Hello Sam, fellow fag here, I hope this finds you well.

Firstly, I must start by thanking you for your wonderful work over the years. I was a reader back when FWA was still a thing. I also thank you for being candid with your own struggles, personal and legal, and standing up to fascism. While this is a space for domination and submission it is still important to be principled in every aspect of your being. I hold tremendous respect for you.

Before I get to my question here is some context: I’ve dipped my toes at various levels with submission, exclusively online. I did get close to meeting in person but I chickened out. In fact I threw my cage away. And I’ve done that a few times now. I get scared and want to distance myself from the fag inside me. Inevitably though I always return. I know it stems from some trauma I still carry and I’m neurodivergent.

Now I have the opportunity to reach out to that alpha again. I know I don’t deserve his attention but he was damn good as my Daddy. Equally I don’t want to insult him by crawling back (for the third time). He deserves better.

I do find myself in a better headspace though and I’ve managed to beat my previous chastity lockup record and counting. Additionally, I do struggle to find the right connections with alphas that can accommodate my disability.

My queries for you are:

Could you offer advice on how to conquer that fear?
What would you suggest to fags that want to run away instinctively?
Is there a way to make things good with my Daddy? Should I even attempt it?
Do you have any external resources that you think would help unowned fags beyond content on this website?

Thank you for this opportunity to ask and I will keep following in the hope of becoming a better fag. Even if this doesn’t get a response please continue your hard work.

Many thanks,

subnameddom (I’m aware of the irony)

Thank you for writing, brother.

The issue you describe is pretty common, so you shouldn’t beat yourself up too much over it. Faggots are pretty vulnerable, so it’s understandable. 

I do think the online service stuff (like findom, etc.) exacerbates this problem. When a person gets comfortable in safety behind a computer screen, the simple act of meeting with someone in person becomes much more difficult. The same goes for masturbating to porn or Alphas online. The disconnect between the easy online fantasy and real-life interaction makes it harder to come out and live honestly in realtime. 

I’m not sure how to fix it, honestly, because at some point the solution involves you simply embracing what you need to do and then doing it. There’s no magic formula for this part. You either want it badly enough to take action, or you don’t. It’s just like the countless people out there dreaming of starting a business, but never do. They enviously watch YouTube videos of people finding success, all the while growing bitter because those people took the action they didn’t. You see what I mean?

I do think it’s bad that you’re wasting this long-suffering Alpha’s time with your indecisiveness. He seems like a good Master who deserves better. I’m not trying to make you feel bad by saying that, brother. I just want you to appreciate what’s at stake. 

If you want this to come true, then you need to say “fuck it” and just go do it. You’ll never know how it feels to actually serve and be owned by a truly superior Man until you TRY. 

I’m rooting for you, brother. I really am. I wish I had a magic wand that could make it happen for you, but life wants us to earn our fulfillment. So go grab it while you still can! 

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Hi Sam, this is fag cocksucker, a fan of your blog. I have two questions. The first is about fagBNB /subBNB, because I heard that this program has been delayed or canceled. And here’s the question: will it be resumed, do you have any updates on this, or not? Because I think it’s a program with great potential, I would very much like to use it myself, of course.

The second question, or rather not a question, but rather an idea/ different view  at fagBNB. Because I live in a place where, I think, not many masters would simply want to come on vacation or so. So, what do you think about a solution where the master announces himself and his apartment/place to sleep in exchange for service? Of course, everything must be signed in a contract, everything must be agreed upon etc. In exchange for accommodation/a place to sleep, fag can serve the master in any way the master wishes like sexual service, cleaning, cooking for the master, shopping (the master can save money on shopping), or simply giving a blowjob a few times a day in gratitude for the accommodation. Fag can be on his vacation, maybe can work from Master place or whatever. But the Master in the end have checked fag for service. I think this idea is also worth considering, because every fag would be happy to go even to a smaller town just to serve a master. Tell me what you think.

Thank you for the question, brother! 

Yes, SubBNB is currently sidelined and/or cancelled given that Master Raz (the co-creator of it) is serving in the military. However, I’ve started a proto-FagBNB on the FREE Hierarchy Discord, available right now. I am looking into ways to make it work viably on the Discord, but for now there is a room open for that service.

As to your other idea, I think it has merit. However, knowing online Masters as I do, I think it’s unlikely that Masters would open their homes to online faggots. Men (and particularly Alphas) are very compartmentalized. They like to keep the various parts of their lives separated. Viewing from the Alpha perspective, I think they’d be uncomfortable with a faggot “invading” their personal space. 

I could be wrong, though. Maybe some Alphas can weigh in on this idea.  

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Hi brother,

This faggot is 54. It’s locktober but the slave is so frustrated because its Master doesn’t allow it to be caged. It is so nice to be locked and show its submission. But Master decided that the slave should stay in chastity just by the power of Master’s will.

The slave is really grateful and honored that Master thinks it is able to do that. And it will !

Of course it’s easier than for young faggots. The slave is so proud of the young faggots that manage not to jerk and cum.

To be honest, the slave is really ashame when it can’t avoid a hard-on in front of its Master. Master’s aim is that the slave’s clit stays soft. That’s so difficult….

Of course there is only one cock in our relationship. And of course we are both feeling better after cumming, which has a complete different meaning for Him and it.

Do you think that not being allowed to be caged will improve Master power ?

Thank you for the question, brother! Happy Locktober! 

Congratulations on having a Master at your age! I occasionally hear from older faggots who complain that they feel they are all washed up, so it’s nice to have an inspirational story like yours to show them all what is actually possible! 

I do understand your Master’s perspective, and I can definitely respect it. In some way, he is demonstrating a certain level of trust or faith in you and your ability to obey. He knows you want to honor him in all you do, and this is one way to do that. So I’d definitely look at it that way.

Funnily enough, I never got hard while serving. I was always so in awe of serving and so focused on what I was doing to please them that I simply didn’t even pay attention to myself. Now, mind you, I masturbated A LOT when I was by myself until about 8 years ago, when I began to take a more serious inventory of every aspect of my life and how I was using it. There is a certain responsibility I feel from my functions on this site and for my audience, so I do try to practice what I preach whenever possible. That’s MY point of view, but everybody’s different.

As far as your concluding question, YES I definitely do think that it will grow his power. What Master wouldn’t be flattered and proud to simply command something and have it be done, rather than requiring physical props to make it happen?  I can tell you’re a good faggot, and I’m sure you make your Owner proud every day! 

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Hey brothers,

I’ve been deep into my own training lately — pushing hard in the gym, staying disciplined with diet and mindset, and I can feel the power building every day. Even when I’m on my own, I keep that alpha focus switched on.

Curious how the rest of you channel that same dominant energy when you’re alone — what do you do to keep the mind sharp and the body charged between sessions?

Let’s share what works and keep raising the bar

Sir, thank you for the question?

This seems like something that you should be sharing in the Alpha rooms on my Hierarchy Discord rather than here. You can join that by CLICKING HERE.

But I want to comment on your post as well even though I’m a faggot. What you describe is a great secret of Alphahood, namely, the intense focus on personal development with the end goal of becoming a dominant and unstoppable machine. It’s part of that testosterone-fueled appreciation for Manhood and Alpha supremacy that all members of the Alpha fraternity have.

I really love that you are looking to your Alpha brothers for support while also providing encouragement to them! Being a part of that exclusive Alpha club is such an advantage! 

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Hi Sam. I hope all is well! Just wondering if you know what has happened to Alpha Aesthetic? His Twitter is gone and most records of him on Google have vanished?

He has rebranded himself in an attempt to distance himself from findom as he starts a couple of new businesses. He doesn’t want those efforts endangered by his findom empire. He is still doing drains on the DL and he has retained a group of faggots as his personal property, but he’s no longer doing anything publicly. 

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Hi Sam,

I have been reading some of your stories on the website. Thank you for your contribution to the community.

I am cash faggot loser. I am currently serving a real straight alpha god. I love him so much. He is so hot, muscular, sexy and real straight alpha, But he is ruthless and demanding, and does not do any gay shit.

I read some of your stories, like some of the straight master got sucked off by their faggots. I found its kinda odd. My god does not like that at all, he thinks its gay shit. Not only that, he does not even allow me to see his dick, and be close to his private.  I also wanted to sniff his farts, but he does not like my nose close to his ass, so i can only sniff from afar when I am in the same room with him. He does not even allow me to lick his barefoot, because he thinks faggot’s saliva is disgusting,  but he allowed me to lick his shoes, and shoes only. Honestly, i kinda like it, because that proves he is a real straight. I feel myself so lucky. I pay him weekly, and work hard for him, he said its natural for me to pay him, i totally agree, I am his ATM loser servant.

He beats me hard, and I am allowed to eat his shit, piss, spit, sniff his feet, and he put me in chastity too. I ate his morning spit a lot before he brushed his teeth, its stinky, but the taste was so good, real alpha scent. he use belt to beat me, give me bruise, he said he will NEVER do any gay shit, just real straight alpha domination.

2 weeks ago, he trained me to sniff his shit in the toilet, he was so ruthless naturally, i love him so much.

So my question to you is should I just obey him, and do I am told, and not thinking about my needs? Like wanting to see his cock, sniff his armpits, and being closer to sniff his farts?

Or should I keep asking him about what I wanted? I tried in the past, it failed miserably, he said its NOT about what i want, its always about him.  He wants my cash and total obedience.

Thanks,

LoserS

Thank you for your question, brother.

There’s something quite sad about your letter, and I’m not sure what I can say to help you. I think you’re pretty happy where you’re at even though this Alpha absolutely mistreats you and hurts you and is destroying your life. 

Feeling love for an Alpha can make a faggot do all sorts of detrimental things to itself. That’s why I’ve always encouraged faggots to seek good Alphas who know how to build a solid foundation with them. Destroyer Alphas only understand pain and cruelty. 

But I’m not sure that anything I say is going to change the perspective broken inside of you, brother. You feel like you deserve this treatment, which is why you crave his cruelty … it reinforces what you feel about yourself. 

I truly hope this person doesn’t completely destroy you. Please be careful.

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Thank you so much for responding. I have to admit that I was a little disappointed.  I think deep down I hoped that either you will give me the secret or someone will read it and give me a shot and neither has happened.         Just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to read my message and respond,

Brother thank you for writing!

Don’t get discouraged! You will find what you’re looking for. Just keep focusing on developing yourself and devoting yourself to training. The right opportunity will appear. 

I love you!

Not sure if you remember but some fag “Tom” wrote to you a few months ago? Well turns out he took your advice since I woke up to a letter on my desk last week of some “letter to an alpha”. Safe to say I was surprised that my roommate was a complete beta. Here’s a little context, Tom and I moved in together for uni a few weeks ago and we never really talked beyond furniture and shit like that. He was always quiet and didn’t make much sound which was quite nice but I always thought I could feel him ogling me when I changed, never had any proof but I could sense it. After the first few days I just ignored it, I’m used to other men looking at me in lockeroom so a roomie isn’t so different. Not to brag but I’ve always been the center of attention, it’s not like I try to be it just happens. Anyways last week when I was getting ready for class I found a printed letter on my desk from you know who and I confronted him about it. He was kind of vague and nervous about it, talking about some hierarchy alpha fag thing and just told me to scroll your site. Not gonna lie there’s a lot on here and I just don’t have the time nor do I want to comb over a bunch of gay porn so I thought I’d use his email to ask you directly. Where do I go from here? I’m straight and don’t really want to do any gay shit so for now I’ve just been having the fag clean the room and help me with some tedious work.

This is a response to THIS QUESTION. 

Sir, thank you so much for reaching out! 

I am sure the letter and your roommate’s revelation came as something of a surprise, but the message itself was probably not as surprising. After all, you freely admit that you’ve always been a leader wherever you go and people always cater to your wants and needs. 

That’s because you were born Alpha, Sir. You were always meant to be served in some way or another by inferiors like your roommate. I have no doubt that, if you examine your past, you’ll be able to recall many others who submitted and served you in various ways. It’s always come easy for you, hasn’t it? That’s your natural Alphahood at work, silently but undeniably controlling the impulses and actions of lesser ones you encounter in life.

I do want to correct you on one thing, Sir. Your roommate isn’t beta … your roommate is a faggot. There is a difference. Beta males will obey you when you tell them to do something, of course, but you don’t OWN them. However, faggots are the property of Men, especially Alphas like you. Your roommate is offering himself to you as your servant, your property. 

I’m glad to hear that you’re already using your new faggot to perform domestic chores and other “tedious work” that is, of course, beneath you. That shows you have great instincts, Sir. 

You asked where should you go from here … well, this can go as far as you want it to go, Sir. An owned faggot will obey your wishes in all things, so really anything is possible. Increase your faggot’s responsibilities. Have your faggot kiss your feet whenever you return to the dorm. Have your faggot give you massages and foot massages. If you needed to unload, you could make your fag suck your dick or drink your piss or whatever. It’s literally up to you, Sir. (I know you might not agree about a faggot sucking your dick as a straight Alpha, but this site has compiled a lot of evidence that straight Men use faggots as cocksuckers A LOT more than anyone knows … READ THESE TESTIMONIALS). 

I also highly recommend scent training with your new faggot, Sir. It’s likely your faggot is already addicted to your pheromones, but scent training only increases the hypnotic effect. Have it kneel and inhale your scent from your crotch (you can leave your pants or underwear on), or have it deeply inhale the scent of your armpits. Foot worship will also have this effect.

Another thing I recommend is putting your faggot in chastity, Sir. Faggots should not be allowed to use their penises like Men do. Chastity cages prevent the faggot from playing with itself, but they also shrink the fag’s penis and keep the faggot focused on its purpose – serving you. 

I think you will discover that faggot ownership vastly increases your power, Sir. This is one of the great untapped secrets that most straight Alphas refuse in life because of the “gay” stigma attached. You must understand that Hierarchy affects all people regardless of whether or not they acknowledge it. Men have owned faggots since forever. Entire civilizations (the Romans, the Greeks) were practically founded on that principle. Gladiators were serviced by faggots prior to battle in the Coliseum. And on and on. The British Empire had Kings, and those Kings owned male slaves that served them.

It’s simply the way of the world. The fact that straight Alphas refuse to own slave males (faggots) for their needs simply because they think it’s “gay” denies history AND denies themselves of the great power they receive through owning them.

I’m betting you’re already feeling some increase of power just from starting to accept your faggot’s service, which is why you’re writing now. You’re starting to sense there is a greater power to come from your ownership of this faggot, and you’re right. There is much more than you can know, Sir. 

So don’t stop growing into your proper role, as a MASTER and eventual God Alpha! 

Thank you again for writing, Sir. Please tell your faggot “Tom” that I’m proud of him for having the courage to offer himself. And Sir, please feel free to write at any time. You can use my personal email if you’d like: hierarchyuniversity@gmail.com. Thank you, Sir!  

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Hi Sam,

I’m an aspiring fag in my mid 20s who’s quite new to this. I don’t have too much experience previously but all the signs point to my faghood. My question revolves around accepting an dom, I know we don’t essentially pick them, but I had one session with an older dom in his 60s.  He lives alone but his house is dirty, and he’s not that attractive to me. But he’s willing to provide the training I desperately need.

So should I just accept him for the time being or wait it out to find someone I’m genuinely attracted to since I know from previous encounters that I’m way more submissive and down to expose myself to my true nature. Simply put if dom turns me on, there’s little I deny them.

Looking forward to your input.

Love the podcast btw

Thank you for the question, brother.

Congrats on coming to terms with your purpose! I’m proud of you for wanting to learn and grow as a faggot! 

One common misconception about being a true faggot is this idea that faggots must service ALL Men. I disagree. There are plenty of Men who claim to be dominant or “Alpha”, but are actually NOT Alpha. And my question is this: would any superior Man live in a filthy house? I don’t think so.

Also, you’re not attracted to him. Superior Men of that age group might not be your cup of tea as a faggot in your twenties, and that’s perfectly understandable. You shouldn’t need to serve a Man if you’re not attracted to him at least in some way. This guy sounds like a delusional pig. You deserve better.

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Hi Sam,

Happy Locktober!! As someone who is trying to extend my Locktober into November and maybe beyond I have to ask, as a locked faggot yourself do you ever cum while caged? Is it something I should try to do or just not worry about it? It is all easier said than done.

Thanks for writing to me! Happy Locktober to you, too!

I have never cum while caged, but I might be a special case. I had used my mind to stop masturbating a few years before being caged, and I’ve never ejaculated from being fucked (not even when being cunted). So I’m not sure I’m the standard. 

Other faggots have cum while in their cage, so I know it’s possible. 

Personally, I think faggots should really try not to cum as much as possible. Ejaculation is something Men do, not faggots. Plus, not cumming keeps you hornier and needing cock. I always default to recommending that faggots focus on service or preparations for service, rather than servicing themselves. 

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Dear Sam the Faggot,

We could be brothers. I wish we were. I’m probably much older than you, but you are much wisher than I.

I am a faggot, or at least I think I am. But I’m not out to myself completely, and you are the 2nd person I have told I have fantasies of serving. The first person is a dominant man younger than I, who lives in another state. We met via social media accounts that neither of us use anymore, so we communicate via text messages or snail mail.

I have a boyfriend, a partner of 10 years, and we have a house mortgage, but I’m not out to him.

I’m torn. I feel I should try to live my remaining years happy in my relationship, and continue to hide my fantasies of serving dominant men. My BF is plain vanilla in many ways, and I feel confident that even approaching the topic of needing him to be more dominant would cause the relationship to end.

I apologize for wasting your time since I don’t really have a question. I’m just venting. However, I really do appreciate your website. Thank you for your posts and advice.

My dear brother, thank you for writing!

One of the greatest compliments I ever receive from doing this work are the many letters I get from brothers like you who open up their true feelings for the first time. I know the suffocating burden you’ve been carrying around your entire life. I hate that you’ve been unable to truly experience your life as you were born to – as a faggot.

I hate when people diminish or dismiss the feelings you and I have. We aren’t crazy or fetishists. We’re faggots. It’s how we were made. 

I’ve always remained on that hill, insisting that faggots come to accept the accurate knowledge of Hierarchy so that they might be free. It was one of the primary motivators for this site more than ten years ago. I’ve met a lot of brothers like you in that time, believe me. Some of these ones have openly wept when I got them to admit publicly to me that they are faggots. I cherish every one of them and their confessions, just as I cherish yours, my brother.

Fortunately, your story isn’t as sad as some brothers who must suffer in silence alone. You’re in a loving relationship, and you also have an Alpha with whom you can discuss your proper role.

You didn’t say your age, but I’m guessing in the 50-60 range. It’s probably too late in the game to upend your cozy life in favor of maybe serving an Alpha.

My advice: stay where you are, build a cozy life of love with your partner, and rest easy in the knowledge that your faggot truth was heard, acknowledged, and treasured by me, your grateful brother!

love you!

~ sam the faggot

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1. I have never drank an alpha piss but I am turn on by the idea. It’s like being owned forever since you can never un- drink it.
2. Have you ever done it ?
3. how do I prepare
4. how do I bring it up

Thank you for the question!

Piss play in general is a pretty thrilling aspect of the Alpha/fag dynamic. It seems like Alphas truly love using their piss both as a marking as well as a humiliation tool. For faggots, it’s a privilege to receive an Alpha’s piss. It fulfills some primal part of our nature.

Drinking an Alpha’s piss is the most thrilling way we can show our deep respect for every aspect of his being, even his waste. 

I have done it many times, mostly straight from the tap (not much of a fan of bottled piss). My best technique for it is to have the Alpha piss into my mouth so I can swallow it directly down my throat (I used this as a fun party trick while in prison).

I guess everybody prepares differently. I did by drinking my own piss and getting accustomed to the acrid taste of it (not overwhelming, but sharp). As I later discovered, piss varies wildly from Alpha to Alpha depending on their diet and health.

To bring it up to a Master, you’d just kneel and respectfully ask him if he would give you his piss. Like I said earlier, many Alphas love this and will eagerly grant you that wish.

Asking random Alphas for it is a bit trickier and depends on the situation. But if alcohol is involved, you should have little resistance.

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With Interest I read your content with the perspective of a Fag. I am a 37 alpha with strong protective instincts. Objectively good looking with piercing blue eyes.

So here is my issue in finding regular fags. I get alot of attention from fags and I use a few, if I consider them worthy. When I break a fag In the first time as always I am naturally rough, as is my right. Afterwards it triggers my need to protect and ensure their well-being.

Here is my problem this seems to mean fags are less likely to follow up wanting to be a regular. When this instinct was less developed as a young man they would beg.

Help me with the prospective – as I’m looking for one solid fag to serve me as a god. If it helps I’m in a small city in England.

Sir, thank you very much for your question!

I think I might be just as frustrated as Alphas like you are regarding the bad behavior I see in most faggots. I hate seeing my faggot brothers flake on Alphas or treat Alphas like sex toys or act selfishly or disrespectfully around Alphas. It happens far too much, and is a symptom (in part) of the internet. I do what I can here to teach the truth and the correct path, but in the end I’m just one faggot.

The situation you describe might be a little more complex than that, though. You see, many faggots can’t respect Alphas who treat them with kindness, because they falsely equate Alphahood with hate, aggression, and violence. These faggots want to be beaten, spit on, slapped, and spanked by Alphas, not cuddled. They fail to understand what you’re actually doing (which is reinforcing your power with aftercare) because they’re too invested in their own selfish fetishes. 

And where are these violent fetishes coming from? A mixture of self-loathing and masturbation.

When you were a younger Alpha, you cared less about how you treated faggots, and they loved that because you were inadvertently feeding into their fairly sad desires. Now that you’ve gotten and bit older and wiser, you want to become a Master of faggots and not just a user of them. I absolutely respect that, Sir.

It’ll take some time to sift through fags until you find one that responds correctly, but those good faggots are out there, Sir. In the meantime, you can enjoy the search by using as many faggots as roughly as you want! You might also consider joining my Hierarchy University Discord, Sir. There you can search by country and make connections with faggots who are well-acquainted with the message taught here. Here’s the link: https://discord.gg/mEH3Awf8G4    

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Hey! Im still pretty new to being caged and I’m really loving it, it’s what feels most natural to me. One thing I’ve noticed though is that I’m not able to cum while I wear the cage, I’ll finger myself or use a dildo to try and cum because I don’t like jerking, but I can’t actually cum without taking the cage off and jerking. Do you know how to help with this? Or are faggots not supposed to cum? Thank you!

Hi brother! Thank you for writing to me! 

First off, congratulations on starting your journey into chastity! It sounds like you’re already noticing positive changes! Trust me, if you devote yourself to chastity and really meditate on its meaning, you’ll really start to feel a huge difference in your outlook and attitude. Men will notice it as well! 

Also, I commend you for trying to work on your pussy while caged. Chastity has multiple applications for faggots, and one of those involves a faggot discovering the purpose and functions of its pussy because it is no longer able to use its nub for satisfaction. 

Personally, I have never cum while wearing my chastity cage, but I have developed tremendous control nowadays. For you just starting out, it’s probably necessary to expel semen. Ideally you’d want to do this by milking cum out of you by manipulating your prostate with either a finger, or with that dildo. I’ve heard of faggots doing both. I’ve covered them both on this site. If you do a search for the word “milking” in this site’s search bar and you will find posts about that.

On a related note: a reader wrote in about cunting himself with a dildo while trying to milk his prostate. I’ve never experienced that, but it’s technically possible: https://hierarchyuniversity.com/questions-from-readers-450/  

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Hello there!! I am 32 now and I always knew that I am a faggot. I got fucked in my ass for the first time at age 17 by a 56 year old man. I always had girlfriends and affairs with women while I permanently enjoyed to be a faggot slut for older men. I am single for 3 years now and since then locked in chastity by my female roommate, and to be perfectly honest I love it like that. I  don’t want to use my limp dick because I feel like a total faggot and I only want and need to serve and satisfy men. I go to adult cinemas and public cruising areas a few times a week, serving every man with all my holes completely naked in my chastity cage and I love it and crave it. Actually today 4 strangers came on my face. But I can’t really go the next step and fully embrace it. What is my problem?

Thank you for the question, brother! 

I’m a little confused … why don’t you think you’ve fully embraced your place as a faggot? You’re now voluntarily in chastity, you’re actively serving Men with your holes, and you sound fairly submissive (I mean, a female told you to go into chastity!). 

What part of being a faggot are you not fulfilling? What is that “next step” in your mind? 

Are you maybe referring to referring to yourself as a faggot in everyday life or with people in your life? Or are you referring to the fact that you aren’t owned by a Master? If either of those things are concerns, let me dissuade you now. You’re a faggot on the INSIDE before you’re anything on the outside. I think you ARE a fully realized faggot already, and there’s nothing holding you back or lacking in you. 

In my opinion, I think you should put aside these self-doubts and continue what you’re doing.  

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Sam, I see you also follow @PeteyDickens on twitter and I was curious what you made of a recent post of his. He sounds like such an amazing alpha who is growing in his power and who uses his fag brilliantly – but @PeteyDickens posted the other day that he wants his wife to spank and fuck him. I feel guilty admitting this about an alpha I so admire but it kind of turned me off and made me wonder about him. Is this fair of me? He seems to be a bit of a slave to his wife, controlled by her – so it’s a bit confusing. On one hand — the way he thinks of and relates to his fag make him seem like the perfect alpha but if he was really alpha wouldn’t he be able to put his wife in her place?

Hi brother! Thanks for writing! 

Yes, I follow Master @PeteyDickens. It’s been amazing to follow him from the very beginning of his journey into faggot ownership and use. He’s a very powerful Alpha who is incredibly honest about his discoveries.

I was also put off by his post regarding being pegged by his wife. The post read this way:

I don’t understand it, and I left it alone rather than question him about it. I figure this is something residual left over from his days before he discovered his true power as an Alpha. We must remember that Alphas who come to their power later in life often carry baggage from that previous life of unawareness. 

I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Master Pete is the real deal. 

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Hello there,

How do I stay motivated to stay in Chastity? I dont have a proper owner- if I did this wouldn’t be an issue. I do have some alphas that fuck me on occasion, but it is very causual and not quite an ‘owner’ situation if you will. Neither of them are very into chastity, and one them actually doesn’t want me to wear a cage (he doesnt touch my dick, but I guess he doesnt like the look of them).

But outside of those, I often give in after maybe a week or so and unlock and jerk off 3 to 4 times in a row. How do I stop?

Thanks for the question, brother! 

Stopping any kind of addiction (like masturbation) always involves a mindset/belief system shift. For example, people don’t permanently quit smoking until they truly get grossed out by the habit and put it down. 

I finally stopped masturbating all the time when I began to think so deeply about how inferior I was to Men that I began to be ashamed to cum like them. I felt I was insulting them.

After that step, about two years later I was so ashamed about being free that I caged myself in honor of Alphas and Men in general. 

I do think the way I did it is the framework for faggots who are unowned or owned by Masters who don’t care about chastity. It all starts in your mind and how you view the truth about yourself. 

Chastity became such an important part of my life that it was disorienting to take off the cage for my imprisonment for two years. Upon my release, I couldn’t wait to put it back on! 

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Hey, brother sam, i think i am a faggot. i love serving dominant Men, particularly Alpha Men. i was just looking at your books for sale, and was wondering if i would be “reading the known” if i purchased your book, “Are you a faggot?” Or would i be better off purchasing your book, “May i serve You, Sir?” i just want to be the best faggot i can can be and live for the sole purpose of serving Men. i appreciate your help, brother.

Thank you for the question!

The question of which one really depends upon where you’re at and what you really need given that they serve very different purposes. The book “Are You A Faggot?” is designed to help subs determine if they are actually a faggot, both through the text as well as the concluding quiz it contains.

Meanwhile, “May I Serve You, Sir?” was originally designed as a print-on-demand publication (it’s still available for print on Amazon!) that faggots could give to Alphas they want to serve. It’s a guide that was expanded from my “Letter To An Alpha” guide to help them understand Hierarchy and the ownership of faggots.

So it all depends on where you’re at and what you need in your journey, brother!

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I have strong faggot feelings and have a relation with an alpha. I sucked his cock several times and the next step has to be that he is going to fuck me. My question is concerning my marriage/wife. My wife does not know yet. But if he is my alpha then theoretically he has also the right to fuck my wife, no?

Congratulations on finding an Alpha to service! That’s a big step! 

As far as your wife is concerned, yes, if he wants to fuck her he certainly has the right to take her and probably will if for no other reason than as a show of power. Demonstrations of sexual power are often just as pleasurable to Alphas as the sex act itself. 

You definitely sound like you’re hoping your Alpha cucks you. I hope that goes well! 

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Sam how do I deal with fakers and weird “Alphas” who are more interested in stroking their egos than actually being dominant and owning fags?

For a variety of reasons I struggle to serve in-person for Alphas, so I’ve tried to be of use virtually as a cashfaggot and wallet. I found an Alpha online and he seemed really legitimate. He was organized, domineering, and amazingly self-assured. But eventually he started saying some inconsistent thing? Gave vague responses to them, and just overall started acting like as an Alpha he had no reason to explain himself. Normally, I’d agree but the internet is a wild place and there are fake Alphas everywhere trying to rip fags off and redflags just seemed to keep rising. I stopped serving him and we disconnected shortly after. But what the fuck sam? How do you tell Real Men apart from fakers?

Thank you for the question! 

As you may know, I’ve always been wary about findom, and one of my biggest concerns is the issue you bring up here: fake or scammy Alphas. Sadly, the nature of anything online involves some degree of fakery or scamming. Findom is an easy way for a Man to pretend to be something he isn’t and get paid for his lies. It’s also a way for unscrupulous Destroyer Alphas to take advantage of weak faggots.

I’m involved with findom only to try and assess Alphas in the scene and attempt to be a bellwether/advocate for the true ones. There aren’t many, though!

My advice has always been to proceed with caution in findom. Take your time with Alphas there. Talk to other faggots serving Masters you like to see what they say about them. 

Everything in Hierarchy is a crap shoot. You never know if any Man, in real life or online, will be good. But your chances of finding a true Alpha and good Master in findom is greatly reduced. Be careful! 

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