This faggot has a question about cunt status, I was anally raped by a Man when I was underage, that was my first sexual experience. I didn’t tell anyone at the time and never really thought about it until I became an adult and had naturally gravitated towards Men and developed my own understanding of what being a faggot was going to mean for me. A recently, I met this particular Man who was one of if not the biggest I have taken and we have since been seeing eachother 2-3 times a week for a few months now. Only recently, I have seen a change in my assholes appearance and I believe my cunt is developing. Would my official cunting be the first Cock I took? Or the first Cock that started my cunting process?
Thank you for the question, brother!
I’m afraid you’ve misunderstood what I mean by the word “cunting”. The term refers to the internal orgasm a faggot experiences when an Alpha fucks them right. There are lots of resources on cunting (including a film I made) in the link on the front page.
What you’re experiencing is the natural transformation of your hole into a boy pussy. Congratulations on that! It’s an amazing thing that we get from our Alphas. They love seeing a faggot with a boy pussy, because their natural attraction to pussy triggers them.
That means your Alpha is stretching you out! Enjoy it!
Hey I came across ur website a couple months ago, and it got me to realize that being a faggot was something I wanted to persue but I have never tried it so I don’t know where to start when it comes to finding a master. you have any devise or any masters looking for a new faggot?
Thank you for writing!
Congratulations on recognizing the truth in yourself and choosing to take action! That’s half the battle, honestly!
I don’t connect Alphas and faggots anymore. I tried it at the start of this site ten years ago, and it was a disaster.
I don’t know how old you are, but depending on your circumstances you just need to look around at the Alphas in your life that you’d like to serve and start submitting to them in various ways. You can use my free resource “Letter To An Alpha” in the right sidebar to open a conversation and help the Alpha you want to serve to understand what you are and what he is. That letter has worked multiple times.
You can also use apps like Grindr, TheBlowers.com, Recon, etc. Faggots often find Alphas there.
I came across your blog yours ago and recognized myself a lot in the description of a fag. However being in a relationship I didn’t do much actively about it, only fantasizing. The last few years, the sex in my relationship dropped from no more anal sex (my bf says I’m too tight) to just a few times a year where he let’s me give him head. Most of the times he is just laying there on his back and let me do my thing. Getting frustrated I started to go on the apps behind his back to search for fun. I limit it to hookups where I suck the guys, a lot of time straight man. Probably because anal sex would need more preparation time and would feel even more like cheating since it’s a lot more intimate.
With this experiences in the last year, I tend to hookup more and more with dominant guys, that wont to be deepthroated or facefuck. I really enjoy this submissive role.
A few weeks ago I came across this real alpha who lives nearby and works in the same building. We met a couple of times now where he makes me suck him and rubs his dick over my ass before cumming all over it. When he writes me, he want me to come over immediately, which is hard for me being in a relation but I do when I can. It’s clear that he doesnt like to get no for an answer.
I feel that he wants to fuck me and come in my ass but for now I always find a reason for it not to happen (no time to clean, not practical in the toilets, …). I’m afraid he will loose interest in me if I don’t let him fuck me. On one side, I would like to be fucked again, on the other side, it’s really a big step which I feel uncomfortable with of crossing. His dick is also really big and he likes to play rough, so I’m also afraid my ass will get hurted of injured after all this time. I’m not sure what to do here. Any advice?
Thank you for the question, brother!
I’m sorry about the failing relationship. Sometimes Men lose interest in sex over time for a variety of reasons, but that’s a shame in your case because you have a faggot’s desire to serve and he’s wasting it.
I’m glad you found this truly dominant Alpha who is also very conveniently located! You’re taking the right steps to unleash your inner faggot, which I’m glad to hear!
The Alpha is going to fuck you at some point. If you don’t get ready, it’s either going to be really painful, or he’s going to lose interest and move on. So I suggest that you get ready for getting fucked.
If you buy it through me, you get a discount. Again, HERE IS THE LINK. You need to use those buttplugs to loosen your hole. I’d also get some good water-based lube.
As far as your ethical concerns with your partner, I wouldn’t worry about it too much. He’s the one who has abandoned you. It’s time for you to experience your truth as a faggot.
Hello. I serve a Master who takes advice from you. He recommended I listen to your podcasts, and I have joined your discord. I am confused about some of your posts and podcasts though. Is it OK for Alphas to have nonconsentual sex with fags? Is it OK for Alphas to lie to fags about safe sex by stealthing? You seem to have posted conflicting views on these issues. Thank you.
Thank you for the question, brother!
I must say, your Master should be very proud to own such an intelligent and thoughtful faggot as you! You’re a credit to him!
I’ve often said that I don’t consider myself a reliable voice when it comes to rape because I was raped. And while it was scary in the moment and something that took a while to overcome, I noticed that my feelings toward my rapist and the event itself transformed into something valuable. I acknowledge that might not be the case with every faggot/rape victim, but I’ve heard from plenty of faggots who’ve had the same experience.
So to your question about whether it’s “okay” for Alphas to rape faggots, I’ll phrase it this way: Alphas have the right to take whatever they want from a faggot (rape, so to speak), and they always will. The idea of it being “okay” implies some justification based on human law, but Alphas operate under natural law. It’s the so-called “law of the jungle” that we know as hierarchical law. And under hierarchical law, Alphas can and do rape faggots.
That said, I wish Alphas didn’t rape faggots … but wishes won’t change nature.
As far as stealthing, I don’t really condone the practice overall; the video featuring stealthing I recently posted was just hot. I think if an Alpha wants to breed a faggot, he should just state his intentions outright and then do it. Why the subterfuge? Almost all faggots want to be bred by Alphas/Masters anyway, so the act of stealthing simply indicates untrustworthy behavior. And should diseases be spread via stealthing, there are hefty prices to pay for it. I prefer upfront, direct, and honest communication with the Alphas I serve.
I really hope I answered your questions, brother! Tell your Master thank you for his support, and for training up such a wonderful faggot brother like you!
I hope you don’t mind this faggot following up on your very interesting reply to my last question. Faggot wondered if it could ever be the case that true Masters occasionally like to take cock themselves – your answer made faggot think it’s not acceptable yet it has had some further thoughts on this which it would like to share. Masters have the freedom to seek pleasure wherever and however They choose. By exercising that choice They are asserting Their rights, and faggot guesses (obviously no faggot can truly understand the mind of an alpha) that sometimes some Masters may enjoy the sensation of having Their hole penetrated. Faggot wonders if this would be per se a loss of dignity or a diminution of a Master’s masculinity? An interesting question, faggot thinks, for discussion in the Hierarchy University.
Of course in this faggot’s case the particular issue in the original question was its own embarrassment at having to use its dicklet in such a way; but then again, as Master has always declared that faggot’s dicklet belongs to Him then faggot supposes it could be argued that Master is merely using His own property to please Himself. This is all very perplexing for a mere faggot brain!!
The issue of faggot’s relationship with its dicklet (not really belonging to it but to Master, of course) is sometimes a difficult one to manage. Faggot has for many years had a serious problem with masturbation but Master prefers it not to wear a device because He believes that developing self-control is a much more fulfilling practice. By having to struggle every day when temptation arises faggot is constantly having to focus on and strengthen its commitment to Master’s command. However over time this has become much easier and faggot now finds the idea of masturbation repellent and selfish whilst the word itself – masturbation- seems ugly. Faggot guesses that its growth towards dissociating its dicklet from any legitimate kind of sexual pleasure (even though it still experiences powerful erections) has made it more difficult to satisfy Master’s very occasional commands to fuck Him – yet again faggot finds itself shuddering at the inappropriateness of those two words! Thank you Sam for taking the trouble to take on board this silly faggot’s meanderings. It hopes you have more wise words to dispense!
Thanks for writing again, brother!
Even though I’m now a big proponent of chastity (locked for all of five years aside from my two years in prison), that wasn’t always the case. None of my Masters ever required it of me because I have a tiny penis that never got hard while serving, so it wasn’t an issue. However, I DID have a secret masturbation problem for my entire life until right before I self-locked. I overcame that issue thanks to starting this site, actually! I became intimately involved with some God Alphas, and they so humbled me that I eventually became ashamed of masturbating. Then I eventually became ashamed of using my penis like Men do (for example, using a urinal). So masturbation stopped, and I eventually self-locked out of desperation.
It sounds like your evolution is following the same path as mine. I think it’s wise of your Master to have you overcome masturbation voluntarily using self-control rather than a device. But once you do have it under control, I do hope your Master does agree to lock you in chastity. There is something profound about being locked. It has truly changed my life for the better.
I do think you should have a respectful-but-frank conversation with your Master about your feelings regarding you topping him. You need to help him see how this is hurting you, and also how it is hurting how you view him. You need to help him understand that you want nothing more than to serve him and submit to him, but topping him not only makes you extremely uncomfortable, it bit also degrades that submission you feel toward him.
Your Master sounds like an insightful Alpha. I’m sure he will listen and understand if you explain it to him.
I was wondering, have you ever come across this before I was at a party and I saw this couple this 275 pound muscle man hairy as all hell I won’t lie. I wanted to get fucked by him a lot but he was already with someone.
His partner was this skinny surfer boy type, and I thought that he was the bottom well they invited me back to their hotel room for the night, and I learned that the big guy was actually the bottom and the little guy was the master and he actually had quite a nice healthy looking 8 inches on him
Have you ever encountered this before or do you think it’s like just a one time thing because I’ve only encountered this once and that was 10 years ago
Thanks for the question! Happy New Year to you, too!
The situation you describe is one of the great proofs of a definitive hierarchical truth: our place in hierarchy is something we are born with INSIDE, and has nothing to do with our bodies or circumstances. By all rights, that Master/faggot couple you met should’ve fit the pattern that their outward appearances suggested, but they were the exact opposite! The skinny surfer dude with the big dick was born Alpha, and the burly, muscle-bound hairball was born a faggot!
This is why I’m repeatedly warning against judging Men based on outward appearances!
You asked if I’ve ever encountered such counterintuitive couples before, and the answer is YES! I’ve chronicled multiple couples like this. My favorite was straight Master G and his giant muscle fag Jamie. Master G was a short Alpha, and his faggot Jamie was a bodybuilder with a large dick that Master G had caged. Their thread ended with Master G marrying his faggot (using a ring he allowed me to choose!).
So yes, it’s a very real (although I’d also add RARE) thing within hierarchical couplings.
I am a faggot who has been adoring my straight friend since high school. Even at 16 he looked like a 20 year old bodybuilder. I was adoring him ever since. In high school i didn’t pursue any gay relationships, and I had very little in common with him, but I always hung around him. On graduation day we had a party where he stripped. I drank beer from his pecs and licked his nipples. Still a core memory. When I brought it up some years later he didn’t remember.
Anyway. Over the years I have come out to him and I have saved a gallery collection of his thirst traps he has sent me. I have at times been either drunk or extremely horny and begged to be his slave or serve him in any way, and he has rejected every offer. He has never told me off for thirsting after him, but he has also never given me any indication that he will let me do anything beyond admiration. At one time he was even offended that I thanked him for tolerating my bs so much, telling me he views me as a friend and equal. At one time he said he doesn’t mind that I’m in love with him because we have very little in common, and had I not been gay we wouldn’t have become friends
One time when I was at his place we were sunbathing together on the roof terrace of his apartment building. I tried to offer massaging his feet and I got close at one point, but he didn’t let me do any of it. Zero interest.
At this point he has gone through several long term relationships with beautiful women, and atp it breaks my heart. I really want to serve him. I even tried to fix an alpha twitter for him so he could get some extra money. Am I pursuing a futile goal here? It’s been 10 years now, I really want to know if I’m just hurting myself.
Thank you for the question!
What you’ve described is the classic faggot conundrum. I think every faggot has had a straight Alpha they wanted to serve in high school. Most of them never get as close to it as you have, so that’s to your credit, brother!
The kind of Alpha you describe is the toughest type to “break”. I call them “Indifferent Alphas”. They’re so laid-back and genial that they never take a position on anything. Nothing bothers them or arouses them (except pussy, of course). You’ve even tried a carrot that typically does work – FINDOM – and your Alpha isn’t interested. That can be difficult.
Here’s what I suggest: send him a copy of my “Letter To An Alpha” (in the right sidebar) – or better yet, have him read it from the site – and then ask him about his thoughts regarding it. That letter has had some success, mainly because it condenses the hierarchical outline into a clear truth that most true Alphas can agree to.
I’d say if he rejects that message, then you need to give up. You are definitely hurting yourself with these rejected attempts to sway him. There are other Alphas who really are interested in owning you. You’d be better off submitting to them.
First, Happy New Year. Thank you for all that you do for the community. You provide a valuable service and a supportive forum for faggots and Alphas alike. Your work is appreciated.
When an Alpha asks for information on likes, dislikes, or limits, how much information should a faggot give? Sometimes in answering this question, it feels like i am trying to influence what the Alpha does. Even though my intent may be to help the Alpha control me better, i can’t honestly say that i’m not trying to guide Him toward doing certain things and away from doing other things i do not like. Would it be OK to preface the list of dislikes by saying that i hoped He would help me overcome any of my dislikes or limits that He found objectionable? Or perhaps to supply only a list of health problems that made certain activities dangerous?
Recently another faggot told me that his Alpha punished him with spankings, which he secretly enjoyed. Should a faggot inform an Alpha that he actually enjoys His punishments so that the Alpha can use a punishment that that faggot actually finds painful?
In short, how does a faggot toe the line between self-serving information and Alpha-serving information.
fagjohn
Thank you for the interesting question!
I’ve always been of the opinion that a faggot should simply submit and allow the Alpha to guide how things go, augmenting any sessions with information (like health information, etc.) as they arise. Preliminarily loading up an Alpha with a bunch of prequalifications and conditions would only confuse or frustrate the Alpha before he can even receive service.
I don’t want to discourage you, though, because your heart is in the right place. Such deep considerations are a key to a successful and fruitful faghood, brother. We have so much to discover about our submission! We can reap the rich bounty of self-actualization that comes when we meaningfully meditate on issues like these, so I’m proud you are doing that hard-but-beneficial work!
Faggot hopes you can help it with a bit of a problem but first of all it needs to give a bit of context. Faggot is very lucky to have irregular but relatively frequent meetings with a Master who is significantly younger than it is. Faggot feels very privileged to be able to serve and does so to the best of its ability. Master likes to administer pain and to humiliate faggot (both in private and occasionally with other men present). He also uses faggot for sexual relief. Faggot craves the lash, thrills to the humiliation and longs for Master’s seed – a precious gift which He bestows when He sees fit.
The problem for faggot is that very occasionally Master likes to take a cock in His arse and He has instructed faggot to uses its dicklet to fuck Him. It embarrasses faggot even to write these words, so unfitted does it feel to perform this function. Master generally refers to its penis as a dicklet or a clit and faggot has learned to consider it to be of no importance in any sexual encounter. Over the years, however, faggot has developed its own mantra ‘Master, if it pleases You it must please me.’ This is a mantra it uses whenever Master instructs it to perform a new task and He has the grace to ask if faggot likes it. On the two occasions it has been told to fuck Master (how shocking those words sound!) it has been unable to perform. Faggot has lost its hard-on and has feebly fumbled around trying to insert its inadequate and rapidly softening dicklet into His most private place. Master has tried to convince faggot that this is not a situation of faggot ‘taking charge‘ because by fucking Him (again it pains faggot to write those words!) it is merely obeying an order, just like any other command. Faggot hates to be disobedient (obedience is its favourite word in the whole English language) but it has come up against a block in its journey of submission and feels itself to have let Master down. Master, in His wisdom and kindness, does not dwell on the point but it is clear that He is disappointed and for faggot this is almost too much to bear!
Faggot would love to hear your comments on this, please.
Fag charlie
My dear brother Charlie, thank you for the question!
Believe me, I absolutely feel your pain and frustration! I’ll admit this: every time you mentioned being forced to perform this with your Master, I literally flinched in horror. I felt like I was reading about gruesome torture.
Frankly, I do think this is a form of faggot abuse. Of course, since we are faggots we don’t have “rights” per se, but neither does a dog … but normal people don’t abuse dogs, do they? Why would a Master torment a faggot like this? I understand that some Masters like to play games with their faggots as an amusement, but this is clearly upsetting you. It would upset me, too.
Here’s the other thing I don’t understand: a Master who is occasionally demanding that his faggot fucks him is (in my opinion) degrading himself and surrendering some of his power and respectability. To effectively submit to a Master, a faggot needs to respect him. I don’t understand why any superior and dominant Man would degrade himself in this way. It would make me question whether or not he’s really the Man for me.
You seem like a much meeker sort of faggot than I am, Charlie. I don’t want to give you advice that isn’t going to help you. I’ll tell you what I would do: I would respectfully ask my Master to stop demanding this of me, mainly because it makes me lose respect for him. Couching it in those terms puts the onus on the Master’s reputation as a Man, rather than my personal preference.
But I will tell you that I am so very proud of you for your cultivation of a perfect faggot outlook and personality. You’re humble, service-oriented, and gentle. You’re the type of faggot any Alpha should be proud to own, and the type of faggot I’m proud to call my brother! I love you, Charlie! Thank you for writing!
I’m looking to chat with Sam regarding a thought I’ve been thinking about for 2 years. I wonder if it’s worth posting here.
Thanks for reaching out, I guess! I’m a little confused by the question, since I’m probably one of the most accessible figures on social media. I’m on multiple platforms, including this giant website. Go to the navbar of this site, and you’ll see a tab for “LINKS” that contains an entire page of ways to contact me.
In fact, it’s even weirder that you typed this question into an “ASK A QUESTION” box that obviously feeds directly to me, sam the faggot, the one who has been answering questions here for ten years.
So if you have a question you’ve been thinking about for two years, you should’ve just written that question in that box LOL. So try that again, or write to me at hierarchyuniversity@gmail.com, or contact me on X at @hierarchyuni (among other accounts), or on Tumblr, BDSMLR, blah blah blah.
Hi Sam! I am gay and deep down I know I am a fag. When I am in a situation where I couid easily submit, I deny my instincts and act normal. I even passed the foot test! In your stories, you mentioned an island where alphas train their submissives and there was a place in eastern europe too. Do you know more alphas who run such training facilities? I think i need to broken in like a rebellious horse to break my ego. This is a complex process. What’s your advice?
Thanks for the question!
I’m glad you’ve come to terms with your truth, brother! Sometimes that’s the hardest hurdle to overcome, except apparently not in your case.
The island I’ve mentioned is the one occupied by Master Dino’s large, extended family of Alphas and faggots, and they’re not running a training facility. The other places I’ve mentioned in Europe or in parts of the U.S. are for TRADING faggots and/or orgy sites (sometimes called horse markets) where Alphas trade faggots and breed them. Master Jase (California Alpha) has a “fag farm” in California, but I haven’t heard from him in a couple of years now.
But here’s my problem with what you’re asking: you expect special treatment, like you need special attention and an Alpha’s special training to make you fulfill your purpose. Tell me: what’s so special about you that an Alpha should put in that kind of work to break you? There are millions of faggots out there who are ready to surrender and submit.
The only reason why an Alpha would bother spending time trying to train you is if you were willing to pay him lots of money. So in that case, go meet up with a straight cashmaster, give him money, and he’ll force you to obey.
Over the many years since my rape at age 19, I’ve had a lot of conflicting feelings. At first I was frightened of the bleeding and the fear of disease. Then shame settled over me like a heavy veil, and occasionally bursts of rage would erupt (usually when drinking).
You can imagine my horror when, years later, I developed excitement and gratitude when thinking about my rape. I couldn’t hardly believe I felt this way. So I did research, and discovered that many rape victims develop a Stockholm-like response to the trauma of being raped. We begin to yearn for more with our rapists. Sometimes we miss them more than we miss dear ones we’ve lost in life, which is even more disgusting. Believe me, the shame from those feelings is worse than the shame of the rape itself.
Needless to say, the reactions to rape are varied and complex.
I state this because a faggot in the Hierarchy University Discord (LINK HERE) reached out to me about a letter he wrote to his rapist after many years. I encouraged him to send it to me so I can share it with all of you. There’s almost no chance that his rapist will ever see it, of course, but it’s cathartic for a victim to do SOMETHING with their tangled emotions.
So I reprint if here:
Hi Brother Sam, and dear readers, hope you all had great holidays, as some of you might know, my story might be messed up, but I’ve come to a happy conclusion.
Thanks to Sam and various Alphas I’ve come to be happy about my past, and that it showed me my true nature, and I to celebrate that, decided to write a letter.
Many years have passed, do you still remember me, I ask myself daily, I certainly do, I remember many details of that night, your beard on my neck, your grunts with every snap of your hips, your hand on my hip keeping me steady, the taste of your hand on my mouth mixed with my tears, the feeling of your cock plunging deep in me, the feeling of your seed escaping my gaping hole…
I remember it all, the emptiness that you left inside me, I hated it, inside my mind, inside my body, it was everywhere all consuming… I thought you raped me, but now I know better, you didn’t Sir, you saw I was a faggot, and used me as you saw fit at the time, so THANK YOU Sir, while I was unwilling at the time, my views have changed, and I forgive you, even if there’s nothing to forgive anymore, as I from the present, give you the consent for your past actions.
Thank you Sir, for showing me my true shelf, for making me a better faggot, thank you. I do not know who you are, hopefully you read this and know it’s about you, but I doubt it, even so, I believe it needs to be expressed, and that maybe by chance you’ll read it… Then know Sir, that you’re my first Alpha, my first Sir, and you will always be in my mind, and that I would love to serve you again Sir, willingly with my entire soul.
I’m grateful to this brother for opening his heart and sharing it with us. I hope he finds continued peace and joy in service, using the lessons he’s learned about himself through being raped.
We have two choices when enduring a crisis: crumble and die, or make new bricks from the wreckage and rebuild. My brother and I chose to rebuild, and we are better for it!
Hey Sam, any chance you can do an interview with @PeteyDickens? I follow him on twitter and he is incredible and would love to know more about him and how he thinks. Thanks –
Thank you for the question!
As you probably know, I’m a huge fan of Master @PeteyDickens’s X account. I was probably one of the first big accounts to really promote him hard, and it’s been such a privilege to not only watch his development as a purely straight Alpha discovering faggot ownership, but also to talk to him privately about these things.
We have talked about doing an interview on the podcast, but he doesn’t really want that kind of exposure. It would be good to maybe do a written interview with him, though. I’ll pass your comment along to him and discuss that! Thank you!
Hi Sam, thanks for taking the time to respond and by presenting another alternative (that I’m actually an Alpha who has just slid off track).
I would say I’m definitely not an Alpha for a few reasons:
I have always felt like I needed to be spanked since my early teen years (the humiliation, pain, vulnerability and exposure all turn me on so much) – spanking was the “gateway” kink to realising humiliation has been at the centre off all my kinks (sissy/cfnm/cmnm/forcedbi/faggotry/slavery/chastity/exposure). I believe true Alphas will have been fantasising about using their cocks, not being naked over someone’s lap getting their bare bottoms spanked.
I like topping, but I couldn’t be satisfied form only topping. I’ve also failed to get hard several times to fuck women because it made me feel like I was too dominant (I also don’t like receiving blowjobs). But if I start typing about how I want a big strong man to grab me, force me on my knees dump his loads down my throat I start straining in my cage.
I started doing onlyfans with my ex girlfriend doing Femdom (me dressed like a sissy or just naked and in chastity getting my balls busted, spanked, pegged and humiliated). I signed a blackmail contract and she made me start serving men (filmed my first time sucking cock and uploaded it). We broke up a while ago but knowing she still has embarrassing photos/videos of me turns me on so much.
I don’t know if I’m a faggot, but sexually I’m definitely not an Alpha. I feel like the powerful ‘Alpha’ side of me that is a strong, assertive, dominant fight fuels my faggot, cocksucking, sissy humiliation side and vice versa.
The more powerful I feel, the better the high when I’m on my knees being humiliated.
The more of a pathetic faggot I am, the stronger I feel I need to workout and train.
I like knowing that I’m a sub who is powerful, a bit like a gladiator or guard dog. Powerful, strong and uncontrollable unless you’re my Master.
It’s hard to communicate everything well in such a short message but any help is greatly appreciated
Okay, well I appreciate the extra information, brother. There is a sub-class of faggots who lift weights and build massive physiques. Similarly, there is a sub-class of Alphas who prefer larger, more muscular faggots. On FWA I featured the thread of straight Master G and the larger, muscular caged faggot Jamie he owned and eventually married. Master G loved conquering his mountainous faggot. It could be the same with you.
I think you should just go for whatever you really want. You’ll eventually find the right situation that will fulfill you properly. I’ve never heard of a physically-fit gay male or faggot who never finds his place. There’s always a place for someone like you!
Hi Sam! Super glad your back; i followed you for years, enjoying your posts and your dialogue of spreading the word of Alphas and faggots.
I have a question that challenges me that I hope you can answer,…I definitely believe that im a true faggot at heart, but im having trouble accepting it. I have this platonic male friend who actually deliberately engages in dominance against me. He likes to crush with me with his body (hes much bigger than me), using his body weight to essentially crush me. He enjoys forcefully humping me as a playful act, as sort of symbol of his dominance. In a way, he seems like hes trying to teach me “you’re a faggot, im the alpha”. I think its a unique opportunity to help embrace my true faggot self…but im still having trouble letting go and fully embracing my true faggot life. Any advice for me?
Thank you for the question! I love my longtime readers!
This is a huge moment in your life, brother. This “friend” is definitely trying to dominate you (even if it’s just subconsciously). You recognize what he’s doing (thanks to me, in part!), which is also to your advantage.
What’s holding you back is fear … fear of stepping over the line and never being able to go back. Fear that your life will no longer be yours. Fear of the possible shame you’ll feel for the rest of your life.
But let me tell you what’s worse: a lifetime of regret from NOT ACTING!
I hear it again and again from older faggots who look back wistfully on a life lived in shadows of unfulfillment. Back in their day they lacked information and a freer society. They were essentially trapped, paralyzed by fear.
You don’t need to end up that way, brother. You have an Alpha who is wanting you to submit to him. Your chance his right there, dry-humping you! It’s insane to let this pass you by!
I’ll tell you the truth: the behaviors of this Alpha that you describe are very similar to the way my first Alpha Roger acted toward me until the day he made me his cocksucker and changed my life for the better!
So stop worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. You need to live in the moment right now. You learn to swim by jumping in the water and letting instinct take over. Well, it’s your time to jump.
Kneel and kiss his feet and let Nature take over. Your time in now.
Hi Sam, I’ve been reading your blog over the past year and read a couple of your books: “Are you a faggot” and “Alpha Beta: Hardcore guide to faggot Mastery”
There are many parts of being a faggot that I’m drawn to that are feel are such a big part of me, however there are a few things that I think make me not a faggot and wonder where I actually sit in the hierarchy.
My biggest struggle is needing a REAL Alpha, all these so called alphas/cashmasters and cocky entitled guys just make me cringe because I know they are weaker than me and I would just laugh if they tried to make me submit.
Im a Bi Switch (gay and sub leaning) and initially thought I might be a faggot (and admitting it on camera whilst degrading myself always makes me horny), but after ready “are you a faggot” I realised that a lot of the things don’t align with me:
I like topping (mostly guys but sometimes girls)
Im only submissive in the bedroom (in everyday life I present as alpha, I train Muay Thai and fight regularly, I’m confident, I’m assertive and I feel superior to most men (despite being collared and caged 24/7)
I’ve never really had a foot fetish (although I’m developing one as my primary turn on is humiliation and I find feet disgusting – which then makes me hard)
I would never give money to another man just because he demands it, if he’s capable he can get his own.
During the fagtest in the book most of the questions I answered yes to but with the caveat that the man is bigger, stronger, more capaable and more powerful than me. I do believe in hierarchy, but I don’t believe that most of the people who claim they are alpha or real men actually are.
Thank you!
Thank you for the question!
You present a pretty intriguing case, one of the more puzzling ones I’ve ever had on this issue. Let me say first that humans are not itemized products that fit neatly into pre-ordained boxes, so classifying everyone so rigidly is simply not possible. My hierarchical layout captures a clear picture for a vast number of people, but not everyone.
I am curious about you, because I can’t help but wonder if you are another case of “Alpha Latency”, a term for a psycho-sexual condition that some natural-born Alphas experience that lead them into unnatural sub/faggot behaviors/mentalities.
Your case as described makes you sound like you’re firmly an Alpha. In fact, you sound quite proud in describing your Alpha-like qualities. It also sounds like the people you encounter are treating you like an Alpha. You just don’t seem to have embraced it for whatever reason.
Most cases of Alpha latency involve early childhood trauma (either sexual or physical abuse) or social conditioning during their developing years. Since I don’t have a chance to interview you directly, I’m flying blind. But I would comb through your background and see if you can identify possible causes for your tendency to want to submit (or even question your Alphahood).
I think something has blown you slightly off-course, but I get the impression you’re actually an Alpha who needs to simply embrace that purpose. I bet you’d feel so much more free if you were to.
You can read some of the experiences of Alpha latency by CLICKING HERE.
Hi Sam, it’s been a while now that X pushes homophobic maga supposedly Straight Alphas on my feed, and I’m surprised and ashamed to say it really turns me on. I’m ashamed to say I’ve also sent to these doms, when in heat. I understand the basic logic in it : it feels wrong so it’s exciting, it feels forbidden so it’s hot, and of course there’s a strong component of inequality, harsh words, internalized homophobia on my part, etc.
I guess as a self locked fag I’m not that surprised it turns me on, but as a pretty normal guy, from France, educated, left wing, saddened by Trump’s America, and with many friends and a caring family, I don’t get how I may be obsessed with being bullied (which I never experienced), called a loser (which I know I’m not), and most of all being led to feel shame and apologize for being a « degenerate fag » (which surely resonates within me, but which I don’t believe in).
Any advice ? Thanks
Thanks for the question!
I think you point out one of the more frustrating aspects of being a faggot with a brain and moral values. MAGA Alphas are pretty sexy, and their cocky, hateful attitudes appeal to faggots. Let’s face it: faggots naturally love degradation, and these kinds of Alphas are great at it.
I don’t know how to get around it. I’m able to put it aside because my hatred for Trump and the fucking idiots that worship him is so strong because of what Trump did to my Baby Boy when I tried to rescue him from Syria. I’ll never forgive Trump and his racist cultists.
Hello Sam, my name is Andy. I’m a 20 year old guy in his second year of uni.
First of all I want to thank you Sam, I never really considered myself a fag before stumbling on your content, which made me comfortable with using that title.
The situation is this, last year when I started uni I met a guy in one of my classes, we quickly bonded and became friends. We started hanging out every day and going to the gym together. He is very handsome and I found him attractive from the very begging. I subconsciously started serving him almost immediately after we became friends, giving him my notes, doing his homework, paying for our coffee when we go out and buying him gifts here and there. Around May of this year I started stealing his gym underwear and socks and jerking off with them before returning them. Whenever I smell his alpha scent I just think about how much I want to serve him, however I come from a fairly homophobic Eastern European country and from the things I heard him say he is also quite homophobic and right wing. I want to show him the hierarchy chart and explain to him that I want to serve him and be his fag however I’m afraid that he’ll stop talking to me afterwards. Is there any way I can introduce him to this world?
Thank you so much for the important work you do!
Thank you for the question!
Congrats on finding an Alpha close to you that you might be able to serve! This is a big trick I’ve always endorsed, and it works pretty well. Why? Because you’ve developed a relationship with him and he likes you, so he’s more likely to be sympathetic if you ever approach him about this.
First of all, I wouldn’t worry about the homophobia/right-wing shit, brother. Homophobic right-wingers are actually MORE likely to be the ones (a) eager to flex their Alphahood, and (b) more likely to be interested in doing gay stuff. Yes, I know it’s messed up, but that’s reality. Their aggressive homophobia is called overcompensation. Check the Grindr traffic around areas where American Republicans are holding gatherings, and Grindr actually CRASHES from so many in-denial Republicans looking for faggots! So I wouldn’t worry too much about that.
You’re already serving him in a variety of ways, and that’s really good! You didn’t mention his attitude toward all of these gifts and favors you’re doing for him, but I’m assuming he’s just accepting it without even thinking about it (Alphas sometimes take that for granted).
I would suggest that you try to sit at his feet and “get lower” when you’re around him. This action will sometimes lead to the Alpha teasing you with his feet. It triggers something inside them when they see weaker guys in vulnerable positions. He will start to view you as a plaything.
You can try a couple of resources on the site. The Hierarchy chart on here is a solid one, although it might confuse him unless you explain it. The “Letter To An Alpha” linked in the right sidebar is a useful one if you want it explained to him in a concise, logical way. And there is also my book “May I Serve You, Sir?” that’s goes into greater depth (I don’t recommend it for college Alphas).
But before you give him any of those resources, you should ask him a simple question: “Do you consider yourself to be Alpha?” This almost always leads to a response, and you can usually use that response to lead him to a discussion about Hierarchy (and those resources).
Hopefully this gives you something of a game plan, brother. I have no doubt you’ll do fine with whatever course you choose. They don’t always work, but I promise you they work more often than you’d ever imagine!
hey sam, so this faggit has a long-distance Owner/Trainer that has it in chastity and Sir-ving other Men. it is very happy with Him, and wants to eventually be installed in His household as a cumdump. it was ordered to a Cocksuck shift at a local bookstore, and immediately on arrival, overtaken by a BBC who proceeded to run it for the four hours allowed in the arcade (edging Him, getting other Men off, etc). it had been in hopes that the KingBBC would agree to be the local Keyholder proxy, and faggit put them in touch. When it reported to KingBBC’s house for more Use a few days later, They had been corresponding, and KingBBC started to relate that He didn’t trust Owner/Trainer as a good Man. That He “got a bad vibe” which He repeated several times, and in the vebal abuse, was asking things like “don’t u prefer this real Cock to one u have never met” etc. faggit begged off having to choose, and KingBBC seemed to understand. it is kind of perceiving Owner/Trainer as more “Destroyer” in terms of approach, and KingBBC as more “Protector”, but both seem good Men to it. And Owner/Trainer has the prior claim, of course. it is feeling like respectfully asking KingBBC to take up His concerns directly with Owner/Trainer, as Men should discuss/decide, and faggits should do as they are fucking Told. Do u or yr readers have any insights to help the situation? thanks very much
Thank you for the question!
Well, you have a pretty great problem to have! Two competing Alphas! Nice!
Here’s my take on long-distance service situations they don’t work. It lasts for a little while, but eventually Alphas get tired of spending time on something that can’t see or touch or smell. Meanwhile, faggots are very unfaithful and notoriously fickle. They’re doomed to fail.
Meanwhile, you have KingBBC locally wanting to own/use you. I don’t think this is really much of a choice, brother. While the long-distance Master has helped you start, he’s just not going to be able to take you much further. You need deep, hands-on training by someone like KingBBC.
If there has been one consistent aspect of this site and project, it’s been my ability to enrage and trigger readers with my sometimes-controversial views. I’ve even received death threats from readers over the years (particularly during my formative years on Tumblr)!
Of course, I don’t really care about upsetting people if I feel like I can demonstrate factual or experiential evidence to support my claims. Sadly, facts mean little to the trolls online. They search the online world looking for a fight or a reason to get offended. I imagine that’s an exhausting existence, but I’m up for the fight if they’re willing to bring it to me.
That said, I received a letter in my Questions From Readers inbox from a reader who was annoyed/offended/upset by an answer I gave to an owned faggot who had a female friend demanding that the faggot must leave his Master because she felt like the Master was raping him. You can read that original Q&A post by CLICKING HERE.
The letter has two parts, so I’m going to split it and tackle each part separately.
This is not a question, but a mere correction on your application of the term “woke.”
Uh oh.
“Your female friend is totally wrong. She’s looking at things from the woke female perspective that is currently destroying all engagement between males and females.”
Social media and the internet is not real life, sir (do not mistake respect for submission), nor do I believe it is indicative of how real life interactions tend to occur. This is the opinion of an individual who ingests online interaction to an unhealthy extent, so much so that their entire worldview has been molded by the experiences of others’ online, and not their very own exposures, experiences, and environment. The internet is (and has always been) a double-edged sword that has become increasingly more sharpened on the negative side and increasingly more dull on the polar opposite of said word due to extremist positions being both presented and perceived as normalcy (due to false anonymity and lack of an equal and opposite reaction) when it just is not the case. An easy way to gauge this is the amount of disrespect and hatred that is espoused today online that simply would not be espoused, nor fly, in actual life unless you are an individual that will accept and welcome both sacrifice and consequence despite their rhetoric, beliefs, or actions i.e., integrity (a characteristic the people in this world has always lacked but now has tremendously regressed).
As for your usage of the term “woke,” I admittedly find it humorous how history tends to repeat itself, sir. This is a term derived from the Black man (and woman) that reside within the United States and has always meant to be privy of the social, economical, and political injustices, exploitations, and degradation the Black man continues to face. However sir, your usage is more aligned with the White man’s, the White man’s profound and documented history of co-opting, hijacking, and perverting idioms that originates within the Black masses and turns their colloquialisms from phrases that are primarily meant to uplift, enlighten, and establish brotherhood — into expressions delegated to denigrate, insult, and shame. This is a gross and outright disrespectful perversion the Black man knows all too well, especially within the States; does “Black fatigue” ring a bell? This is nothing new sir, this is history repeating itself over and over and over again. I suggest you educate yourself further, sir, we all can — and do — continue learning until our time has come to cease.
The first paragraph of this diatribe gets it wrong right off the bat. This anonymous writer says, “This is the opinion of an individual who ingests online interaction to an unhealthy extent, so much so that their entire worldview has been molded by the experiences of others’ online, and not their very own exposures, experiences, and environment” without knowing anything about me and my personal life. You must understand that I have a wide group of close friendships (some of them many decades long), and I have a job in SALES which puts me in constant contact with people of all walks of life. So yeah, I’m not spending all of my life online.
As an English major, I definitely understand the importance of etymology and classical origins of words. I also understand (particularly with English) how words mutate as societal composition changes. For example, Merriam-Webster’s 2025 “Word of the Year” is “slop”, which has apparently gained a new definition in the age of AI. Word usage changes, and it doesn’t always carryover previous definitions when it does.
Sure, the word “woke” has its origins from another time, but I was using the current definition of the word the West has adopted, namely this: “Today, the term carries highly polarized meanings, used positively to signify progressive awareness and activism, but often used pejoratively by critics to dismiss progressive or left-wing ideas as excessive or performative.”
Women have largely become “woke” and hypersensitive to any actions or statements they find violates their personal space/values. I’ve seen Men jailed on false charges simply because a woman was pissed off. I’ve seen Men fired for accidentally brushing up against a woman.
Alec Baldwin mentioned this horrific new atmosphere in an episode of Comedians In Cars Getting Coffee with Jerry Seinfeld:
So yeah, I pretty much stand by my point here.
And it goes on:
“Men are afraid to even touch a female because they start crying rape. It’s stupid.”
This is simply not reality, sir. I understand man-on-man sex gravitates towards and invites rougher, more primal, and less emotional sex (I prefer my sex that way as well) but your assertion of the implication that women do not want the romantic advancements of men is false, sir. Your claim that considers the affairs today have studies conducted upon them already, and they tend to show women both want men to approach them still and they have become increasingly more individual and career oriented. This, in turn, makes men that lack self confidence, have had bad experiences, or are consuming unhealthy, unrealistic, purposefully extremist rhetoric from “manosphere” grifts online both grow a disdain for women and begin to consider the alternative — a faggot — to satiate their sexually frustrated desires.
I’ve never suggested that women don’t want Men to approach them. However, as I elucidated above, women now have countless new social roadblocks and unnatural standards that make such approaches by Men either incomprehensible, annoying, or even dangerous.
Before I get more flak, here’s what I mean by “unnatural” – women are naturally supposed to be more submissive than Men. But in the new enlightenment (sarcasm) women want to pretend like they’re equal to Men, except whenever they want the benefits of being submissive. You’d have an easier time figuring that out by reading tea leaves. It’s insane how far off track women have gone over the last 20-30 years.
As you correctly point out, this is one reason why Alphas of all kinds seek out faggots, because faggots still offer them what they really need: worship and service. It’s such a simple thing, but the implications are tremendous.
Men and Alphas are simply not going to go without what they want, need, and deserve simply because females have abandoned their natural position in the pursuit of autonomy. These days I’ve seen more Men put in jail by vengeful women and weeping in jail over the loss of their children (and/or more women abandoning their children) than I ever imagined I would, and these new realities show just how far off society is from Natural Law.
I lay a vast majority of the blame for this societal collapse at the feet of “modern” females and their unnatural choices. They simply no longer appreciate the critical role they’re meant to play, preferring instead to indulge in selfish desires. That’s why faggots are going to win many of these contests, because we still do appreciate it.
So I don’t know where this leaves us. I suppose at an impasse. I’m not changing my mind.
