession of you!!
At practically the same time as you sent me this question, your Master emailed me to tell me about this very same event and how thrilled he was by your honesty and humility!
And let me tell you this: your new Master is one of a kind. He’s whip-smart, thoughtful, dominant, funny, and extremely powerful. I say this with confidence: he’s a natural-born Protector Alpha. I’ve cherished my correspondence with him.
He’s the type of Alpha and Master that EVERY FAGGOT ON EARTH would die to serve … but you are the one he’s chosen!!
With that in mind, humble yourself and offer him everything without question! He knows what you are and accepts that. He wants to own you and guide you to become what you are truly meant to be!
Straight Alphas like him are so rare that they make unicorns seem like an infestation. You are one of the luckiest faggots alive to have this opportunity! Give him 1000% of your devotion and worship!
This whole mess will be graduating to a major thread on this site now that Master has given me permission to reveal the truth! Brother Mason, please start writing to me directly at hi*****************@***il.com!
I’ve been coming to terms recently with the fact that I am a faggot. Because of your website, you’ve inspired me and now I’m interested in locking my penis up in a chastity cage to start my fag journey, but I don’t know where to start.
Do you have any recommendations for where I can start looking for a good quality cage? Or do you have any yourself that you personally prefer and would recommend to other fellow fags? Any other tips or tricks for a good- fitting cage?
Thanks so much!
Hi brother! Thank you for the question!
Congratulations on accepting your faghood and for considering chastity! I think you’re on the verge of something wonderful and fulfilling!
My very best advice for newbies to chastity is that you should find a cheap silicone cage (Amazon has several) in order to find the right size for you (sizing isn’t as easy as it seems) without spending a bunch of money. Theoretically at that price point you could buy a couple of sizes and find the best fit.
Once you get accustomed to wearing it and you’ve found a good size, you can invest in something sturdier and cleaner, like stainless steel.
I recommend that you shave the entire area and keep it free of hair; that will make it more comfortable. And you can use talc or something like that to prevent chaffing.
I hope it goes well with you on your new journey! Chastity will change everything for you, I promise!
Hi Sam. I’m 24 years old, I live in Poland, and I’m a trans woman.
I’ve been listening to your podcast since 2021 and I’ve been into hierarchy since I was 15. I’ve always been very feminine and attracted dominant men. At some point, I decided to transition because I wanted to fit in and not be bullied for being a sissy faggot.
But these things still turn me on. I met my Master in 2023 and I’ve been serving him since then.
However, I feel like he was more sexually attracted to me when I was a more effeminate faggot. Now, I’m an attractive woman.
On one hand, I feel good about my femininity, but I miss the adrenaline and the sexual tension.
Sometimes I think about detransitioning so he would use me more intensely again, and so I could feel like a pathetic slut again. I miss that.
But he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with a man. Not even a trans woman. He’s forcing himself to look for a woman, even though he prefers men. He wants to be accepted by our intolerant society.
I’m not really sure what I’m asking you for. Maybe some advice.
Should I leave him, or should I adapt to his needs?
I don’t know what to do.
Thanks for the question!
Your situation is a little confusing, I must say, and I mostly blame your Master for this. Let’s see … your Master DOESN’T want to be in a relationship with a Man, nor a trans woman … but he’s now looking for a relationship with a woman??? Can you hear how ridiculous that sounds?
I don’t see why you should be suffering just because your Master is buried deep in the closet and terrified of living his truth. You already have enough issues to handle just being a trans woman in today’s world!
So I’m guessing that you haven’t been surgically-altered during this transition (since you said you can detransition)? Since you said you would be happier as a faggot, why not just leave this Master, detransition into a faggot, and live more happily? Why go through all of this complication?
I’m not sure if that really helps. Yours is a complicated situation. I recommend you simply things.
I wanted to write again because I feel more confused than ever. As of now I know I’m no longer an alpha, since I last wrote, I have served my frat friend and I can’t deny that an alpha would not do these things and it keeps playing on loop in my mind.
Earlier today we were supposed to hit the gym together but he invited me into his room and told me “How about you just rub and massage my soles, they’re so sore”. This was the first time I’ve ever worshipped feet so I was scared but for some reason I started growing hard feeling up his feet and smelling the stench coming off. Then he took off his shirt and said “God I’m so sweaty my pits and feet are drenched wish I had something to clean it all up” and looked at me in the eyes while I was rubbing his feet but I couldn’t bring myself to make eye contact. He ended up telling me “You’re so obedient because you’re a faggot who wants to be used right” and forced me to look up at him. In that moment I felt so aroused I was fighting my cock from becoming too hard that he somehow read through my masculine facade but also how easy he manhandled me. But when he kept telling me “admit you’re a faggot” and “say yes sir I’m a faggot” and “come fucking faggot just admit who youre a faggot to me” I couldn’t bring myself to do so. I felt so bad for disobeying but even though I was so turned on submitting to him I dont know if I’m a faggot. I think I enjoy submitting to strong men like him but I don’t know if I want to be a faggot or if I am close to just being a beta instead. It feels to much is happening with my identity at once and while I want to keep serving him I don’t know if I can tell him all of this. I’m scared of telling him or admitting I’m a faggot because what if he tells other people and no one ever respects me anymore. I just dont know how to satisfy my cravings as i want ti say for him because I can’t deny I got so much harder in that session worshipping me him than ever without putting my image or myself at risk. If you have any advice Sam on how to proceed I would appreciate it.
Well, I must tell you that this isn’t as surprising to me as it is to you. You see, this frat Alpha friend of yours knows you’re a faggot (as I said in the previous post) and he’s interested in taking ownership of you. I know how Alphas operate, so this game he’s playing with you is a bit like a cat playing with a rabbit before it eats the rabbit.
Alphas are excellent hunters – the best on the planet, really – and you’re the most vulnerable prey imaginable … prey that refuses to acknowledge they’re prey.
This Alpha is BOLDLY confronting you about what you are, yet here you are defiantly trying to hold onto something you never had. He’s giving you an opportunity to free yourself – he’s practically BEGGING for you to do it – and you won’t take it.
I occasionally work with @MasterA_2022 on X-Spaces to help faggots openly admit that they’re faggots, some saying it for the very first time. The results are sometimes dramatic, with faggots WEEPING after they say it to the group!
I tell you that to let you know that I do understand your struggle. I know it’s not easy to accept. But I also know the freedom that awaits you on the other side of that admission. You’re desperately trying to maintain a façade that was never real.
Here’s the thing: this Alpha clearly wants to free you from this burden as well. He sees what you are, what your purpose is, and how you’ve trapped yourself in lies. He’s offering a way out, a way to safely become what you were born to be. That is RARE, my friend!
You mention that you’re afraid he might tell other people. You need to remember that he’s under the same social pressure you are (it’s just different because he’s Alpha). He likely doesn’t want it getting around that he seduced a faggot.
Look, if you’re ever going to experience true fulfillment in your life, you must eventually trust a Man with your truth. Otherwise, you’re going to spend your life bottled-up and increasingly petrified of trying.
You’re young now. You’re at your most energetic, vibrant, and beautiful. So is this Alpha. Now is the time to let go of stigmas and the judgments of others, and simply LIVE IN TRUTH!
This Alpha is banging on your door. It’s time to open that door, and let him in!
Hey brother sam, i recently started servicing an Alpha who is straight but he wants to suck on my faggot cock. Like you, i really don’t like the idea of my faggot cock being sucked by an Alpha but he insists. i forwarned Him, that having my cock sucked on gives me no pleasure, and that while i preferred He not suck it, He was free to do so as He is an Alpha and i am a lowly faggot. He asked me if i thought i could cum while He sucks me and i told him that i doubted it. He said He wants to suck my faggot cock anyway. i said that He should do as He pleases, but that i probably wouldn’t cum. His response was, “Then I won’t feel bad if you don’t cum.” i reassured him that it was my issue if i couldn’t cum and that He was in no way responsible for my not cumming. He said he was ok with that and said that He would suck on my faggot cock anyway.
my question brother sam, is whether i handled this correctly. i think that as an Alpha He can do what He pleases and so i decided to let Him suck me even though i wouldn’t be comfortable in letting Him do so. i’m thinking that while He sucks on my faggot cock i will try visualizing myself sucking on Him at the same time, so maybe, i can be erect at least.
Have you ever encountered a straight Alpha that wanted to taste a faggot’s cum? How would you handle this situation?
Thanks in advance brother sam!
Thanks for the question!
My first question is this: why do you think this guy is a true Alpha? There are a lot of gays out there pretending to be Alpha (or are confused into thinking they’re Alpha) whose true colors come out once they get a faggot alone.
Even gay Alphas that I know don’t suck dick, get fucked, or do much ass play. Think about that. And even more telling is this “Alpha’s” insistence on sucking your dick. Very strange.
As you mention, I HATE when anyone does anything with my penis. That’s why it’s so nice being caged. I think most faggots agree with us about this, too. We are simply not wired to want that or enjoy it.
If I were you, I’d lose this guy. I think he’s a fake, and he’s also inconsiderate. There are true Alphas out there to serve. I wouldn’t waste time on this one.
I’m a 22 years old college student and quite new to the overall hierarchy and alpha scene I just found it this past couple months and was something I found hot to think about. Personally, I’ve never felt labeled anywhere somewhere between alpha/prealpha and maybe beta-dom as I’m a vers top were I mainly enjoy topping but I have bottomed a few times before.
My interest in hierarchy spiked again around 5 days ago when I saw one of my neighbors from my hometown posed a shirtless pic of himself at the gym. I had not seen him in over 4 years and now he was 18 and he had strong biceps, a wide chest, and what drew me the most was a strong set of 6pack abs.
Seeing his photo reminded me of something that happened a couple years back that I kind of forgot but realized was big to who I am. When I was a junior in high school we used to hang out afterschool because we grew up close to each other since elementary school. That year he got into football and especially wrestling. So he would often ask me to grapple with him which I did and I won just because I was older. However, in my senior year he ended up beating me multiple times despite being 4 years younger than me and the pinnacle moment was when he won and duct taped my hands behind my back and stood on top of my back. We never talked about it much because it was all friendly but after that we never wrestled as he trained with actual wrestlers.
Now looking back at it I’m realizing he was somewhat an alpha or I might not be as unlabeled as I thought. In the days after seeing his gym photo all I’ve been thinking about is his physique to the point where I canceled a hookup to jerk off. I’m starting to realize I definitely fall into the beta to even fag tier now as I’ve constantly thought about and even dreamt about him dominating me. I wanted to share this story because I think that so many moments like this happen to show people their place but I was just oblivious to it. Now I’m not sure how to even proceed with my newfound info especially considering how he’s much younger than me and I want to respect his boundaries. I don’t know if you have any advice on how to go about it especially if we don’t talk anymore?
As a note I am fine with the posting of the story but I’ve left the fields blank just because I don’t feel comfortable revealing my info just for my personal comfort.
Hi, thank you for writing!
Ah, those high school years are really something else, aren’t they? Before we even know what’s happening to our own bodies we are thrown into a daily petri dish of hormones, awkwardness, impulsiveness, and wild guesswork. The forces at work on us in high school run the gamut, from physical to mental to emotional to social. It’s amazing any of us survive it all.
If we are paying attention to the clues we receive in high school, we can really find out deep truths about ourselves. For instance, when I was 17 (before senior year) I was forced into submission by my straight Alpha friend to become his cocksucker. From there I figured out about my true calling as a faggot, and I never looked back.
For you, there was apparently a lot of information guiding you to believe in your Alphahood. But this one friend showed you something by overtaking you and eventually dominating you. It’s interesting to me that you apparently pushed that memory down and forgot about it … until that pic forced it back into your psyche.
This tells me that memory meant something more than just a passing feeling, but rather it was something your mind was fighting to suppress. So we shouldn’t try to ignore it.
I had a question like this before, and I advised the faggot to reach out to what was a former bully in high school, and it turned out well enough (they were geographically too far apart). Given that you parted as friends just a few years ago, there’s a great chance he’ll be glad to hear from you.
More importantly, I’ll bet that incident you mentioned had a tremendous effect on his life as well. That’s a pretty ringing endorsement for his Alphahood, and I’m sure it was a pivotal moment in his development.
So i recommend that you write to him (you could call too, possibly) and feel him out. Be complimentary about his physique, and toss in some commentary about that incident. Be complimentary about his power, and hint that it was a major turning point in your life. Chances are, he’ll pick up that hint and want to know why.
At this point, you’ll need to be a little brave and admit that the incident awakened submissive feelings in you. If he’s Alpha (as I suspect), he will pick that up and run with it.
Just try it. At worst, you’ll lose a friend you already don’t have. But I don’t think that’s what is going to happen.
I never thought I would write back so quick but I haven’t been too honest with myself. What I didn’t mention about me thinking I might be a beta/fag instead of an alpha is lately I’ve found myself enjoying the smell of the gym. At first I thought it was just because I’ve loved being at the gym to work out but my friend in my frat left his workout shirt on my bed and I had to stop myself from going up and smelling it. When I first wrote to you I think I knew a bit that I might not be an alpha like I thought, but I guess I was holding out hope you would tell me I just lost my way. After reading a bit though I have to say I don’t think I’m an alpha and it might have been just the hometown I grew up in.
I never gave you any background but I’m Asian, around 5’11 with a six pack and a six inch dick. In my hometown which was more Asians I stood out and I think that’s why I thought I was an alpha but being here now with other guys I feel my confidence of standing out slipping away. The reason I’m writing so soon was today my frat friend asked me to give him a massage because he was sore and called me a “good boy for being obedient.” I tried to ignore it but that phrase has been echoing in my head since then and I can’t lie I’ve been thinking about his bulge all day. I think just being a more masculine jock is making be hesitant of accepting being inferior that I have to be a top at least. Do you have any tips of overcoming my dignity because my heart is telling me I should try serving to see if I enjoy it but my head is too proud to submit? Or how I could approach my friend ir if you think he already knows? I apologize for the lengthy excerpt but I feel this is a subject I can’t talk to anyone else about.
Thank you for following up on your previous question! Yes, a change in location can often give us a fresh perspective on hierarchy at large, and the wider view of Men and how they interact in other places. Suddenly we see that Men don’t always act the same way in other cultures and environments.
But let’s get to your pressing issue. Yes, your Alpha frat friend is absolutely pushing buttons with you because he either (a) wants you to be his faggot, or (b) suspects you might be a faggot he can break.
He tried two very effective tests to determine this. First, he commanded that you give him a massage (and you complied). Then, he said, “You’re a good boy for being obedient”, which is a demeaning phrase to an Alpha (but you accepted it).
In other words, you failed both of his tests. Right now he is probably thinking about how to take ownership of you. You already gave him the information he needed through those simple tests, and as far as he’s concerned he has the green light to take whatever he wants.
Let’s get this out of the way: you’re not going to be a Top.
The feelings you’re describing are fundamental aspects of being a faggot. Your true position in hierarchy has been revealed, and you cannot escape it no matter what you try to do. Forget about your so-called dignity as a Man. Your PURPOSE is on the line!
So the remaining question is this: how do you deal with this Alpha friend who is clearly targeting you? You have two choices, really: (1) wait until he finally forces you into submission, or (2) greet him by kneeling before him and telling him the truth.
In my opinion, the second option is better because that way you maintain some dignity and agency over your own faghood. That way you’re not a “victim” of Alpha manipulation, but are instead honestly offering yourself him for use and service.
The clock is ticking now. He’s on to you and he’s pretty sure what you are. Either way, it won’t be long before you’re serving him. All that remains is how YOU want it to happen.
Good luck, brother. If you need help, you can always write to me at hi*****************@***il.com!
My name is Brandon and I’m a 21yo guy who’s recently become more sexually active. I have a decently muscular body and a pretty big dick(~7.5-8in). I’ve begun to notice a trend with the guys I’m sleeping with. Almost as soon as undress they all start acting more like bottoms? They always start worshipping my body and beg to suck my cock/fuck them.
I’ve never really thought of myself as “Alpha” or had the impulse to don other guys before. But I will say it does feel nice to be worshiped. So my question for you Sam is, do you think I’m an Alpha or is this just benefits of being hung?
Hello, Sir! Thank you very much for writing!
At this point, it’s pretty clear you’re receiving the benefits of being hung, but that’s only a benefit if you’re a total top without any interest in sucking dick or being fucked. Otherwise, that wouldn’t be a benefit, right? Since you didn’t really clarify your interests, I can’t really determine much more than that.
But let’s assume that your statement “benefits of being hung” indicates that you are, indeed, a total top.
The question of whether or not you’re Alpha involves more math than (big dick = Alpha). Alphahood does not depend on dick size. A Man is Alpha because of the qualities he has INSIDE, not outside.
Despite your nice body, handsome face, and big dick, you have some aspects that make me question your qualifications as an Alpha. For instance, you have a very limited sexual history until now (which would be weird for a well-hung Alpha). You also mention that you’ve never felt the urge to dominate others … again, that’s not typically an Alpha quality.
So I can’t really come to a conclusion on the question of your Alphahood, Sir. I don’t have enough information to do so. However, I’m rooting for you! You seem like you’d make a great Protector Alpha if it ends up fully manifesting in you! Thank you, Sir!
